I think I prefer this version

iamsofired · 2013-06-02T16:11:27+00:00

The kind of people this would be useful for are exactly the kind that would ignore it.

P_and_his_chat · 2013-06-02T15:15:41+00:00

This photo showed up on my newsfeed today. It's like the only messages we try to send are:

Men: Don't be shitty.

Women: Avoid shitty men.

I can't quite put my finger on what disturbs me about this.

hirogen6 · 2013-06-02T12:41:38+00:00

Couldn't have said that better myself.

tgbnhyuj · 2013-06-02T16:29:07+00:00

Imagine the (I'd say justified) outrage if a group of people put up billboards that said "Teach your daughter to respect men" with an image of a young girl in a hoodie with the words "AWAITING INSTRUCTIONS" over her chest. It's disheartening that these people don't see the double standards they impose on others or their hypocrisy.

Psyqlone · 2013-06-02T14:42:55+00:00

Imagine a world where parents taught their children the differences between respect and courtesy.

Real respect must be earned. Given respect can be disingenuous but it's always worthless and rather misleading even if well-intentioned. Being the best at anything will always be a higher achievement than merely showing up.

Courtesy is considered either social convention or "good form" but should really be decided by the person or persons in a position to offer courtesy. Though it ought not to be forced or mandated, it reflects the character of the giver.

The same goes for rights and entitlements. Not every culture or government recognizes and guarantees the same rights, but exceptional people will figure out ways to make their own names and reputations.

maxoman · 2013-06-02T13:13:58+00:00

I don't know if this is even a real billboard to begin with. Looks completely photoshooped.

sebin · 2013-06-02T16:44:40+00:00

Imagine if this said "Teach your daughter to respect men"

d0ntbanmebroo · 2013-06-02T18:26:40+00:00

Feminist counts

snoopyzanus · 2013-06-02T17:19:44+00:00

I think the word "respect" in the admonition to "teach your son to respect women" has a special meaning. This is not earned respect, or respect as in the common courtesy and consideration you should have for anyone.

"Respect" in this case refers to whole sets of behaviors, and a specific mindset, that certain people (notably both feminists and traditionalists) believe a boy should be taught to have in regard to women.

According to them, women are to be treated with special manners, consideration, and deference.

Women are also to be given special protection by men — all the way from the serious, such as violence, all the way down to the trivial, such as them being exposed to any language that they might find offensive.

Behavior isn't enough. They want the boy to internalize a whole mindset that pedestalizes women and can't be truly critical of them, with the boy (then man) subconsciously rationalizing away anything that contradicts this view of women.

This is how "white knights" are created.

This isn't equality. It doesn't go both ways. You can easily imagine the feminist reaction to being told to "teach your daughter to respect men."

drewniverse · 2013-06-02T14:00:44+00:00

I got SRS'd for this

HappyGerbil88 · 2013-06-02T21:57:14+00:00

I really wish somebody would graffiti that sign for real. Also, who put this billboard up? Perhaps we could send them some letters informing them that women aren't the only ones who deserve respect, and that sons aren't the only ones that need teaching.

2013-06-02T22:07:20+00:00

thanks guys, I'm sor tired of being discriminated against.

Epicman93 · 2013-06-02T22:34:54+00:00

How can people stand behind this kind of sexism?

Xenoith · 2013-06-02T17:52:18+00:00

For a group that wants to stop gender roles they sure seem determined to remind men that they're violent by nature and women are weak by nature and we need to step up and "be men" all the time..

ChappieChicken · 2013-06-02T22:46:37+00:00

http://imgur.com/6V5m0UX.jpg

2013-06-02T17:27:10+00:00

I'm pretty sure they meant it to convey subservience.

javastripped · 2013-06-02T23:56:35+00:00

It's easy to explain how fucked up this is by rephrasing it this way:

"Would you find it racist if I said 'We need to teach all black children that stealing isn't ok.'"

... every time I do that with a woman she immediately throws out a red herring and I refocus on my original question only to find that she agrees with me.

iamsofired · 2013-06-02T16:16:31+00:00

Its more PC but lets face it predatory/aggressive behaviour, sexual and domestic abuse is mainly down to men. Source: man who's lived a bit.

2013-06-02T18:37:00+00:00

"Your daughter doesn't have to respect anyone. We want her to grow up as an entitled leechy cunt, like you."

apullin · 2013-06-02T16:44:01+00:00

This is getting at the actuality of how these campaigns are, implicitly, misogynistic, in the true definition of the word, not the new definition.

The subtext is, "Women need special protections."

Motordom · 2013-06-02T14:45:17+00:00

Why the fuck should I respect everyone? I only respect people who deserve it.

Roddy0608 · 2013-06-02T17:43:01+00:00

Too bad that respecting women is not what attracts them.

xBEASTYREDNECK · 2013-06-02T17:10:54+00:00

Oh shit is that Carl

EvilPundit · 2013-06-02T17:53:10+00:00

Is that a real poster?

indite · 2013-06-02T19:31:10+00:00

Respect people for being individually worth respecting.

eats_puppies · 2013-06-02T20:35:22+00:00

Not that it would fit on the poster, but I think you should probably teach your kids to respect certain qualities, or perhaps just give people a default amount of respect before you get to know them. Though the creator was probably more focussed on the double standard than the specifics.

Aavagadrro · 2013-06-02T15:44:37+00:00

No shit, a lack of respect for herself and for me is why my soon to be ex fucked up our marriage last month. My first wife didnt respect herself or me either, she did the same fucking thing.

I want to find a woman who respects herself enough not to fuck around on the guy who is there for her. I just dont think they exist in single form, they are always taken.

2013-06-02T19:02:20+00:00

I like this. It is exactly how I am with my children.

2013-06-02T20:03:12+00:00

Can't agree more.

lord_geryon · 2013-06-02T15:41:36+00:00

Respect is earned. Nobody has the RIGHT to my respect.

parkadactyl · 2013-06-02T15:07:05+00:00

You're like the most laziest graffiti artist ever.

Squawberry · 2013-06-02T18:13:28+00:00

Teach my son to respect women? How 'bout I teach y'all to make me a sammich?

2013-06-02T14:49:26+00:00

HALLE-F**KING-LULAH for some common sense - as I keep noting to modern fem, think in terms of your children/brother/uncles/fathers etc when making sweeping comments about a gender.

Hypersapien · 2013-06-02T13:20:56+00:00

Women don't deserve respect. Noone does. Respect is earned. And I don't respect women who act like entitled princesses.

PrincessGary · 2013-06-02T17:50:42+00:00

Stop being a dick, to everyone.

Idiopathic77 · 2013-06-03T20:20:27+00:00

Let me know where this sign is and if it is close I'll make this happen.

imphatic · 2013-06-02T18:45:15+00:00

I think, maybe for the first time I understand why people complain about the "PC police." This is the first time it has annoyed the shit out of me.

Like it or not, but overwhelmingly domestic abuse and domestic violence comes from men. If you have a limited marketing budget and a problem that you would like to contribute to solving then putting up a billboard with some watered down message that is more PC friendly is pretty much a waste of money (and arguably this is a waste of money too but at least it hones in the message to your target group much better).

I know what the response will be "but what if we did that to black people!?" I think that is a bad comparison because race relations are not as delicate as sex relations. There aren't cities segregated by sex. Given that attribute then we can be more direct about addressing problems than we can with someones race. And probably no one would assume it was an attack from the other "side" like black people would feel attacked from other races.

In a perfect world the message "love everyone" would have everyone join hands and say "oh yea, that is such a good idea." However, we don't live there and instead because of the sins of our fellow men we must deal with having marketing messages targeted specifically at our sex. I understand that it feels bad man. Then again, I am a grown ass man who doesn't get his feelings hurt like most of this subreddit.

ArthurRiot · 2013-06-02T17:10:32+00:00

Teach your kids to eat theirs vegetables

HOW DARE YOU, SIR?!?? Kids should be taught to EAT!!! That selectivity is OFFENSIVE!

But... That lesson is being taught. Effectively. There is, however, not enough emphasis on vegetables in particular. They need greater attention than, say, grains, if only because people are already eating enough grains.

IT'S SELECTIVE!!!! BOOOOOOOO!!

That's how this sounds, a bit. The perfect is not the enemy of the good.

Grndermad59 · 2013-06-02T15:54:14+00:00

men are bad, thats why feminism is always right

Soullessandproud · 2013-06-02T16:30:26+00:00

this post is misogynist.

SchalaZeal01 · 2013-06-02T18:09:25+00:00

...but that negates the entire point of the ad. Of course parents should teach children to respect everyone. That should be a billboard, yes. But that's not a billboard about rape.

privatetroll · 2013-06-02T20:02:17+00:00

The ad is retarded. Everyone is going to agree that one should teach ones children to respect woman/people. So what?

Even more silly is the "correction". That is is just trying to be overly politically correct.

You want to fight feminism with political correctness? That's adorable! You know these people play the game way longer than you.

Title	I think I prefer this version
Author	maxoman
Upvotes	2624
Comments	313
Date	June 2, 2013 11:42 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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