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thelambofdeth · 2021-08-10T04:20:17+00:00

This is why some guys are so hesitant to approach...even when women are interested, that's not enough lol

Chrispy3 · 2021-08-10T07:24:38+00:00

That was me, you can DM me your number ^joking

yoitsappy · 2021-08-10T17:38:36+00:00

Same old excuse. If Zayn Malik approached you would you turn him down too coz you're shy?

goforasolution · 2021-08-10T04:18:23+00:00

Don’t take it too hard that’s how guys feel when they’re too afraid to approach a cute girl or “close” or get their number. Just remember the pain next time you’re out in the same situation

yurifca · 2021-08-10T12:00:10+00:00

Dude, I turned down a girl cause I was shy too, and I'm 29, and a guy.

Sometimes we're just not prepared

SergeantWea · 2021-08-10T05:38:11+00:00

good perspective thank you!

next time you see a fine ass boy maybe give him your number :)

Own-Salad1974 · 2021-08-10T05:46:05+00:00

I asked some girl out and got rejected today, even though she looked very interested. Do you by any chance live in western Canada?

TedTheBear258 · 2021-08-10T08:18:19+00:00

Yeah girl kissed me but still rejected me

rs-tk · 2021-08-10T15:44:26+00:00

Yeah, approached a girl two weeks before, couldnt tell if she was really shy or wasnt interested. Turns out she was interesred, but now she probabily thinks I am a coward

Teamtoast · 2021-08-10T09:44:38+00:00

As much as this is an interesting perspective, do you think the guy put you under too much pressure in the moment? Maybe if he was more relaxed and spent more time with you, you would have felt less shy?

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-08-10T12:01:11+00:00

But what are we to do? if we persist we are harassers...

intensely_human · 2021-08-10T17:35:29+00:00

I’m aware of this. But honestly if you’re too gunshy to even accept the attention after I’ve just marched through a cloud of anxiety to reach you, I’m not interested.

Same with women who won’t make eye contact. If she can’t handle the intensity of eye contact, how can she handle a relationship? The first time I laugh loudly or something she’ll be calling the police or reporting me as dangerous to the Lulu app or something.

Extremely timid women scare me because I’m rough around the edges and a fraidy cat is liable to misinterpret my being non-mouselike as me being dangerous, and I can’t handle a reputation as dangerous.

FoggyDanto · 2021-08-10T10:13:59+00:00

Do you live in New York because I asked a girl out she looked deeply interested but refused to give me her number.

If that's you, we can pick up where we left girl

N0GARED · 2021-08-10T12:45:50+00:00

A classic : Its not you its me

Necessary_Time_4402 · 2021-08-10T16:09:34+00:00

Yeah, being approached can be scary... but approaching is far more terrifying.

WestwardAlien · 2021-08-10T12:06:26+00:00

Women moment 💀

VDKay · 2021-08-10T14:37:46+00:00

This is why we advise guys that being a bit more persistent is a good thing, even though, ironically, common consensus is that "a No is a No". I know that pressing for a number after being rejected can be really scary especially for shy guys because it can be considered bothersome (at best) or harassment (at worst).

I approached a girl once and the conversation was going great, she was receptive and smiling and all, but when I asked her number she said "No, I won't give you my number". I said OK, too bad, and chatted a bit more. Then asked again, and she again said "No" and suggested to give her my FB instead. I said I don't exchange FB with people I just met and asked once again for her number. She finally said OK and gave it to me and now she is my GF of 2 years!

Taurusamazing92 · 2021-08-10T08:42:12+00:00

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akat36 · 2021-08-10T14:32:21+00:00

Find him and give that number

Electric_kundalini · 2021-08-10T15:09:52+00:00

Imagine how it feels to approach though lol. Surely it would do your confidence some good if you just gave the guys you liked your number. I wish Women would approach me it be such an ego booster lol

Ma_1ik · 2021-08-10T17:09:48+00:00

As a man i don’t think I’ve ever seen shyness work like this. Or maybe I have and just don’t know it.

deathray-toaster · 2021-08-10T13:26:00+00:00

Yeah, that’s tough shit. After #meetoo and everything around it we’re even more inclined to leave you alone if you say no. And honestly this is how it should have been from the start! Fuck everyone who instill fear on anyone who doesn’t want to fuck them!

With that said. I guess you have to shake your shyness if you ever see that guy again. Just tell him you didn’t want to say no but you’re really shy. Nowadays it looks like more people do listen when they get a no. And that is a good thing.

LandscapeClear1630 · 2021-08-10T12:28:05+00:00

That makes absolutely no sense.

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South-Bed-1434 · 2021-08-10T14:27:41+00:00

I can agree to that

FightForDemocracyNow · 2021-08-10T06:38:11+00:00

Yes I've thought that sometimes.

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-08-10T13:02:32+00:00

Not anymore

500Ovechkin · 2021-08-10T18:15:50+00:00

I’ll say this, I prefer to get approached by a girl or have one of her friends say that I’m hot and ask for my number.

If I ask for hers, I may “ruin” my reputation like “he’s desperate or I thought he doesn’t do those kind of things”.

Have fun in social settings, and have a reason to talk to the girl or girls then close for the number if you really want it. Gl gentlemen

just_some_dude_blah · 2021-08-10T23:02:08+00:00

This is why men should keep grinding meeting new women and having side chicks.

naughtychick9999 · 2021-08-10T11:30:46+00:00

This is why guys should give their number instead of or in addition to asking. My knee jerk reaction is to be guarded when I'm approached by a guy.

cytomome · 2021-08-10T11:48:06+00:00

If you were too shy and caught off guard, I'd say the interaction didn't make you feel comfortable. If I want to approach someone, I don't just ask for their number after I call them cute. I can't blame you for having a knee-jerk reaction to that. If I didn't get enough of a rapport going, that's on me.

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-08-10T17:06:56+00:00

No his game isn't developed enough to notice that, plough through it and make you comfortable to give it up.

OwYouHitMeInMyWienew · 2021-08-10T12:03:30+00:00

To me, this is clearly a guy posting. I don’t know if he’s trying to make people who get rejected feel better, make himself feel better, or if he’s just trying to be funny, but I feel certain that this did not happen.

wallynext · 2021-08-10T07:14:23+00:00

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Lifedeather · 2021-08-10T05:56:09+00:00

That is why your curls are your crown 👑 👸

mycurlsaremycrown · 2021-08-10T14:25:58+00:00

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2021-08-10T15:35:39+00:00

Imagine you experiencing emotions of bigger matters...I can't

ImeanNoHarm521 · 2021-08-10T17:57:39+00:00

Next time... give him your number. He’s just a person, so are you.

k-meal0 · 2021-08-10T18:30:36+00:00

Yup, that is so human. We are so emotional, and even when we feel like we could click with another person, sometimes the fears will come in the way. Be aware of that and move on.

Algo2Pete · 2021-08-10T20:14:51+00:00

That's better than leading him on and giving him the bullshit line, "let me think about this". But in reality you rejected him. At least you're straightforward but fucking shy..lol.

DanglyNips · 2021-08-10T20:39:05+00:00

Sure but can you imagine me replying “oh come on I know you must have a number, let’s hang out”. I’d immediately be crossing the line of creepy. That’s the kind of stuff most women hate and deal with too much. OP, in this case, it’s on you. It’s good the guy walked away.

darkknight234455 · 2021-08-10T21:00:41+00:00

If a woman is interested in you she would let you know by talking to you. The thing is I learned is that regardless of how much you try women will always want better it’s human nature same thing for men as well unless you found your soulmate or that special someone.

Men as well as women give off a lot of mixed signals for both of the opposition sex to understand at times. And by doing that makes the person feels like if they are rejecting them. But if you don’t try you never know really.

For a man if you just present yourself as who you are are are truthful about everything she at times would accept you most times it works out sometimes it does not it’s a hit and miss.

Women havé a wall they put up because most times some are shy but 60% of the times most have been hurt from an ex it could be sexual meaning rape or they were hit and they don’t want to put themselves back into a position like that again this is why sometimes when a woman gives out a number it’s to feel how the other person would react to her.

Same can be said for men as well. But hey that’s just my opinion

Inner_Ad4595 · 2021-08-10T21:18:31+00:00

This is cool!

Shaw757 · 2021-08-10T22:10:04+00:00

When your game is on top then all girls become single else they all will be taken.

Super_Ad_1226 · 2021-08-10T22:14:29+00:00

What’s there to be shy about all you have to do is give the number

joy_collision · 2021-08-10T22:38:04+00:00

Omg because you were too shy? Oh my fuckkkkkkk. What can I do about thatttttt. My brain is gonna implode and then explode. That's probably why this girl sat down next to me in an empty restaurant, talked to me for 15 min, gave me her # and then never texted me back!

MincoLesharo · 2021-08-10T23:18:50+00:00

Reminder to self: ask a girl if she doesn’t want to give me her number because she’s too shy.

RuffRider47 · 2021-08-10T23:39:45+00:00

Quit playin with us! 😆

Hot-Construction-811 · 2021-08-11T02:34:15+00:00

nice to know that im not a douche when women reject me. (well, at least, in this scenario)

posiden499 · 2021-08-11T04:39:45+00:00

Would you have liked him to give you his number?

Outrageous_Fill3231 · 2021-08-14T09:56:51+00:00

Don’t know how this is supposed to encourage me tbh

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