This is all you guys argue about here, yet somehow act oblivious when you are told like it is. The thread I made about revenge fantasies yesterday really highlighted this. Men often say that the league that women are at is who they can get to commit to them. In my thread I talked about my friend who is 29 year old single mom, with a 4 year old kid and who works at a grocery store without a higher level degree of any kind. She dating a 30 year old lawyer who is tall and attractive without any kids. All while she is chubby and conventionally unattractive by societal standards. She would be considered below average in terms of everything. That was a relationship that lasted for a year.

I want to reiterate that doing and being the following: Decent height with a good education, good job, dressing well, great shape from consistely going to the gym, good grooming habits and consistent haircuts, friends, hobbies, personality. All of these things are the bare minimum and because you have these, does not qualify you for someone who has the same things.

If you have all of these and all you are finding in the dating world are jobless and overweight single moms for example, then that is your league. You may not like it because you are so focused on what you have achieved and what you deserve in turn, but that's not how it works. The "bottom of the barrel" in dating that you guys mention, such as fat women, old women, single moms and all of that. They can consistently and without a problem get someone who is way better than the man who did all those bare minimum things which I mentioned.

If you think about this logically for one second. A lot of you are so dumbfounded that someone who has achieved all of these things that I mentioned in the example of the man, getting matched with fat and old single moms. Why do you think that they swipe right on you guys? Because you are who they are accustomed to dating, I.E their league. To further show my example:

Sarah: PhD, great job, home owner, no kids, hobbies, personality, friend circle, average looking and slim.

John: PhD, great job, home owner, no kids, hobbies, personality, friend circle, decent looking with a good height and okay body from actively going to the gym.

Looking at these two, for some reason there is the assumption that: Well, based on this information they seem kind of matched. Similar level education, job, looks and so on and so forth. No. Sarah is higher value and able to qualify for a much better partner. Now let's bring is Jessica.

Jessica: No education after highschool, not the best job, 1-2 friends, okay personality, not many hobbies, below average and chubby. Jessica is more valuable and able to get a better partner than John. Comparing everything means nothing at the end of the day. My perspective is from Sweden but all my women friends are able to secure relationships with tall and attractive doctors and lawyers, regardless of the fact that many of them would be deemed "low value" in every sense of the word. Whether that be old, fat, single mothers, broke, unattractive, it really does not matter. When you matching with and getting dates with these types of women, there is no point in going online and complaining about how low value they are and what you deserve. They can all do much better than you, regardless of your percieved "status". If you only knew the type of men that the shortest, most obese, below average looking woman is able to secure relationships with. It's easy.

You are not above anyone, regardless of what you have built. You may not like it, but these are the options that you are presented with. If you are interested in someone who you deem "average", then you need to work WAY harder than just achieving these bare minimum things. Travel, spend more time at the gym, read more and further your career. There are millions of you and you are replaceable with as simle as a swipe. A lot of you are just in denial, even though deep down you know this. You talk about it every day on here.