Cheating - Confirmed

White3g4runner · 2024-09-20T08:22:50+00:00

If you’re rejected…Accept It!

If you’re unloved…Let Go!

If they choose someone or something over you you…Move On!

Not everyone you love will stay…

Not everyone you trust will be loyal…

I don’t care about losing people, who don’t want to be in my life anymore…

I’ve lost people, who meant the world to me

And I’m still doing just fine.

Always speak how you feel…

And never be sorry for being real!

You may not be able to control every situation

And it’s outcome…

But you can control your attitude

And how you deal with it!

Do Good!!!

It will come back to you in unexpected ways…

Be happy with what you have

While working for what you want.

Remember Somethings Have To End,

For Better Things To Begin!

cdjd_021724 · 2024-09-19T14:57:34+00:00

Hhmm its not like men don't cheat now is it ?

Sea_Employment4100 · 2024-09-18T22:51:38+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_HatV8o_1Y

Efficient_Radish1627 · 2024-09-18T17:36:20+00:00

Not all women are like this. You just chose a rotten apple.

This_Train340i · 2024-09-18T17:00:16+00:00

She was using and manipulating you to get a favorable settlement in the divorce. It happens as much as the fact that they ALWAYS have a few guys lined up to go balls deep when they ask for divorce.

CrazySanta7 · 2024-09-18T15:25:22+00:00

Yep, this is the norm, not the exception. Guys refuse to believe their 'wife' would ever cheat. I condemn this behavior 100%, but imagine the following:

Womem get hit on constantly, even when married.
They post on social media and get likes, comments, and DM's. This ramps up when they are 'unhappy'
She goes to the store and gets hit on
She goes to work and get hit on
She sees 'happy' couples on social media
Movies, TV shows, and social media vrain wash women. Ex. Disney movies

All these happen, even when women are married! There are beta males out there just waiting on her to break it off with you. When her marriage gets 'boring,' women start comparing you to other men. She has confidence because beta males give her non-stop validation. She starts testing the waters by opening up to men about her 'horrible' marriage. The guy wants to get laid and pretends to be a be a White Knight. She begins to despise you. You are the reason for her 'unhappiness' and are keeping her from her 'soul mate'. Her mind only remembers the unhappy times.

She gets the balls to announce separation/divorce. 'I love you, but i'm not in love with you'. The guy panics. He turns into 'Mr fix it'. He starts begging, pleading, and manipulating. He makes 'changes', hoping she will notice. It doesn't work, so he starts getting angry. She mourned the death of the marriage long ago. You are 'friend' material now.

Most men get cheated on, some never find out about it but are shocked when she gets into an immediate relationship. Independent women, social media, only fans, spandex, movies, etc. have ruined marriage. There is ZERO incentive to get married for a man. Divorce is the woman's pre nup. Social media shows women that the grass is always greemer on the other side. Women initiate separation/divorce 75-90% of the time....think about that. If Tom Brady can get cheated on....anyone can.

I'm hoping men stop giving women free validation. We have 3's thinking they are 10's. Get your fitness, finances, and life in order. Think james bond. You have x time with a woman....not forever. Enjoy it and move on. Good luck bro

Exactly65536 · 2024-09-18T11:01:24+00:00

It's painful, but it's a good pain - it's ripping the band aid off type of pain. Overall situation is tragic, of course, failure of a project that lasted 26 years is a fucking catastrophe, but only once you abandon hopes of reconciliation you start to heal.

You go through the pain of realization that the marriage is over. And that the person you had it with is... not very good a person, not anymore.

ColdHandGee · 2024-09-18T08:49:56+00:00

Toe my brother, I know the exact pain, shock, and disbelief you are experiencing with right now: 23yrs, 5 kids, money, holiday home, everything she could dream for, I bought it for her.

SAHM (lazy) never cooked, cleaned, ironed, anything. Just sitting down, on her phone doomscrolling, or seeing her toxic friends. They told her she can make bank out of the divorce, so she walked out for 6 months. I was devastated: begged her to come home. Nope, too busy getting dicked down by Tyrone. I had the 5 kids. I never knew my eldest daughter was pregnant at 20! What?!? Who? When? How? But the now ex knew: she came back home 23rd December and walked upstairs with her bags and not said a word.

The abuse ramped up until I had to leave the marital home when she called the police to say I was physically abusing her. Ha! My parents knew about what I was suffering with. The police came and I could only grab a few possessions before being escorted off the home I paid for. Stayed with mom and dad until I moved a year later. We divorced in November 2021. I'm happy but damaged emotionally, even with therapy. I will only date on my terms moving forward. I also have trust issues.

Icerunner45 · 2024-09-18T06:09:59+00:00

I was married for a little over 12 years. My stbx kidnapped our kids and started getting ran through within a couple weeks of running away to her mom’s house. It’s gut-wrenching. We just have to focus on being their for our kids and being the best dad we can. When they do this, they show they’re for the streets.

zoneoftheendersHD · 2024-09-18T05:21:52+00:00

I knew my wife deep down was cheating but my heart sank when the pi (for serving her) confirmed she was living with her rapist in a secret apartment. I despise her after that.

New_Crow3284 · 2024-09-18T04:09:38+00:00

You are not done at all with letting her go. She isn't connected to you anymore. You only share common past memories.

I'm 14 months separated from a relationship of 28 years. It is hard. Focus on YOU2.0, not on the past.

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Brilliant_Lime_3105 · 2024-09-18T03:40:25+00:00

A long time ago I was the Ap... the truth is, this episode of your life is a before and after, don't let that woman ruin your being

Believe me, what a woman hates most is the indifference of the doormat, live your life and Zero contact with exes, not all women are shit

Cheer up, I wish you the best and the most important thing more than a woman, the most important thing is self-love, because if you love yourself too much, no one can destroy you.

techrmd3 · 2024-09-18T03:40:23+00:00

Hey a Garden Implement used for weeds is going to Garden Implement... it's just how it is. Some one will use that tool. It always happens.

We have all been there, the feral nature of people is very harsh to see when we have these predispositions to think otherwise.

And you are not stupid you are merely normal. Most people do not think in the way it normally works in divorces.

Boomhower113 · 2024-09-18T02:58:49+00:00

Let that poor fucker deal with her.

Interesting-Gap7359 · 2024-09-18T01:54:56+00:00

I’m sorry you’re hurt, it’s completely understandable and not something that’s easy to hear or deal with.

However, it is not cheating. At all. Just like you were together, a couple, and romantically involved before you got a piece of paper making it legal - waiting for another piece of paper to make it “official” that you’re not together is just admin work.

rsmiley77 · 2024-09-18T01:42:19+00:00

Marriage takes two. Seems to me she’s been telling you for a while that she wants out. That’s her right. You now have to accept that.

Btw I don’t consider it cheating sleeping with someone else while waiting for divorce to finalize. I think that and some of the words you use are very telling about how you view her and you. You must accept that it’s over and move on.

Economy_Value9657 · 2024-09-18T01:39:09+00:00

Actually depending on which state it occurs if either partner sleeps with anyone before the divorce is finalized it's considered adultery which could possibly help you leverage getting more out of the divorce proceedings

upvotersfortruth · 2024-09-18T01:27:38+00:00

Eyes on the prize, get it done. Squeeze for a better deal if you can leverage any guilt or faux guilt but don't blow it up!

ArtichokeSavings9472 · 2024-09-18T01:17:28+00:00

Get away from her . Heal take the time and heal it’s going to hurt bad but you if you focus on yourself and healing you will come out a better man stay strong

Atom_____ · 2024-09-18T01:03:39+00:00

That’s not cheating my guy.

Least_Winter9632 · 2024-09-18T00:54:58+00:00

Fuck man, that’s brutal. Sorry you’re going through this. Was 17 years for me, 4 kids. It’s gonna hurt like hell. It does get better though, in time. Damn I feel for you

KillerUndies · 2024-09-18T00:54:08+00:00

My heart goes out to you. Same exact thing happened to me. Never thought she would. Seperated, still tried. It got me used, cheated on, abandoned and nearly lost my life because of it.

Forget her and never speak to her again. She's just another human.

jamiclark · 2024-09-18T00:49:58+00:00

First off this isn’t cheating, like at all. Dog you’ve been separated from your soon to be ex wife a good bit of time. Your divorce is almost finalized. Like dude the relationship and with it any shared loyalty has been long gone. Get her and any ideas of her out of your head. You are your own person, go find that person. Figure out what hobbies, interests, anything that you enjoy. No need to complain on the internet when you have your whole ass life in front of you.

GalamineGary · 2024-09-18T00:49:15+00:00

I was just as dumb. It’s the craziest thing. 26 years up a smoke for “reasons.” My favorite part is she fucks someone else, blows up the marriage and I get to pay her money.

life-is-short- · 2024-09-18T00:17:36+00:00

Thinking of it will not help. Go on. Find hobbies, talk to friends, go vacation by yourself …

AltEgo25 · 2024-09-18T00:16:27+00:00

There is no accumulated relationship equity with women. They treat you and deal with you based on how they feel at that moment as if 20 years history never occured.

Title	Cheating - Confirmed
Author	MissionToe3030
Upvotes	72
Comments	55
Date	September 18, 2024 12:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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