This is response to another question earlier today and I feel this needs to be said explicitly. It is not cute or reassuring if a man tells you he’s in therapy early on. Do I think therapy is bad? No. Do I think everyone needs to be in therapy? Yes. But 90% (this is a generous number) of men are lv and will not change no matter how many hours of therapy they get.

There have actually been studies and articles written saying therapy is only helpful to people with a good sense of self awareness. Therapy does not work with abusers, narcissists, sociopaths, or psychopaths. It just gives them a better understanding of how to shield their flaws in pretty psych jargon.

In addition, most men have sociopathic, narcissistic, and abusive tendencies. Do not give them the benefit of the doubt. A man going to therapy is not a green flag. Him telling you he’s going to therapy is not a green flag. LVM have just learned to mask better by pretending to be the emotionally intelligent self aware male that’s in touch with his emotions.

An HVM would not have these conversations early on either because an hv trait is discretion. Why would you tell a stranger this kind of information? Yes a month or less still means you’re in the stranger realm. Run from men like this because they have ulterior motives and are probably planning to use therapy as a get out of jail free card to treat you however they please.