Men are out of their minds desperate for any attention

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-04-27T18:18:52+00:00

Oh I do not miss being teens or 20-something. What a nightmare. I hope someone enjoyed my youth because I rarely did, at least not how I would have preferred. I was very social and loved clubbing with protective gangs of girls but when it came to train travel, museums, architecture tours, nature walks and sightseeing in new cities, I loved going alone. I want to daydream and sketch and don't want to chit-chat when in visual experience mode. I also loved to write alone in cafes.

But I was NEVER LEFT ALONE. It used to make me cry. It's only the danger that makes being alone by choice feel "lonely."

riseaboveagain · 2021-04-27T17:59:14+00:00

I have always had absolutely no problem with getting up and moving away from someone who is annoying me.

Yes, it would preferable to hold your ground and not let some rando make you move your feet, but it is very satisfying to take immediate action and get it over with.

I’ve only been called on this once or twice in my lifetime, “Why are you moving? I’m not a threat” by whiny scrotes. My response is to glance at them, emotionlessly say “I’m minding my own business”, and continue doing exactly that.

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-04-27T15:37:32+00:00

💯🎯 Glad I'm not the only person who experiences this!

Yes men, congratulations. You exist. I don't exist to worship you.

They're so insecure that their ego implodes if a woman their vicinity doesn't immediately validate them. And tbh I think they want to brag about the attention as much as they want to benefit from the attention.

Men are weak and needy. Talk to me when you grow some self esteem and some discipline 💅👑

fdssavedmylife · 2021-04-27T21:46:30+00:00

This is another thing I didn’t realize other women experienced! I hate feeling men’s eyes on me whenever I’m in public. Even when I’m at a stoplight, I’ll see them look over in my peripheral and if I don’t acknowledge them, they’ll rev their engines or keep moving up to get my attention. Everywhere we go, everything we do, men see us as prey. They’re always “on the hunt.” It’s exhausting. I wish I were invisible sometimes.

Platipus6 · 2021-04-27T15:12:32+00:00

men up pop-up stalls at the mall.

I deliberately take an extremely wide route to avoid them and they start the chase and the "ma'am"ing. omfg get some social skills training. I don't want your shitty brochure listing the benefits of your dick or start a plan for $4.99 a week to pay for my own disappointment.

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-04-27T15:48:05+00:00

Where I live, you see this ALL the time. It's so annoying as people would say, scrotes are so "thirsty" for any type of attention from a woman. Then they go to their scrote friends and brag. Scrote, sit down. No one gave you attention, you chased it and then made that one second glance into a glorious made up story about how women possibly can't resist you.

veruscka · 2021-04-27T16:25:58+00:00

This is why I wear headphones with no music on. The little dances they do to get within our line of sight so we’ll notice them... it’s honestly pathetic.

flowerpower102938 · 2021-04-27T19:34:32+00:00

Men do this as a dominating game. They want you to move to take up space and score scrote points in their head to boost their ego🤮

It's best to be safe and avoid them completely while walking.

Hitflyover · 2021-04-27T15:51:38+00:00

Ugh, I had to log in to write this garbage out- 2 years back this dude at the gym was pacing back and forth in front of me until I finally looked at him. And when I finally did, he pumped his fist to self congratulate. I almost don't believe it happened because it was so dumb.

During the pandemic though? It's wild out here. I started to write them out but there is too much material, I won't bother. I am going to start going out with a camera, material is guaranteed.

ETA: lol I have to share this one because I am not yet done being irritated over it- few days back, a guy at the gas station. I could tell he was aware of me walking behind him to enter the gas station so I slowed down and leisurely put my mask on so he didn't have to hold the door. Inside, he was in front of me at the register, and when he finished paying he walked at me to get to the door exit rather than around me. He said excuse me in a polite way and I did the dumb "oop! sure!" thing and shuffled to the side. He caught me by surprise because there was at least 6 feet space for him to walk around me.

I wish I would have played dumb/lethargic and let my feet stay planted. It made me think about that LillithWon post where she suggests women should bulk up. Men, especially, are frequently evaluating and making decisions based on the smallest gestures, and guaging where/when they can assert dominance or when to keep it moving. Just like I made my own adjustment in behavior because I didn't want someone who was already actively noticing me to hold a door for me. I'm likely weirder about that lately because I had a man block me in a grocery vestibule in February/March. There were two sliding doors with maybe 10 feet in between. I was entering behind him and he stopped before going through the second door to ask me out. I felt the closeness of the space. And he was easily 20 years older than me. Luckily someone entered behind us to keep him moving. .

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-04-27T15:04:37+00:00

This is SO true.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-04-27T21:37:21+00:00

Omg yes! I am actually filing for a protection order because this old neighbor scrote has been stalking me and doing all these weird things to try to get my attention - banging dumpsters outside, parking in front of my house for 8 hrs a day and slamming his doors and trunk repeatedly, just randomly shouting outside on the sidewalk. It’s so disturbing and desperate! Why can’t they just leave us alone?! 🤬

cloverlime · 2021-04-27T20:03:19+00:00

In 2017 when I was jogging on a trail this guy rode his bike back and forth next to me almost like he was making laps around me. It’s a straight path that goes on for a long time so I knew he had to be doing it on purpose. I decided to take a break once he passed me again and of course as soon as I sat down to take a break he rode his bike back to where I was to talk to me. I was way too timid then and so when he started pestering me for my number I just gave it to him then he checked it immediately and still wouldn’t leave me alone. He followed me as I was walking back (for an entire mile 🙄) and begged for my FB which of course I gave him. I cringe looking back and I haven’t jogged outdoors since. I really wish I had stood my ground, but I was so nervous on that trail alone and he was so insistent.

PigeonCities · 2021-04-27T22:44:35+00:00

was biking to work and this dude waiting for the bus looks up, sees me, and STEPS INTO THE STREET in the BIKE LANE so i had to move around him. he was making this weird intense eye contact with me too? like do you WANT me to run you over dude? what’s going on in their brains!! the bus was absolutely nowhere to be seen btw. they’ll compromise their safety and the safety of others for our validation lmao

amhran_oiche · 2021-04-27T17:49:05+00:00

I want to laugh at this, and in truth it's hilarious, but I'm currently living with an ex who can't stand not to be paid attention to. Last week while I was taking a test (online school) he kept peeking out of my front door and pacing around. I finally asked him what was wrong and he said there was someone outside the door! I got up and he laughed and said he was kidding. I was taking a test! They record me!

He always seems to want to do dishes when I'm taking my tests too. He can't stand for me to be doing something by myself and at first it was funny but I'm so, so, so annoyed by him constantly talking, moving, and fidgeting just so I'll look at him.

1Here4Bach · 2021-04-27T21:32:10+00:00

It’s the same when you’re hang out with a group of people then you get up to leave and say your goodbyes and some random guy in the group who was trying to get your attention desperately says, “gone so soon?!” Yes, bye.

helena939392 · 2021-04-28T07:04:17+00:00

I absolutely am terrified of men now that they've started lifting off the restrictions in my country. For months these predators have been collecting their sexual frustration and hatred towards women and now they can unleash it finally. Last week they opened the bars for working hours and as soon as I left my home office on the first day of the opening to get some groceries, I got cat called by some construction workers sitting on a pub terrace. FIRST DAY. When I went to buy some damn milk from a small market!

Yesterday I went mall shopping with a friend, first time in a loooong time. Wearing masks and everything, jackets and scarves because it's only +5c degrees here. In addition to all the leering we got from male immigrant groups, as soon as my friend left some scrote started following me. I went three floors down to wait for my boyfriend to pick me up, and this scrote kept following me, he was right behind me whistling the entire time. At the bottom floor I just decided to stop walking abruptly, at this point I was just sizzling out of anger. So the guy got confused and walked past me, kept whistling and turned around several times to stare at me. And obviously he had no business being on the bottom floor of the mall, because as soon as I stopped walking, he just headed back to the nearest escalator and went back upstairs. I wish it was legal to m u r d e r these scrotes.

Also, any scrote reading this, don't bother messaging me, as I've turned off my message requests. Just get on with your lives full of porn, misogyny and death grip.

Positively-Occult · 2021-04-27T17:27:20+00:00

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getrippeddiemirin · 2021-04-27T17:06:21+00:00

I enjoy when men jerk their heads around to stare at me while I barely acknowledge them outside of my peripheral vision. They’re so desperate. I’ve even had men I was out with comment on them 😬😬

abstractsadgurl · 2021-04-28T16:52:07+00:00

I had a guy literally knock on my driver side window I was looking for something in my car and parked my car before heading into a store and I heard some aggressive knocking on my window and I had an anxiety attack it was so scaryyyyyy. All of that just to ask me for my number. Dude. Bad bad tactic. I swear I need to carry a gun or something shits crazy

warinmymind94 · 2021-04-28T06:30:59+00:00

I especially hate when you're at work (and I don't want to give too much info) but I worked in places where it was super obvious I worked there... and they think it's appropriate to flirt with you and ask.you out. It's even more awkward when they specifically keep coming back to see you. Do they realize that as an employee we have to be professional and seem friendly to clients? It doesn't mean I want to date them.

Travelcat78 · 2021-04-28T06:55:52+00:00

After reading FDS i noticed this a lot, especially like guys revving in cars next to you. I refuse to look at them but its easier in a car rather than public transport

Title	Men are out of their minds desperate for any attention
Author	Positively-Occult
Upvotes	513
Comments	52
Date	April 27, 2021 2:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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