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[–]riricideFDS Apprentice176 points177 points178 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Yep, yesterday I basically said "goodbye and good luck" to someone who basically didn't follow through on a phone call they promised and it rubbed me the wrong way. They were overall ok, and their response was "Glad you met someone new, take care". I wanted to respond back with "that's not what happened, we are not compatible because XYZ" but then I didn't. It's really not helpful and just prolongs an awkward interaction.
[–]Bex_The_HexFDS Newbie79 points80 points81 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
"Thanks, I left you for me." Good for you, though! I'm sorry I oh lose someone you cared about, but dropping dead weight is so freeing, too.
[–]riricideFDS Apprentice29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Haha that was actually my first thought too, I did leave him for me 😌
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Put yourself first always
Put yourself last never
[–]riricideFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Amen
[–]UKFeminst38FDS Apprentice47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You're much nicer than me. I just unmatch, block and delete when they don't follow through, irritate me or show themselves to be incompatible. I don't see the point of arguing the toss whatsoever or giving them any opportunities to try and talk me around. Their understanding of the situation is irrelevant to me.
I'm such a jerk 😋. I love it.
[–]riricideFDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I did debate it in my head a little. Like should I be the mature person and give them actual closure or should I just ignore and move forward. In the end I decided to send the good bye text because untied ends bother me a lot. But it's definitely part of the "nice girl" syndrome and I'm trying harder to not be "nice" at my own expense.
[–]UKFeminst38FDS Apprentice11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's fair. It's not wrong to want to continue to be a good person, actually in some respects I wish I could still be. I'm just cynical and tired and can't be arsed.
Seriously, keep your niceness as long as you can, it's a strength. Just don't give it to the undeserving. Stay strong, Sis. All the best.
[–]junesunflowerFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That in itself is another huge red flag. I had an ex who would accuse me of seeing other people all the time at the slightest infraction. No amount of convincing could tell him otherwise.
[–]sugaredberryFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s called projection and it’s a narcissistic trait
[–]sugaredberryFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They sound narcissistic and sexist if they assume the reason you’re going is you found someone else (like they are implying you are a “””whore”””) instead of the reason being their actions.
[–]woadskyFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If he was so quick to make an assumption he may have difficulty with communication skills as well as being reliable.
[–]LieberAalFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would still reply in that case, because I don't want to make it THAT easy for these POS to invent a new reality where they are always the victim. I'd reply "I didn't meet anyone, but I realised I don't want to meet you in particular again.". Then block and delete.
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie282 points283 points284 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
If he wanted to he would. One of the hardest pieces of advice for me to take from this sub. Because I didn’t want to believe it so badly.
[–]sagenjaxFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s hard for most of us. As my parents used to say “it’s a bitter pill but ya get well”
[–]minigakkunFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Ugh. I really struggle with this. But how do you know the difference between a guy who’s clueless with good intentions and someone who truly doesn’t care? I think there are a lot of people who were never taught how to treat others or their bf/gf with love. A lot of people come from broken homes and had narcissistic parents so they are not the best at showing love-because they didn’t get to see it growing up. How do you know if it’s worth explaining vs moving on?
[–]gigi577FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ask yourself if you want a partner or a project
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ha that’s a much better summary. Thank you!
[–]bearded_dragonladyFDS STRATEGY COACH12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A lot of people come from broken homes and had narcissistic parents
A lot of people are not high quality partners. That is not your problem. Dysfunction usually breeds dysfunction, particularly for men, who lack the emotional bandwidth to really examine their psychological complexes the way we do. Women need to be ruthlessly judgmental to protect ourselves and future generations. If I had to be completely honest, I've never even made it past a 2nd date with a man with divorced parents. Somehow I always sensed a red flag by then, and it's not like I even think divorce is bad. Family history of alcoholism is always a red flag too. The fact that they can't help their socioeconomic upbringing is not my problem. I look for educated men who come from stable, educated homes, because those end up being better for my emotional health. (Not saying they can't be LV, just that there is a greater chance they may be HV).
a guy who’s clueless with good intentions
A lot of clueless men have low emotional IQ. Being a decent human being towards your girlfriend is not that hard. My friends who chase men who don't value them enough usually end up with the "clueless" ones. In reality, they just don't care enough.
[–]minigakkunFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn. You’re totally right, as hard as it is to admit to myself. Thank you. big sigh
[–]XetaKalzeeFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I need to learn this more also. If people want it to happen, they will do their part. It’s bad to say “oh, how come you didn’t meetup with me when you agreed to meet up with me.” What I found out is that when you come up with rationalizations of their behavior, (oh, they must be forgetful, etc), it is cognitive dissonance. I need to learn to see their behavior as is, not that they are clueless with good intentions. It will save me from all the heartache.
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I will summarize below, but you should read the handbook.
If a man had a chance with beyonce do you think he would need beyonce to explain how to be a good boyfriend. How to take her on a proper date. Do you think he would give bare minimum effort to her and then blame his narcissistic parents. The answer is an emphatic no.
If a man had a chance with beyonce he’d be googling “how to be a good boyfriend” he’d be googling “michelin star restaurants near me” he would be googling “is it too soon to send flowers” he’d be googling “how okay is it to triple text?”
Beyonce is just an example imagine you’re the embodiment of his type. In his eyes you’re a solid ten. Then he won’t need explaining because he’ll want you so badly he’ll do the work to figure out how to get you and he’ll never make you feel like he’s not trying.
You’re still not convinced... okay fine let’s put it this way.
If you stick with a man and do all of the huge emotional work of “explaining” he either knows and is stringing you along or he doesn’t know (extremely unlikely) and once he figures it out he’s going to use all of that growth and use it on the next girl, his dream girl. Sure there may be exceptions where a guy sticks around, but you are likely not the exception to the rule. We have no obligation to act as therapists to men. We have no obligation to risk our time and spend our emotional energy on “explaining” to men.
There is a popular phrase that says “don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husband.” Meaning don’t let some guy stringing you along or “needing explaining” keep you from a guy who sees your worth knows your worth and treats you like a queen from day 1 with no explaining needed.
Also please do not discount your emotional labor, if you’re “explaining” how to be a good bf what are you getting in return? A relationship? Honey you can get that with a man who didn’t need “explaining” so I ask again what are you getting for all the emotional labor you are spending on him? That’s not reciprocal at all, that’s completely unequal.
Do you know how much therapy costs? Imagine if you charged for the time “explaining” to a guy. There’s no way a guy that needs “explaining” can pay you what that free therapy is worth.
If you spend time “explaining” to a bf you are risking wasting your time when you could be single and meeting men who need no explanations.
Now you may be thinking - “but I’ve had some problems I haven’t always been the best gf.” Then that’s what level up is all about. Being the best version of you so that you don’t even trip demanding that you be treated like the queen you already are. And so you enjoy your life by yourself so you never settle for a guy where you would have to put in huge amounts of emotional labor “explaining.” Because your life is amazing and the only men you’ll consider adding to it are the ones that add to your life, not detract from it in the form of copious amounts of free emotional labor.
[–]minigakkunFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Whoa, wow. Thank you. Amazing words of advice I will try to implement.
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
:)
You’re welcome! Sticking around and reading the handbook will make all of this instinct for you.
[–]surething01FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the first Reddit post that I've ever clicked "save" on. Thank you!
[–]gabydrtFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m thinking of framing this phrase, if he wanted he would!
It’s a great cross stitch idea if you’re into that and need a new quarantine project.
[–][deleted] 104 points105 points106 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You only have so many years on this earth, don’t waste a single second explaining your emotions. Find someone who you don’t need to translate every interaction to communicate with.
[–]yokusugosuFDS Newbie86 points87 points88 points 5 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
I realised this when all I got was an ’ok’ or ’that’s nice’. Well damn, I am not doing that ever again. Infatuation is a deception. The words you type take up your time so never forget this. There’s beauty in being a proud woman.
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I realised this when all I got was an ’ok’ or ’that’s nice’
That is called Grey Rocking and it's a power move! The trick is to be the giver of grey rock, not the receiver of it, haha.
[–]theperfectsunflowerFDS Apprentice4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Can you explain grey rocking a little more?
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Grey Rock is a technique for when you don't have the option of getting a toxic or unreasonable person out of your life completely. There's lots of info about it via Google. Basically you make yourself as boring as possible to the person. You respond as briefly and neutrally as possible. Always superficially pleasant and polite. Never rise to the bait, never argue. Never be excited or interested either. Never volunteer any information. It drives a crazy or aggressive person absolutely insane, LOL. It doesn't really apply to dating, especially OLD, because you are not obliged to communicate with obnoxious dudes at all, you're better off blocking them as per this post.
[–]royaldetourFDS Newbie78 points79 points80 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's a harsh truth but it needs to be known.
[–]succ_it_upFDS Newbie72 points73 points74 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I recently told someone “I think we should stop seeing each other” and he texted back VERY quickly. I was of course irritated because, thanks for wasting my summer bud. But my friends are saying “you need to tell him why you’re mad” sis NO, there’s literally no reason. He obviously does not care, so why should I? He has the personality of a stale piece of white bread and I’m great, so why should I be bothered? Lol boy byyyyye
[–]riricideFDS Apprentice25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep, the fact that he selectively texts you on time tells you that he can do it, he just doesn't. And usually their agenda is to keep you hooked but not really prioritize you, which is classic LVM strategy.
[–]avakadavaFDS Newbie121 points122 points123 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And the more you explain, the more they probably get an ego boost out of how much you care
[–]Recognition_MissionThrowaway Account65 points66 points67 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And when I explain, I lose a little bit of my dignity too. It's a no win situation.
[–]LCM75360FDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And the more embarrassed you feel after. And if you're me you might keep embarrassing yourself.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist45 points46 points47 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Honestly it feels so good to just never reply and block everywhere.
[–]LingueenFDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Right? I remember once I was getting to know this dude and we were vibing. Then one day I get a text from a girl asking me why I'm texting her boyfriend and I was so confused. Because to my knowledge, he had no girlfriend. So when the girl and I talked on the phone and she told me that he consistently did these types of things -- engaging in flirty scenarios with other women -- I felt so fucking disgusted that I didn't even give him the satisfaction of feeling my rage. I just blocked the motherfucker. And it felt like bliss.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My question is WHY was she still with this loser?
[–]LingueenFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Beats me, honestly. I remember telling her to dump the motherfucker and she kept trying to excuse herself saying that he was her first in many things so she didn't want to detach herself from him. I remember that a little over 3 months she broke up with him. Good on her.
[–]tasdronFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And texting his girlfriends about it? Like, girl you know why I’m texting your boyfriend
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
haha right? "Why" is an odd question.
[–]prettyexcitingnewsFDS Disciple14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly, nobody deserved my explanation lol
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It feels SO much better to do that than to argue and "explain."
[–]UKFeminst38FDS Apprentice9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Word. No response IS a response.
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No response IS a response.
Yes!! How do people not get this??!
[–]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
That look... when I’ve mustered all my courage, dug deep, identified my most important needs and deepest emotions, written it all out dozens of times, found the perfect moment to tell the dude and then.... nothing. Dead eye stare back at me. Absolutely nothing going on behind them. Not even an attempt to understand.
Never again. ✌️
[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That hurt to read because you described the exact situation so painfully well. That was me.
[–]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I hope you take comfort in knowing you’re not the only one. And now that we know, we won’t put up with garbage like this anymore!!
[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Definitely. Thank you! :)
[–]RiteWriterFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This. Then he gets surprised when I had to break up with him by text. Because you made it that way. I tried so many times. They only understand you leaving—they actually blink.
[–]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You did the right thing! You tried to communicate and message not received. All you can do after that is end it, unless you enjoy dating a brick wall. Same thing happened to me. We tried our best!!
[–]RiteWriterFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. 😊
[–]sunset_sunshine30FDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a dude is not interested I just reply with Ok. Used to write out long, lengthy paragraphs until I realised they don't give a toss. So why give them an ego boost?
[–]RedeRules770FDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My best friend hasn't learned this yet. Every single time she finds a dude he's a LVM who doesn't give half a shit. it's like she likes doing it.
Last night she was venting about how the newest one doesn't hardly ever text her back all day, calls her at night and acts all sleepy and doesn't respond to her talking about her day except to be all "mmmmmmm.. sorry babe... So tired..." And then after he says he's gonna go to bed he's active on Facebook for the next 1-2 hours.
I asked her "so what message does that send to you?" And she said "that he doesn't care"
There it is! He doesn't! He won't care after your long message! "But I need him to know how I feel" ugh!
[–]shakethat_milkshakeKINKmeisha™️ on parole2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girl, we have the same best friend 😔
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
The sure fire way to get a man to lose his mind is by ghosting him and going ice cold - men are so used to women being emotional, angry, begging, nagging and the likes, they have learned since childhood to tune it out and not take the women seriously - because after all is said and done, those nagging women will still pay attention to them.
But a woman who is ice cold and treat the man like he isn't important? That will bruise his ego so bad he will lose his mind.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
1000% well said
[–]bringtwizzlersFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is honestly so true lol. The only time i've ever gotten a response is when I went ice cold and never texted or called them or yelled or cried.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, basically the way to get their attention is to not give them attention.
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[–]bear_sees_the_carFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Recently i googled if women can still get orgasms at 80, wasnt disappointed. Also i happen to not be entirely straight, plan b is forming, if male population will prove itself hopeless.
[–]sugaredberryFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I never send paragraphs. Anyone who treats you badly isn’t going to care and they call expressing yourself “crazy”.
[–]GAaliyah12FDS Newbie51 points52 points53 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm sorry but am I the only one who has never sent long paragraphs to men? I feel like its such a waste of time. I like to look men in the face when I talk about something that brothers me so I can see if he's taking me seriously.
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I have only done that to people I am/have been in a relationship with. I don’t bother with doing that with anyone I’m fucking or dating. But I shouldn’t have even bothered with my exes lol
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
The numberof people who are worth writing long paragraphs to is infinitesimal. Either it wasn't a serious relationship in which case they don't require long explanations or discussion; or if it was a serious long-term relationship, one would think these discussions have already taken place, in person.
[–]strawbri_FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have decided this also. If you were worth my time than I wouldnt need to explain to you so in depth. In some aspects of a relationship you just get it or you dont get it.
[–]SpentHis_MilfMoneyFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Letting go when it is time is always the best thing to do.
[–]TryingToSeekHelpThrowaway Account7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ain't that the truth?
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Agreed. However, sometimes I prefer texting for 2 reasons: so I can think about what I want to say. Sometimes in person when tension or pressure is high I forget everything I want to say or get distracted by questions, etc. Second, having something in writing let’s me and/or the other person reflect over what has been said. Also receipts lol
Also screenshots
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s what I meant by receipts lol
Aw I thought read receipts haha which seemed 🤔
[–]shakethat_milkshakeKINKmeisha™️ on parole5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And no back and forth fighting over texts! Block, block, block to conserve your energy and happiness.
[–]ladyreyreignsFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Actually using this strategy right now, but with my (ex) boss. He’s trying to scaremonger me into staying (I was a teacher) and trying to rile me up so I’ll be unprofessional. I’m ignoring his rude emails. There’s no reason I need to explain myself and my choices to him. I’m learning that FDS policies apply to people everywhere in life, not just in dating.
[–]misoup9FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. Never doing that ever again. I’ll just opt for block and delete to avoid 🚩🚩🚩
[–]sweet_b9FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
“The Principle of Least Interest is the idea in sociology that the person or group that has the least amount of interest in continuing a relationship has the most power over it.”
From Wiki
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I used to do this too. It would get me even more riled up and my blood pressure would be through the roof as I typed it out and exhausted myself. Now when I’m angry I keep that shit to myself. I give men nothing :) the less emotion you give them, the more shocked they are especially if it’s something shitty they’ve done.
No reaction, no emotion and 0 fucks. Once you fuck up badly, you’re dead to me. You’re not getting jack from me. Knowing you don’t care, drives them crazy.
[–]RiteWriterFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It literally scares the fuck out of them. Especially if they have seen your warmth.
[–]downwiththisfuckeryFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Badass. I'm saving this for future reference!
[–]LCM75360FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ah, the painful truth. Important tho.
[–]artemisawikaFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This has been one of my greatest realizations. I remember writing long paragraphs and then getting maximum a 3 word reply hours later of my message being read.
What also bothered me is that I felt I was talking to a wall, never took my goodbyes seriously, in fact, one of the last messages was “you always say the same things” so I simply stopped. The ex said something like “good night, kisses, talk to you tomorrow” but little did ex know that was never going to happen again.
[–]GoosehasthreelegsFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Heeeey! I needed this today after my brother started to ignore me over reasons that are unknown and multiple attempts to reach out OVERLY kindly, considering the lack of communication over why. Thanks for the reminder.
[–]sagenjaxFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Truuu 2chainz voice
side note: why can’t we add gifs to our comments?
truuu
[–]euphemiaroseThrowaway Account1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Odd thing is that this also applies to life in general. There are even some female friends who can’t and won’t get shit no matter how hard you try to make them understand (that’s been my lesson recently). Obviously no one will completely understand you or be 100% on the same wavelength as you, that’s a dumb myth society accidentally teaches us. But the people who are your people — romantic or otherwise — they’re at least willing to attempt to understand. You find them, you’ve found gold.
[–]_DeeplySuperficialFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This group feels like therapy, in the best way possible. Never again!
Thank you for the sisterhood.
[–]SaraBear250FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d like to add that it’s also important to know when to take your guard down. Sometimes we get so hardened trying to protect ourselves that when a quality guy comes around, we fail to be vulnerable and miss out on really connecting.
[–]Incredible_AlligatorFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I needed this printed out poster sized on my wall for the last LVM. Never again.
[–]WhatTheBreadyFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Applies to everyone.
[–]saharla_da_Queen0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I learned that hard way...😔
[–]thiswayisbutter0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]shyslice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
put this into practice the other day, it was much easier and less painful than pouring my heart out only to get nothing in return. cut and dried, move on.
learning when to shut up and when to talk is a big part of being an adult
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D:
[–]Allaboutb1FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep.
[–]roverlover1111FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is hard for me because I feel like my ex walked away after gas lighting me and being an overall terrible boyfriend and I didn't tell him because a lot of the shit he did, I didn't realize until after we broke up (thanks to therapist). It's been 3 months now and I'm still mad and trying to move past it without saying anything.
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