Being single is okay!

KelsConditional · 2020-11-28T20:56:22+00:00

As someone who’s never been in a relationship I LOVE this. When I was younger I would feel horrible about not feeling comfortable dating, I would agonize over finding a guy to date and would even cry as all my friends starting getting into relationships. It was a horrible feeling.

But now I’m just chilling and it’s literally the most amazing thing ever. Like the joy I feel from living alone and being single is just ‘chef’s kiss’! I’m confident that a relationship couldn’t give me this same overwhelming sense of contentment. Plus I’ve come to realize I’m lowkey super aromantic so there’s that too 😅

yeah-okay-cool · 2020-11-28T20:10:20+00:00

I need this in poster size and delivered to every highschool that exists.

waddamelone · 2020-11-28T21:20:55+00:00

I’m the friend who has never had a boyfriend. And my friends always tell me that I’m not missing out on anything. Which I know. Seeing them stress over their low quality boyfriends/entanglements makes me glad that I’m not in the same boat. Sorry not sorry. 😌

Thattonertho · 2020-11-28T20:13:30+00:00

This is too cute and absolutely true

karichar · 2020-11-28T20:37:53+00:00

wow this just made me emotional, I didn't realize that I needed this today. thank you op <3

throwawayliz5195 · 2020-11-28T20:25:41+00:00

this is ADORABLE!!

Danaus_genutia · 2020-11-28T21:39:19+00:00

I'm a 22 yo who went to dates but never had an official boyfriend so far and this used to make me feel like I was lacking something. Not anymore lol I love being alone more than being with those guys

GreenApplesJuice · 2020-11-28T20:18:23+00:00

I love the art! I think we all had/have these kind of pickme friends 🤭

2020-11-28T20:28:30+00:00

This is amazing!!!

Mindeska · 2020-11-29T00:29:13+00:00

I was a super late bloomer relationship wise, and you know what...looking back, I was SO much happier. Yes, I did get lonely sometimes, especially because I was very shy and awkward at university, but I never had any drama, never cried, never felt sad. I just did whatever I wanted to do, spent a ton of time on learning and perfecting my foreign languages, I remember just feeling totally whole and content on my own, and enjoying my own company.

I really only started dating because I felt like I 'should'. I did enjoy it at the beginning, the attention, someone thinking of me, texting me, etc. but it ended in such a shitshow with him cheating on me. That just set the tone for a string of frustrating, disappointing relationships where the highs just weren't worth the many lows.

The one thing I'm glad about is that I did start so late. I remember the girl who was supposed to study abroad with me at university dropping out because she didn't want to leave her boyfriend behind, and me thinking she was a total moron. I had the best year of my entire life, and she missed out on all of it because of a man who dumped her less than a year later. It's so, so sad when women/girls miss out on opportunities like that through misguided loyalty and skewed priorities.

dollymyfolly · 2020-11-29T01:10:22+00:00

Now that I’m 30 and happy with myself and happily in a great relationship, I find myself wishing I just never had any boyfriends in my 20s. I envy any woman who manages to avoid men for as long as possible! Any man but the right one will only deplete you!

DelicateDream · 2020-11-28T20:41:30+00:00

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StellarSunDance · 2020-11-28T21:22:09+00:00

This is great! Who made it?

TexiMcCrae · 2020-11-28T20:37:36+00:00

I love this

likearealreptile · 2020-11-28T21:48:26+00:00

none of my past boyfriends provided the benefits described here anyway. TIL i’ve always been single.

CuriousBubbleMilkTea · 2020-11-28T20:35:36+00:00

This is so wholesome 💕 thank you so much!

2020-11-29T02:10:02+00:00

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mercybenelli · 2020-11-28T21:28:11+00:00

i relate to this sooo much!! i’m 17 and i’ve never dated anybody, never kissed etc. a bunch of people at my school think it’s weird but none of my actual friends do 💖 i’ve honestly never met a guy my age who i thought was worth dating. teenage boys are so horrific anyway 🤮

2020-11-28T20:32:00+00:00

Amazing.

gabydrt · 2020-11-29T00:46:56+00:00

I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 22 and finished college, and honestly I feel like I should’ve waited even longer

LadyGrimes · 2020-11-28T21:49:16+00:00

She already feels complete.

FabledAngryVillager · 2020-11-29T00:45:01+00:00

Thanks for the awards for me posting someone else's art lol jk but I thought I had the artist linked, but it's not working on my phone, at least

Yanna Sketches

I just discovered her today 😊

randomgirlimok · 2020-11-29T00:04:19+00:00

This would have spoke to me more if it showed what she was missing out on- fighting, gaslighting, etc

Wkndwhorechata · 2020-11-29T00:45:02+00:00

This was me up until 20. Finally settled for a guy to have sex with and then settled for another guy to have a relationship with. I don't mean "settled" in a horrible way! I just mean that I thought I needed to have some internships before starting my career. I learned nothing in both cases. 😓😂

justforfds · 2020-11-28T21:10:23+00:00

I've found none of those things in a relationship unless I arranged it and paid myself. Except the calls - some men are too keen to push emotional labour onto any woman who'll answer the phone.

Girls and young women should know they can sexually experiment without the need for a 'meaningful' relationship, stay safe and stop once their curiosity is satisfied. Not caring about people is no crime. It just means you didn't hit it off. You move on and maybe you'll care about another person who fulfilled your needs / preferences.

CassieGreen85 · 2020-11-28T20:59:56+00:00

100% they think she's abnormal or crazy.

maraslove · 2020-11-29T00:44:28+00:00

Wow this collage takes the cake for favorite FDS post of 2020. This is literally me now half a year later. Crazy 😅.

99power · 2020-11-29T06:16:45+00:00

Being single is more than okay, it’s the pinnacle of life for a woman.

crapcakes0987 · 2020-11-29T06:48:52+00:00

I feel this. I spent most of my life seeing other really pretty girls go out with their boyfriends and it made me feel so undesirable. To this day I feel sad about it and I’m nearly 24. I’d really like a boyfriend but with the amount of LVM out there, it’s really not worth it. I’d rather enjoy being single than crying and losing sleep over nervous attachment to some LVM.

huevos_and_whiskey · 2020-11-29T11:19:49+00:00

I guess if your family are good people, sure. You can be totally unattached and still be ok, though. A lot of people from abusive or broken homes get stuck on chasing relationships trying to make up for all that love, etc. they feel like they missed out on from their family of origin. You don’t actually need any of the stuff listed in this comic. You can be happy and whole without all of those things.

provalonely10 · 2020-11-29T01:35:21+00:00

Tbh once you learn to love yourself being single is bomb af

chateauduchat · 2020-11-29T04:57:58+00:00

I wish I never had a boyfriend 😭

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-11-29T06:47:51+00:00

Omg long conversations into the early hours of the morning with granny or aunties is the best 😍

madonna_whorecomplex · 2020-11-29T07:23:53+00:00

We even have a term for this in my country, it's called NBSB or NGSB (no boyfriend since birth, and no girlfriend since birth) because it's prevalent and it's a thing to marry your first bf/gf here after a long-ass courtship. But nowadays you're being shamed for it because of liberal feminism that permeated in my country, so, no long courtship/vetting anymore, I guess.

dackaroo · 2020-11-30T21:39:51+00:00

Don't forget being gaslighted, used, and lied to!

MiaWallace995 · 2020-11-29T03:50:21+00:00

This is beautiful!

cece188 · 2020-11-29T13:36:27+00:00

So cute! This made me smile :)

Title	Being single is okay!
Author	FabledAngryVillager
Upvotes	1726
Comments	85
Date	November 28, 2020 8:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/k2um6z/being_single_is_okay/
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