Throw him away, you deserve better

AnniaT · 2021-04-10T22:12:57+00:00

What nightmare is this? This man has all the traits of a NVM in just one person and the classic gaslighting and "me me me" included. Were the majority of the comments supporting her dumping this monumental scrote?

Feminineprincess · 2021-04-10T22:41:52+00:00

Hmm, he signed up for a dating site as well as purchasing the premium package of such dating site, also he’s known for being very secretive in the first place. What more does she need to realize that his intention was to cheat?

WildTenderness · 2021-04-10T22:12:58+00:00

It just kept getting worse. I sincerely hope she has a prenup in place to protect her from his debt should she make the leap... Goddamn.

abby_ch238 · 2021-04-10T23:40:21+00:00

I’ve been hearing more and more of women paying off their man’s debt recently like wtf... and then he has the audacity to rack up another 25K AND HOW DO YOU EVEN RACK UP THAT MUCH IN TWO YEARS LIKE THATS SO MUCH WTFFFFF

millennialpink2000 · 2021-04-10T22:46:37+00:00

There is nothing redeemable about this man. Drop kick him into the sun before his secret debts and lies swallow up the family

MadamLeFay · 2021-04-10T22:24:54+00:00

I wonder if anyone actually has a happy marriage?

Fiebre · 2021-04-10T23:38:36+00:00

His coming out to cover up the dating website seems sooo familiar. Also, I sometimes wonder what therapists of actual shit people do. Like, ok, you're not to tell a client they're shit but...

XASTA123 · 2021-04-11T01:01:20+00:00

“WE paid off $15,000 of HIS debt”??? oh no no no no honey whyyyy would you do that??

wagonwheel_ · 2021-04-10T23:50:24+00:00

To me the most egregious sin is the last thing she mentioned- his debt. Sis could have an extra 40k to, I don’t know, leave his ass, buy a second property, invest in assets, provide for their CHILD?!

At some point it’s her own fault for helping him out of a financial hole that he dug himself into instead of looking after herself and her future. I hope she leaves him in it this time.

Lavender_flow · 2021-04-10T23:53:47+00:00

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ one of the reasons I am kinda anti marriage. Imagine being tied to such a pos like she is. Unreal. I refuse to ever be in that situation. Period3

NoMoreLVM · 2021-04-11T01:10:48+00:00

These are all the traits of narcissistic abuse. Endless gaslighting and lying and not giving her space. Entitlement and expecting her to do everything. He is a burden to her and does absolutely nothing to make her life better, she is trauma bonded to him

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2021-04-11T01:35:16+00:00

He's probably making up the stuff about being bi so she will think he is going after men, because he believes (and perhaps it's true) that she would tolerate it, versus him cheating with women. I had a loser do this to me when I caught him.

Chaotic-platypus · 2021-04-11T04:01:19+00:00

Damn is this my ex? FYI sex addiction and psuedo-bisexuality is a symptom of certain personality disorders. My LEO/military abusive ex had sex with men. Not cause he was attracted to them, but it was a way to abuse other men and get away with it. He was equally abusive to women of course.

He pretended to be doing me a HUGE HONOR by coming out me, after the lying and cheating and emotional and physical abuse. Thanks buddy.

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Donttellmehow2feel · 2021-04-11T04:22:50+00:00

The sub of martyrs where this post comes from has a fair share of woke ladies who almost all told her to throw his gaslighting ass away.

NowTruly · 2021-04-11T08:14:08+00:00

I literally gasped at the casual mention of $40k in debt he accrued and she is paying off.

AND he bought a gun without telling her.

You know what sociopaths with ballooning debt and wives they hate really dig?

Generous life insurance policies.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-04-11T01:59:09+00:00

F*ck me. She's seriously just hitting the TIP of the iceberg with this compulsive lying sack of shit. Lordy. I hope she gets free from him but unforch if they divorced she will inherit half his debt, that absolute scumbag

eveloe · 2021-04-11T08:32:10+00:00

Women who are partnered with down low bisexual men are the highest risk for HIV and AIDS.

https://www.phmc.org/site/news-and-events/254-groundbreaking-hivaids-study-investigates-dangers-of-down-low-label

Men who are lying to themselves about their sexuality are less likely to use condoms, and the existence of PrEP means that more MSM (gay and bisexual men who have sex with other men) are eschewing condom use altogether. In London, 1 in 12 gay men are infected with HIV.

https://www.aidsmap.com/news/sep-2014/london-gay-men-2-population-quarter-sexually-transmitted-infections-and-half-hiv

This woman’s husband is putting her health at risk and she could sue for divorce on the grounds that he intended to indict bodily harm through his cheating. I know a few divorce lawyers that would love this case.

The financial abuse done to her by this man is just the icing on the fucking cake. It also adds receipts. Where exactly has this 25k been going? Is this an alienation of affection case?

Homegirl needs to get an IUD and cut this man off altogether.

If her husband really wanted to prove his innocence, he would ask for a GDPR request of his data from the service and sent it to his wife. This would include whose profiles he looked at, who messaged him, who he messaged, the dates times and contents etc.

_queeeen_ · 2021-04-11T00:55:41+00:00

Omg there’s MORE than the first page of this?! Wtf how is this real.

Jacquerex09 · 2021-04-11T01:25:12+00:00

Her first mistake was helping to pay off HIS debt. My bf is going to school and had to take a loan. He would never dream of asking me to pay off his debt for him.

The_Pyramidion · 2021-04-11T08:25:48+00:00

He DeSeRvEs tO tAlK aBoUt It

What he deserves is a swift kick in the butt out where the carpenters left a hole in the wall

purasangria · 2021-04-11T00:31:39+00:00

My money says this man is looking to fuck men on this dating site. She needs to leave this financially irresponsible wretch.

throwaway32132134 · 2021-04-11T14:54:57+00:00

This just screams ✨ L a c k o f r e s p e c t ✨

Divorce

faux_naturale · 2021-04-11T15:25:58+00:00

...why is she holding on to this trashbag? Divorce him, and put him on child support.

2021-04-11T07:16:37+00:00

My brain almost doesn't want to think about those dumpster fires as fathers... Can you imagine, this thing has procreated and is now an example for a child...

I feel so sorry for this kid.

2021-04-11T01:13:33+00:00

There's only so much rationalising she can do.

😑

anywaysheresrational · 2021-04-11T09:56:19+00:00

Wtf is this shit ?

lickyblickyuhh · 2021-04-11T01:01:23+00:00

I just read that from that subreddit. Like jesus christ it just doesn’t stop

M1nette · 2021-04-11T10:48:51+00:00

This man is a punishment. Seems like trash is going to take itself out with his dating site subscription. Blessing in disguise.

deudeo · 2021-04-11T14:33:30+00:00

There’s so much garbage here. First, he manipulates her by making the OLD profile about her not accepting his sexuality. He bought a GUN knowing she wouldn’t approve?? He racked up tens of thousands in debt right after paying it all off?? Girl, run.

AlextheAnalyst · 2021-04-12T16:04:51+00:00

This is uncannily similar to the woman whose husband wanted HER to buy him a giant framed print of someone he followed/subscribed to on possibly onlyfans. If I remember correctly, he or his friends had already spent money on her bath water, underwear and whatever else, and she was trying to raise the kids and have a life while all he could do was keep pestering her to buy him this stupid print.

Somehow the tone is the same. Kind of like they're all saying, "Please give me advice on how to stay in this situation," and very actively avoiding leaving.

PokePrincess95 · 2021-04-21T14:39:46+00:00

Ugh I have paid off 2 men’s debt. Never again

theghettogirl · 2021-05-07T07:03:46+00:00

They use women as incubators and then throw them away. Watch for the signs

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