“If she likes you she’ll make it easy” isnt always true is it?

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-06T16:58:12+00:00

The vast majority of women will not approach 95% of men. By "make it easy" they just mean they'll be receptive and engaging when you initiate the convo and will likely at least kiss you on the first date if they're actually into you.

HotAir25 · 2025-06-06T16:52:56+00:00

Girls never make the first move, but they tend to give you opportunities to do that by walking across you, standing next to you etc. They will never risk rejection but they will do a lot of standing next to you.

badabing654 · 2025-06-06T17:03:18+00:00

I think the saying should be reworded “if she likes you she’ll make it easier not easy”

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-06-06T16:55:29+00:00

Girls are just as scared of approaching as guys. THe thing is they can hide behind the fact that society tells them they dont need to approach. If a guy liked them theyd approach. Also girls always have options even when they dont know it. So to them, unless you are an absolute stud they dont feel like they lost the chance because another cahnce will come up with a different guy. Where with us, there are girls I still think about and think "damn I was stupid, why did I not make that happen or play it differently".

blitzik · 2025-06-06T17:27:20+00:00

It's true, but you will still have to take 100% initiative

-XtCode- · 2025-06-06T17:19:19+00:00

Nothing is really true. Every “rule” can be broken.

whatsitworth101 · 2025-06-06T18:21:06+00:00

It’s not always the truth but in general most girls will not make it difficult for a guy who they genuinely want.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-06-06T17:28:03+00:00

It’s never “always” with human behaviors. That’s why the rules, the principles, and the methods are not supposed to be taken without any context

Even the other day when I told a guy in PM that my #1 rule is “don’t put women on pedestal”, he interpreted it as “no flirts, no teasing.” I was like, wait how are you gonna escalate? But I then realized, his understanding is different from mine taken from a just short sentence alone.

jaybadz · 2025-06-06T20:19:57+00:00

Dude I have had girls come up to me in bars and in the gym multiple times. It happens only if they like you, or find you attractive. If they don’t, they won’t even make eye contact.

It’s not complicated or rocket science.

gutenshmeis · 2025-06-06T17:14:37+00:00

It's true 99.99% of the time.

throwawayPzaFm · 2025-06-06T19:40:57+00:00

It's more like easy in the sense that it's not impossible anymore and she'll give you chances, but you still have to deliver. Like they... become a bad goalie. Always on the other side of the gate. There's still an entire team and your shooting ability between you and that goal tho. But if you make it through, she's secretly on your side.

That being said, the smart ones will be "available" - in front of you or nearby, maybe even talking to you. But still waiting for you to pounce like a manly man or something.

In no particular order I've had them ask for help with a wild variety of things ( I got laid for backing up a hdd once ), hang around around you like really bad BO, repeatedly try to practice whatever activity is going on, etc. One of the girls had her favourite room heater she liked to chill out on far from people to be somewhat accessible and not engaged in a convo when I got there, and then she'd come sit on a chair at the corner of my eyes in a different area of the room after the activities had moved us around.

It's pretty random stuff but it's noticeable when you're paying attention. For some I was, for some I was just annoyed by them, of course. One brought me a bag of carrots cause I very casually mentioned I wanted to make a soup but ended up leaving work late and she happened to be shopping. I didn't even consider it until she presented a bag of carrots.

Think: does she need help with that, or just want it, is she really a loner or is she actually super popular and retreated just in case you don't like crowds? Isn't it a little odd that she's always bumping into you, trying to do something, just happens to be your random dance partner every time you go to salsa, she's always around when you could offer a ride home, or for the discreet ones - just happens to be sitting always in your field of vision somehow, and nearby so you can pick her?

1-2 times might be happenstance, but the ones that like you don't stop very quickly.

ratfooshi · 2025-06-06T21:25:29+00:00

You don't want it easy. But they need to learn to make it easier.

Seduction is a game of push and pull. The pursuer becomes the pursued, and eventually, vica versa.

Men need to start initiating with less thought to think of the consequences because we over exaggerate the fears.

Women need to understand the power they have over men when they approach.

It's all fair game, as long as desire is involved.

BurnItDownSR · 2025-06-06T17:44:49+00:00

The "if she likes you" stuff from guys here are such cop outs for playing it safe.

They either want a safe bet or they wanna bail to spare their fragile egos.

They always use shit like, "Do you think she won't have time for Brad Pitt?"

But that analogy in an of itself pokes holes all over their entire argument.

Because the reality is, there's levels to liking someone. You take any guy here and he can list multiple women he would like to fuck and at the same time, he can also arrange them in order of who he'd like to fuck more. Hence, levels.

And if you think women couldn't do the same, you really have no business giving any dating advice because that doesn't even take much experience with women to know.

If its only as simple as a person liking someone or not, then no one can ever choose between multiple people they're all attracted to.

A guy like Brad Pitt might be at the top level for women but that doesn't make the lower levels useless.

That's where all this, "If she likes you" BS falls apart. If she has a 8-10 level of attraction for you, sure, she will make things easy.

But if her level of attraction to you is at a 5 or something, you still have a chance, she just won't hand you things.

And please, wake up people. The people who say you can't increase a girl's attraction to you sound like they've never slept with a woman or maybe have never managed to make one cum, because any man who has made a woman cum knows how much more into them she becomes after that.

I've also seen it before having sex. I've cold approached girls who seemed like they were at a 4 or 5 by the time I got their numbers but then I managed to get them to come out to a party with me and my friends and when they showed up and saw me having a blast with a bunch of other hot girls, all of a sudden their attraction went to a 9.

So don't listen to that "if she likes you" BS. If she's responding positively to you and still investing at least a proportional amount in the interaction as you, you still have a chance to get with her and you still have the opportunity to make her want you more.

Dating is not black or white and life in general sure as shit ain't black or white. Don't be like these other boneheads.

Known-Student-381 · 2025-06-06T22:52:51+00:00

Make it easy doesn't mean they'll leave their comfort zone (e.g. taking rejection risks like approaching). It means they'll ignore your fuck-ups and fixate on your successes.

Tripped on your way walking up to her? She's charmed by your silliness. Made an off-color remark? How bold!

If she likes you, she rationalizes your behavior in the best light possible. If she doesn't, the voice in her head will be as critical of you as yours is.

Glacier_Sama · 2025-06-06T19:53:42+00:00

Who cares if she 'likes' you. If she's SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to you she will ALWAYS make it easy.

If she wants you to jump through hoops, her pussy ain't wet for you

VelvetSinclair · 2025-06-07T07:17:49+00:00

By "make it easy" they mean they'll make it easy for you to initiate

Whether that means approaching, asking for her number, setting a date, kissing, going back to yours, etc...

It doesn't mean they'll do the work for you

It doesn't mean they won't test you

I'm a teacher. I want my students to get better at maths. So I make it easy for them. Instead of throwing them the hardest problems straight away, I show them how to do some easier ones, then I give them time to practice, I provide scaffolding which I gradually remove, then I prompt them to try something more difficult. But they do all the work. And I still test them.

ZennedGame · 2025-06-06T18:40:48+00:00

If she likes you and is feminine, it will be refreshing in ways most men these days do not understand.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-06T20:18:39+00:00

If she likes you, you will get away with a few more fumbles. Basically you just have to make sure you don't fuck it up.

This does not however mean, she will take the initiative and lead the whole interaction. However, yes.... some actually WILL do that, but I would say that is the exception not the norm.

She may position herself next to you for no real reason, keep walking by you, make strong eye contact. You still need to approach/walk up/make a move however. But at this point, all you have to do is not fuck up. And a few small bumbles are easier to get away with.

Newtabs9 · 2025-06-06T20:24:18+00:00

yes, it's true.

She'll help carry the convo, make flirting easy, and just be totally open to escalation etc

And if she DOESN'T like you, then yeah. You'll know very very fast, and you just need to move onto the next girl as you'll be wasting your time with her. Even if you've read the mysterymethod and gambler and ross jefferies

random_question4123 · 2025-06-06T20:48:56+00:00

I feel like that saying still requires you as the man to do the work, but she would generally make it easy for you to get access to her.

A woman can have multiple men trying to see her, and she’ll keep making excuses or flaking those she isn’t interested in, but she’ll be willing to move her schedule around to make sure she sees you if she likes you.

minorkeyed · 2025-06-06T23:38:03+00:00

It is if she takes dating advice from social media.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-07T01:53:58+00:00

I wouldn't read too much into cold and emoji less but if they're always very short that may be concerning.

Very odd that she made out with you throughout the night for 2 dates but wasn't receptive when you escalated. Usually thay always hits when I'm in similar predicament especially if it's second date. Don't really expect sex on the first but second is pretty standard. Like 75% of first lays happen for me on the second date.

squidirific · 2025-06-07T05:56:25+00:00

it took me almost 8 months to get my current girlfriend to talk on the phone

SkysTheLimit306 · 2025-06-09T05:49:11+00:00

I think it is.. depends how much she likes u tho.. attraction wise, if she sees you as a 10 or 9, everything is smoooth and easy.. if she sees you as a 6 or below, then thats when you run into objections and have to put in more work, which im not a fan of lol

TonyGTO · 2025-06-06T20:13:24+00:00

I’d say it depends on how crazy she is. If she is crazy but, you know, normal crazy, she will make it easy for you but if she is crazy crazy she will be so confusing you won’t know if she likes you or not.

Also, is she is the bitchy type she will make it hard for you because, well, she likes to be a pain in the ass lol

LovelyRoseBoop · 2025-06-06T23:20:03+00:00

If she makes it easy she doesn’t need to shit test you because she’s leaving in the morning that’s because she’s already disqualified you or she feels you’ve already disqualified her.

A step beyond that, a girl who approaches you is probably not going to really try for a relationship. Because those girls are the female equivalent to PUAs.

Yolosweg133769 · 2025-06-08T18:29:15+00:00

if she likes you she will make it easy by following your lead with no resistance.

Her approaching you in 99% of cases not gonna happen.

You still have to do everything by yourself.

TheLastNomad94 · 2025-06-16T15:50:40+00:00

When a woman is sexually attracted to a man she makes EVERYTHING easy. They’re very cooperative & easily follow your lead. Rom Wills talks about finding your tribe. Once you know who you attract, you can approach less & get better results.

BrycePrestonHayes · 2025-06-06T20:44:45+00:00

Women who are interested in you probably won't approach you because they're just as afraid of rejection as men are, even more so.

If a girl puts herself out there and gets denied, it really destroys their ego.

By "making it easy", they're referring to everything that happens after you make your introduction; they WANT to give you their phone number, they text back quickly, they agree to whatever your date ideas are, they don't reject your kiss, they look forward to going to bed with you.

Here's what an uninterested woman looks like; she offers you her Snapchat or Instagram instead of her phone number, leaves your messages on Read or responds several hours/days later, is unwilling to go on casual/inexpensive dates (wants dinners, to be courted), rejects kisses, makes you "wait" for sex on a different date.

Imagine your friend group. There's probably a handful of guys who, if they invite you somewhere, you'd be willing to go at a moment's notice. There's also probably a handful of guys you'd probably make excuses to because you don't REALLY wanna hang out with them.

The same applies to dating.

Revolutionary-Week19 · 2025-06-07T04:17:41+00:00

If she is making it difficult for you then you are probably in line

DreamShort3109 · 2025-06-06T19:21:58+00:00

Are you kidding? If she likes you she’s going to play hard to get or drop impossible hints. If she likes you, it’s going to be hard.

Ancient_Staff5183 · 2025-06-06T20:04:54+00:00

ive had women approach me, or drive hours to see me and im not that good looking either. they will 100 percent make it easy if they like you

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-07T06:25:39+00:00

What that quote means is that escalation on your end will feel smooth and easy, and she will help with the escalation process. But you, still need to know how to escalate without losing her interest, and she will mke it "easy" if you know how to do so.

Title	“If she likes you she’ll make it easy” isnt always true is it?
Author	Shieldless_One
Upvotes	194
Comments	81
Date	June 6, 2025 4:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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