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[–]pinkcloudzzzFDS Newbie695 points696 points697 points 5 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link
We don’t call other women females
[–]SakuraGirl88FDS Newbie361 points362 points363 points 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Omg this. When did this become a thing? It's so annoying. I was talking with a group of friends a while ago and one guy started a statement with "why do females?". I stopped him right there and said "female what? There's female versions of damn near everything. Be more specific". He tried to laugh it off, but he knew he couldn't answer my question.
[–]HoldingMoonlightFDS Newbie192 points193 points194 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
The worst part here is that it's not even "male" and "female", it's "man" and "female" lmao wtf.
[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie62 points63 points64 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For real. I work as a dispatcher. I can’t stand when I ask people to describe the subjects and they’re like “2 guys and a female” or something. People don’t even realize what they’re saying !
[–]getrippeddiemirinFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve purposefully changed my language to say “males and women” or something to that effect unless the male in question has shown himself deserving of being called a man
[–]madonna_whorecomplexFDS Apprentice9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep, r/menandfemales
[–]womandatoryFDS Newbie68 points69 points70 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am so glad to see this message getting through. So many young women have adopted using ‘female’ as a noun because creepy men do it to dehumanise us. The internalised misogyny of it is so disgusting.
[–]GoddessIxtabFDS Newbie69 points70 points71 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When did this become a thing?
It's incel speech. They don't want to use 'women' because that would force them to view us as human beings.
[–]Godschild2020FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As an African American woman, I heard low value AA men say this in my 20s and they continue to say this. If you'll watch past and current episodes of entertainment court shows with AA lvm, that is where it went mainstream.
[–]ThatOneCuteNerdyGirlFDS Apprentice124 points125 points126 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seriously I FUCKING hate this shit. Anyone who calls us “feeemales” gets an instant block, man or woman.
[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yup, it is another neg. think about it, people refer to animals as "female" or "male". its a female betta fish or female rabbit or male rabbit. its funny you dont hear people around saying "males are so cheap, males are x", or whatever people always use "men" or "guys" never "males".
[–]ThesociodarkFDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Can I ask you why is it not bad if it's in the sub's name? I'm not asking this out of spite, I'm just not a native speaker, so I can't really tell the two examples apart.
[–]weekend111FDS Newbie66 points67 points68 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Because in the sub name it’s used as an adjective. The problem is female used as a noun.
[–]cryingintomycoffeeFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Wait why? Idgi
[–]EveSerpentFDS Newbie107 points108 points109 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
”The day you gotta message a woman to leave your male alone is the day you gotta leave your male alone”
[–]redpeithosFDS Apprentice144 points145 points146 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just look at the post. In the same sentence, they refer to women as 'females', and men as 'men'. Female what? Female lemurs? Female pigs? We are WOMEN. Members of many species can be female, but it clear from the basic definition of 'woman' that we are HUMAN.
[–]Winesday_addamsFDS Newbie189 points190 points191 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Because it's rude and dehumanizing. Female humans are called women.
[–]sacracuntFDS Newbie54 points55 points56 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Female is an adjective. Woman is a noun. Reducing women, female humans, to 'females,' is insulting. Just call us women.
[–]4E4MEFDS Apprentice47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because it reduces a person to just their sex, when people are so much more interesting and complex beyond what is between their legs.
[–]Elisa_LaViudaNegraFDS Newbie160 points161 points162 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely. If my man has any woman under the impression that she has a shot while he’s with me, I’ll make it easy for them both. Take him. I don’t want him anymore.
[–]4E4MEFDS Apprentice67 points68 points69 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly. If he has allowed his head to be turned in another direction imma dip while he's distracted.
[–]panormdaFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is queen energy right here 👆
[–]MgrofChaosFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you "steal" my man, he's yours; that's punishment enough. 👍🏿
[–]BBQCoolRanchQueenFDS Apprentice190 points191 points192 points 5 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
While there are some pick-mes and lvw who do go after taken men, they are few and far between. I don't blame the women, as many of them have been lied to by the scrote. Many women are taken aback when they find out they're the other woman. A tactic deployed by nvm mooches is to date when they become aware their gf is tiring of them, drained all of her resources dry, and otherwise wore out their welcome. Even in my pre FDS days, I knew better than to pursue a scrote who was "seperated but still living with" a wife or gf. Chances are, his wife still thinks they're "happily married".
[–]RisoaFDS Apprentice72 points73 points74 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Or "going through a divorce"
[–]Useful-LionFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ugh I fell for this one. The guy spent three nights a week overnight at my place so I thought there’s no way the woman living with him thinks they’re together but she must have been just as easily lied to as I was.
[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same. He told me they were living apart. I just thought he was shy about inviting me over
[–]Fatt3stAveng3rFDS Disciple76 points77 points78 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Or "in an open relationship with" a wife/fiance/girlfriend. Oh, the relationship IS open, but their SO doesn't know that.
[–]BBQCoolRanchQueenFDS Apprentice64 points65 points66 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's usually only "open" for him as well if the wife was strong armed or manipulated into agreeing to an open relationship. Most men lose their absolute shit if she were to suggest she have sex with another man. A lot of bisexual women are used by the scrote for their own entertainment and to play out free live lesbian porn fantasies. Been there, and straight up refused.
[–]umbralgardenFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's my boyfriend who cheated on me. He had begged for me back, we got back together, dating cuddling and having sex, but he cheated on me and told the other girl his relationship was "complicated". I found out and dumped him. He cried and said he wanted to marry me and he would wait for me. 1 week later back with the girl
[–]StrainingMyNeuronsFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I have a pickme ex-friend, who seems to derive her value mostly from one-upping other women by sleeping with their boyfriend/husband and then mocking them without having even met them for being stupid for falling for his lies etc. Some of this stuff is downright racist, where she’d say that a scrote’s girlfriend wants to be with him because she’s Asian and he’s white, and “of course they all want him”, while sneering.
This especially seems to work if the woman is beautiful, as my ex-friend has always been self-conscious about her appearance (both, when she looked good, and when she’s let herself self go a bit). She pretends she doesn’t care (although she stalks these women online) and her scrotes even tell her/send secretly filmed videos of banging the woman they’re in a lOvInG relationship with and she comments on them, but in reality I think she wants to be the coolest of the cool girls, and maybe there’s some hatred towards other women too.
In one instance she proudly told me how one of her exceptionally beautiful friends’ alcoholic loser husband asked her to be his lover, which she declined, but felt extremely flattered by. She refused to tell this friend either.
She’d sleep with her exes that she couldn’t wait to get rid of, but would suddenly get interested in sex once they’ve found a partner.
I used to make so many excuses for her since we’ve known each other for 27 years, would try to talk to her, but you can’t really talk a moral compass into anyone. And I have come to a realisation that she throws me under a bus for other friends’ amusement, as she does with everyone, sharing my most personal things. All of this and a couple more outrageous incidents led me to understand that even though we seem to have a good time, I end up feeling very low after seeing her. She has subtle ways telling me that I don’t have/do/am enough, even though she’s absolutely in no position to make these comments, but will gaslight if confronted.
Finally, I decided to cut life support for this friendship and let it die. If she messages me, I’ll respond politely, but won’t go into any topic I wouldn’t go with a colleague or someone I’ve just met. If I meet her at mutual gatherings, I’ll be sufficiently warm and will chat to her, but that’s it. I don’t need a bully in my life, who would also probably angle for the attention of any man I introduce to her. I don’t care about the man, it’s the slimy friendship I don’t need.
[–]Sarcastic3FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I also had a friend who went after the boyfriends and crushes of her friends. The last straw was when she told me she “accidentally” kissed and sat in the lap of a guy her best friend was trying to pursue. I knew other mutual friends who had complained about her behavior but I didn’t take it seriously in the beginning. I cut her out of my life because I would be the next person she would throw under the bus or steal a boyfriend from. Such women should not have friends since they don’t know the meaning of friendship.
[–]umbralgardenFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Holy shit. Thanks for typing this out. I didn't realize there were women like this. What you're doing to distance yourself is the "grey rock" technique children of narcs have to use...if you don't already know it look it up! Good job protecting yourself.
[–]StrainingMyNeuronsFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for pointing this out - I am familiar with term, but somehow didn’t realise I was doing that. Now that you’ve made me aware, it’ll be even easier to be “boring” and “dull” and excuse my lack of communication with the physical distance ( we moved into opposite directions and are now 2 hr drive apart).
[–]thegoldenmirrorFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was friends with someone almost exactly like that. She got an ego boost from sleeping with men from Tinder even though they will sleep with anyone and anything. She was only really friends with guys because she “got along better with them” but she didn’t have one single friendship with a guy that she hadn’t slept with.
[–]SayNadFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A lot of married men nowadays go after naive innocent women because they want to "try new things" - and have much more success rate because they carry the confidence and know how to play the love bombing game. And have perfected their manipulation tactic with the first wife.
So sisters be aware of the overly charming yet mysteriously confusing dates - they often have something big to hide, one of them being the wife and kids at home.
[–]_moonessFDS Newbie128 points129 points130 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Honestly? I found out my ex was cheating on me so I reached out to the girl he was cheating with. Not because I was going to tell her to back off, but because I suspected she had no clue. I was indeed correct, she had no idea. Poor thing was shocked and terrified she hurt me. I took her out to dinner and drinks at a super ritzy upscale restaurant with his credit card and sent him a pic of us. 🥂💅
We both dumped him. She and I are good friends to this day!
[–]nerezzamoreFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True queens, loves it!
[–]MarriedWithPizzaFDS Disciple22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is true womanhood! Love seeing stories like this! Queens!!!!
[–]7CuervosFDS Newbie85 points86 points87 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
She can have him.
[–]AriaLuzFDS Apprentice35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Exactly the only time I would contact another woman is to tell her to come get his stuff. Other than that, I’m not yelling or getting angry. I bow out quietly and gracefully and keep it moving without so much as a stumble.
[–]womandatoryFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t even do that. Why is it her responsibility to collect his shit? If he won’t look me in the eye and pick it up himself, I’ll just dump it on the sidewalk for anyone else to pick through and help themselves.
[–]Godschild2020FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You could also donate it. Puts a positive spin on a negative situation, unless his stuff deserves the garbage heap!!!
[–]womandatoryFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Absolutely, but if he’s still wearing the same feral, skidmarked boxers his mama bought him five years ago, we’re not going to inflict that on the underprivileged. Perhaps a bonfire would be more hygienic?
[–]Godschild2020FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can't stop laughing. Then we'll pollute the air. Guess we are wearing masks anyway right now!
[–]HumanAdhesiveness360FDS Newbie63 points64 points65 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok but calling women "female" makes me cringe
[–][deleted] 25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"female" "man". When they try to make a good point but end up using misogynistic language
[–]Objective_Ad7771FDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn that me. I went though a convo (that dumb ass allowed me to) found nudes from his best friend (simultaneously his frikin ex). He advocated that he didn't respond/didn't hit on her so I texted her. It took me a frikin month to dump his ass.
[–]popsthrowsupFDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I told my friend if she trusts chick fil a more than her partner it is time to go..
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like, girl. I'll block your man if you need it, but also, why are you in my DMs at three in the morning pleading with me not to steal your man like you're Dolly Parton singing to Jolene? We deserve better than that.
[–]Altowhovian93FDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trust your instincts!
[–]spicyspaFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly.
[+]ChocolateBiscuit96FDS Newbie-19 points-18 points-17 points 5 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I’d die before I ever talk to another female about my man lmao please. Let a man act how he wants to act and move accordingly.
Edit: have fun downvoting. I said what I said.
[–][deleted] 38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Another woman*
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