Does experience from paying for sex counts?

13choppedup2chopped · 2023-09-29T04:21:15+00:00

No. Those women aren’t going to tell you anything that would impede your pleasure. What your missing is how to engage in a give and take. Some girls like minimal friction, some girls like deep strokes. Some girls like you touch them one way, other girls don’t. It’s possible you never learned how to read body language, how to tasks information in the throes of passion and adjust.

the_fozzy_one · 2023-09-29T04:27:30+00:00

It’s definitely garbage time but you could still learn a thing or two.. it’s no substitute for unpaid sex because the pros are going to blow smoke up your ass — even literally if you pay for that.

Operatesinreality · 2023-09-29T04:07:03+00:00

I mean counts as sex, isn't it?

But I would not be interested personally.

gorne14 · 2023-09-29T07:59:20+00:00

Counts for what? Who's counting? Why does it even need to count?

account892 · 2023-09-29T04:35:50+00:00

It probably does give you a good bit of confidence when you’re with a woman but you need to remember to try and please her - which I assume you wouldn’t be focused on when paying for it

januaryphilosopher · 2023-09-29T05:57:46+00:00

Who's counting and why? It counts as a time you had sex, you have unquestionably done it. It obviously isn't the same as other sex. I don't get this notion that you need to collect "experience" to be good at sex, but if you're trying to count it in this way, you'd find that having sex with someone whose only goal is to please you to collect money for sex they don't want to have isn't great quality experience.

NakedStreets · 2023-09-29T06:23:31+00:00

You have a lot of experience on getting YOUR sexual needs met. You don’t have much experience communicating with an equal partner or meeting a woman’s needs.

jeanironplate · 2023-09-29T04:08:45+00:00

Of course. Past sexual experience is always a bad thing in a relationship, and paying for it definitely counts.

womandatory · 2023-09-29T08:16:43+00:00

You’re just masturbating using someone else body instead of your hand. You won’t learn anything about female pleasure, because it’s not the objective. You will also likely turn off a good proportion of women who would otherwise have dated you because you’ve now paid for sex, which tells women you see it as a service or transaction, not an act of intimacy. You’ve just more than halved your chances of a relationship.

Shasta_Soldier · 2023-09-29T04:35:30+00:00

Counts for what, sexual experience? Yes.

Honor? Not in my book, but I have a different perspective.

Bigtipper179 · 2023-09-29T08:09:56+00:00

Sure? I mean it counts as far as having sex. You’ll have experience with a vagina. But you could be awful at the sex and they’ll say you’re good. Just to get that cash from your bank account.

Having sex with a woman for free is way different. Yes they’re both sex. But with a woman, you’re experiencing emotional pleasure. They will tell you what they like and you’ll learn how to be better. You’ll feel more comfortable and the experience is not rushed. You’ll feel much more confident getting for free, which takes effort. While paying for it, well anyone with money can do it.

Bottom line, paying for it makes you feel like crap. Getting it for free will make you feel better.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2023-09-29T10:52:51+00:00

it doesnt matter if it "counts", its LITERAL sexual experience with a multitude of benefits for the man. 1. it demystifies sex. 2. its literal sexual experience 2. the man can practice relating to women 4. it reduces any edge of desperation clouding the mans sort of social presence, etc theres probably more

never in human history have young men refrained from using prostitutes for sexual release

0DarkFlirty · 2023-09-29T11:41:14+00:00

Hell no are you crazy they are paid to tell you anything you want to hear. If they're really good they know how to get you off quick and make you think you did something. Sex workers generally hate their customers for obvious reasons too.

LouisdeRouvroy · 2023-09-29T06:31:13+00:00

It does because unlike what women like to think, it's not your responsibility to make them cum, it's theirs.

Notice that no woman takes responsibility for a limp dick so why should men take responsibility for their frigidity ?

aidsjohnson · 2023-09-29T06:18:24+00:00

Dude this is my exact situation. Like eerily accurate lol: I am 31, never been with a “real” girl, have only ever paid for sex. I’ve thought about this a lot myself and I’d say that the sex counts as sexual experience, but nothing more. I don’t consider myself mature in the area of relationships because I’ve never been in one and have no clue what that’s like. But I do consider myself well educated in matters of sex.

AceOfSpadesGymBro · 2023-09-29T11:01:01+00:00

You are not gonna get far in dating and love if you think of yourself as unattractive and undesirable. It may be a blue pill trope, but people will think of you what you think of yourself. If you think you are ugly, you will not put much effort on your fitness, appearance and esthetic. Guys especially are extremely resistant to thinks like grooming themselves better and dressing in stylish sexy clothes. I guess they think they are above those things and they should be good enough as they are for women. I mean if you keep getting rejected from jobs you wanted, wouldn't you think about either interviewing better, changing your resume or getting some upskilling so you can be a more desirable candidate?

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Jazzlike_Worth_9908 · 2023-09-29T04:18:41+00:00

Well i guess it's a practice so you improve your hip thrust and overall confidence during the act.

bigapple4am · 2023-09-29T05:45:07+00:00

sine120 · 2023-09-29T06:11:07+00:00

What are we counting?

throaway2s1fsfsf4 · 2023-09-29T07:09:29+00:00

Ofc it counts. Especially if you see the same sex workers multiple times and get some feedback (you'll have to ask tho) from her after a while. Some sex workers can be honest and have your best interest at heart, though don't get me wrong that doesn't mean they will ever be attracted to you.

So yes it absolutely does counts and a guy can totally get decent enough experience from sex workers alone so that he won't seem clueless about sex the first time he fuck with a woman without having to pay.

James_jackm2020 · 2023-09-29T07:28:37+00:00

This kinda fucking sad

meshsesh · 2023-09-29T08:53:09+00:00

Its a type of experience that makes you more dumb, delusional and lowers your self esteem.

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-09-29T09:27:30+00:00

You had sex yeah

Morrigan_StRoma_709X · 2023-09-29T09:55:12+00:00

Just look for an escort who advertises that they help with first experience. Extra points if they work with neurodivergent and lgbt people, and if they are that themselves, because they generally are a lot kinder and gentle, and will help you out.

M_LaSalle · 2023-09-29T10:14:55+00:00

Don't be silly, of course it counts. It's not experience of a "real" relationship (For any given definition of the word "relationship" but it is absolutely real. Do NOT listen to bloops who tell you it isn't and don't have your best interests at heart. They would have you be alone all your life and celibate and miserable. They do not have your best interests at heart. The people who tell you that it is better to be alone and miserable rather than pay are not your friends.

abaxeron · 2023-09-29T10:32:23+00:00

If you want full experience, pay a little more and ask her to teach you how to bring her to orgasm. Yes, it counts as sex. To simplify it for everyone, PIV sex starts when the base of the penis' head crosses the labia minora, even if it was done as a dare.

grillopie · 2023-09-29T10:54:46+00:00

it counts, but for what purpose? do you think admitting you’re a virgin is better or that you hired a prostitute before?

4027777 · 2023-09-29T11:49:44+00:00

Count for what? I don’t get what you’re really asking here.

Workaholiconew · 2023-09-29T11:59:49+00:00

Yeha I think this experience counts. Its just not well seem or that good. But experienc eis experience.

You not missing much my friend dont worry.

Go talk to some girl you trust and ask her to help you understand some aspects you dont understand of escalation... they will do everything for that hour. It includes answering certain questions. But be mindful many will lie to keep a client.

Comprehensive-Pea812 · 2023-09-29T12:07:17+00:00

it counts to your head count lol.

Tomridddle · 2023-09-29T12:30:28+00:00

RevolutionaryOil6120 · 2023-09-29T13:50:21+00:00

Sexual experience yes Emotional connection no

Anxious_Adult123 · 2023-09-29T14:35:01+00:00

Who the fuck with something working inside their head gives two fucks about experience dude.

As far as my knowledge goes, for most people, if you aren't selfish in bed or bad to an extreme level, it's okay as long as you are putting effort in improving (if it needs improvement).

A relationship needs a set of things to work and I honestly don't believe experience is one among it.

ArturoOsito · 2023-09-29T16:29:15+00:00

The best sex I've ever had has always been when I'm in love. Kissing for a long time, being there with each other...cuddling after with pillow talk. Spending the night. Getting breakfast. I'm sorry man I don't mean to rub it in but you are missing some important stuff.

That said, if you've never experienced that type of connection, you don't know what you're missing so don't sweat. Go rock that pro tail and enjoy it for what it is.

TommyBarcelona · 2023-09-29T17:59:55+00:00

Its not the same but a hell of a lot more experience than a virgin. Hit tinder and start for a "under your rating" and move up, for propper experience.

StacksHoodini · 2023-09-29T19:25:25+00:00

It counts in the sense of getting your stroke right for when or if the opportunity to have a love in your life presents itself. At 31, most women you come into contact with are definitely going to expect you to be competent in bed and the lack of said competence is definitely going to turn plenty away. If you don’t mind engaging in pay for play, it’s probably pragmatically the best way for you to make sure you’re going to be sexually competent once you get your shot.

But, just keep those truth of those activities to yourself.

Suspicious-Bed-2717 · 2023-09-29T22:31:58+00:00

Does loveless sex give your pleasure? If so then keep paying for it. Don't let other people define what feels good to you. Me personally wish I could enjoy love less sex but I'm just not built that way.

Safinated · 2023-09-30T20:35:01+00:00

It counts as sex, but not as education. Because every person is different

monicalewsn · 2023-10-01T00:41:39+00:00

SillyMushroomTip · 2023-10-01T15:17:11+00:00

I'm someone that goes to strip clubs regularly. However I don't just spend my money on some hot bimbo that goes "hey babe want a dance" I vet and wait a long time before I can find a girl that I can actually vibe with and see regularly. You always got to remember that these girls are only good for fun and that you cant save them.

One of the best sexual experiences I ever had was with a stripper and gained alot of experience from it

summerrminxlol · 2023-10-02T00:29:38+00:00

Title	Does experience from paying for sex counts?
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Date	September 29, 2023 4:05 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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