Questions for redpillers!

LoopyPro · 2025-05-20T22:35:55+00:00

M28, RP'd since 5 years

It fits better. Blue pill advice got me nowhere and left me grasping at straws. Red pill made sense and ultimately gave me peace of mind.

AreOut · 2025-05-20T19:19:54+00:00

It's hard to understand redpill because there are many definitions, especially by those grifters trying to extract the money from young guys.

What I think redpill is for most people including me is just removing rose tinted glasses we looked through. A lot of us have been used not just by women but also exploited by male friends/business partners etc. because we have been taught some BS about people being good or something simliar.

We all have different life and goals so how we use TRP is also going to be different.

The issue, when it comes to sexual pairing, is deeply rooted in human nature and the need of most men to have many women and most women to pair with top guys so it's really not solvable. You can just become aware of it on an individual level and act according to your goals.

DzejSiDi · 2025-05-20T22:15:00+00:00

I know that just as any movement does, the redpill has some variety in beliefs and ideas.

And some part of this variety is sadly just a skill issue in understanding what's going on.

What does redpill mean to YOU?

In the broadest sense: just watch Matrix. "Redpill" by itself is just a form of "hidden" truth that environment tries to hide from you or is oblivious to its existence. The easiest and most non-controversial example of redpilling is understanding that Santa Claus is not real, even if movies, songs, ads and adults tried to convince you otherwise.

"Redpill" itself is something called "analytic truth", so like words "fact" or "truth" that are true by their definition. And as calling something "a fact" won't automagically make it real, same way not all redpills on the internet are true or accurate.

Why do you think that way?

I've found TRP when i tried to figure out women, how they think, how to get them and so on. Many facts just immediately "clicked" for me. Till this day I've found no working, coherent model about intersexual dynamics that stands in opposition to the redpill.

Do you base your beliefs more so on personal experience, or statistics and data?

More on data, opinions of others and deduction, but I have my own eyes too.

How long have you been redpill?

....2015? Don't remember.

What is the best way you can think of to solve the issue you believe in? Do you have any data points you think best support your ideas?

Be more specific, you want me to write whole thesis with 50+ citations?

And please add your age and marriage status if you’re comfortable!

Mid 30s, single.

I genuinely want to understand the redpill better. It’s hard to see other perspectives, and I see so much variety in redpill ideology that I get confused sometimes.

Yeah, that's a shame we don't have standarisation, I use TRP as a "golden standard" and people like Rollo or Michael Sartain as posterboys of core redpill (in context of mating and dating). Although, if you want to learn from scratch, my go to person is Orion Taraban. He's one of those people I would call "redpill-adjacent", but this is my purism, since overlap between him and TRP itself is like >90%

Legate_Retardicus84 · 2025-05-21T16:06:51+00:00

Long version:

• Stop putting women on a pedestal. Don't give your attention to a woman who does not reciprocate. Don't get oneitis. Basically stop being a simp.

• Actually work on yourself. Be as successful as you can in life and be physically fit. This is just as important but what many people fail to realize is that it isn't even about attracting women. You should do that regardless of whether you're trying to find a partner or not because it is good for YOU.

• Be realistic and honest about what your worth actually is and don't settle for less. Don't be delusional but don't be a simp either.

Short version:

• Be the best version of yourself.

• DON'T. BE. A. SIMP.

This are the most basic essentials. Almost anything else most grifters mention is just reworded versions of these or just straight up made up nonsense.

I became redpilled due to personal experience. I don't think I have ever watched any Redpill content. Definitely no Andrew Tate.

leosandlattes · 2025-05-20T19:51:42+00:00

The red pill is ultimately a philosophy about human sexual nature. Traits that are generalized to male/female sexual selection and why.

Capital “Red Pill” or r/TheRedPill is a sexual strategy community focused on maximizing male sexual success, based on the aforementioned human sexual nature. There are other associated groups that follow the red pill with their own varying relationship and/or sexual goals.

It’s not really that I believe in an “issue,” it’s that I believe red pill has many ideas that lean true more than not. My beliefs come from a mix of data and personal experience.

I’ve followed r/RedPillWomen since like… 2016-17 or so? Something like that.

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-05-20T19:43:13+00:00

What does redpill mean to YOU?

Knowing and understanding the real reasons and mechanics that guide human mate choice/mating and the accompanying dynamics of the sexes, both intra- and inter-sexuallly. This is in contrast to a state of just going by what seems plausible from anecdotal observations or even less.

It's the difference between doing astronomy and telling each other stories about how a horse-pulled chariot carries the sun from one end of the firmament to the other each day, which is the equivalent of blue pilled mating advice.

Why do you think that way?

Because red pill is based on mating science, dumbed down for bros. Blue pill advice is based on what feels good and seems plausible or works in some anecdotal cases, but missing the bigger picture. I am a scientist. I am a very rational man. I approach everything about my world view in a scientific, rational manner. Red pill is just the popular-science movement of actual hard mating science (which i also read and which is way better than dealing with the charlatanery that overtakes "red pill" like a mold)

Do you base your beliefs more so on personal experience, or statistics and data?

Everything but mostly data. I build models of the world, or aspects of it and test it against data or experiences. If the experience doesn't fit the model, i look for new science to improve on the model, so it can explain the experience. I also am open to realize that my experience is a misperception/-interpretation and the model was right all along.

How long have you been redpill?

Can't remember. Somwhere between 6-12 years probably. As i said, thinking scientifically about everything is default mode for me. So of course, i also started to think about human mating decisions in that way. Just as i rejected religion in elementary school because the stories contradicted my model of the world. I also rejected "blue pill narratives" when my models of human mating grew better. Probably around my late 20s, when i found material of red pill origin and when i started to fall in love with women again.

What is the best way you can think of to solve the issue you believe in?

I don't think the data supports that there is a widespread mating issue. It also doesn't show the opposite. We just don't have the data we need for those claims. Online dating apps surely are a hyper-competitive market but they are optional. People still get into relationships when they want to be in them. Relationship types changed to acommodate current times and requirements. Things get pushed back, age-wise. We get a false signal from subs like this, where incels, foreveralones, terminally online, socially isolated, autistic men from all over the world come together and tell each other they are part of a majority of average men who somehow, no idea why, can't get a girlfriend.

If there is a matting problem, i think it has to do with social isolation due to social media, not learning social skills during the years where they were formerly easily learned. With 8 hours screen time of instagram/tiktok/etc, that is 8 hours not spent moving your body and learning social skills. Also, guys, stop being fat.

The real "problem" is fertility rates. But that is just a problem for a few generations and i think we should just let people do what they want, which seems to be not having kids, while helping those who want to have kids, have all the support we can muster up.

Do you have any data points you think best support your ideas?

Yes but that will not fit into this comment.

And please add your age and marriage status if you’re comfortable!

41 years old, never married, no kids, ~20 years of committed relationship experience, open relationship currently, dealing with "young modern women"(so not out of the loop) as sex partners, from dating apps and from real life, top ~3% body count, been an unattractive undesirable nerd and an attractive desirable man.

Steakman1 · 2025-05-21T01:22:36+00:00

The general argument is that the red pill is just information. While people who consider themselves red pilled will use that information differently. For example, being against marriage isn’t necessarily red pilled. The statements like “women initiate 80% of divorces” or “50% of marriages end in divorce” would be the red pill. A red pilled guy could take that information and decide to either never get married, or maybe get married with a lot more rules, obligations, and/or restrictions on the woman.

kvakerok_v2 · 2025-05-20T20:19:27+00:00

Red pill in a nutshell means to me "If you want to slay pussy, listen to the guys that actually slay pussy, not to the simps that got settled for, or the women who have no real interest in your success."

I think this way because what fboys and players say has historically worked for me 100% of the time, vs the bullshit BP men and women have told me about dating. I went from an awkward virgin to fuckboy in less than 2 years 🤷🏽‍♂️

Personal experience, see above, observed experience of other fboys. For years I've watched girls that are prim and proper in public, dirty beg for meaty cock in private. Wives, women in relationships would try to cheat on their SOs with me. I saw the dark underbelly of dating.

I've been RP for about 23 years total. In the middle I caught oneitis, married, lapsed into BP bullshit, then saw the light of the red pill again and divorced.

During the divorce I went balls to the wall assertive dominant leader, with such success that I got a promotion and even soon to be ex started wanting to get back with me, but she'll never be anything more than a side chick BM now.

To be honest, I lament the death of monogamy, because as an introvert I don't have a lot of energy to spend on all the women that start competing for me as soon as I date one of their friends.

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xxxMisogenes · 2025-05-21T01:58:04+00:00

TRP is seeing the world for how it really works. Its an amoral strategy for increasing the quality of one’s sex life

ExcelsiorState718 · 2025-05-21T19:51:23+00:00

Red pill 20 years

started in HS and mostly focused on the PUA aspect of the space.

2007 I moved from PUA to redpill fundamentals such as building myself making money getting fit,my life consisted of work and working out. Thats all I did

2013 I moved into the Blackpill and MGTOW after seeing that the muscles money and nice car didn't make any diffrence. Just natural conventional attractiveness is all that matters and if you have money you will just be used and taken advantaged of.

With that said other than a general lack of interest from women I've never had a truly bad experience mostly just a few disappointments. So I'm not "hurt" no ones broken my heart or left me jaded I went MGTOW before I had my first relationship.The women pursued me in all of my relationships or they would have never happened.

"You can live women or understand them, you can't do both " ~CGA

Questions for redpillers! And I don’t want to hear “look at the world around you!” Or any of the 20/80 or whatever rule

Please explain to me your viewpoint. I know that just as any movement does, the redpill has some variety in beliefs and ideas.

Women are hypergamous self serving liers Redpill is the understanding of female nature and gender dating dynamics. Black Pill is accepting that understanding MGTOW is not getting involved with the traditional course expected of Men ie marriage, children, cohabitating and romantic relationships with women.

What does redpill mean to YOU?

It's fundamentally learning to leverage female nature to get what you want from them.

Why do you think that way?

Because that's what red pill is and it hasn't been disproven.

Do you base your beliefs more so on personal experience, or statistics and data?

It's a combination

How long have you been redpill? Over 20 years.

What is the best way you can think of to solve the issue you believe in?

Men need to make more money,get in shape travel, stop simping and complaining.

Do you have any data points you think best support your ideas?

I would be all day but the best ones are the dating app statistics that do support the 80/20 rule and basically everything else the red pill says.after that all the women on social media you can hear from the horses mouth.

And please add your age and marriage status if you’re comfortable!

Single never married and old.

I genuinely want to understand the redpill better. It’s hard to see other perspectives, and I see so much variety in redpill ideology that I get confused sometimes.

It's not that hard to understand women are hypergamous, they want the best looking or richest man they can get,they actually want both at the same time.

Clutterboxx · 2025-05-22T03:49:39+00:00

The Redpill is a sexual strategy guide for men aimed at improving their success in dating and relationships. Success could be more sexual partners, a more interesting relationship, a stable marriage or an enjoyable life post divorce.

Like most guys I found TheRedPill online after getting no luck in dating, the sub being bashed by deranged feminists made me want to look into it more.

A lot of Redpill theory answered the questions I have about why women act the way they do and how to not get screwed over by one.

abaxeron · 2025-05-22T23:22:29+00:00

Sorry I'm late for the party; got suspended for directly quoting a feminist professor.

What does redpill mean to YOU?

The red pill means the sacred truth (that I deem self-evident) that men and women are not mutually replaceable, not complementary, and not compatible. Evolution, being a pointless, reasonless process, never had any pressure to make the sexes any of that. Thus, in any practical sense, sexes are not "equal". The question "But do you think they deserve equal rights?" is pointless, as I'm yet to meet anyone here who genuinely understands what a right is, why this idea (of a right) was conceived, and what the opposite is (most Americans would say "slavery", and would be wrong). Forcing sexes into the same spaces, to perform the same tasks, at the same pace, by the same schedule, and expecting the same results, makes as much sense as forcing all Olympic athletes into shoes of the same size. And before anyone inevitably pops up, Yes, practical differences between the sexes are often more pronounced, more stable, and more important than differences between ethnicities and cultures, with none of the underlying historical/cultural background (no sex has ever defeated the other in a world war, for example).

Specific differences between the sexes are yet to be fully polished and established, as academic Overton window slowly crawls out of woke hole. It is already acceptable to say that women on average are more prone to neuroticism, especially between puberty and menopause. Imagine what we'll learn tomorrow... from papers previously rejected in the last 20ish years.

Why do you think that way? Do you base your beliefs more so on personal experience, or statistics and data?.. Do you have any data points you think best support your ideas?

Statistics and data, greased by personal experience. I consider the strongest point of TRP the fact that women, across time and space, initiate the majority of divorces (and no, not just by paper trail). There are VERY few sociometrics that stay consistent for 160 years. That's basically as much as we have in terms of reliable records.

How long have you been redpill?

When was the year TRP content flourished most on Youtube before it started getting purged and shadowbanned? 2012? 2014? - Since around then.

What is the best way you can think of to solve the issue you believe in?

There is no issue. I have personal grievances, but even they are natural consequence of historical process. Idiots only learn through failure. Most people are idiots. Maybe genetically engineered designer babies of the future will be better.

SivalV · 2025-05-24T00:31:10+00:00

Cause of my own life experiences with women. I used to be bluepilled but I realized that expecting a woman who will love me for being me and loving her back is just an easy way to end up taken for a ride, alone and resentful. And since I am still monogamous and don't care for anything casual, one could say I became a passport bro, since western women are not relationship material, so much less marriage material, and I don't have time to keep digging for "the one".

midnight_blue77 · 2025-05-24T05:55:50+00:00

"Red Pilled" just means "Not Fooled"

Like if there's a scam going on, the ones who aren't falling for the scam are called Red Pilled because they see the trick, they see the deception and don't fall for it.

goo_wak_jai · 2025-05-27T01:45:55+00:00

Red Pill to me just means understanding how the world and the people in it really works.

I actually stumbled upon it by accident. Had a coworker that listened to the Tom Leykis radio talkshow in 2009 and mentioned in passing whether I listened to him on the radio. He shared with me a few clips that he had recorded and thought I'd be interested in hearing. I resisted what was talked about in those audio clips. I resisted it even after my first encounter that shook the very foundation of the social programming that society had been feeding me all of my life about how men and women worked, the roles they play, etc with respect to sex, dating and relationships.

As a social experiment to satisfy my own curiosity, I tried some of the tips and tricks that Tom advocated on his radio show to see how women will react. And surprisingly, they worked with flying colors. So much so that 9 out of every 10 attempts, it miraculously worked and it didn't really matter where I tried them: at a bar, at a club, at a coffee shop, at the grocery store, or at a park. I tried them in the major metropolitan areas, in the middle of nowhere, and out in the suburbs. I tried them with women in my age group at the time (20's), with women 10+ years older, cougars and it still worked more than it didn't. I became disillusioned with the gender dynamics and started questioning the whole social construct at that point because the implications are deep and far reaching.

Red Pill would describe this as the 'rage' phase. I didn't experience the typical 'rage' like others have experienced it but... that's essentially what it was. What I experienced was more like disappointment. Disappointed that it only took these few tricks to get a woman in bed or to get a woman to commit to me while I didn't have to provide anything at all.

This belief, I never really wanted to believe in the first place, but the social experiments proved beyond a reasonable doubt that this is how it really works and everything taught to me previously was just one elaborate lie. For me, the personal experience was all that I needed to know. Any additional independent stats or data points found after-the-facr are the icing on top.

Counting 2009 til present day, that would be 16 years of being red pill.

As far as the issue, there is no issue. Things are operating exactly as it has always operated. The caveat being that I now see how it really works. So essentially, there is no 'fix'. Be a chad and bed many women or don't. The one's that have your children will eventually leave the man or low-key cheat on him on the sly. It's inherent yet amoral. It's unfortunate, in that regard.

I'm an elder millennial with no long-term partner. At this present juncture, I really don't see the point in getting into an LTR--like ever.

StreetDifficult1429 · 2025-05-27T03:42:05+00:00

To most red pill dudes the movement is really about understanding the reality of the world rather than just pretending everything is going to work out. I don’t believe in being completely jaded and hating women in general because women can be amazing. However, as a man have to earn it so I think there’s a sense of honesty and sense of self capability with the movement in general. There are some bad players in it. I won’t lie. However, if we’re gonna measure the success of it, it can only come down to the individual who believes in it. If they can successfully change their life for the better by using it then great.

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