For real though

eng2fly · 2020-08-23T05:37:30+00:00

I’ve been sexually active for 10 years and it is just my most recent partner who cares enough to 1. Figure out how to make me cum and 2. Put the effort into doing it.

I still catch myself apologizing that it “takes so long” and he says he has all the time in the world when it comes to that. Still trying to undo some societal conditioning and brain washing.

I came twice with my ex of 2 years and never with my ex of 5 and neither of them saw anything wrong with that 🤦‍♀️ I was too young to know better and thought the female orgasm was “too much work to achieve” and the disparity between us was normal.

hail_galaxar · 2020-08-23T03:43:00+00:00

And if men had to carry the babies, no one would have more than one child.

Thestral-glow6 · 2020-08-23T01:08:05+00:00

That’s a pretty generous number 👀

skyerippa · 2020-08-23T03:35:41+00:00

I’ve been seeing this guy and I orgasmed twice out of his like 15. And I said hey maybe next time you’ll actually make me cum and he had the audacity to be shocked I’d say that 😂😂😂

manateecoltee · 2020-08-23T03:38:55+00:00

Grinds my gears when women fake it just to stroke the man's ego and not make him feel guilty

MalloryDame · 2020-08-23T09:10:58+00:00

I'm guilty of having faked orgasms in the past... To be honest, I just wanted it to be done and over with so I could go do something else 🤷‍♀️ I don't think I was ever attracted to him and he rarely turned me on. I thought I didn't need that to be in a relationship with someone - love was enough!

Having sex felt like something I had to check off every week or few days in order to be a good girlfriend. So I wasn't really into it, just didn't want him to get bored and leave.

Terrible but at least I know better now! All thanks to FDS.

vntgRN90 · 2020-08-23T12:19:57+00:00

I never came once with my husband of 9 years. He said there was something wrong with me because I didn't like the way he did things...he would rub my clit raw and I would tell him to stop and that I was too sensitive. He insisted that "normal girls" like it thst way and he never had a problem with any of his past partners. He also went down on me twice in 9 years because he said he "didn't like it" but insisted on a blow job on the daily. Needless to say I'm not with him anymore. He was and is my only sexual partner so im excited to find someon3 one day that will take the time...if such a man exists. If not...i take care of myself well enough 🤷🏼‍♀️

Happy-Muffin · 2020-08-23T03:31:22+00:00

Men are embarrassing

luminousjoy · 2020-08-23T03:42:08+00:00

You gotta teach/tell them what to do. They often really don't know, and it's frustrating because they often really want to think they do. So naturally, you say, "I am me, and I like it this way (whatever way that is) other women may like it different, but hey dude, you are with me, so focus on me."

thegenuinedarkfly · 2020-08-23T04:46:30+00:00

Maybe I’m an old, but this epidemic of men who can’t/don’t please a woman (or care to) seems foreign to me. I only encountered it after I got married and the laziness settled in. Give a warning and then walk/run away. Lord.

eatchickpeas · 2020-08-23T15:03:57+00:00

men dont care about our orgasms unless its linked to their egos. making a woman orgasm is just foreplay and being affectionate. its stupidly easy to make a woman orgasm but they act like its rocket science

avenging_phoenix · 2020-08-23T15:56:03+00:00

I had a guy actually start an argument with me when I said I've never orgasmed before during sex. We were part of a friend group and the topic came up and I said that absent mindedly and not to hurt his feelings. He insisted that he definitely without a doubt made me cum every time. I kept saying no you haven't, no one has and he straight up kept saying he did. I ended up irritated and completely losing the sexual attraction.

I don't even know what made him think that;

I didn't fake orgasm because i didn't know people did that, so I was mostly silent.
Real orgasms are undeniable and your body responds uncontrollably (at least for me)
I never told him I did after (he never asked).

He was so confident in his argument, if I was a weaker woman I would have ended up believing him and assuming I was in the wrong. Anyway I decided to become celibate because what was the point of going through all the stress that comes after sex. 4 years later (from 19 -23) 'I decided' to try again with a different guy and it was the worst I've ever had and so I'm back to celibacy again it's been 2 years. I'm seriously considering waiting until marriage.

palmettojla · 2020-08-23T03:00:28+00:00

dies

dragonlotus_ · 2020-08-23T04:22:21+00:00

Yeah, the universe really thought about that one 😂

smart-tart23 · 2020-08-23T03:59:22+00:00

Ahahaha. Oh😂. True

2020-08-23T04:32:56+00:00

💀💀

TheOGJammies · 2020-08-23T04:40:56+00:00

ROTFL

heliodrome · 2020-08-23T06:34:07+00:00

I remember reading somewhere that female orgasm used to be necessary to release an egg, still is in the animal kingdom. But there was too much misogyny in the world and evolution had to make a choice.

radfemmaf · 2020-08-23T02:45:01+00:00

LMAOOOOOO

IAteTheDragon · 2020-08-23T07:53:55+00:00

Hahaha, oh shit, this is an outstanding thought.

OrchidLion · 2020-08-23T17:06:08+00:00

That would give fuckboys more incentive to make sure we dont enjoy a second of it. And would result in more rapes as well.

Essssssssssssss · 2020-08-23T04:18:06+00:00

Really? Who doesn't orgasm during sex? Why? Do you/he touch you when you doing it?

Ladies, y'all need to be cumming up in here. This ain't right.

lifedecisions2make · 2020-08-23T10:35:45+00:00

🤣

Novemberinthechair · 2020-08-23T11:04:08+00:00

😆🤭🤣🤭😆😆😆🤭

biscuitbutt11 · 2020-08-23T16:26:56+00:00

Thank you for this! I was just thinking how I wish women had to orgasm to make babies. Sooo many less babies. Jeez. I think our population would go extinct.

Verysoftbun · 2020-08-29T03:13:06+00:00

Men would use it as a reason why women shouldn't get off.

Content-Floor · 2020-08-23T12:43:46+00:00

I feel very lucky after reading these comments, I’ve only had one partner and we’ve been together for three years. He’s very patient and he knows my body very well!!!!I’d say I cum almost every time. We’re only in our 20’s so if this is my husband, I feel the sex will only get better. But it does pain me to know that so many women here have been deprived of what I experience, men can be trash!

elliedickerson · 2020-08-23T02:04:47+00:00

Lol yikes. True though!

Bellaskywalker1 · 2020-08-23T05:35:12+00:00

I demand a man makes me orgasm or I lose interest. Especially if he doesn’t give it his all and make it his priority to make me feel good

cayenne8 · 2020-08-23T12:33:48+00:00

There's this scientific publication that suggest women orgasm is a leftover of times, when it was necessary to achieve it during sex, so the ovulation may happen.
I guess it was such an unreliable method (everyone here can make their own guess why) that the evolution made ovulation into a fixed monthly cycle.

Which means only our ancestors whose women didn't need orgasm to procreate survived next generation. And that may be the reason behind our painful-for-most-women menstrual cycle.

Title	For real though
Author	AotearoaCanuck
Upvotes	3207
Comments	81
Date	August 23, 2020 1:05 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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