Why isn’t porn the female equivalent?

Women do watch porn. Much less than men, and i am inclined to believe a large part of this is due to the fact that porn caters to men and contains much less intimacy and focus on the men than women would like. We can be into all of the same kinks, but the way its presented in most porn is underwhelming. We like hear the man groaning and talking dirty and staring intensely at the woman. We want to believe she enjoys it and that he wants her feverishly. But its not as common in porn.

...okay so than how would porn still not be the female equivalent?”

On an evolutionary level it makes more sense for men to get off more on sex. Rabid desires to reproduce and mate and sex is validation for men. Sex is high risk for women and always has been up until recent times because it leads to an extreme vulnerability- pregnancy. This is why women are so selective, and why offers of commitment and the need to feel special is validation for women, not sex. Having a man offer sex is nothing special because sex is cheap for woman and just because a man sleeps with you does not mean he has any interest in being with you.

This is much less the case the other way around. If a woman is willing to sleep with you, she is probably much more likely to want to date you.

okay... but why attention whoring?

Things like being an IG thot or twitch thot or posting on gonewild or onlyfans etc is validating and often times without the necessity of sleeping with men to do so. You get attention, you are made to feel special, sexy, desirable, and sometimes you even get money for it. Its very easy to get off to the idea that others are getting off to you.

Why would men not have it?

From what i have seen on the internet, most guys don’t want a girl that reveals or has revealed her body to other men in such away. Same as how most men wouldnt want to date a stripper. But the reality is that society accepts male sexuality far more than female sexuality.

Why should it be okay for a man to have paid to have strange women strip and tease them sexually for money and male bonding, but be unacceptable for their partner to have been on the opposite end?

Why should it be okay for a man to regularly stare at and masturbate to an endless supply of beautiful women in endless positions, but be unacceptable for a woman to want that same attention from men?

 

 

Most men will tell you that watching porn has no effect on their love for or ability to be attracted to their partners, but i can promise you that having others give you attention for how you look similarly has no effect on our ability to love and be attracted to our partners.

 

 

This is a huge double standard, but unfortunately the push for “equality” seems to want to equate female sexuality to male sexuality, as if we get off on the exact same things, but we don’t. Thats why having had a partner who would go to male strip clubs (while single) is not equivalent and less intimidating for men then having women who might have had a snapchat premium account in the past.

 

 

Men are going to want to reject this idea and justify their reasoning for it, but the reality is this is what women have had to accept over time (male sexuality). And why so many men see it as unreasonable if their gf gets jealous over porn.

 

Men want to reject this idea because then it either means for fairness, either they must accept their girlfriends behaving in attention seeking ways or they must stop watching porn to not be hypocritical

 

Men do not have to deal with the female equivalent of porn as regularly as men because engaging in it is far more damaging to women because female sexuality is less acceptable.

The most acceptable form of this is IG thots, but even these women are put down so much by the very same men who feel that watching porn is totally okay.

 

 

*** disclaimer i do think watching porn is ok. I do it a lot. But i also think that female sexuality has a long way to go before it is accepted and men cannot relate to how women feel if they do get turned off by men watching porn or men going to strip clubs because they assume women doing the same is the equivalent, and they usually have no problem with it. So i am here to say that it is NOT the equivalent and that you WOULD have a problem with the true equivalent

tl;dr porn satisfies sexual fantasies for men, attention whoring satisfies committal fantasies for women and it is less acceptable for women to try and satisfy these fantasies especially in a sexual way