I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed

penguintransformer · 2023-03-31T05:15:07+00:00

You're saving yourself for marriage. You have a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT VIEW ON SEX. This particular relationship will never work out. Find a partner that is also saving themselves for marriage

EDIT: my partner has been with over 100+ women. I don't care. Because my view of sex, while is intimate for ME, should also be for pleasure and fun as long as it's safe. Numbers don't matter to me. Idk my number, I stopped counting after 1.

EDIT 2: and btw, Redhill followers are complete fools and hypocrites.

RedPillDetox · 2023-03-31T11:07:36+00:00

I don't even know where to start.

The guy likes you because he objectifies you/sees you as a prize ("A virgin. I'm gonna have what no other man had yet" aka NARCISISTIC MOTIVE)

From a probabilistic point of view there's nothing normal about bedding 200 women and none of them qualifying as relationship material. It's impossible to be like that and not catch feeligs for someone at some point unless you're either a psychopath or a narcisist who just wants to add another notch to his belt for bragging rights.

He also probably views all the women he had as "whorish" and doesn't want them because he views it as an insult to have "easy women who other men can have easily"... again NARCISISM. He wants to have what others can't while taking advantage of the remaining women, use them and "corrupt" them by sexually using them, so that other guy has to get his scraps, because that makes him feel really good about himself.

Him being able to retire in mid 30s is obviously bullshit and you shouldn't fall for that, and even if it's true, it's a red flag because anoter textbook trait of psychopaths is that they are exceptionally successful in some career paths. In the case of this specific guy, i'd say that's the case when you add 1 and 1 together and analyze his behavior as a whole.

I repeat. He's a textbook psychopath: "Successful career" (or lying about successful career), promiscuous, hypocrite, narcisist...

I bet this man started out as very caring and loving, and seemed like an absolute prince charming to you up until now. Am i right? Because he's adapting his behavior to please you from the beggining because HE'S A PSYCHOPATH.

Run from that mofo

Ashleythemaneater · 2023-03-31T03:28:36+00:00

He's not the 1 for u and that is okay. He seems like a red flag. He's alluded to wait until marriage if y'all can do other stuff before? Girl hell nah. NO.

dharkanine · 2023-03-31T11:50:45+00:00

Read your post and some of your comments. Best timeline I can come up with is this:

You marry, he gets to train a virgin, gets you pregnant and locked into the housewife role, then he gets bored and starts sleeping around.

This isn't going to play out the way you hope. I'm pretty sure he's sleeping with one, maybe two women while talking to you. Since you aren't physically intimate already, you have no way of tracking his behavior when you're apart, and his libido doesn't just "go away" because he's suddenly open to traditional marriage. Make sense?

xvszero · 2023-03-31T02:30:54+00:00

also sort of into the red pill

Who cares about the body count, this is the real red flag.

He likes that I’m a virgin

Also this, to be honest.

wants a housewife

And this. Ew god. Run away.

We share a lot of values

LIKE WHAT?!

throwaway93849344 · 2023-03-31T08:43:17+00:00

Please stay away from him. I wound up in a relationship with a similar type. Former womanizer who claimed to want to settle down and live a simple life. He turned out to be a former MGTOW activist. As soon as he realized that I was "like the other women" (I care about loyalty and honesty), he went back to his former beliefs. Yes, people can change, but they must be willing to. A man who has such a high body count AND is into the red pill obviously thinks that promisciuty adds value to his life and will either cheat on you (and not be sorry about it) or resent you for asking for his loyalty (and think you're retarded for expecting that from any man at all).

gastationdonut · 2023-03-31T12:08:49+00:00

Don’t date him. Problem solved.

guava_jam · 2023-03-31T03:37:41+00:00

My husband’s best friend literally broke up with his fiancé yesterday- their wedding was supposed to be this May 13th. They both wanted a family and shared a lot of the same values. Both very successful in their careers, both millionaires or close to it, good families. But something wasn’t right, and they both didn’t know what being in a relationship was really about. I suggest you go with your gut feelings and rather than just look for a man who will let you stay home with the kids, you look for a man who doesn’t repulse you. There are better men out there.

creamerfam5 · 2023-03-31T12:25:08+00:00

Of course you aren't wrong for that. What redpill deems as natural laws of what women are attracted to is made up pseudo science.

You are allowed to have your own standards for a man's character. If his values don't align with yours, don't date him.

Academic_Type624 · 2023-03-31T09:38:30+00:00

Having read you comments I want to suggest you think through some things.

You are Christian, he's dipping his toe into the water to see if it appeals to him. How important is it to you that you are on the same page religiously? If you have children will he respect your wishes about going to church?

How long ago did he stop sleeping with lits of women? If he's serious about changing when was the last time he had sex with someone else?

You want a traditional marriage. My mum stayed at home to raise me til I was about 12. My dad recognised what she done had value and respected that, her opinions mattered to him and it was a partnership. An example of this is my mum tried to care for her MIL when she had dementia, however her illness was at a stage where she was a danger to herself and others, she nearly set the house on fire, my dad recognised how difficult it was for my mum and made care arrangements. There's plenty of men who'd have insisted my mum manage. Many redpill guys want a maid more than a wife working in partnership with him. I would suggest having a conversation with him about what a traditional marriage means to him, and look out for whether your role is respected.

If you marry and have lots of kids, what support do you think you'll need from a husband? Will he give it?

What level of care do you expect from a husband? What sort of financial provision are made for you?

I know that seems a lot but if you're thinking of building a life with someone these are really important considerations.

AceArguments · 2023-03-31T13:58:18+00:00

Uh. No, you are not wrong in thinking that. Wow. Alarm bells be ringing in my ears. Dear lord, that guy probably has an STD. Do not do anything with him please! Unless he has documentation, I wouldn't put a finger on him!

We share a lot of values but I just can’t look at him the same way

This is life. We choose which things to value more over the other. You can't have them all on a horizontal line. You have to prioritize one over the other. Please ask yourself whether your values on sexual behaviours fits with his or not. I doesn't sound like it fits to me. You value saving yourself until marriage and he sure as hell doesn't. His behaviours are completely contradictory to your actions. Behaviours are super hard to change because they require years of repetition. And he has been repeating one action 200 times. I don't think his behaviour is going to be any different when you get into a long-term relationship with him.

Very few people change when you marry them. After the age of 25, most people's values, beliefs, personality, and behaviours solidify and become hard to undo. Think really hard about whether you want that quality. Do not ask yourself whether you would put up with that behaviour or whether you could endure it. Ask yourself, are these the qualities that I want?

Personally. Dip. There's always someone else around the corner.

No-Chance-8405 · 2023-03-31T13:46:12+00:00

As a woman I tell you, trust your gut feelings. I would feel repulsed too. He will cheat on you left and right while 'waiting' for your marriage.

tromp-et · 2023-03-31T19:15:02+00:00

I know a man like this. Former womanizer, kind of narcissistic. He’s now married to a much younger woman who does not have his experience. They have a child together, she is being a house wife. He is cheating on her… multiple affairs… I would be very wary of this type of man. You might get hurt badly.

Exis007 · 2023-03-31T16:45:58+00:00

Red flags! So many, many red flags.

Cool that he has a great job. But he's saved enough to not work for 40-50 years, to support a spouse, and to save for the college education of 4-5 children? Because, no, he hasn't. Where's the health insurance coming from for these four to five pregnancies? For four-to-five kids worth of ear infections and strep throat and whatever else?

I do. not. believe. him. That's an absurd amount of money over an incredibly variable time period. I find this to be a ridiculously outside possibility unless he's coming from extreme family wealth. And even then, it's not necessarily his money to spend.

I also subscribe to the idea that people basically show you who they are through their actions. It's not that people can't change, they can and they do, but I want to see that behavior before I'll believe the words. You say he's 10 years older than you and he wants to retire in his mid-thirties. Let's say, conservatively, that he's 30 and you're 20. Let's also say he started dating at 15. That means he's slept with 200 women in 15 years, or 13.3 women a year. That's a lifestyle. Not one I necessarily have a problem with, that's fun if it's for you, but it's very different than the lifestyle he claims he wants. He says he wants commitment, family, domesticity, children. Nothing about how he lives, what he's doing with the time he's had these last 15 years, really backs that up. Hell, he might even think this is what he wants sincerely, he might not even be lying. But nothing about his behavior demonstrates that he's walking the walk on this one, that he has the skills to maintain a long-term relationship, that he'd be happy living the lifestyle he claims he wants.

And can we talk about kids? I'm a parent. I have a toddler. It's an absolute joy. I am a fan of children. But four or five kids is a decade straight of diapers and night-feedings. Maybe longer depending on spacing. That's two adults working all hours, every day, doing nothing but parenting. That can be joyful if that's how you enjoy living your life. But someone who worked enough to be this independently wealthy and who has been such a playboy for his whole life is going to trade in the glamor of that for diapers and crackers being ground in the carpet and a screaming tantrum because they wanted the BLUE CUP not the RED CUP? There's something not adding up to me. And maybe he thinks you'll be a SAHM and that means you're going to be doing the diapers and the wake-ups and the tantrums while he...what? Controls the money he saved? This is bad news.

The good money, the smart money, is on some chunk of this being bullshit. I'd say he's spinning you a tale to get you to trust him and like him and fool around with him, and then you're getting dumped once you give up sex in whatever format. Your ick is well-founded. Nothing about this picture adds up.

Ok_Pick6972 · 2023-03-31T11:01:47+00:00

Nothing wrong with that. Most men feel exactly the same when they hear a woman they are talking too has been with a lot of guys

Think_please · 2023-03-31T12:49:30+00:00

It's never wrong to not be attracted to someone for any reason, nobody gets to choose who they are attracted to. Outside of the fact that there are like 10 red flags already in what you said about him you are turned off by his experience. Move on and find someone who attracts you since you've just learned that body counts in the 200s turn you off.

Edit: Just recognize that it’s very easy to lie about your body count, so don’t use it as your primary sorting mechanism.

fathergoose77 · 2023-03-31T16:29:22+00:00

Gonna leave this comment here again to make sure you see:

The age gap, the double standards. The red pill. I get you like this guy but like…..he’s not the most logical thinker and if he’s into RP at all, especially at his age, it’s a big red flag.

Seek men in your Christian community. The red pill directly contradicts so much of the teachings of Christ. And he wants to do other sexual stuff because you want to wait?? This is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. This is not a God loving man. You don’t have a lot of relationship and romantic experience and HE KNOWS THIS so he can make up whatever he wants and it will sound plausible to you, especially as someone who has never participated in hookup culture.

(I say this all as a non-Christian but I did grow up with the community).

I am a man who has had casual encounters and have many friends who also have. We are NOWHERE near that number, not even the guys I’ve know that go out partying every weekend. The men I have met with those numbers have severe self-esteem issues, addictions, have frequented sex workers and massage parlors, have traveled for “sex tourism” and red light districts which tends to host women who are underaged and trafficked, have coerced women for sex for drugs. 200+ is not at all normal for most guys just having casual hookups, even the really attractive dudes. He’s lying to you about the pressure he felt. This is far above that. He probably sees you as some kind of novel prize to be won.

Also look up the “Madonna whore complex”. Virgins are marriage material but the women who have slept with him aren’t (and RP concept also). That’s not a healthy mindset for a man to have. He will have a hard time seeing you as a full human and only see you as “wife”.

alexbrove · 2023-03-31T20:38:53+00:00

I would be very mindful about anyone in the 30s who claimed that they were so rich now that they wanted to retire. People that are rich in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s will usually want to keep building their wealth. Even those that officially live off their pension, will usually choose to travel the world or do something fun in their retirement years. So anyone I meet that says that they are 30 but are now ready to retire - I would be asking them questions such as what do they intend to do in 'retirement' ? Please find out about this because it's highly likely you'll find that he's just 'faking it until he makes it' and if he's lying about this then who knows what else he is lying about.

SimplexPressureGrade · 2023-03-31T16:47:44+00:00

There’s lots of good reasons to be repulsed. I have a bodyfluid-specific germaphobia and even the thought of sterile bodyfluids can make me gag.

200+ sounds more like addiction at best and, even if not, it’s difficult to break a habit. Usually, it takes a year and that includes monitoring your thought patterns. How old are you? Are you willing to wait to see if he not only has indeed changed, to not sleep around and be a practicing Christian?

Also, who cares if you’re wrong in the eyes of redpill ideology? Is he wrong in yours? Is the “other stuff” he expects before marriage appropriate according to your convictions? Do you think he is, statistically, a safe match for you? Either he is being a egotistical hypocrite for choosing to only date virgins (despite believing that he’s reducing her “value”) or he knows, statistically, a safe match for what he wants is a virgin; if the latter, since he doesn’t seem to show any integrity (as far as I’ve seen in your comments), I think he’s willing to risk your happiness.

Edit: Lastly, he’s refusing to take responsibility for his own actions with this whole “it’s expected of men” nonsense.

ICQME · 2023-03-31T17:41:40+00:00

I wonder if he plans to stop seeing prostitutes when he gets married

Rejoice__ · 2023-03-31T16:26:49+00:00

Redpill tends to conflate the traits that women find attractive in a high body count man with being attracted to his body count.

In order to get that body count in the first place he had to have a certain set of qualities that attract women, yes but that's it. No woman or anyone for that matter thinks excessively high body counts are attractive in of themselves. Women just tend to be more willing to ignore it.

JSBelle · 2023-03-31T18:14:03+00:00

Run, he will light your entire life on fire

Shot-Cellist9635 · 2023-03-31T20:22:23+00:00

Run from this guy. Why are you lowering your standards? He sounds like trash. Lord only knows what diseases he has. And if he can Ross that many women our, do you think he's capable of loving You for you? No he doesn't need depth or intimacy, he needs power so he'll never liver you enough to truly commit to building a life with only one person. You know hes worthless. That's why you're here

mrsbatsinherbelfry · 2023-04-01T02:01:53+00:00

Is it 200 different women because none of them wanted seconds? Because that makes perfect sense. I don't think I'd want to be with someone who disappointed 200 women in bed.

Truthteller1995 · 2023-04-01T05:09:12+00:00

Uh ya so many red flags with him

TheseNthose · 2023-05-07T22:16:16+00:00

No redpill doesn't say a higher body from men IS attractive. They say the attributes that women find attractive lead to a man with a high body count.

If a man has the attributes that women in general find attractive he's going to have more opportunity.

bloodphoenix90 · 2024-08-19T01:47:14+00:00

So you're 26. Should be less insufferable by now and more mature. Yikes.

tomowudi · 2023-03-31T20:49:35+00:00

You are both extremely different in your experience and expectations. Honestly you might want to consider that the problem is the extremism.

No sex before marriage means you don't really know anything at all about sexual compatibility because you have no idea what you want or don't want from a partner.

Sleeping with more than 200 different partners means that perhaps they don't have the respect for being DESCRIMINATING about not only partners but also in their own long-term relationships. I'm not saying you can't be healthy and have had that many partners, but I am not sure you have spent more time in committed relationships than you have in one-night stands. He could be TERRIBLE in bed which is why no one has stuck with him long enough for him to have a relationship NOT based in sex.

Relationships are complicated, and sex is a relatively minor part of them.

Its important, don't get me wrong. Take a look at "dead bedrooms" and you'll see all the pain that can be caused by sexual incompatibility.

For your sake, I hope you masturbate, and practice other forms of being sensual at least with yourself so that you are informed enough about your own body to communicate what you like and don't like with a partner. But likewise, you should also practice being honest about your feelings with your partner too.

If you can't talk to this man about your feelings, if you can't trust that they will be willing to help you sort through your feelings while respecting your boundaries... what sort of relationship do you expect to have with him?

When times are good, its easy to be in a relationship. The real test is when times are difficult. That's when you know who you are with - how they deal with problems and clean up messes.

Is he a partner that is going to help clean up this mess with you? Or is he someone that will leave you on your own to deal with this emotionally?

The biggest problem with redpill stuff is that there is no sense of true balance in the relationship. It's based on general ideas of what people used to do that pigeon hole partners into specific roles that they might actually suck at. He's great at making money, and you are great at tending to the house - that's fine. That's a basic division of labor.

But the work he does to pay for the house isn't a hall pass to use your body for sexual gratification. That's just you being a paid, live-in maid that fucks your boss and raises his kids. What happens if he loses his job? Do you love him enough to get your own job while he takes care of the house? Does he love you enough to not have sex with you if, after a few years of being married, you find out that you are actually repulsed at sexual contact in general?

You could be asexual - that could be the reason you are a virgin, because you aren't wired to enjoy sex the way other people are. https://www.psycom.net/what-is-asexuality

Or what about if you love sex so much, and after a few years he loses his ability to perform. So he isn't interested in sex, and it makes him feel bad when he can't perform, and you love it and want it all the time. Is your feelings for him enough for you to stay with him, or will you want a partner who is sexually compatible with? You CAN'T know that now because you lack the requisite experience to do so.

The Red pill doesn't even ASK these questions because the Red Pill is about traditional relationship roles - not HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. Healthy relationships are all about how 2 or more people cooperate to live their best lives WITH EACH OTHER instead of separately. It's about being your best self, and not having to be your best self alone, but still being ok being alone because you love yourself as much as you love your partner.

I love my wife. I don't always like her, but I am more in love with her every day. I know this because we have talked about getting divorced, we have talked about our problems, we have seen each other at our worst, and yet we still want to be with each other even if it means going through all those bad times all over again. We're in it FOREVER, because no matter what problem life throws at us, we TRUST EACH OTHER to show up and help solve that problem.

There is no my mess.

There is no her mess.

There is just OUR mess.

No matter which person was the catalyst - its not about FAULT or BLAME. Because we are PARTNERS. We signed up to wipe the other's ass when we are both 80.

As for the age difference, I'm 6 years older than my wife. 10 years isn't much of a difference after you've been together for 13 years, which we have. But it can sure mean a lot when you're 35 and your partner is 25. 45 and 55 - not a big difference. 20 and 30 - pretty big. 25 and 35... even bigger. 27 and 37... slightly smaller.

But around 30 and 40, the gap is "normal" and it has more to do with relative experience and maturity than anything else.

So this isn't about your age, or even your relative experience at the end of the day.

It's about what sort of relationship you want. Do you care about the ROLES in the relationship... or do you care about the HEALTH?

Because for a healthy relationship - the roles are specific to the individuals. Maybe he's the breadwinner now, but that could change. You don't know. Would you still love him and want to be with him if something happened that cost him his career and livelihood? Would you still love him if you both had to go to work to pay for living expenses?

2_cider_jack · 2023-04-01T14:40:09+00:00

Liking the fact that you're a virgin is a red flag imo: it suggests reactionary attitudes towards gender roles.

With regards to waiting until marriage for sex: it's risky imo because you won't find out if you're sexually compatible until you have sex and sexual compatibility is crucial for a stable long term relationship. Make sure he respects your decision either way (which based on your post it looks like he doesn't imo).

Sad-Computer-7271 · 2023-03-31T17:53:30+00:00

You really think this guy who is out of your league wants to marry you and have 5 kids? He’s using you for sex lol, it’s so obvious. No wonder his body count is over 200.

Naus1987 · 2023-03-31T18:21:02+00:00

Then don’t date him.

You’re talking about traditional Christian values, but you’re out here hanging on greed like it’s going out of style.

You basically want to throw your standards out the window, because he has money, and you’re trying to find a way to justify being greedy.

The answer is, don’t be greedy. Don’t compromise your morals for greed. Let him go and get another partner.

If he actually cared about marriage, he would have married one of those 200 women, but he’s just manipulating you to add another notch to his belt.

You can keep chasing greedy, but you’ll be the one swindled in the end.

And then after he breaks up with you, a conservative man might see your greed and hold it against you.

Mentathiel · 2023-04-01T00:48:33+00:00

You're both wrong lol but maybe I'm just not conservative enough to respect your values.

I think your repulsion comes from being taught to feel a deep sense of shame and guilt around the topic of premarital sex. You would feel like there's something wrong with you if you had a body count that high, you'd feel despoiled, worthless, sinful, like you're damaged goods, like there's something wicked and shameful and base about your desires. Like you value flesh over spirit. So you project all that Christian sex shame baggage onto him and see him as repulsive.

I don't think that that is healthy on your part. I know it's your religious beliefs, but... It's normal to slowly explore sexuality, little by little. To learn about yourself by yourself, know what you like, what you don't like. To take it slow with partners, getting gradually more intimate and more comfortable with intimacy.

Going from chaste kisses to straight up sex on the wedding night can be a huge shock. There's a huge pressure on you, you feel like there are expectations, you want to impress, it's not just casual and exploratory and silly and goofy, no, it's a big deal important ceremony spiritual joining stuff. I don't know, all of that baggage just puts a lot of pressure on a person and I don't like it, I think it can lead to a lot of problems with communication and self-knowledge, with shame, with sexual dissatisfaction, incompatibility, pressure to pretend to be compatible when you aren't, etc...

But all that aside, that's your life and your decision, I just had to do my spiel, but besides all that, there's also the issue of him. Despite how I may have sounded above, I also think 200+ is a bit much. A lot much tbh lol. He's what, 35? Even if he started at 15, that's 10 women a year, that's almost one woman a month. I don't think that's normal or healthy tbh. I can't imagine that he saw them as more than sexual objects. It's amazing that he didn't like, fall for any of them? Not as in marrying them, but he never had enough interest in any of them to remain consistent enough friends with benefits for him to not fuck a godzillion other women that year. I don't know. I find that weird, it's a bit red flaggy. I don't think someone with that sort of hypersexual drive for variety can just switch that off for marriage.

Hypersexuality can sometimes be a symptom of trauma, like childhood sexual abuse or something. So that's a concern I would have. Obviously, if this is the case, he needs help. But I would also not count on him being able to suppress it easily if this is the case.

He does not seem wired for monogamy in the same way you are, I don't know, I would worry.

Also, the fact that he probably did not see all the women he slept with as full people and that he seems to sort of look down on them, considering them not marriage material, wanting a virgin, etc. would worry me about his view of women in general. Does he see you as a full person, or are you a trophy to be acquired? Are you just a virgin he gets to mold according to his desires because of her naivety? Do you have a convenient set of beliefs that will allow him to use you for housework, childrearing, and sex, while not truly caring for your happiness in the process? How many of the 200 women orgasmed with him? How likely is he to be good at conflict resolution and open communication if he never practiced a consistent relationship? Would he respect your desires if they didn't all conveniently align with his own?

Imagine if your desires change one day. Humor me if at some point in this story this is not you, just imagine it were for the sake of argument, another example could be found where your values misalign in a more realistic way if this doesn't seem realistic for you, I'm just trying to paint a picture bc I enjoy sophistry Idk. :P

You pop out the 5 kids, you're taking care of them, of the house, of him, you're being the dutiful wife and mother that you dream of being. But it all gets kind of monotonous, five kids is a lot, you literally have to spend all day tending to all of that, you don't have much me-time, you drift apart from your friends, you only sometimes hang out with your family who help you with the kids, but even that becomes so practical and routine, and when they do take them in you have to run errands or simply just lay there exhausted. All of this social isolation and constant work make you kind of stressed and you become a bit depressed, you struggle to take care of the kids, you feel like you're neglecting them somewhat. You express to your husband that you want to sign them up for daycare and start working. How do you think he will react?

Or imagine if you became disabled or disfigured. How would he react?

Or you just, you know, got old?

I don't know, to me he does not seem like the type of man who'd support you through thick and thin. Not that he should support you no matter what, obviously you agree about some things regarding your relationship and those things can't be broken without breaking the relationship. If both of you want kids and one changes their mind, you're denying the other one a huge life choice. But if both of you want an arrangement where one is a submissive helpmeet, and that changes, well, it's a bit more fucked up for that to be a deal-breaker to someone in my opinion. I don't know, it just sounds very controlling and codependent. As if they can't adult on their own without your continual support.

I don't know, I like the idea of a traditional family in theory. But in my opinion, it should be two adults agreeing that they sort of enjoy living like that and can afford it and that they appreciate that the other one is willing to indulge them. But if the husband at any point feels like the financial burden is too much for him or the wife feels like she wants to do other things as well, I don't feel like it's healthy or fair for the other one to consider that unacceptable. It's the type of thing where boundaries might shift and priorities might change for people depending on new life experiences.

Maybe I'm assuming a bunch of stuff here, but that's my two cents for what it's worth. Discard whatever you think is not applicable and hopefully there's at least some substance left in this lol cuz I did really assume a lot.

AntonioBanderas007 · 2023-03-31T11:45:08+00:00

You have probably about 3-5 more years to find a guy like him. He's rich, good looking, has experience and is probably fed up with meaningless sex + he's willing to wait until marriage. That tells me that he's at the point of his life where he's willing to settle down with a good and loyal wife. If you value traditional values and would like to focus on family and not work, he is a perfect man for you.

The only problem I see is 200+ body count. You are repulsed because you see this from woman's perspective, which is that you are easy if you have many partners. But if you view this from man's perspective, it is a big + for him and you should view it as a plus. Think about it. If he was with 10 woman. He wouldn't be nearly as confident, nearly as experienced and would probably be making lot less money than now. He would probably not even have the confindence to speak to you and thus you would never even met him. Men need experience and thats what makes them better.

If you're sure he wants to marry you and wants children with you, say yes and live you "dream" life. And if thats the case, change your view on his body count and you'll be fine.

lillianraine777 · 2023-03-31T19:37:16+00:00

Your words are that you're worried of infidelity and of being compared to past partners. This is before you're married. Your values do not line up in sexuality and that's okay. You can find someone that has the same values and lifestyle as you.

thestruggle-isreal · 2023-04-03T02:23:45+00:00

“According to the red pill I should be very attracted to that …“

You are dating a man 10 years older than you mainly cause he’s masculine and is successful . That’s red pill !

Rook_Cross · 2023-04-03T02:56:21+00:00

Don't be unequally yoked. He's not a Christian, he's a hypocrite. Flee from evil, flee from him. Listen, it's not healthy to have that many partners. They're are underlying bad personality traits here. Break contact with him and don't start up again. Plus he's older than you. Better chance of a stable marriage with someone your age, your religion, your experience (plenty of guys who wait to, find one of them). This guy is a disaster and he won't likely be fixed. He's already talking about getting you to concede things that are important to you, like waiting until marriage, he doesn't respect you. Seriously, he's got issues, get away from him. You'll find someone better.

Fivefootfiveangel · 2023-04-05T21:46:58+00:00

Aw hell no

Title	I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed
Author	pinkvintagegirl
Upvotes	65
Comments	122
Date	March 31, 2023 2:28 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/12777o8/i_recently_found_out_that_a_guy_im_talking_to_has/
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