Date Gets Another Guys Instagram on Date

TheLegendOfJeremy · 2022-05-14T16:42:55+00:00

She belongs to the streets.

Cowboy-as-a-cat · 2022-05-14T17:01:31+00:00

🎶Bitches ain’t shit but hoes and tricks🎶

See you in the gym buddy.

hoodbgoode · 2022-05-14T17:12:57+00:00

Dont get mad with women, get even. Until youre actively having sex with a girl and you're bf/gf, she doesnt belong to you. Youre better off hitting on her friends instead of sulking. Have no expectations...ever.

TheBattler · 2022-05-14T19:19:34+00:00

Next time a girl invites you out with a group of friends, you should talk to all of her friends, figure out who's single, and get their info. Also, if you are in a group of majority girls, you look fucking good to the other women in the club, who you should also talk to.

You let a good opportunity pass you by. Girls like that half expect you to sleep with her friends. In her own head, you two aren't "dating" but she thinks you're cool and she probably felt like she was doing you a favor (and she kind of was).

krisvl5000 · 2022-05-14T16:56:50+00:00

She definitely knows you saw that and that this was the reason you were acting “grumpy”. If she has the audacity to invite you for a next date, I would say just move on and don’t waste any more of your time with her, but only you can answer that question, because only you know how your relationship is.

zertsetzung · 2022-05-14T21:01:44+00:00

The dude probably is just a bit smoother and has better fundamentals.

He liked your date, he moved in and tried to work on her. Sounds like he was succeeding if im honest.

What can you do really?

If you like a girl, then dont take her on a date somewhere where you know that she could be taken by another guy. That means group dates, house parties, clubs, bars, or out and about with a particular social circle.

Would this have happened if you had taken her to IHOP? More than likely not. Would this have happened if you had taken her to Starbucks. More than likely not.

I guarantee you in any other situation other than a club, house party, or bar that guy wouldnt have moved in on your date.

Nightgame (bars, clubs, etc) is his kingdom. He's probably a veteran of that shit. Set up your dates in such a way to where you dont even have to deal with shitheads like him. (Because shitheads like him would 9 times out of 10 never even try that shit out during day game; it requires too many fundamentals, it risks making a scene/embarassing him, and because approaching a female out and about in the day time is universally seen as taboo anyway; much less if she is with a guy).

creamyturtle · 2022-05-14T17:31:46+00:00

Rule #101 - you do not hang out with her friends! If so you will be in their court and will be subjected to foul play. Just saying

logicallyillogical · 2022-05-14T17:36:20+00:00

Everyone here saying to move on, but I say fuck it and continue seeing her. You will always have challenges from other guys, if you see it or not. Who cares. You’ve got a 3rd date coming up, go on it and see how far you can escalate. If she doesn’t go with it, then it’s time to reassess.

Doctor0z · 2022-05-14T17:47:19+00:00

Girl inviting you to the club is not a date, my dude. Are you sure it was a date? And are you sure, you guys are a couple? There could be a few reasons why she did that. Maybe she doesn't see you as a boyfriend, or perhaps she did it to make you jealous. Without knowing more details, you can't really tell.

But, this is where the inner game of abundance mindset comes into play. You should not have been phased by this at all if your mind was at the right place, instead of asking us here.

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2022-05-14T18:51:28+00:00

Always remember for the first date it's only you and the girl, preferably in a restaurant/bar where you can sit and talk. Tagging along with her friends to a noisy place like a club just means you agree with whatever she asks you to. She'll take you for granted. Of course she is free to go and talk to any guy she wants and there will be many who try their luck in a club. You have to take responsibility in such situations

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-14T18:13:50+00:00

lol, if a girl invites you to a girl’s night, it means you were never an option for her.

A date is between you and her only, not you and all her entourage.

Then you fucked up even further by being jealous and grumpy.

You should not even agree to go on a date with a girl at the club, even if it was just you and her.

she doesn’t see you like that

SteveRamboson · 2022-05-14T19:25:53+00:00

Have hoes to fall back on.

mxmaker · 2022-05-14T18:31:11+00:00

Wait, instagram means something? I just have some pen drawings with some of my characters.

iluvreddit · 2022-05-14T17:01:15+00:00

DTB. Dump That B****

ecish · 2022-05-14T17:49:25+00:00

You should talk to her!….and then ask her for one of her friend’s numbers

creamyturtle · 2022-05-14T19:22:18+00:00

bro don't listen to all these negative comments. girls have a hard time turning away interest in public, they're emotional creatures. dude swooped in when u were in the bathroom, don't stress. she's obviously still interested in you so just play it cool and don't let it get to you. you should go find another girl to talk to, because she's obviously keeping her options open as well. just think to yourself if she would be happier with u than that guy she barely knows, maybe u should fight for her attentions. the good girls rarely are single and have nobody pursuing them. my rule is unless there's a ring on that finger don't let anybody's labels derail you from finding the love of your life. I watched my friend from college cheat on her bf and took off with my other friend, and they went on to be married for 8 years with two kids now. so it is what it is

Hey_Kids32 · 2022-05-14T21:11:58+00:00

Honestly get the fuck off reddit and go continue to date other people. Keep dating her even but you’re not exclusive so don’t act like a pussy about it. No offense. Date her date her friends, date the guy she exchanged IGs with 🤷🏻‍♂️

anothrowaway666 · 2022-05-14T18:40:57+00:00

I'd say bang her if you still can but, ghost her after that.

If a girl likes you she will not be talking to other dudes, she will be focused on having fun with you.

No physiological 3D chess mind games. Nothing. Nada.

CobanFromGermany · 2022-05-14T17:07:10+00:00

This girl isnt for you

justbrowsing7 · 2022-05-14T19:41:47+00:00

I'd probably go out with her again but in the back of my mind understand that she's just for fun and I wouldn't consider her for a serious relationship after that.

Cards_s · 2022-05-14T17:41:22+00:00

You either get an alone date with her or drop her, if you do get an alone date with her do not mention what happened on that last date.

You need to stop thinking so much.

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-05-14T16:57:59+00:00

Must be a cultural difference but exchanging social media info is not a big deal around here. The big deal is exchanging numbers though.

PondScum420 · 2022-05-14T18:26:13+00:00

She’ll probably flake anyway tbh

waresmarufy · 2022-05-14T18:58:47+00:00

You're already too emotional invested man. The club is a jungle. Try to have no reaction and talk to other girls.

emkehh · 2022-05-14T19:08:54+00:00

I was going to say “it’s just instagram” but that line about him putting his hand on her back should have come first!

dingleburry_joe · 2022-05-14T19:24:39+00:00

Why you spin plates my guy

nosepickergabe · 2022-05-14T19:50:07+00:00

Yeah they wonder at the end of the day where all the good guys have gone. This is why. It's alright man you're worth more than that.

maxpossimpible · 2022-05-14T19:57:46+00:00

Then I see them exchange instagrams. I immediately became disgusted and turned off.

Seems you are very insecure. Why are you feeling that way? Isn't she allowed to get some guys insta when she's with you?

It was a shit test and you failed horribly. Think about it this way; if the guy was super short and fat, would you be disgusted if she got his insta? No? Why? Because he's no threat to you - you know she'd rather be with you. This is the feeling you should have whenever she talks to even the most gorgeous-looking guy around.

Evolsleeper · 2022-05-14T19:58:13+00:00

So are you looking for a relationship? This is clearly not the girl for that.

If you're the jealous type and feel insecure about what happened I would back out immediately because it will not get any better.

If you just want someone to hang with and fuck then carry on. Idk how old she is but she clearly like alot of attention and is probably just being young and "wild"

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-14T20:30:07+00:00

When a woman is more of a player then the guy she’s with, move on.

bcool_returns · 2022-05-14T20:42:56+00:00

When I was inexperienced, here was my rule: I’m not doing any group hangs until I sleep with the girl at least once and she shows strong signs that she’s invested. Initial dates are me and her. Nowadays I might take this kind of date. But that’s also because if the date isn’t going as expected, I have no problem getting attention from other women. That seems to be the missing component here.

MoStuntin · 2022-05-14T21:00:47+00:00

She’s a hoee just knoooow

Dazius06 · 2022-05-14T21:07:40+00:00

Does adding people on Instagram mean anything? I don't get the getting mad and thinking about dumping her just for this action alone.

Rruneangel · 2022-05-14T21:42:04+00:00

Women get asked their details all the time. Is it fair, no, should you be affected by it, no. You are in control of your actions, not hers. If she s so poor at making healthy decisions so, she will weed herself out of your life.Acting grumpy was wrong. She will eventually chose her best option, make sure that s you. In situations like these, you go and ask your date if she wants anything from the bar and on your way there and back you engage someone else in conversation.

CoolKid2326 · 2022-05-14T21:46:22+00:00

it was a shit test and u failed. its vitally important to always hold frame. and if that behavior is that much of a dealbreaker for u then dump that bitch and leave instead of sticking around and being angry

turtle_power00 · 2022-05-14T22:02:10+00:00

Why are you even questioning this? Of course you should move on from her. Sure, she's not your girlfriend or anything, but the disrespect of doing this when on a date with you is a massive red flag. Keep your self respect. Next.

NilacTheGrim · 2022-05-14T22:48:40+00:00

How old are y'all? This sounds like something very young people do. I personally at my age would call it off absolutely immediately. She sounds like she doesn't know how to treat a man and it's a huge red flag for my age group.

But if you are young and she is young, sounds like something that would happen if you are 18 or 20.

Either way tbh it's a red flag even then, to be quite honest. The fact that it bothered you and that she lacks the discipline and empathy towards you to do that speaks volumes to me personally.

laeriel_c · 2022-05-14T18:17:55+00:00

Going out to the club with her friends is not a date

theMystk · 2022-05-14T18:25:55+00:00

Let’s give this a little perspective:

If she had been talking with a female and exchanged instagrams, would you be this insecure about that interaction? Would you have thought that disrespectful?

Your perspective and insecurity is skewed for having only gone on a date or two. And even still, you are being passive/aggressive controlling with the way you reacted: what you expect her to never be social (including virtual) since she’s “with” you.

Grow up and be secure in who you are—way more attractive. Your own value should not be based on someone else. Either they enjoy and respect your company or they don’t. If they don’t, great..you can be ready for the ones who will want to be with the secure you.

g_thang87 · 2022-05-14T18:45:05+00:00

RUN GAME ON HER FRIENDS

SGrosch · 2022-05-14T18:51:56+00:00

I would have wished her well with her new friend and left.

0% fucks given is the man move

rashnull · 2022-05-14T19:02:17+00:00

Need to raise your SMV and stop being a little b1tch! It’s a competition and there are no handouts.

drgreen987 · 2022-05-14T19:37:36+00:00

she’s not your girlfriend, she can pick whoever she likes. why are you butthurt? what you can do is do your thing and if she chooses you then cool, if not, move on

Bigspender08554 · 2022-05-14T19:40:06+00:00

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jackzander · 2022-05-14T20:00:09+00:00

Lotta sensitive fellas acting like trading instas is swapping dna. Ya'll need to chill with that weird energy and get with the times before you're left in the dust.

Swapping socials is normal. You should be doing it. If it pisses you off, you need to date an older generation.

Lighthero34 · 2022-05-14T19:21:46+00:00

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knueverl17 · 2022-05-14T18:48:02+00:00

Some girls push boundaries to see what they can get away with. Don’t take it personal. Leave her alone. She’ll do it to the next person too

CutMonster · 2022-05-14T18:54:28+00:00

That wasnt a date.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-05-14T19:27:58+00:00

Go on a date just you and her.

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2022-05-14T19:33:24+00:00

Just pump and dump bro

MikeRotch4756 · 2022-05-14T20:14:05+00:00

Somebody link this guy “The Book of Future” lol.

Sandvicheater · 2022-05-14T20:54:31+00:00

Best case scenario she's a instahoe turbo slut and you become one of her many man booty calls. If you're looking for a serious relationship tell her you're not interested and cut it off.

Worst case scenario she's a "dinner whore" whose just "dating" you so you can pay for her fancy dinners and drinks at a club. While Chad and Tyrone are DPing her ass in the club restroom.

If you just wanna get laid, play it by ear and see if she actually fucks you after a couple dates.

TheQlymaX · 2022-05-14T20:55:27+00:00

You say you felt disgusted xD You're needy as fuck, mate. In clubs girls test out different waters and then go home with the one that feels right in the end. If you like her put a ring on her. But until then she's free to change her partner whenever she wants to. It's kinda pathetic to feel disgusted by that.

gangggang · 2022-05-14T21:00:24+00:00

Would be diff if the guy didn’t have his hand there at the end of the night. Highkey bro, I would go on the third date and do exactly the same thing she did, or act really friendly to other girls in front of her. Bonus points if you can do it to one of her close friends. Would consider this girl just for smashing and see if her act changes and maybe she’ll be worth another shot, but I would go In with the player mindset after she pulled that shit. Check out hoodville on the gram to unleash your inner player. Good luck king

unagisauce · 2022-05-14T21:09:12+00:00

This would be a turn off for me no doubt and a red flag for sure so I completely empathize with how you feel. However I can’t help but feel like you got some inner work you still need to work on. I say this cause I’ve been there too. Either A) a guy can have the amazing social skills and confidence and she’s still getting other dudes instagrams and flirting because that’s just who she is. B) your game/social skill need genuine work and that’s why she drifted off to other guys that have more experience and intrigue her interest more than you

In my experience it’s usually B)

InsideOpening · 2022-05-14T21:20:39+00:00

to the streets she'll go and to them she belongs

iamgiantlifestyle · 2022-05-14T22:25:13+00:00

First off, don’t react. When you react all but hurt like that she looses all respect for you. Next don’t meet her with all her friends like that. Just you and her, not all her friends and def not in a club setting.

Alextryingforgrate · 2022-05-14T22:27:52+00:00

Hand on the lower back means nothing, most chicks dont like that, if its any consolation for your loss of a couple of dates.

Jovan1000 · 2022-05-14T22:33:16+00:00

Listen man I wouldn’t necessarily view this as a date but rather a night out with a bunch of friends. In my own personal experience me and this girl hung out just me and her and I later went out with her and her friends. Nothing exclusive was initialized I wouldn’t mind her dancing with other guys because I can just dance with other girls.

What I’m getting from this is deep down you had seen potential relationship with her and thought she would later be your girl friend. She goes out to clubs so she is use to attention and I don’t think she wants to settle down just yet. I can see how you felt like you were disrespected but I personally think you should work your way into her friend group and befriend them and with her have an open relationship friends with benefits type of deal. You don’t catch feelings for her.

I don’t think you should cancel the next date but rather have a mindset of abundance there is plenty of woman and she is just (1) of your plenty woman that you have. Do not view you and her relationship as exclusive but rather open. Again you and her have have just been on one 1 date before hand. It also seemed like you have not even tried to make her feel like your woman even if that was your plan. She can do as she pleases just as you can. I understand your frustration trust me but I wouldn’t cancel the next date but rather you not take her serious but bring her into your frame and game. You take back control and get what you want.

Edit: he had his hand behind her back guiding her which is physical but also mental. I think you could have intervene if you felt like this was your date and been like “I’m getting tired let’s head back to my place”. Depending on how she responded could have been useful.

aboutmycrush · 2022-05-14T20:34:29+00:00

Leave her

Title	Date Gets Another Guys Instagram on Date
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Date	May 14, 2022 4:33 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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