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Classic_Common_9163 · 2022-01-03T06:32:57+00:00

While it is a numbers game, one is too many if you learn nothing from it. A hundred is ok if you learned from all. The key is to treat it with the scientific process. Do you have a sufficient sample size, what is your question and theory, what feedback did you get?

SummerSplash · 2022-01-03T06:19:43+00:00

Rejected for what exactly? To start a conversation, to go on a date, to go to your home? They're all different.

Alextryingforgrate · 2022-01-03T07:32:17+00:00

If youre getting answers like please leave me alone you are clearly doing something wrong or plain and simple being a creep.

Like how does the interaction go in the first 5 minutes. What are you talking about and if its closed yes/no questions you wont get anywhere. Begging for her number is going to just make you look weak as well. If your going to answer with hows the weather type shit you're not going to get anywhere. Also how do you dress like is your stuff clean, how is your hygene? Like what else is going on with your interactions.

Like What else is going on becuase i also have a hard time believing that you are doing nothing but striking out.

Maybe check some online course like from James Marshall. Ive going through his stuff and its helped out me out immensely.

TheLegendofMikeHawk · 2022-01-03T04:49:47+00:00

If you can't get results by 1000 maybe this isn't for you. Until then you gotta put yourself out there, and get used to getting blown out. Very few people are able to produce consistent results, especially as they're starting out.

queen_2030 · 2022-01-03T06:59:49+00:00

I usually have success meeting people through friends and online. I think with everything going on in the world quite a few people are not willing to open up to strangers as much anymore.

miamiric3 · 2022-01-03T11:08:28+00:00

IMHO, day game/street game just doesn’t sound like it’s working for you. No biggie… it’s just probably time to try a different venue (like bars) where women are actually expecting to be approached.

However, regardless of venue, you should recognize that the vibe you’re giving off is probably less playful and more intense/outcome dependent (which can be pretty scary for women since there’s no way for them to know your intentions and if you’re a potential stalker/rapist/etc.) Thus, the safest option for them is to just turn you down right away. However, if you’re a fun guy who walks up with a smile on his face, opens with a joke, and is just enjoying his best life, odds are so much lower that you’re a threat. (Plus, you seem like someone they might actually want to hang out with even if things don’t pan out romantically.)

The best way I’ve found to increase your odds is to get into a more playful mood, which you can do by getting warmed up first. The simplest way to do that is to go up to random people—both guys and girls—on the street and compliment them on their outfits (but only if it’s a genuine compliment). “Yo, I love your shirt.” “Your shoes are sick.” “You all look gorgeous tonight.”

Now, the key here is to walk away immediately. That way, you’re simultaneously conditioning your mind to be outcome independent and conditioning yourself to give off a positive, uplifting vibe to everyone around you. Note: You’re not complimenting any of these people to talk to THEM. You’re complimenting them to orient your OWN mind.

As you keep doing this, you’ll get a lot of surprised but strongly positive reactions where you’ll hear “thanks so much, man” from over your shoulder as you walk away. And you can walk away knowing that you just made someone’s night. You’ll also get some people who don’t hear you. And some people who do hear you but are confused. Don’t worry about them… just keep going.

Eventually, once you’ve given a lot of compliments that day (~5-20-ish if you want a number), you’ll have it baked into your vibe that you’re a positive force in the world who makes people feel better about themselves. Which means you’ll feel better about yourself. And you’ll be looking forward to talking to the next person. And boom… you’re in an upward mood spiral.

NOW, you can start talking to people with the intention of asking them out. But make sure to maintain the positivity and outcome independence. And make sure to maintain that vibe by continuing to give out outfit compliments for the rest of the night. (Though, now, you don’t have to walk away immediately after compliments. You can stick around and chat if you’re so inclined.)

Hope that helps!

jackedguyinmelbourne · 2022-01-03T07:41:32+00:00

When I first started it took me 6 months of approaching every day to get my first date!

And I kept improving myself, my game, until I managed to get 6 girls from the street to my apartment in 2019, not to mention dates and pulls from clubs.

It is up to you to be determined and stubborn or to quit like a pussy.

TiberZurg · 2022-01-03T10:37:44+00:00

I lost my virginity after 700 approaches, my friend. But girls were already into me after like 200 approaches, I was just too afraid to make a move so I had to get to keep trying until a girl made a move on me lol. Keep trying! You'll get better and better, and hotter girls will be into you as time passes. In the old days people said it takes 1000 approaches to get good.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-03T06:30:46+00:00

That is a really bad self-defeating question to ask.

Seaboynew · 2022-01-03T08:19:08+00:00

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Delicatestatesmen · 2022-01-03T09:42:05+00:00

cold approach high rejection and large number of approaches needed before success I would say 10 rejections to 1 ok.

Seaboynew · 2022-01-03T10:35:26+00:00

Its easy af to meet people in nyc..

NJBarFly · 2022-01-03T12:14:52+00:00

Do you have any friends? Go out with them and have them tell you what you're doing wrong that's turning women off.

random_question4123 · 2022-01-03T13:08:33+00:00

I’ve moved almost exclusively to dating apps but recently I picked up a girl while hanging around downtown. I was trying to find my way to the train station and I was absolutely lost and in a huge rush. I was speaking to some other girls (that I was not remotely attracted to) asking for information, and the girl I picked up was eavesdropping on the conversation. In other words, she was pulled into my world. She laughed when she came closer and I smiled back.

Turned out we were heading to the same place. That led to a conversation for a bit, she was probing and asking questions. At the back of my mind, my focus was on making that train, not picking up a girl. I ended up running and leaving her behind because her train was in another 20 minutes or so. Didn’t get her number, didn’t ask, didn’t care.

Ended up missing the train but I saw her again at the station. She was on a call, which she dropped to speak to me. We had some laughs, found out more about ourselves and talked about good food restaurants and I used that as my method of getting her number (instead of providing a few recommendations, why not just give me your number and you can text them to me) and presto! It worked.

Although she was attractive, I wasn’t really attracted to her and I haven’t hit her up since, but that’s not the point anyway. Take what you will out of this.

reddituser_05 · 2022-01-03T13:54:45+00:00

You in the big city now. The women are top shelf. If you don't look like a male model, lower expectations. A NYC 5 is probably a Mass 10!

aerosmith760 · 2022-01-03T14:51:34+00:00

I'm from mass as well, I don't care what anybody says it is tough sledding here in the northeast

YoBeaverBoy · 2022-01-03T15:15:53+00:00

And no way in hell they are all loyal to him.

This line got my attention. What do you mean by that ? You'd accept to be a girl's affair ? You do you but that's a big no-no in my book. If you'd get together with a girl who's cheating on her partner, there is no guarantee she won't cheat on you as well since you know what she's capable of.

ClavasClub · 2022-01-03T16:42:54+00:00

If someone said "can you please get away from me" that means something so drastic happened the girl didn't make an excuse to get away or if she did she said it and you didn't get it hence why you didn't mention it in the post. I don't have that much dating experience but I would never imagine a girl asking me to get away from her... I'll usually understand waaay earlier in the convo if she's interested or if there's any merit to continue talking to her. Anyway I think you come off as needy or creepy and that's further pushing your frustrations making you come off as even more needier.

Seaboynew · 2022-01-03T17:42:12+00:00

NYC is one of the hardest places to game, but it’s also full of fashion models making it one of the best places. Try approaching models around Soho or areas with modeling agencies, you’d be quite surprised how receptive they are.

UnparliamentaryTea · 2022-01-03T18:22:16+00:00

NYC can be a tough place to talk to anyone on the street. Even as a man, think of how many people on the street stop to ask for the time, directions, or money. The women I know in the city tell me lots of stories of men trying to get their attention to flirt with them on the street, so it makes sense that it’s harder to talk to them compared to other parts of the US, especially given the horror stories of muggings and worse. It’s usually easier in bars and clubs where people are going out to have a good time and meet people.

Also remember that people in the city have the reputation of being extremely direct. It’s nice when they’ll practically tell you to take them out and hook up with them, but not as fun when they give a negative response.

Usually I wouldn’t suggest online dating but it seems to be quite a bit better for guys in NYC compared to other places (then again there are a lot more women than men in the city), so consider that as a supplement to in person game. Finally, it sounds like you’re still a young guy. You’re in a city with hundreds of thousands of the most beautiful women your age. It can be tough to be younger as there are model-looking 30 year old millionaires potentially competing with you, but you also have time to improve your game and yourself as well. If the rejections are starting to pile up too much, you can take a little time to focus on yourself and your own needs and goals. Remember to enjoy the journey, it’s not all about the destination

kj9876543 · 2022-01-03T19:15:37+00:00

Hi /u/4ever_Bronze your post has triggered my to write a follow-up to a similar question I posted 3 years ago. So here is my answer to you, but in a separate post: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/rv9ff1/a\_followup\_to\_1000\_approaches\_lots\_of\_instant/

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-04T10:04:02+00:00

None is too much. Every approach is a win. You need to work on changing your frame to seeing this as a positive. Make very slow progress over time.

If you’re getting insulted and called a creep now; try to find out where you’re fucking up and maybe get called a creep a little less next month. Keep making incremental improvements and realize that this is about you recreating yourself. It’s going to take a shitload of work. This process is a fucking bitch for all of us, but if you’re out doing it every day it gets much easier. You have to keep failing, to be able learn what the right and wrong steps to take are.

Also you gotta find some wings to go out with, who will help you see what you’re doing wrong. You’re in NYC which is great. There will be a massive pickup community there. Go online and find it and find some wings to meet with.

svengeance_for_sven · 2022-01-03T14:05:40+00:00

The female population has moved to an appointment-only model for being hit-on.

rustoof · 2022-01-03T06:21:47+00:00

You don't want a BS answer but it's not something that can be answered like that. I could fire off 10000 dms to Instagram models and get 0 results.

If you're making quality approaches, you're actually attempting to close and you have good logistics then I would say 20 rejections in a row is a problem. But again your standards might be too high. But your standards for how low you're willing to stoop might also be too high.

Are you willing to identify a woman's vulnerabilities and use them against her to make her crave your approval? It's fine not to do that but you're gonna need more approaches. Are you willing to take a woman home who is pretty drunk? You definitely shouldn't do that but it's gonna mean you need more approaches. Are you willing to provide a party girl with drugs with the understanding that if she doesn't want to go through withdrawal she needs to put out? If not your gonna need more approaches.

Are your logistics solid? Do you live walking distance or a short uber from night game hotspots?

There is a lot that goes into this. And if you're not willing to put in a lot of time and effort, make some questionable moral decisions and experience heartbreak from both sides then you're gonna need a lot alot of approaches.

I know a security guard at a local store who approaches every woman hotter than a 5 and is not willing to spend any time or money but just invites them to "chill" he probably gets rejected several hundred or more times to each lay. But he's doing 50 plus approaches a day. I get maybe 3 or 4 rejections for every date but I calibrate super hard, and know they're not gonna be down before I ever put myself out there. So on that basis I also get several hundred rejections for every lay, but they're really me ejecting when I know it's not worth the effort.

If it's worth it to you you'll do it. If it's not you wont.

sunkized · 2022-01-03T09:51:57+00:00

Are you on the spectrum OP? I am and use to behave this way. I was obsessed with a yes and kept track of all rejections. Sadly I don't have good advice. I never gained real confidence. I just started doing drugs and it numbed me enough so I could finnaly not care about rejection.

Head-Combination-299 · 2022-01-03T13:31:16+00:00

Im from Cali. Lived in and around Boston for a year. Boston dudes are DIFFERENT! Boston females are way DIF. Too. What part of MASS are you from?

AND If you are on your way somewhere, they are likely too. And maybe they do not wanna be late or rushed or feel pressure just cuz they gotta get somewhere and you are interfering with the schedule to try and get laid.

(( Friday I gave my number to someone. He was dang fine - ultimately was way too young for me to be speaking to and I had to Block him Saturday. He claimed to be an artists and I was kinda interested in that. But it was a lie to try and get laid lol - I told him I was celibate and he was asking about my dog and showed me his- he was a classic predator but I am a sucker for a puppy play date. ))

I tend to not give out my number. That and cuz Im really not interested in hook ups right now.

Ppl may simply genuinely not be interested in being pursued.

If you are eager to meet someone- try online so then you know where they stand as dar as if they are interested.

Also... They are passing on you. Ifs not really rejection. You're taking a BLIND gamble AND they are for sure probably telling the truth- they simply are not interested.

aidsjohnson · 2022-01-03T17:15:03+00:00

Man it’s just a numbers game. Don’t take shit too personally, women are emotional creatures and a no could easily turn into a yes if the circumstances are right. Don’t let those “no” bitches ruin your confidence at finding a “yes” bitch. Being a man is all about how well you take rejection and get back up, don’t worry bro. Good luck king.

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2022-01-03T16:50:28+00:00

Dude, you DON'T want an NYC girl...They are all fluff and no substance. If it's not in the city or nearby, they are useless. Constant complaining, crazy expectations, always thinking about status and very masculine when the speak....ugh!!!

You're dodging bullets left and right. Try to match with women 30-45 minutes away. Not even the burrows. Especially, if you're an outdoors person.

Good luck to you!

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-03T05:41:27+00:00

One is too many.

goldwave84 · 2022-01-03T09:56:29+00:00

Tell us more about yourself OP?

raulonastool · 2022-01-03T10:01:09+00:00

If a salesman walked up to you at a car lot and asked for your credit card information you would tell him to get the hell away from you, too lol. Don't go straight for the number. Have a conversation and talk to the girl first. "Hi, how are you?" with a smile on your face is a better pickup line than "can I get your number?"

splendidEdge · 2022-01-03T11:21:38+00:00

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No-Pay9075 · 2022-01-03T12:10:31+00:00

there is no number.

I mean, do you think if some guy who looked like Danny devito at his age now, but was approaching hot 18 year old girls he wouldn't get basically 100% of the time even if he had 'game'? He could make 2000 appraoches and get rejected every time even if he was super charasmatic and confident (had game)

So it's really all about the various variables.

A rejection either means you're not her type, or your 'game' is so bad that it makes overrides her physical attraction since she's now scared that you'll kill her or something lol

It really is a numbers game. Just keep going.

joel1112 · 2022-01-03T12:23:32+00:00

Bro just means you need to improve or hit on "lower level" girls, i like the latter, get attractive, gym, face, clothes and/or get more money

SnooMachines1406 · 2022-01-03T12:39:40+00:00

bro as long as you know you were polite then it is what it is. Part of cold approach is battling your inner self doubt. Women will say things that make you feel like a creep even if what you said was perfectly normal. You're gonna have to learn to tune what others say out and go with what you believe. The same thing happen to me I cold approach two girls at the mall this weekend they ignored me didn't realize they were and just thought they didn't hear me I asked their name and they looked back and said "why are you following us" I apologized and went on my way. At first I beat myself up thinking I was a creep but then I just learned to let it go. I did over 100 approaches and said the same thing and got better reactions so it most be something wrong with them not me, whether or not that is true I'm gonna believe it.

cronasminate · 2022-01-03T12:46:39+00:00

I honestly didn’t think this was possible. I saw guys go up to girls in high school and they would say ew and I never thought something similar would ever happen to me.

This is why judging other people is a double-edged sword. You feel superior to them, but it traps you from doing anything because you never want to be them. What happens is the person just stays on their self-forged tower of superiority holding on to their ego.

This is why cold approach is superior. It makes you check your ego. No one is above rejection. It breaks down your preconceived notion of who you are and forced to accept facts for what they are. It forces you to think logically otherwise you'll just keep approaching for the slightest bit of approval and then never approach again in fear of being hurt again.

Unoi8ub4 · 2022-01-03T12:58:45+00:00

I find that when I meet a new fuck buddy for the first time (after having asked a lot of the people I had fucked) they seem to really respond to my body language and posture when I was around them. I look directly at a person when I speak with them, I do not fiddle with my hands or look away from them (I don't stare, I just make sure to make eye contact) I have a deeper voice which almost everyone seems to love. I figured out when I was a lot younger to actually pay attention to what people around me were saying and even more importantly how they were saying it and their body language while doing so.

Actually give responses to things that they say or ask not just a "yeah I been there"

Action, observation, interaction. Say hello and smile as you look them in the eye. Observe how they react to this gesture. Go from there.

Also another thing. You DON'T have to approach a woman every time you see her. Just say hello and smile and move on. More often then not we are all creatures of habit. Of you ran into a person once more then likely unless they move or you do then you will do so again. The second or third time you have seen them said hello or have a great day to them is when you then ask for a number. They have seen you around a bit, got to see you from different angles over time. They HOPEFULLY have not seen your ass in the news so by now for something stupid like speeding so you "feel" more comfortable to them.

Also do try to clean up your language if you swear a fair bit. Most people are not turned on or find swearing sexy or hot. Have a friend that doesn't that one..tried to warn them haha.

Lexi4you · 2022-01-03T13:09:05+00:00

So it seems like you might be doing things wrong here… girls don’t really give their number within 5 minutes of knowing someone, because if you were a creep then i’d have to change number! Instagram or social media is much better since I could simply block you if things were to go wrong. Don’t go and talk to girls with a goal to get their number, talk to them to show genuine interest, and be happy if they decide to give you some sort of contact.

loofyd · 2022-01-03T13:52:08+00:00

here's a numerical answer : ∞

where " ∞ " means no upper limit

change your approach

rejection has different reasons, find yours

damiancontrol · 2022-01-03T13:59:05+00:00

Stop with this "numbers game" mentality and actually start calibrating and learning from your rejections instead of just "going for it" like these dweebs like to preach.

ZealousidealFile1 · 2022-01-03T14:34:36+00:00

Were your results different in other city/country, and Iin what way? Also don't mass approach that's berry harmful for your mental health & growth especially if youre getting way too much rejected

anoyingprophet · 2022-01-03T14:36:39+00:00

you're going about cold approach all wrong. Don't ask for her number first 5 minutes. Go up to a girl not with the purpose of getting her number, but for the purpose of finding out if the two of you have any chemistry. During the convo, if you feel a vibe, go with the flow. When you get to the point where the convo is coming to an end, ask for her snap or number, but it should be because the two of you made some kind of plan to see each other again.

The way you're going about this seems to me like you watch too many of those pua youtube videos. This method is not impossible, but it's likely you'll get a bunch of rejections, and the purpose of this method is really to desensitize you for rejection so that you can build the courage to talk to girls. It is not the most optimal way of actually getting results, because it's not an example of game at all.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-01-03T14:37:37+00:00

Sounds to me like you need to work on your fundamentals or you're dressed like shit too, also covid... fundamentals meaning don't come off creepy, don't drool all over her talking about her looks how sexy she is etc.. smile and just say "hey can I come to talk to you for a second, I'm not trying to sell you something" (since your In NYC)

also if I were you I would drop doing street game altogether in NYC everyone thinks your trying to con them.. instead I would find where the girls are ie ballet, yoga, etc... you can lie and tell them you got in a bad car accident and your physical therapy said to do ballet for example. invite those girls out even if they are not your type!!

Bellairtrix · 2022-01-03T15:06:26+00:00

Maybe try a diff setting like asking for someone’s number on the street vs the bars/cafe? I feel like people in New York wanna get to know you for more than 5 mins before giving their number. There’s a lot of people & creeps that you don’t want to come off as one.

ForeignAttitude4471 · 2022-01-03T15:15:08+00:00

Man, you're approaching girls in the middle ot their day routine and within 5 min you expect them to give you their number. Unless you're godlike beautiful/charming or you build an instant connection this shit ain't working with most of them

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-01-03T15:18:36+00:00

Well, I view seduction as a skill you are trying to learn. Getting caught up in your head about it when you are first learning doesn't make much sense. As long as you learn from each interaction and try to identify what you are doing wrong, you will keep moving forward.

I think you are too caught up in your results right now. But, the real question is are you trying to learn a new skill in social dynamics, or just playing the numbers game? Either way, try to get out of your head and be sure you are learning from each interaction. Try to focus on the process, or the skills you are trying to learn. Don't worry so much about the current results (again, as long as you are improving and learning).

TreeCommercial44 · 2022-01-03T15:25:31+00:00

When I was single I had on and off months some months I had 5 successful dates in a row other months I had 5 first date fails in a row point being its all about compatibility sometimes you get lucky and meet compatible people other times unlucky and have a string of 1st dates that lead nowhere.

Don't let it get you down though if you haven't had any luck yet this is totally normal and part of the dating process. You're more than likely not ugly if you're getting dates and it has more to do with meeting people you're incompatible with.

TurkeyBaconClubberin · 2022-01-03T15:32:13+00:00

My dude. You're in New York city. You either better look like a fucking rock star or have Jay-Z levels of money to attract a girl from New York.

They'd rather be packed 20 girls deep like sardines into a VIP booth at the night club surrounding 1 celebrity who couldn't give a single fuck about any of them. Than spend 1 solitary second of attention on a dude who's less than Jason Momoa hot or Warren Buffet rich.

Inevitable_Meeting88 · 2022-01-03T15:43:43+00:00

remember cold approach is hard

bigpizza87 · 2022-01-03T15:52:55+00:00

Check out this guy’s tips. MPMD is the man and he has a lot of self help/pick up advice. I don’t recall if it’s that video or not, but poke around his channel and I’m sure you’ll find something.

Also doesn’t hurt to be somewhat jacked and attractive

Phoenix-King77 · 2022-01-03T15:53:16+00:00

this is what you do. this is what I do and its like a 50/50

if you see a cool girl go up and smile and say hey whats your name.

how she responds will show level of interest. if she gives a blunt emma. then she probably is not interested. but if she says emma in a good happy tone she probably is interested. now if she says "my name is emma whats yours" she is most defiantly probably interested.

Then you as her are you from around here. This is so you know how fast you need to act on the date if you get that far

then after that acknowledge where you are at and end it. What I mean by this is like if your in a mall say

"I know your busy shopping so I'll let you continue but do you have a number or insta I can grab"

or if your at a club or social event say something like " I know your here hanging with your friends so I wont bother you but do you have a number or insta I can grab"

She will say no or yes. if she says yes win. if she says no just say "no problem enjoy your day" Don't try to force and have a super long conversation. a lot of guys disqualify themselves doing this becasuse she might find something she doenst like about you. you want to be more mysterious so doing this all in 30 seconds works well. It's really this simple. don't over complicate it

SuaveFuck · 2022-01-03T16:03:54+00:00

A LIFETIME would be too many. other than that, hey, if she's rude, all the better, thank her for letting you know how unsuitable she is and move on.

GoldenFrieza_ · 2022-01-03T16:21:30+00:00

I don't know how many is too much but I've been trying for 10+ years and am at 865 rejections with 0 being a Yes, a 100% success rate at being rejected

External_Lifeguard49 · 2022-01-03T17:05:46+00:00

No such things as too much rejection. Stop making the game about women and results. The game is about you.

the_monkey_knows · 2022-01-03T17:07:50+00:00

You don’t hit on someone until after she’s intrigued/interested/attracted to you. Asking for a phone number within 5 minutes of probably generic small talk will be a huge turn off for most people.

takeyourtime5000 · 2022-01-03T18:00:18+00:00

Any more than one. I dont take rejection well. It's like hitting your hand with a hammer. Ya you could eventually yet numb to it, but why.

Phai_H · 2022-01-03T18:05:31+00:00

Doesn’t really matter.

Rejection is just part of the game.

Shooters shoot.

All you need is one to succeed.

Ok_Ingenuity9277 · 2022-01-03T18:32:11+00:00

Be process oriented, treat each interaction like an experiment. For some of them, pay attention to your body language. Others, pay attention to your voice. Some other times pay attention to her body language etc. It’s not about success rate, it’s about gaining experience, and you’ll level up with enough experience built.

Jedi_Mind_Trip · 2022-01-03T19:30:16+00:00

I think 3 is the absolute limit... for one woman, over a period of time. I'm not certain about that, but I am certain that I have been rejected a ton, in a small town, and I am a conventionally handsome man. Just keep on trucking man, I think you'll find your way.

bmunger718 · 2022-01-03T19:52:30+00:00

Your completely right I felt like that when I came back to Nyc. But, I’m telling you keep going cause Nyc girls are more blunt by nature, however once they like you they really like you it’s no game and they would even initiate the moves towards the bedroom. I rather get a real yes then a bullshit yes that really means no but I’m just trying to be nice.

fungchangwang · 2022-01-03T20:24:14+00:00

Too many*

BigShuggy · 2022-01-03T22:47:35+00:00

With a single girl? One if it’s the kind you received. With multiple girls? As many as it takes for you to get it right.

PaxHumanitus · 2022-01-04T01:43:03+00:00

Rejection is irrelevant to me unless I’m in love with the person doing it. Thankfully that has never been a problem. I’m lucky enough in love now that I have three, nearly four long term partners who all have powerful feelings for me. I’m ethically non-monogamous, so they all know everything about each other and how our interactions have gone.

A bit of advice: Stop hunting and become the bait. Rejection isn’t going to happen if they’re coming to you.

Your more aggressive style is throwing people off. Refine yourself and your life in positive ways. Learn to broadcast confidence with your body language whether or not the confidence is real.

I know you asked for numbers instead of words, but if that kind of pattern setup can get me three, nearly four serious partners and a black book full of submissives, it can get you one partner.

NewCommonSensei · 2022-01-04T03:24:34+00:00

Infinity

Evry1cansuckit · 2022-01-04T04:51:08+00:00

Don't even keep count, just learn and move on to the next...it'll work out

2022-01-09T05:36:12+00:00

Bruh I don't know how can you feel like this, Like literally each time I get rejected I get uplifted and can't stop smiling because I actually got myself to do it.

You need to look each rejection as an opportunity to grow and improve your game, examine how everything went and try to see what you did wrong. At the end you're not getting mentally fucked up but the total opposite.

You will obtain what is called social freedom my friend, and that is way better than any used up pussy

SteveMonroe · 2022-02-16T12:24:31+00:00

From the day I was born till today (17 years old Male) I've rejected someone 8 times.

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