Men playing guessing games with my age.

vbych76 · 2021-06-13T14:27:12+00:00

Ask "Why, are you offering a senior's discounts?"

Specific_Kale4777 · 2021-06-13T14:48:27+00:00

This happened to me for the millionth time yesterday. Random guy asked "So, what's your age?" And I just blankly stared at him like I didn't know the answer. Then he blurted out that I couldn't be older than 25 (I'm 29) and I just got up and went to the other side of the bar. After that he "apologized" for being so forward and then asked if I had kids, like wtf we weren't even having a conversation.

I've also had the weird encounters of men saying "Oh you don't look a day past 18!!" As if that's supposed to be a compliment? Sir, I've seen photos of myself when I was 18 and I now realize that I looked like a child. Im almost 30 now and do not want to look like a child. 😫🙄

MadamLeFay · 2021-06-13T16:31:25+00:00

I have added 10-20 years to my real age. Try it, it's fun! They totally freak out! Or, when they guess, then add the 10-15 years if they are guessing high (they do that to be insulting). So if you are 30 and they say you look 35, tell them you just turned 50 and watch them fall over.

BeautifulLeek · 2021-06-13T14:42:59+00:00

I have very frequently had people praise me for looking significantly younger than I am, like 16-20. I doubt men are getting the same number of comments about their youthful appearance.

Some of this is probably based on my actual appearance, but it has always confused me because I don't dress particularly childish? I behave confidently and professionally? I don't know how people calculate age in their head but it's definitely a number of factors besides looks, and the equation is off.

denimlace · 2021-06-13T15:01:22+00:00

Respond, “Why? Is that your iq?”

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-06-13T15:03:43+00:00

I have never had a man try this crap with me. I tend to go right to staring dagger eyes as soon as one gets near me though. I'm not sure that men can even tell age. They still card me when buying alcohol.

single_pringle3 · 2021-06-13T15:11:23+00:00

I’m in my early 20s and the only people who try to guess my age are creepy older men (older than me, 30-45ish) who “pretend” they “think” I am older than I am.

Example: Guy- “You must be around my age, how old are you? 30, 35?” Me- “not quite” Guy- “there’s no way!.... says something ridiculous to try to prompt me to either give them my # or tell them how young I actually am so they can tell me how MaTuRe I look “

The other guys who will ask me my age are even creepier, usually even older (40s-60s) than the other bunch and they always guess that I’m younger than I am, while trying to hit on me still. Like dude, if you thought I was 19 and you’re literally 43 please leave me alone. After they’ll still say “wow you are young I was right but I thought you were younger because of how petite your body is” or something equally as creepy.

I never ask a man his age, I don’t get why they insist on doing so “casually” as if it’s a GrEaT convo starter

ferociouslycurious · 2021-06-13T14:54:09+00:00

I just give them a dirty look. Which is basically my normal rbf with a bit of a frown.

gingerandlime · 2021-06-13T15:46:54+00:00

It sounds to me like a way of categorizing you and demanding your attention simultaneously. They want a reaction from you, whether it’s that you feel flattered or defensive, they think they’ll be in the driver’s seat of the conversation.

I’m not saying I would necessarily handle it well, but I think either ignoring or something in the range of “oh, a lady never tells” with whatever level of humor or coldness feel right to you would be appropriate depending on the situation.

boiledgatorade_ · 2021-06-13T15:59:41+00:00

I’m 31 and When people hear it they act like I said 85. Like sorry we don’t shrivel up and curdle like milk once we turn 30. I’m actually the most confident & “good looking” I’ve ever been when I hit 30. So suck it scrotes

MadamLeFay · 2021-06-13T16:32:16+00:00

One time, some total stranger commented on my weight. I told them I was pregnant. Then I looked at them and asked, "what's your excuse for being fat?".

purasangria · 2021-06-13T15:43:52+00:00

I've said, "Why do you ask?"

Him: "Oh, I'm just curious..."

Me: "Oh, okay."

Then I don't answer and just continue chatting about whatever we were talking about. It is a rude question, and one that I won't answer.

Men who ask you this are trying to decide if you are "fuckable" or not based on your age. Many women who are a decade older than them are still really hot looking, such that they can't tell how old we are.

ivy176 · 2021-06-13T15:18:20+00:00

That's so creepy. I've only been asked when buying alcohol or by people I know.

akashyaboa · 2021-06-13T17:36:53+00:00

I just say random numbers or bs until people are tired of me.

Like I used to say I am a timeless entity, in star years I am 30177282965. Or like time is a human concept, it is below me. Or time is a concept and anyway I am immortal until proven wrong. Or I stopped counting after 200.

Basic-Fruit-6502 · 2021-06-13T18:19:18+00:00

I think us women sometimes feed into this narrative that 35+ is old, I’ve seen it myself and it’s so annoying as… Thirties women are hot AF. I am in my early twenties but I like to change the narrative myself. I always make a point that women in their thirties are YOUNG! Just for the lols I say men in their thirties are old, purposely guess their ages as much older and remind people that men lose their hair in their twenties. I add that men peak at 19 and any man over 28 who looks at me like a piece of meat, I shut down by calling him a pervy creep and to annoy women his own age. Ergh it’s addicting.

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-06-13T22:25:25+00:00

Nordstrom is way too expensive to have poor customer service. You should call corporate and report him

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-06-13T14:37:20+00:00

I’m 32 and men always, ALWAYS guess 22. I LOVE the shocked look on their faces when I say I’m 32. They’re always like, “But Uh what huhhhhhhhhh durrrrrrr you just look so young for your age.” I just say, “I know, so weird right? I thought WoMeN hIt ThE wAlL aT 30. Yeah, turns out ‘the wall’ doesn’t really exist.” Faces melting off. Faces melting off everywhere. I love to see it.

miwamus · 2021-06-13T18:15:32+00:00

"Why?" That's my go-to. That way I don't disclose anything about myself and it put the focus back on them. Whatever they say after that is met with an "akay."

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-06-14T07:38:46+00:00

In parts of my grandfather's culture, it's considered really bad juju to ask someone's age. It's like you're measuring someone for a coffin.

To tell brings bad fortune/To ask is far worse/ Burn sugar at midnight/ To banish the curse

The "old country" reportedly had a lot of strapping centenarians who weren't really sure of their ages. I suppose it must have happened a few times that someone asked the age of some ancient person or other and they died the next day, so lore was born and it became bad form to inquire. Maybe the practice became less common in the last century, but people still enjoyed frustrating occupying forces who were trying to get basic census data.

No one knows how old my great grandparents were when they died, just that they had to have been over fifty when their last son was born (they had six others in their late twenties and mid thirties and weren't children in their sepia wedding pictures) and that they lived at least into their 90's.

At this point I'm down with the old customs. Don't ask, don't tell, live to a rugged 100+. If the bride owns more stuff, the groom must take her family name. ;)

candyfox84 · 2021-06-13T16:34:43+00:00

The only time I dated a guy younger than me (by 4 years), he constantly negged me about my age. This was pre FDS of course. I dumped him.

fds3v3ryday · 2021-06-13T16:19:20+00:00

Somewhere around that (whatever number they say), I stopped counting at 30, I have been 30 for a while, I'm in my 30s, yes 30s (not budging to give an actual number) are some of my responses

Title	Men playing guessing games with my age.
Author	laffytaggy
Upvotes	233
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Date	June 13, 2021 2:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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