I will preface this by saying no, not every man does this and being older doesn't automatically mean that you automatically have more options or access to dating younger women.

Ignoring the entire biology aspect. I think that the common complaint that I see from women in their 30s and 40s who say that every man on dating apps is just interested in sleeping around and not committing, them aiming for younger women and just overall having their dating status as looking for something casual / short term. I think that all of these things tie together in a way.

Women have an inherent value from the beginning. They get to enjoy dating and all the perks that come with it for them from an early age. My friend group is split fairly 50/50 with both men and women. During my late teens and early 20s it was the women who were constantly talking about new guys they were seeing, relationships and all of that. I have one guy friend who is very attractiive and I guess that he is the only one who could really be compared to them in what they were able to do and experience. Other than that most of the guys were either not dating at all or scored one relationships that lasted for a while.

I think that by the time that we get into our late 20s, 30s and 40s, women will have almost gotten burnt out from dating. They have done everything and gotten most of what they wanted out of their system. So naturally some will choose to just look for a relationship at this point.

When we talk about the age gap, people tend to mention the problem with it being that the two people dating are at completely different stages in their lives. No matter what, a woman and a mans experience in dating will be vastly different. If you have a man and a woman at 30 for example. The man has maybe had 1 or 2 relationships and not really much else, whereas the woman has had 10 relationships, had her phase of casual dating and all of that. Would this really be considered the "same stage" regardless of the fact that they are the same age? Wouldn't this man statistically have a better shot at aiming for someone who is younger in order to find someone who has similar relationship experience?

The second part that I will go over is the fact that there seem to be an issue with men wanting to commit in their 30s-40s. Can they really be blamed for this? Since a lot of men have to actually build their value which can take a long time, wouldn't it naturally make sense for them not to settle down after having invested so much effort into getting to the point where they want to get? What women got to experience from 18 and up, the casual dating and all of that, wouldn't it just be natural for men to also want to experience that? Especially if they had to sit on the sidelines most of the time when they were growing up?

This may be common sense but I never understood why these two things are constantly talked about. It really feels like a case of "I got mine, but you can't have yours".