Why do men seem to get upset when they see an overweight woman having confidence?

not-mrkrabs · 2020-03-29T09:19:17+00:00

It makes men angry when women's self-esteem is not attached to validation from men. "But... but... how can she be confident when I don't even want to bang her!" They actually think their opinions about women should the deciding factor in how a woman perceives herself. Absurd.

This is why you see the Nice Guy^TM freakouts when a woman rejects them. "WeLl YoU'Re UgLy AnYwAy!" The only way LVM have any chance with women is by trying to make a woman feel less than she is worth.

rosa_sally · 2020-03-29T08:15:17+00:00

But they’re all overweight themselves and don’t see a problem with that.

A guy I know is morbidly obese and moans about his girlfriend being ‘fat’. She’s beautiful, lovely long hair, tall and curvy. She’s not ‘fat’ she’s just not skinny.

The audacity.

perhapsbutnottoday · 2020-03-29T10:15:25+00:00

It’s “ how dare you not try to be beautiful to me and think you should still love yourself” that makes them upset.

Oh and they think fat women should either grovel at their feet and take any kind of man or get offended at “ landwhales” and “ham beasts” approaching them. Either or type of situation. They set themselves up to lose 🤷🏾‍♀️

detectivejuicee · 2020-03-29T10:14:04+00:00

Any woman they don’t want to have sex with will annoy them whatever she does.

TheHistoryMachine · 2020-03-29T11:18:17+00:00

Because if a woman who isn't "conventionally attractive" to men has confidence, that means any woman could have confidence and therefore wouldn't be desperate for male attention and approval.

2020-03-29T11:54:07+00:00

Because such women are stronger and less fragile than others with lower self-esteem. They see the real world as it is.

Guys tend to use one technique. They start dating an overweight girl and keep reminding her "I'm such a nice guy because I saw your inner beauty when others couldn't see.". This bullshit melts her heart and then a LVM can easily manipulate her feelings and sex.

I used to be such woman. But when I learned self-love and self-respect, their tone changed and they showed their true selfish faces. It was funny, to be honest.

trettles · 2020-03-29T06:10:11+00:00

It’s them trying to put the woman in her place. How dare she be confident when I’m not even attracted to her? Only hot women should be confident 🙄

gursky0 · 2020-03-29T06:26:23+00:00

Because women are objects to them. If you're not thin and beautiful, your very existence is an affront to them, because your existence doesn't serve them. They cannot even begin to comprehend a woman being confident despite not making their dick hard - so they hate her.

popfriday · 2020-03-29T12:06:30+00:00

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LurkForYourLives · 2020-03-29T10:27:48+00:00

To be fair, they’re usually not a fan of ANY woman having self confidence.

CoolMelonade · 2020-03-29T07:14:02+00:00

I was just talking about this on PPD lol

I think they want to exercise complete control over the female attractiveness hierarchy. I think it makes them extra ragey when you don’t care about their opinion on the matter because you subvert their authority.

The guys who are mad want to believe all overweight women rank at the bottom with all men but it’s just not true.

Men’s sexual tastes are varied enough that it’s hard to definitely always tell where you rank with any given guy.

One man’s “fat” is another man’s thicc.

YarikEnterprise · 2020-03-29T07:25:32+00:00

Women are sex dolls to LVM. The only use of a woman is for their dicks. Overweight women not only aren't pleasing to the Almighty Master PeePee, they also have the sheer gall to presume to exist for something other than PeePee, and they refuse to fall into line where they belong! The horror.

mintpuffyfluffs · 2020-03-29T13:26:16+00:00

It’s to keep women down. Many men who lack confidence themselves are misogynistic. They feel inferior to many other men and get turned down by many women. They need to feel “better than” someone. It’s pretty similar to racism.

somethingouthere · 2020-03-29T06:34:59+00:00

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Yianna_F · 2020-03-29T06:00:03+00:00

Why do men get upset when they see ANY woman having confidence??? 🤔🤔🤔

Probably because not even "fat" women will give them the time of day! Just like any other woman! "Fat" or "skinny", "ugly" or "pretty" is just them objectifying and trying to control, shame and shape women the world over! A tale as old as time itself!

There's no shame with anyone being confident! It's just petty men being petty and projecting their insecurities and inadequacies on us!

PoorPlainObscure · 2020-03-29T11:56:26+00:00

These men believe that women's self esteem should depend on male validation. It gives them power over us when their opinion decides our worth. They get upset when a women they don't find attractive has confidence, because she is taking that power away from them.

Nmbr1Stunner · 2020-03-29T16:26:28+00:00

PURE TRUTH! Brilliant observations. They have an a outraged hatred for confident women who love themselves while being above a size 6.

Actually--they have publicly shamed a few actresses who WERE that size (men have called Amy Schumer “dumpy” and “plus-sized” at a size 6). And yes, they talk like this, no matter how doey, fat and/or gross THEY look. I call it the “Seth Rogen Effect”. Men love his movies. They have emboldened men to believe that they can be a be an unwashed, frizzy haired, pot-gut, bearded slob in a dirty t-shirt and STILL have girlfriends who look like supermodels and are a size 0. In fact, thanks to Rogan and 300-lb Kevin James they think they straight up DESERVE only women like that.

An added side effect to the SRE is they think any woman who isn't that size should be desperate (they have thought that for decades, but these films made it easier for them to behave like this). I’ve even seen them bitterly complain to each other in their online misogynist hate groups (“incel” and “MGTOW” groups).“She would be lucky to have a guy like me, but now even fat bitches are stuck up and picky. Think they deserve Chad! Bet he gives her a pity fuck once a week” This is a direct quoted comment and it got hundreds of upvotes.😐

Depraved, bitter, woman-hating scum.

As the girl group 3LW first said way back in 2001 “Haters gonna hate". Males take that to a whole other level.

snail-post · 2020-03-29T11:50:52+00:00

They lose an easy way to exercise their inferiority complex. If you take away their source to make others feel and look bad, it’s like telling them that they have no power and control anymore. And this is a threat to their fragile man ego. And getting upset about confident overweight women is like a defense reaction to struggle their power back.

2020-03-29T11:16:15+00:00

Because overweight women (and women that they aren’t attracted to in general) don’t make their penises hard so how dare that woman have confidence?!?! Don’t women know that they exist to be pleasing to the male gender, specifically HIM?!?! If a man wants a thin woman she had better lose weight. If he like a thick woman she’d better gain weight. If he likes red heads she needs to dye her hair. If he likes long hair she had damn well better start growing hers out. If he wants a athletic type she needs to hit the gym. If he likes “high maintenance” type she needs to get into a nail salon stat. It doesn’t matter what she likes or even if she’s interested in him. For men, women exist to please them. This is the male mentality. Frightening huh?

azngirl7689 · 2020-03-29T14:53:14+00:00

They hate women in general having confidence. Makes easy sex a lot less easy.

panormda · 2020-03-29T13:09:55+00:00

It's because he's jealous that HE doesn't have that confidence.

livingup2020 · 2020-03-29T13:26:41+00:00

Because they think it’s easy to use them and take Advantage of them. So it makes them mad when they see they have high self esteem and will not take their shit.

2020-03-29T15:15:57+00:00

Because they see it as fewer acceptable fleshlights in the world.

wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-03-29T06:10:39+00:00

I don't think it's bad to be confident when you're overweight 👑

Edit: deleted a part of my post as I felt it was not relevant to this subreddit/OP's post.

As far as why LVM complain about women, fat or not - they always have to find something to use against you, if it wasn't weight it would be hair or age or anything else, they're creative. Better not to pay them any attention and focus on levelling yourself up.

mouthyhousewife · 2020-03-29T14:55:28+00:00

Or!!!!

They try to frame it as a compliment like “wow, I’m so amazed by how confident you are!” Like they are surprised you’re not insecure lol

level_up_always · 2020-03-29T18:44:25+00:00

they like the idea that women they deem less desirable are easily available for sex should they so choose. the fact that 'a fatty' (their words) wouldn't even have sex with them when they view them as a category of women that are desperate and exist on the backburner for when they need a self esteem boost might not be available to them appalling. they're entitled af and think that everyone who doesn't fit their ideal must have low standards.

warinmymind94 · 2020-03-29T20:02:39+00:00

Usually the guys saying this are wearing cheesy t shirts with grease stains, eat fast food all the time, have unibrow and pube beards... theyll then criticize an overweight woman for being confident and having standards. It's because they think that when a female is overweight she needs to be insecure/ broken and have pickmesha traits so she will settle for his disgusting unkempt and lazy self.

DelicateDream · 2020-03-29T22:56:25+00:00

Sometimes they are actually attracted to the overweight woman but they know that her confidence will make them repulsive to her. It’s reject before they can be rejected strategy. See also “nagging”.

And LVM hate on confident fit women too. Anyone who has the self esteem to reject them.

Dismal-Storm · 2020-03-29T15:58:35+00:00

This has nothing to do with weight. Lvm get upset over confidence in skinny women too... "just because she's pretty she thinks she's better than me?"

TimWhortons · 2020-03-29T14:13:20+00:00

bc they hate that who they would have used as a quick fuck doesn’t want them and has higher expectation for who she goes out with, the hate to see the pool of women they can use and leave diminish

chocolateonyx · 2020-03-29T09:04:48+00:00

The same when they see a dark skinned woman having confidence. To them we are "reserve pussy" and shouldn’t step out of line, our self esteem should remain low enough so they can sleep with us on the low and use/abandon us with impunity.

Trine_tg22 · 2020-03-30T03:08:45+00:00

It's pretty much always losers who hate themselves who externalize their own hatred and lash out when a woman dares to be confident and not attracted to some unattractive incel guy. Basically a sad defense mechanism of rejecting her preemptively before she can because he knows deep down he's too inadequate for her as she would never be interested.

the_sea_witch · 2020-03-29T09:51:17+00:00

Also how dare she not be trying to be attractive to as many men as possible? They really hate it when women are not actively pandering to them.

Muchado_aboutnothing · 2020-03-30T04:26:59+00:00

Because they feel like women should only exist to be attractive to men, so when they see what they consider to be an “unattractive” women they feel like some contract has been violated. They can’t imagine a woman wanting anything but to be attractive to them, so they think “she’s confident, so she must think I’m attracted to her. I’m not attracted to her, so she shouldn’t be confident.”

Title	Why do men seem to get upset when they see an overweight woman having confidence?
Author	springdaylilly6
Upvotes	455
Comments	65
Date	March 29, 2020 5:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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