Is Chad the only one getting casual sex ?

C4yourshelf · 2022-02-26T13:01:37+00:00

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Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2022-02-26T13:05:43+00:00

I've only had casual one time and I think any guy who would have sat with her and drank that particular night would have got the same.

It's more common if you have a lot of obviously attractive qualities, but ugly guys and gals have casual too. It's a big luck factor because you have to catch a woman at a very particular time, she has to be the one looking for a goodnight, you won't get it on your own terms that often even if you think you do.

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EugeneCezanne · 2022-02-26T16:09:14+00:00

Average guys get casual sex. Maybe not as often as they want—ultimately, many times their frustration of going home alone stands out more than their occasionally success.

The internet oversamples malcontents.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-02-26T13:12:13+00:00

Average men can get occasional casual sex, depending on how sociable they are. For consistent casual sex, you need to be all of the above: sociable and good looking / high status.

BATTERY__AZIZ · 2022-02-26T12:47:16+00:00

How high is the bar for casual sex ? Is it impossible for average men to get casual sex ?

There are two completely different universes:

Who do women throw themselves at with Tinder, online dating, one night stands from a guy they just met at a club - average guys don't stand a chance. Chad and Chad alone.

Then there's the real world where an average guy gets to know a girl at work or school or some other activity. Average guy has a chance here if he can win her over in other ways. Most women who met their LTR in the real world would not have swiped on them if they had an online dating profile

Matt_Door · 2022-02-26T12:51:41+00:00

The party and drug crowd have all the casual sex. Oh, and the arts community can be pretty hedonistic, every actor is fucking every other actor it seems. Looks are less relevant to having drugs and being very outgoing and social.

Seventhson65 · 2022-02-26T15:30:32+00:00

The best sex I ever had was by myself

Fact

prettymuchredpilled · 2022-02-26T21:26:39+00:00

Chad is the only one effortlessly getting casual sex from 7/10+ women. Average men shouldn't have a problem getting casual sex in the 4~5/10 range, but beyond that they're going to have to put in effort. Male competition for a female grows exponentially as her attractiveness rises.

TheJim66 · 2022-02-26T12:20:10+00:00

No. Looks aren't the only factor that matters for female sexuality. Status and game are also important. But you do need to be a top 20% man when it comes to these factors to get casual sex consistently and without going exclusively for half unconscious drunk girls.

afkawayrn · 2022-02-26T12:36:17+00:00

I’d say my looks are 20% of my factor of getting casual sex. I don’t OLD, so when I go out to one of my regular bars or clubs, I feel like what draws new girls in that I end up sleeping with, is because I know their friend group, we are all drinking together, usually I’m the guy who buys the bottle because I have the most income, girls will see I’m the one paying for everything, throwing money etc, they are instantly more attracted and you can see it like it’s candy in their face. Don’t get me wrong I look good too, 6 foot, good body, but they aren’t all over my from the start, i always have to be introduced first by some other girl-friends, and they see the money. Also shoe game is huge, along wirh clothes these days. Now this scenario is only accurate for someone like me who lives in a big city with a big nightlife. A college town player or someone in a small town would have completely different experiences.

kyjolski · 2022-02-27T13:08:53+00:00

I guess I'm never at the right place at the right time then.

Unfortunately, I'm the kind of guy considered 'boyfriend material'. Even chicks who use tinder to fuck around want to try to force me into commitment/chasing them by withholding sex. I don't, so it goes nowhere.

Classic_Head3437 · 2022-02-26T15:38:57+00:00

Step outside. Average people have relationships and sex all the time.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-02-26T14:45:19+00:00

I don't know I haven't seen him since high school

Christian_Kong · 2022-02-26T19:04:57+00:00

No, but this category (Chad/players/etc) are most likely getting 90%-95% or so of it. This is for a lot of reasons though.

goodpuffin · 2022-02-27T02:27:46+00:00

My ex, who was unemployed at the time, managed to have sex with three different very attractive women that lived at our apartment complex in the two weeks between us breaking up and me finding a new place, so I’d say it’s possible!

128903 · 2022-02-27T11:56:02+00:00

My social circle is average to below average looking men and women. When we were younger, single and free. We used to go at each other like rabbits. Even though the better looking fit guys where getting the most action. Even the worst looking guy with someone social and a little bit of game where getting action from women at their level

Bandit174 · 2022-02-26T13:40:25+00:00

I ask this because the 2 times I had casual sex (ONS) the guys were average, it was more about them being at the right place,

Well some womens definition of average is 6'4 West Elm Caleb.

That said, no I don't think only Chad has casual sex but I do think less attractive guys need to rely more on dumpster diving and women being drunk. I do also think the distribution of casual sex is more skewed for men than for women. So no Chad won't be the only one having casual sex but the amount of casual sex being had will be more concentrated among the more attractive men meanwhile for women it will be more of an even spread across attractiveness teirs with arguably women in the 5 -6 range having the most casual sex.

Ultimately men's options for casual sex are limited by their looks more than women's are and the % of men who meet women's standards for casual sex will be smaller than the % of women who meet men's standards for casual sex.

Habil13 · 2022-02-26T16:27:17+00:00

I’m 19 with an N-count of 11. I’ve posted pictures of myself before on this subreddit, and most people agreed I looked like a regular person off the street. Nothing remarkable.

My experience is that most men are just as risk aversive as women and they fear rejection just as much. If you want to have casual sex as a man, you have to be willing to take chances, and most people I’ve come across, just aren’t.

Chad is just willing to take more risk, which gets him results.

silveryspoons · 2022-02-26T12:16:22+00:00

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KirthWGersen · 2022-02-26T13:32:19+00:00

The more handsome and charming you are, the better your odds, but 90% of men can get casual sex if they put in the work (going where the women are, talking to a sufficient number to finally find what you want).

Once you have learned how to make the most of your niche, it is simply a question of whether or not the effort is worth it to you.

The way people talk about Chads on here... They would not believe the men I have seen who have been very successful at getting casual sex with below average attractiveness. But they learned what women respond well to and put in the effort.

I have also seen tall handsome guys who rarely have sex because they never learned the necessary social skills, did not like drinking, etc.

AdorableDictator · 2022-02-27T02:06:09+00:00

These guys are not lying. I’m not married to a head turner (he is good looking, but not a head turner) and we started out with casual sex.

In fact I don’t think I’ve ever slept with someone I would consider a chad 🤷‍♀️

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nedinator3000 · 2022-02-26T13:53:11+00:00

No way. Unless I’m chad which I’m sure I’m not.

Guys don’t like to hear that confidence matters.

Also they buy into all this modern dating equality nonsense that is unattractive to women EVEN-THOUGH they’re the ones who push it.

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Regular-Ambassador-3 · 2022-02-26T14:40:58+00:00

Average guys can have casual sex too it just takes a more effort, rejection, and lowering standards.Most of them just don’t think the juice is worth the squeeze.

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PMmeareasontolive · 2022-02-26T15:46:21+00:00

lol you ask how hard it is to get laid then at the end say the question isn't for those struggling to get laid.

SoftwareHumble990 · 2022-02-26T18:25:28+00:00

I get so many matches on dating apps. Hundreds, and with legitimately hot girls. But they want relationships, not casual sex. Meanwhile, there are other guys who can get casual sex with the same girls. Does that make me like top 5%?

I imagine most guys aren't getting the dating opportunities I am getting, but there's clearly another tier above me that doesn't have to offer multiple legit dates to get laid. And I think the bar for casual sex is pretty high, at least for the tier of girls I interact with. I went to private schools my whole life and then Ivy league universities, funny, good looking, high paying job. Then again I'm only 5'8" which prob holds me back a bit.

The majority of women I could probably get casual sex with, but so what? The average woman is like 170+ pounds and is dumb. I just have no interest in women that I'm not attracted to, regardless of how "easy" it'll be

iamthemovie1992 · 2022-02-26T19:15:24+00:00

Chad is having most of the casual sex and it’s a big big majority of it, but not all of it. For anyone that isn’t Chad, you have to be literally perfect in every other way for it to happen, and be in the right place at the right time. It’s not consistent in the slightest, and at many times you’ll wait months or even years in between a hookup. Some of these men never even get one in their lives because they just never meet one of those small pool of women who are going to be willing to hookup with them.

I think if average guys are telling you they’re getting laid, there’s possibly some truth to it, but it happens rarely for them (probably less than what they say, men like to up their numbers a lot of the time), or they could be scraping the bottom of the bottom of the barrel for it too. I’m not saying it isn’t happening for them, but there’s probably some embellishment on their end.

goochiegg · 2022-02-26T19:53:11+00:00

Average guys can probably get something. They'd just would have to get rejected alot and go for bottom of the barrel girls . Even then they'll still rejecy you, and he's not gonna slay with a bunch of girls in his league. Chad gets sex with the hot girls he wants

drew8311 · 2022-02-26T21:12:18+00:00

Of course not, Chad is just the one who gets it the easiest and from better looking women. It's the difference between Chad racking up a bunch of potentials then having sex with the one he likes the most. A higher value guy who isn't quite Chad can talk to a bunch of potentials with mixed results, at least one will have sex with him and possibly decent looking. The end result might be the same amount of casual sex but Chad turned down women in the process, even ones he would be interested in but had to make tough choices to narrow it down.

ManGoneNoWay · 2022-02-26T21:21:17+00:00

No, most men I know have had at least one casual encounter/relationship. The men who have the most casual sex are hot, or charismatic, or try really hard, or very social, etc.

painfurouartacc · 2022-02-27T00:55:48+00:00

chad as an idea only exists because people can't comprehend the idea of being outdone by an average or ugly guy (or even an attractive feminine guy, lol) so they need to cope

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User1701d · 2022-02-27T06:31:30+00:00

Take it from a depraved disgusting man such as myself, if you want to get laid, just have absolutely zero standards and it’s easy.

I’m also very self loathing with a dash of impulsive self destructive tendencies soooooo take what I have to say with a grain of salt. But hey I get laid whenever I want so /shrug

masochisticanalwhore · 2022-03-01T02:27:12+00:00

No!!!! I almost exclusively date nerds, old metalheads/punks, and the random alcoholic tradie. Hardly chads.

YveisGrey · 2022-03-03T23:31:34+00:00

Casual sex for men is definitely more about being at the right place at the right time, that is if the dude is average or above average. Below average guys probably don’t have much of a chance if any.

JohnOnAWall1 · 2022-03-04T02:43:05+00:00

No lol. There are plenty of nasty women out there if you wanna get laid. The con is that they're nasty.

Title	Is Chad the only one getting casual sex ?
Author	DXBrigade
Upvotes	27
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Date	February 26, 2022 12:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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