I hate that men are expected to work in the most dirtiest and dangerous jobs.

I used to have very long hair until I was 18, mostly because I was part of a ballet company and long hair was needed from everyone so we could do matching hairstyles for shows. Then I moved for Uni and I decided that since I kept my hair up all the time because I hated it, I might as well cut it. My Mom was so upset by this she called my Dad to call me to tell me not to do it. The usual "boys won't like you" "girls should have long hair" "but your hair is so pretty" came but I still got a short pixie. Then two years later I decided to stop spending money on upkeep so I just shaved it into a very short buzzcut. Judging by everyones reactions at home I may as well have committed the greatest sin known to man. One of my friends actually started tearing up to cry because she was upset on my behalf even though I said I wanted to shave it, did shave it, loved having it shaved. I kept it shaved for almost two years then grew it out a bit. Hated it. Shaved it again. Now it's back to shoulder length mostly so my relatives would stop commenting on it. It did not work because now they make the over the top complimentary comments. "See now you look so much better because your hair is feminine" "Never cut it again" "Your hair looks sooooooooooo pretty now" etc. Thing is, I still hate it. Having hair irritates me. It takes time to wash it, it always gets in my eyes and face, it ruffled in the wind. I want to shave it again so bad but I dread the comments coming up again. Why do people think I need to have long hair because I am a girl? Why do I have to take everyone's opinions into account about how my hair should look when it is my head? I don't even want them to like it or anything, just to shut up about it.

Edit: So a couple of things to add context:

My home country is very conservative and obviously my parents grew up in that. People literally stare at you on the street if you have "weird" hair and you can be fired if people suspect you might be gay or "unnatural." (Not my words)

I am asexual and have no interest in boys or dating, I am out to my parents, the boy comments still come.

I am already LC or NC with the majority of my relatives and the only reason I don't insult anyone is because they go after my Mom for it. She does shut them down when they try to have a go at me about my piercings so I don't want to add to the mess she has to deal with.