I don't know where else to ask this without getting harassed by scrotes, but how can you actually tell if a guy has a big dick?

2021-06-29T20:50:43+00:00

In my experience this is what I’ve noticed:

He doesn’t talk about his dick. Even with his “bros” he doesn’t make dick size jokes or (in some cases I’ve witnessed) he doesn’t participate in the weirdly homophobic and Homo erotic behavior of touching his friends penises or ball slapping one another.

Why? Because he literally isn’t thinking about his penis. men that are confident in their penis size don’t have to think about it at all because there’s no reason for concern.

In my experience usually the men that make dick size jokes about how a guy must have a big dick to pull a gorgeous woman or must have a small dick -honestly any conversations serious or humorous about dick size- have always led me to the skinny pencil club. This learned rule by the way holds for both unattractive and attractive men and doesn’t translate to being good or bad at sex. Again this is just My own personal experience.

eveloe · 2021-06-29T15:23:18+00:00

There is a post about this by TheOGJammies I think

My mistake, it was by modernmedusa

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f8ou3s/how_to_sniff_if_hes_sexually_competent_the_quiet

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-29T18:15:59+00:00

Well hung HVM don’t seem to feel the need to talk about it.

Some can even be self conscious about it or insecure if it was too big for a previous partner.

baobab77 · 2021-06-29T15:27:11+00:00

TIL what a penis sleeve is. Mercy. You literally do learn something new every day.

RopeLady · 2021-06-29T18:43:43+00:00

These are the two ways I could tell-

Basketball shorts/sweatpants
Watching him interact with male friends. My HVM husband used to always joke to his buddies that he was “hung like a needle but hit like a sewing machine” - it was always done to either put other men at ease around him or to shift the topic away from typical gross sexual conquest stories.

The fact that he would joke about having a tiny dick told me that it was pretty freaking unlikely he actually had a tiny dick. And lo and behold…..dude is hungggg.

That and body proportions- I’ve found dicks to be pretty proportional overall.

AAlegend8 · 2021-06-29T15:42:21+00:00

My two exes who had the smallest penises had one thing in common. Their jeans fit like women’s jeans. No bulge in that area, no wrinkles.

IAteTheDragon · 2021-06-29T16:11:04+00:00

I'm trying to come up with some idea too. I think I'm gonna systematically dismantle every guy's I've been with characteristics in a spreadsheet and try to find a common denominator to big penis feature. One thing I almost know for sure, if he seems bitter/uneasy/disregarding/unnecessarily strongly disrespectful of handsome playboys or beautiful "easy girls", he very likely has a small one(edit: obviously, if he's not ugly or short to begin with, cause it might mean he's insecure of just that)

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-06-29T15:22:53+00:00

Yes. You can tell by how they carry themselves. Confident and secure, but not cocky. Secure in their manhood.

Best way to tell is through vetting. If you follow FDS you have at least 3 months to vet this man before having sex. By the second month you can know his size. During a makeout session give him some time to really get into it and then feel up his crotch. If you don't feel anything it's either too small or he has erectile issues. Either way that's your sign to get out.

You should be able to do the same thing a little later on to get on what his dick looks like too.

Before having sex you should be making out, feeling each other over clothing, feeling each other under clothing, grinding over and under clothing, seeing each other's genitals, engaging in manual and then oral sex. All of these things should be on separate dates at different stages so you get a feel for what sort of lover he's going to be. You will be able to tell whether he has erectile dysfunction or not, how long he can stay hard, whether he's a premature ejaculator, if he's good with his hands and mouth or not, if he is a good kisser, and the size, shape, cleanliness, circumcised or not etc. of his dick.

I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND SETTLING FOR A PENIS SHEATH. Nobody is going to want to use what is essentially a prosthetic every time they have sex. And anyway personally, and I know a lot of women feel the same way, we don't want to suck on small penises. I also don't find them sexually appealing or visually appealing. From my experience they ejaculate faster when their penis is small too.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-06-29T15:26:41+00:00

There is nothing wrong with wearing a penis sleeve. One bf even suggested it and bought it himself so we could play around.
Big dick: You know when you actually see it but there a few pointers that might indicate he has a small one:

He explains that size is important because he is delusional about his own.
He denies that size is important and tEcHnIcQuE Is FaR mORe ImPoRtAnT.
He talks about other guys size (penis envy).
He is obnoxious loud, negs and is annoying to have around because he is insecure.
He bashes women/women's body in particular to cope. Especially when it comes to weight or age, a guy with SDE (small dick energy) will make those kind of remarks even when those women are complete strangers to him.
He laughs about childish jokes about dicks: "Thhhehehe PENIS". His whole humor is very (male) genital focused in general because he thinks about dicks all the time.

TL;DR: Think of a Chihuahua.

Professional-Pea-317 · 2021-06-30T01:36:30+00:00

I don't know if I'll get downloaded for this, but before FDS I used to just straight up ask for a dick pic and if I didn't like it -- too bad.

thatjimmylove · 2021-06-29T20:56:28+00:00

I am kind of disappointed in myself for not allowing my self to have size preference. I mean I always felt it was shameful and weird to want. But like now you guys have me really enticed into trying it out. I've only been with average size and can't finish I wonder if that is part of the problem.

Will be using these vetting techniques even though there is not actually a way to tell.

mxmoon · 2021-06-30T03:05:25+00:00

My ex was an “alpha male”. Loud and aggressive and presented a very masculine and intimidating persona. Turns out he was compensating for having a very small penis.

Current man I’m dating is very well mannered. He is quietly confident. Polite, knows he’s smart and is not constantly trying to prove himself. He just is. HIS DICK IS LONG AND GIRTHY. I believe he has what people refer to as big dick energy lol.

Platipus6 · 2021-06-30T00:36:27+00:00

Overblown confidence / braggart in another absurd area of life to make up for it and draw attention about one good? thing he has going for him.

Keeps boasting about how good he is at oral. He had to become skilled, and he hopes you'll be blissed out and wont notice when he quickly humps you to get his.

Closes and locks the door to the toilet/bathroom so you don't burst in and see him. Insists on "quickly showering alone".

Takes an extremely long time in public bathrooms because he can't use the urinal and has to sit down to pee.

Source : dated a man who had an acorn when flaccid and a thumb when erect.

Other signs - extremely bitter towards women, makes jokes about roast beef, used-up / loose vaginas, throwing hotdogs down hallways etc. Sorry you're a lego man in a toilet roll tube, buddy.

__kamikaze__ · 2021-06-30T00:13:08+00:00

I heard if he always covers his crutch in photos (like hands crossed over it) he has a small dick. It means he’s subconsciously trying to hide it.

modernmedusaa · 2021-06-29T22:06:35+00:00

Quiet confidence. I also find tall / very athletic guys tend to be bigger downstairs. I don’t think I’ve ever been negged by a guy with a big dick either. Guys with a big dick won’t insult you or brag about ex’s.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-06-29T16:45:35+00:00

6’’ is really not that big, you shouldn’t find it difficult to find and don’t settle for less. As others have said, quiet confidence is a sign he has a decent size. You don’t want to deal with small man/willy syndromes anyway.

Rebeccahu777 · 2021-06-29T19:23:32+00:00

Physically speaking: Deeper voice, masculine-looking face, masculine D2:D4 (google it, it's about the finger lengths). All of those things and penis size are correlated to prenatal testosterone and pubertal testosterone.

This, however, just implies that there's a bigger chance for him to have a bigger than average penis, not that he won't have a small one if he has 2 or 3 of those things, there are exceptions to everything.

Also, some myths: Height, hand size, nose size, shoe size... non of those are correlated with penis size.

puzzlebitties · 2021-06-29T19:54:10+00:00

I'm not really sure how to tell but I can describe the guy I'm dating who does have a big dick and I felt like I could tell long before I ever actually knew he did.

He never ever talks about it. Even when we were just friends for a long time before we dated and other men were talking about gross stuff he never engaged in it.
He's tall.
He doesn't do the cocky Male thing. He's never trying to prove anything to anyone like small dick guys are.

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lanaisg0d · 2021-07-03T23:46:05+00:00

My current bf has a 8.5 inch dick (I measured it lol)

-He’s very soft spoken -Very chill -Shy -Deep voice -he’s tall -big feet and hands

sunshinewynter · 2021-06-29T15:11:09+00:00

What is a penis shield?

Grefvinnan · 2021-06-29T20:47:49+00:00

Ooooh, there was a scientific paper linked in the science sub about this. They found that there is a correlation between the size of the nose and the size of the penis! Especially nose length. When I think back on my own sexual partners I definitely see this correlation too! So yeah, check the nose lol

Comfortable_Duty_605 · 2021-06-29T15:59:52+00:00

Ok this is just personal experience -

Nose size, hand size, height; those are positively correlated to dick size. If they have a big butt they usually are good in bed. Oh and most of them are fit.

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Title	I don't know where else to ask this without getting harassed by scrotes, but how can you actually tell if a guy has a big dick?
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Date	June 29, 2021 2:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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