I am a woman who got tired of Tumblr's bull, and made this little post in favor of men, which now has over 100,000 notes

chapster2009 · 2014-08-02T23:20:13+00:00

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wll89a · 2014-08-02T23:21:59+00:00

Hang on, is "violence is not okay" something we have to point out nowadays?

EvilPundit · 2014-08-02T21:46:37+00:00

Good one!

You should also post this on /r/TumblrAtRest - the subreddit dedicated to sanity on tumblr.

you__said · 2014-08-03T04:08:22+00:00

I had a boyfriend who used arm punches as punctuation. Sometimes it hurt, sometimes it was just jarring. Finally, I punched him back once. Hard. He was like "OW! Damn, that hurts!" He never did it again. Fast forward a LOT of years, I think pinching is cute, harmless, and funny. I pinch my (not the same guy) boyfriend like it tickles. Finally, he pinched me back once. I was like "OW! Damn, that hurts!" I never did it again.

anonagent · 2014-08-03T00:09:42+00:00

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FriedMattato · 2014-08-03T02:09:51+00:00

How hard is it to realize you shouldn't hit the people you allegedly care about regardless?

Uploaded_by_iLurk · 2014-08-03T03:50:19+00:00

I was onto an exchange today where I handed over my daughter to her mother. I live in ND. Her mother was taking my daughter out of State illegally and I tried to put my daughter back in my vehicle. My ex tried to pull my daughter out of my arms to the point My daughter said mommy you're hurting me. The cops were called he put me in the back of his cruiser even though I said I wanted to press assault charges on the mother. He then took my statement which included her jumping on my back. Told me to get out of there and wait until we had a parenting plan in place. I was assaulted by my ex and he did nothing.

Methodius_ · 2014-08-02T21:47:51+00:00

Good to see someone with a brain posting on tumblr. 90% of the time it's nothing but SJW crap.

FreeBroccoli · 2014-08-02T23:21:23+00:00

Can I get a link to this so I can reblog it?

saltytrey · 2014-08-03T18:58:12+00:00

It was funny when it happened to Joey, but not when it happened to Rachel. Or when Rachel hit back

Because Joey wasn't allowed to.

hungry4nuns · 2014-08-02T23:47:27+00:00

Also girls shouldn't hit girls and guys shouldn't hit guys either. In fact let's just abandon these primitive forms of physical communication and asserting dominance physically. Consenting trained fighters only with a strict code of honour

Methodius_ · 2014-08-02T23:24:48+00:00

I'm glad to see you wrote this.

I'm sad because stuff like this only ever seems to be accepted when it comes from a woman's lips.

-Fender- · 2014-08-03T01:19:31+00:00

I'm unfamiliar with how Tumblr works. What are notes? Are they supposed to be positive things, or can they be either positive and negative, and are the equivalent of Reddit comments?

TheOakSpartan · 2014-08-03T01:06:11+00:00

People use tumblr for things other than porn?

2014-08-03T01:11:37+00:00

Male here.

Can we please stop with all this beating up bullshit? No one should be beating anyone up.

insert_comment · 2014-08-03T16:53:12+00:00

As a man who is huge & often mistaken as someone who can take abuse from anyone, I thank you. I had violent childhood. Mother was physically abusive & manipulative. I know first hand that women can be violent. I will never hit a human being.... & get sad when people say you shouldn't hit women. people shouldn't hit people.

I've often been criticised for complaining that women hit me in fun or out of frustration etc. Doesn't happen often, but it is indeed an emotional blow each & every time...

Thank you.... With all my heart.

2014-08-03T17:34:17+00:00

I was in a relationship with a controlling woman who would get physical now and then with me. I was never seriously injured, and whenever it occurred, all I could do was walk away and hope she didn't call the cops saying that I DID SOMETHING. It really fucking hurts emotionally, and it wears down your psyche.

Her and I broke up about a year ago today, and I've been NC with her for 6 months now. I still can't date even muster up any desire to date again. After going through that hell, I want nothing to do with dating or relationships. A lot of people will say things like "suck it up" "don't be a pussy" "put her in her place" and stuff.

The funny thing is, all of these people that say that garbage are the real cowards. They don't want to acknowledge the truth that WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE because it hurts their precious little man-egos. OH WELL I GUESS THE FUCKING BITCH NEEDED A "REAL MAN".

speedkillz · 2014-08-03T18:00:02+00:00

Young lady: welcome to the right side.

AllHisDarkMaterials · 2014-08-03T20:56:30+00:00

Story time, sort of: Me in lively street, Girl on her phone, Her Man walking beside her. She stumles over sth. and starts cussing him out for not warning her. yelling gets harsher, she starts slapping him, once, twice, a third time. and not lightly either. He looks at her perplex and takes it. Then clocks her once right on the nose, she starts bleeding and gets knocked on her ass. Don't know what happened then, because my subway came. Ah, Frankfurt

Todd_Solondz · 2014-08-03T01:09:29+00:00

This is common sense.

DXGypsy · 2014-08-03T04:09:30+00:00

It is more than just the "man being physically abused in a relationship" thing. It's the ingrained mentality that it's just fine to hit a man in vengeance. How many TV shows, sitcoms, movies, etc. have you seen where some guy gets slapped in the face, kicked in the nuts, or punched in the face by the woman he "wronged"? And the crowd cheers and laughs and yahoos over how he got what he deserved because the guy had insulted or cheated or lusted after her? Oh but he was a jerk so he DESERVED to be physically assaulted.

Until that kind of mentality is not the norm, then we have a problem.

Because unless it suddenly becomes okay for a man to punch a woman in the face for ogling him, then it is NOT okay for the reverse.

2014-08-03T06:46:49+00:00

This isn't in favor of us men. This is just equality which is what we all need.

Sir_Fancy_Pants · 2014-08-03T09:18:56+00:00

I had the unique position of being pursued by a woman from my boxing class, we went on a few dates and she really liked me, however one day in the class she hit me because i made a funny joke about someone else ( cant remember what it was at all) and she full on punched me as hard as she could on my arm, (this was post class so we had no gloves or wraps on).

What shocked me was how quickly it was, no hesitation no follow through just instant (ironically actually faster than her sparring ),there was no further dates, i dropped her like a stone.

But i remember also she later was telling me how she had a huge go at her son for not hitting a girl back who was hitting him in school (he was 5) she was really angry and telling me the situation and i think she even hit/spanked him, she thought she was being a champion of justice till i pointed put from the poor kids point of view he is being beaten by one girl and then being beaten by another woman for not doing anything.

Some women are crazy I'm glad i dodged that bullet ( she was a crap boxer too, never managed to hit me once when actually sparring)

scottsouth · 2014-08-04T04:27:37+00:00

I think the most important part is "belittle" and "control". Some people think "i'm not physically hurting this person, therefore it's not abuse". The time to change yourself, is not just when you're physically hurting someone, but should take place before that, when you are using abusive language and abusive behavior.

lima_247 · 2014-08-02T23:32:13+00:00

Wow. I use tumblr, but mostly for my shitty poetry, surrealist art, and photos of cats. I also had a roommate my freshman year of college who would just go HAM on her boyfriend, while he sat there and took it. One time she even "showed off" to me how hard she could hit him, and I had to be all like "dude. Thats not ok." Blew my fucking mind that people like her exist.

SarcastiCock · 2014-08-02T21:41:51+00:00

Cool. Looked at your history, your ratties are so cute.

DXGypsy · 2014-08-03T03:48:37+00:00

Thank you for daring to say what should be plainly obvious to everyone but just isn't.

batmanbatmanbatmen · 2014-08-03T05:03:56+00:00

Man this might be too late to be read by anybody, but it's worth a shot.

Thanks for posting this. I had a girlfriend who was abusive. Physically she would slap me and shove me around when she would throw these temper tantrums. One day she threatened suicide and even ran up to get a knife--she threatened suicide very often and often used it in a pawn to manipulate me--but she never grabbed a knife in front of me before, so I got an RA involved (we were living in a university dorm). After I calmly explained to her what I did, and how we were going to have to go talk to an emergency counselor, she threw things at me, poured water on my head, and told me how much she hated me and how I was ruining her life.

Verbally was much much worse. I could list hundreds of horrible, awful nasty things that she told me and that wouldn't even scratch the surface. When she would throw these temper tantrums, she would just plain out destroy me with her words. She wielded her words like a weapon, knowing all of my weaknesses and insecurities and she would just go full force destroyer mode. She said things that--had anyone else said them to me, I would never talk to them for the rest of my life--every time she would throw a temper tantrum. She would get upset over anything, and if there wasn't a tangible reason for her to throw a tantrum, she would invent one. She would threaten suicide if I didn't cave to her every demand. She would threaten suicide so I wouldn't go out with friends. She would kick me out her room for no reason, then become irate when I would leave and threaten suicide if I didn't come back.

It really really sucked and she kind of destroyed my ego, my self image, my sense of self, and my faith in the beauty of life. I've gotten better since I broke up with her, but I still have my ups and downs.

She has a tumblr so I really really hope she sees this post.

Also I've kind of had a bad case of oneitis since the break up so if ya'll want to bash my ex a bit and make me feel better I'd appreciate it

EternalOptimist829 · 2014-08-03T06:55:41+00:00

I know as a girl there are a lot of things that it feels like you can't do that guys can, but as a guy the big one for us that women can do yet we can't is admit when we're in pain/hurt/feeling weak or vulnerable. We feel like we have to take it cause we're men and that's how it goes.

But it's like women don't get that yeah, just because it doesn't hurt physically all that bad doesn't mean it doesn't suck to know a person who is supposed to care about us wants us to feel pain.

SoHowDoYouFixIt · 2014-08-03T07:27:27+00:00

i get the feeling that many women agree to this in principle but in practice couldnt give a shit less and still live by that double standard that is so damn common with western women.

qtyapa · 2014-08-03T12:32:16+00:00

My ex used to be really abusive when she is on her periods.

TrollzFodder · 2014-08-03T20:54:34+00:00

Thank you so much OP! I would say that most people want equality for all, but at the same time very few of them are willing to even speak up when they see inequality occurring in front of them. I can't remember how many times I have been passed over, or felt passed over, because of my gender. Hell, I even notice it in my parents - I told them I was molested a couple of times when I was younger and it didn't really seam to phase them at all. It wasn't just that I kinda felt disregarded so much as they had told me how they would literally kill a boy for doing the same to my sister. Talk about feeling rejected by your own parents because of your sex.

scottsouth · 2014-08-02T21:43:12+00:00

She gets it.

Meatpuppy · 2014-08-03T05:05:30+00:00

Is this type of women hitting guys fairly recent? I'm 35+ and have never been hit in anger by a woman.

Tech_Itch · 2014-08-03T00:25:54+00:00

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ghebert001 · 2014-08-03T01:03:44+00:00

I think that's something that's greatly ignored and misunderstood by the "never hit a woman" crowd. Unless she's using a weapon, her fists won't cause much harm if any. The fact that someone you love and trust (speaking of domestic violence situations here) would hit you is a betrayal in a sense and will wound someone much deeper on an emotional level.

builttalast · 2014-08-03T05:11:40+00:00

I had to leave my wife because not only would she hit me at times, she would be verbally abusive and manipulative. At its worst, she chased me down in her car while I was driving mine and hit me twice. I had to get a restraining order, so that first, she wouldn't kill me, and second, and I wouldn't be put into a situation where I would have to physically defend myself. Which we all know, would end up with me being the "aggressor" and me ending up in jail.

Memyselfsomeotherguy · 2014-08-02T23:45:27+00:00

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RaxL · 2014-08-03T01:34:07+00:00

What are "notes"?

thissaintright · 2014-08-03T10:09:46+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this, it's a subject very close to me. I've had a woman pretty much emotionally destroy me through exactly what was written i your post and have a friend currently going through a bad situation. I've seen a lot of anti abuse posts but this post was written in such a way that really touched me.

ShinobiSmithy191 · 2014-08-03T11:31:26+00:00

Should have added Whoopie's "if you lay your hand on a man do not act surprised and play the victim if he hits you back" for added effect as we know there are women in the world who would play victim

newfers · 2014-08-03T13:05:26+00:00

Thank you for that! Made me smile in the midst of a rather depressing morning.

2014-08-03T13:33:49+00:00

Attagirl.

mette777 · 2014-08-03T15:50:39+00:00

I think it is great you made this posting and it is a steep in the right directions, but I think men and women should start to make strategies on how to minimize the damage, that feminism and feminists have caused in society. Just an example, the feminists are always so f.... busy telling people, what products to buy or not, we could use these lists and start to boycott all feministic items and all the products, that they mention on their lists.

EvilAbed1 · 2014-08-03T18:40:59+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/RPiC5E1.jpg

rbrockway · 2014-08-03T02:49:55+00:00

Whenever I hear people object to violence against women I wonder why they are being exclusive. I object to violence against everyone.

captainfantastyk · 2014-08-03T02:18:05+00:00

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us3rnamealreadytaken · 2014-08-03T02:27:57+00:00

This thread tho

2014-08-03T03:11:00+00:00

Is tumblr made for girls or something?

2014-08-03T01:05:03+00:00

Girl with a boyfriend and I agree!

2014-08-03T02:22:35+00:00

The point on this is still simpler: Why treat men and women differently? That's the definition of sexism.

AtomicBLB · 2014-08-03T03:42:13+00:00

Just a thank you, men have feelings and the emotional pain from the abuse is much worse than the physical.

captainfantastyk · 2014-08-03T02:48:00+00:00

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gsettle · 2014-08-02T22:51:43+00:00

It's good to hear some sanity being spoken out there.

Ophites · 2014-08-03T02:34:57+00:00

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higherprimate718 · 2014-08-03T02:53:58+00:00

Jesus christ, who downvotes something like this?

cyborganism · 2014-08-03T03:15:04+00:00

From a guy who has been in an abusive relationship, thank you.

Tako-Tsubo · 2014-08-03T05:42:46+00:00

Beating men is funny. Male directed spousal abuse is hilarious; including both physical and verbal abuse.

Haven't you guys seen Everybody Loves Raymond?

Osceola24 · 2014-08-03T06:08:59+00:00

Yay!! As a man who put's up with his wife punching him in the face, Thank you!

JellySausage · 2014-08-03T06:12:49+00:00

So brave, thank you op.

GreasedLightning · 2014-08-03T03:28:29+00:00

Thank you and congratulations. I sympathize with men like this a lot, who get abused by their partners. I haven't had very many positively influencing women in my life, and when I do get in a relationship I find myself asking why I ended up with someone so horrible (Meanwhile my friends hound me to get into another).

I think people need to start viewing domestic violence on a case-by-case basis, and not use this fake idea that us men are stronger. Look around you. The nearest woman probably isn't much smaller or weaker than the nearest man.

Mythandros · 2014-08-02T23:03:37+00:00

Good post. Good message.

Thanks for fighting for equality.

thisismyMelody · 2014-08-03T07:04:27+00:00

I love you. I'm always glad when someone is able to see that there's sometimes a bigger picture. I remember like a comedian once said "an ass kicking doesn't just fall out of the sky."

Hiphopopotamus18 · 2014-08-03T07:11:25+00:00

Just want to say thank you for posting. No one....man or woman.....should be hit or abused and seemed empowered by it. Being a guy, I hate abusive men and yes I can take a slap from a woman, but the most suffering blow is to know the emotional one that the one who you love the most did that to you. So thank you OP for pointing that out.

2014-08-03T07:17:20+00:00

Everyone on earth needs to see this

Liquid_Killer · 2014-08-03T07:38:01+00:00

It doesn't stop at one hit. Man or woman. Subconsciously hitting someone and them not doing anything about says that it's acceptable to the abuser. Likely leading to further-escalated abuse.

Kinslayer2040 · 2014-08-03T08:15:12+00:00

If a any gender is trying to cause me physical harm, I will defend myself.

redgreenyellowblu · 2014-08-03T08:23:57+00:00

It is crazy that your post got 100,000 notes. It is an excellent post, but still, that it is controversial in the least is mindblowing.

Glenn1990 · 2014-08-03T10:06:22+00:00

Are 'notes' good? I have no idea.

2014-08-03T12:41:52+00:00

Sweet

vaggiepizza · 2014-08-03T13:03:22+00:00

People shouldn't abuse people. It shouldn't be a men's rights, women's rights, etc issue. Humans shouldn't hit humans.

2014-08-03T14:15:09+00:00

Abusers deserve no second chances. But abusers also need help, and keeping them firmly human in my mind helps me understand how to approach controlling/abusive people.

SpiceFox · 2014-08-03T14:15:22+00:00

youre using elephant grey theme, i think??

also id reblog the shit out of that

werewolf2814 · 2014-08-03T14:30:53+00:00

I reblogged you dear.

TheOneAndOnlyTainted · 2014-08-03T15:00:15+00:00

But, but, but, OP, you didn't link to your tumblr or let it be known in the screenshot so I could go reblog this. :( (I'm pretty sure the fact that I don't really know how to go find it proves I'm not much of a tumblrite though, just sort of token have one.)

prodevel · 2014-08-03T16:37:49+00:00

Many thanks.

ilovehockey8 · 2014-08-03T16:38:22+00:00

I love you?

AccretionDiskS · 2014-08-03T05:00:47+00:00

Wait, are you bragging for attention? Isn't this exactly what the "SJW's" are doing, just creating hate instead? Are you capitalising on the "good" opinion? That's rhetorical, you are! Holy shit we're buying it up! This is an exciting insight into mindsets of groups and populations! This is what politicians do: nothing, but appearing they actually do! Go us!

Svri · 2014-08-02T22:59:13+00:00

Thanks

captainfantastyk · 2014-08-03T01:29:46+00:00

What's Tumblr?

JasonBourne939 · 2014-08-03T05:34:26+00:00

Thank you

FlamingOctopi · 2014-08-03T05:44:05+00:00

I'd love to see some of the responses to this.

jordanmg23 · 2014-08-03T07:16:44+00:00

I love this. I don't understand why everyone can't just respect each other and be friends. We all live together on the same planet. Why can't we all just get along and enjoy our lives. We all just need to cherish the time we have together on earth. There's no need for all this hate that goes on in the world today. Seeing conflicts like the ones in gaza, Ukraine and Syria etc. absolutely disgust me. What's the point. Anyway, I'm really high right now, sorry for the rant.

2014-08-04T12:08:10+00:00

Should post this to twox and see how well that goes over with people there

freudians1ip · 2014-11-07T00:59:59+00:00

I think I love you.

SDSurferGrl · 2014-08-03T02:15:18+00:00

You could not have said that more perfectly!

brajpop · 2014-08-03T01:07:27+00:00

Wish my wife could understand this

reid0 · 2014-08-03T03:57:29+00:00

http://hownottobeacrazybitch.com/2014/08/02/never-hit-a-man/

thewire_greatestshow · 2014-08-03T04:28:59+00:00

say that on tumblr and you're a hero. say that on ESPN and everybody looses their minds.

Tech_Itch · 2014-08-02T23:35:48+00:00

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sampleexample1 · 2014-08-03T02:53:49+00:00

Marry me!

SarahJayneBritney · 2014-08-03T04:14:35+00:00

Woman can be fucking nasty, my best friend does things like spill something or trip over and she's says like "fuck you Aiden you made me fucking do this" and she hits him sometimes and gets angry if he has friends that are girls and what not but she can have lots of boy friends you know, I find it really confusing as my boyfriend and I are very chill and don't care what the other one does we trust each other, it's not just men that are abusive, it's humans. Some people are just wankers. But that doesn't make all men or all woman wankers

From a girl that doesn't enjoy the hatred towards men

mattthemobile · 2014-08-03T07:36:29+00:00

Belittle is not a word. But as a guy, I appreciate your sympathy.

Title	I am a woman who got tired of Tumblr's bull, and made this little post in favor of men, which now has over 100,000 notes
Author	TheOneAndOnlyTainted
Upvotes	6690
Comments	460
Date	August 2, 2014 9:35 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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