I hope she gets picked !

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-06-03T09:50:39+00:00

It always makes me cringe when I see these women desperately trying to convince themselves and others that this behaviour is ok🤨🤡

Platipus6 · 2021-06-03T10:12:29+00:00

Me : living with 2 different porn addicts for years, being utterly miserable and having my self-esteem destroyed because porn is healthy and normal 🤡 Asking politely if maybe they could have sex with me instead of their hand. Told to stop being controlling and insecure.

Also me : getting a lift to class one day from a male friend

BF : pins me to the floor in a choke hold and screams in my face for an hour that I'm a whore

They get called abusive for a reason when the sexes are swapped. Stick your false equivalence about a situation that doesn't exist up your ass.

miss_peach94 · 2021-06-03T10:12:33+00:00

I don't and have never followed an attractive male on Instagram. I don't see the point. Why should I accept that behaviour from him

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-06-03T10:46:00+00:00

if a guy freaked out about his girlfriend liking other guys pictures... he would be called abusive

Bitch where? Are we using the same reddit? I have literally never seen this happen

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-06-03T10:51:18+00:00

So brainwashed that she thinks that just because a man thinks something he must absolutely say it out loud/share it with everyone.

Mcccy · 2021-06-03T10:05:53+00:00

Liking or commenting on stranger's photos that he obviously finds attractive, is disrespectful. End of story.

frostedgemstone · 2021-06-03T10:49:32+00:00

She’s really doing the most trying to impress some internet scrotes. I don’t know any women that chase after men they find attractive on IG the way guys use IG to try and hoe around. Even if there are women like that, be honest, how common is that?? Can’t stand pickmes

europoor24 · 2021-06-03T11:40:54+00:00

What gets me the most is that she's trying so hard to shame others for not being ok with it lmao. Sis if it doesn't bother you ok. But to encourage other women to lower their standards/what makes them uncomfortable is weird.

electroloop · 2021-06-03T09:41:01+00:00

She’s probably the same woman who’s OK with scouting for women for her boyfriend to cheat on her with. “It’s ok, we both like looking at hot women together!!!! HEHEHEHE!”

Those 69 upvotes on the original post are obviously from pornsick men who thinks this is some novel revolutionary statement.

circescircus · 2021-06-03T13:04:10+00:00

Instead of making this cringey Reddit post why not just enjoy your super awesome relationship where you both like and compliment other people? Like why bother even writing this if you were happy?

Waste-Win · 2021-06-03T11:16:09+00:00

I hate it, women are being brainwashed into thinking that being nothing that's not the "chill girl" it's toxic.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-06-03T12:20:55+00:00

Why do they always have to try and lecture other women on what they should be okay with? Can’t they just be a doormat by themselves, without getting mad at us for not laying down and letting men walk on us?

OrangeyPanda · 2021-06-03T13:27:40+00:00

Girl, you can let him fuck other women too, he's not gonna love or care about you any more. He's simply gonna lose respect for you and see you as his placeholder girlfriend.

starfighter07 · 2021-06-03T09:51:45+00:00

Lmao she completely misses her point : the fact is that women and men are NOT equal on this.

Be honest, do you know many women who comment down male celebrities (sexy or not) pictures ? I don't. Well, I mean, the girls I know who do that usually keep it very innocent and sincere such as "congratulations on your work/mariage/pregnancy"

Meanwhile, when men write comments on female celebrities pictures, they are ALWAYS making a sex reference in the wording or in the emoji they use.

Girls, don't be fooled, men NEVER compliment women out of necessity, they are NEVER genuine in their words UNLIKE women. So pick me girls, stop using EqUaLiTy as an argument to justify the low standards you have.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-06-03T12:15:28+00:00

When I see this pickme behaviour that is makimg enemies of other womam for simply not being a pickme it makes me wonder if this is projected severe self loathing/hatred, in this instance, perhaps this young pickmesha actually does hate when her bf likes other girls pictures but has been so conditioned to be ashamed of her boundaries that she has no outlet for the internalized emotions and cover up, resulting in this utter garbage spraying over mediums like reddit, insta, etc

runrunrunawayyyyyyyy · 2021-06-03T11:59:34+00:00

There is nothing wrong with my EX boyfriend liking other pictures. Cuz my boyfriend is definitely not carrying on that mess

Beata1415 · 2021-06-03T12:32:18+00:00

Next step: It's OK that my boyfriend watches porn

9hazle · 2021-06-03T13:03:40+00:00

OP was finishing putting make up on for her date when she heard the entrace door opening and two women chatting. They were OP's roomates who were also dating each other. "I'll go say hi to them in my way out" OP thought as she noticed the chatter moving from the entrance to the kitchen. She really liked her rommates, but they were all so busy lately, they rarely got to enjoy each other company.

The hair, clothes, make up were all on point now. She put her phone, keys and some gas money into her little purse and was ready to go. But first, stop by the kitchen! Her rommates were happy to see her and friendly as ever, Jenny exclaimed :

"You're so pretty! What's the occasion?"

"Thanks, Jenny, I'm going on a date."

"Oh, that Tinder guy finally asked you out?"

"Yes, he's taking me for a forest run and I'm almost late, I have to go! See you later!"

"Byeee OP"

Jenny was so nice! OP was feeling a little bit insecure meeting this guy, he was such a busy man who finally found some time for her this Thusday and she didn't want to miss her chance. Jenny's comment made her feel much better but she couldn't help but wonder: was it appropriate to compliment her like that in front of her girlfriend? Wouldn't she be jelous? There was no doubt that Jenny was nothing more than friendly and her comment would have just as much "sexual charge" if Jenny was straight. "So no!" she thought, "If Jenny was my boyfriend I would not be jelous in the least! Would I be jelous if Jenny liked other girl's pictures? Definitely NOT! Then why so many girls seem to have a problem when their boyfriends go around social media following and liking any girl that posts pictures in her underwear? Don't said boyfriends deserve the same benefit of doubt as Jenny? And if someone dares to say they don't, than they must be hypocritical and toxic!". An expression of disgust settled on OP's face thinking of all those controlling girlfriends, but than it hit her. "Could it be..." said she out loud this time "Could it be that I AM NOT like the other girls?". Her hearth started pounding and tears formed in her eyes "Oh, what a fool I was as to not realise that I was the holy grail of male validation all this time!" and with a shaky hand opened her purse and started searching for the phone to update her social media statuses. From Tinder to Instagram and Reddit, they all ought to know!

betsybasset · 2021-06-03T10:00:16+00:00

Yep. And yet the tune changed if the table is turned.

I did this last year. During my pickme days (shame). Males, they hated it if I openly ogled other males.

Well hello?

Of course, for 🤡, women should be ok seeing their men ogling other women. It's BIOLOGY

Yet totally unacceptable if their women openly ogled other men.

The hypocrisy 🙄👎🏽

musclebeauty · 2021-06-03T15:26:30+00:00

Sounds like the type that says “it’s ok for your partner to be friends with his ex”

Aht aht aht no ma’am

restlessGal · 2021-06-03T11:33:31+00:00

If he likes his friends pictures that’s fine. If he deliberately follows random stranger women only for their thirst trap pictures and liking them religiously then it is NOT fine.

lostmillenia · 2021-06-03T13:01:56+00:00

Right? I know I'm a prude. Im cool with it, my standards are very high. I was raised this way. I have expectations.

I know thats not the norm right now. But it's the way I am. You are the way you are. That's the part I cant stand. We dont have to be all alike. We dont all have to act like slutes. I feel like there was a lot more understanding toward our conservative friends when I was growing up.

I had religious friends and I never tried to talk them out of their ideals, but understood why they wanted a certain type of partner. We liked different things in men. That was fine.

Trying to lower my standards and be like this chick has harmed me, so i know better now. Im a grown woman. I had my "friendly" phase already. Im all set.

I dont need to like what other women like.

I'm not okay with po.rn. I will never be. I've tested this out, and the relationships never work. Wont do that harm to myself again.

So, know thyself. I accept this about myself. I know it limits my dating pool. Thats okay. It's non negotiable.

You can date the boys like this, but Im opting out and other girls trying to recruit me to catering to male bullsh.it is not happening. That's a huge waste of time for me. No thanks.

Its like intelligence. You wanna date someone on the same level. Thats okay! Plenty for everyone. We can be picky.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-03T13:37:36+00:00

cheating always has 2 components: emotional & physical.

some relationships are over long before the split because one component is missing.

AyemHerself · 2021-06-03T15:02:06+00:00

Funny how we're all about "freedom of choice" until a woman sets boundaries in her life.

If you're OK with your partner openly looking at other women for whatever reason, ok. Do you. So telling me I have to be okay with it too.

Oh, and we all know it's not about whether he finds other women attractive. Stop minimizing the issue. The problem is actions, not thoughts.

MulticoloredCatMug · 2021-06-03T15:17:17+00:00

Why are these people always trying to fight for equality in all the wrong places?

Princesspeach8188 · 2021-06-03T17:26:58+00:00

Back in my pickme days, I had a loser ex who would like his ex-girlfriend's thong bikini pictures. I was literally in denial trying to convince myself it was crazy to care about this/bring it up to him.

nastaysafilippovna · 2021-06-03T18:10:03+00:00

LMFAO I hate she brought up bisexuals. As a bisexual I highly doubt the bisexual women are trying to get in the straight girls pants. Also women complementing each other is kind and not creepy like some men "complement women".

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-06-03T17:56:06+00:00

Damn, it's "Aunt Lydia" from Handmaid's Tale.

https://youtu.be/eDM2nbSVdSU

WestAtmosphere · 2021-06-03T19:33:10+00:00

Trust and believe it won't feel "ok" when he's 35+ years old liking and posting fire emoji's on 18 - 25 y/o's pics. Even worse imagine having his kids and you are pregnant or post-pregnancy and he's strictly liking pics of women's bodies and not yours.

haunted_vcr · 2021-06-03T21:43:22+00:00

This is a cry for help 🤦the lies aren't sticking like they used to and sis is hella bothered

greenbagmaria · 2021-06-03T22:54:37+00:00

Best believe once she gets picked and has a boyfriend she will change opinions faster than corporations change their logos at July 1st

amhran_oiche · 2021-06-04T02:14:36+00:00

She keeps bringing up "well then it's not fair if girls do it too." Like is that the issue? Have you ever done anything like that in a relationship with a lvm? They IMMEDIATELY jump to "you're cheating / you're a whore " etc.

AngryBees88 · 2021-06-05T03:22:58+00:00

Poor little Pickmeisha. Maybe you're okay with your man leaking his sexual energy all over the place and seeking sexually-charged energy exchanges with other women, but women with self-respect are not okay with this type of lowbrow behaviour. If he wants to act single, he can be single. Putting up with this disrespectful nonsense? Could never be me.

Bezzazz · 2021-06-04T23:59:41+00:00

I actually just dumped someone for this.

Except he wasn't liking some random BDSM model's Instagram pics, which would have been hurtful enough.

Nope. It was someone he'd "had a thing for" years ago, someone he "used to be" friends with.

I blocked him on everything but one app, sent the screenshots through that, dumped him, and blocked him as soon as he started typing 💅.

I should have seen this coming, though. Love bombing, future faking, 50/50, broke bumass. I backslid hard, and I'm going to therapy to work on my self esteem. I've promised myself that I will never let myself love someone who doesn't deserve me, not ever again.

Title	I hope she gets picked !
Author	motioncaptureF
Upvotes	310
Comments	83
Date	June 3, 2021 9:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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