"Status" is probably the most overblown and ambiguous RP concept for attracting women.

MAGA-Latino · 2022-09-04T13:15:28+00:00

I disagree. There's a million ways to have status. You just have to find a niche that works for you.

I used to hangout in the arcades when I was a kid. I had a friend that was the best at street fighter. I mean nobody could beat him. In the days before online gaming guys used to hear about him and come from far away to play against him. The few girls at the arcade were all over him because of that. Anywhere else he probably couldn't get a date to save his life.

I remember a time where I had plenty of status. I used to work as a FedEx driver in Manhattan. After work me and my coworker used to hit up a bar nearby. Turns out that we usually knew everyone there because we went to all the offices in the area. So we had all the status in that bar because we were the most popular.

I also currently make sure that I have the highest status by still living in my old hood even though I could afford to live somewhere better now. The reason I don't leave is because I have more money than most guys here. So that makes my the highest status man around. Also makes me a target but that's another story.

SilentFroggy · 2022-09-04T14:42:37+00:00

Women like to be around the winners. Wether the winners are cruel or not.

techr0nin · 2022-09-04T15:03:29+00:00

Status in essence is social capital — power, influence, and connections within a social group. Money is a good proxy for status, but it doesn’t inherently confer status in and of itself. Money can strongly imply status when shown and can create status when spent.

To maintain status across most of the population is extremely difficult and likely unobtainable for most men. But the population can be sub-divided into increasingly smaller groups and more specific niches, and you can just focus on being high status within a small niche.

mrcs84usn · 2022-09-04T13:18:55+00:00

Status is relative. If you’re in a leader position at work, you have that status amongst your coworkers. You don’t necessarily have it anywhere else, unless you have a prestigious/respected job.

Being the captain of the football team, or the class president are forms of status within your school that would not necessarily be all that appealing to students at another school.

17milestoempty · 2022-09-04T13:10:53+00:00

I literally don’t even know what status is. I can assume it just means like, looks like he’s rich, like drives a nice car or wears an expensive watch.

I couldn’t tell you if any of the men I dated had true “status” or not or ever heard my female friends gush about a man’s “status.”

Women want men who they’re attracted to who treat them well. Women will eat cheap noodle cups sitting on the floor because he doesn’t have any furniture with the right man.

LotBuilder · 2022-09-04T19:19:43+00:00

I suspect you are young. As you get older status is clearer and easier to understand.

I’ll give a recent example. I recently gave a presentation at a real estate conference with 5000+ attendees. There were 2000’ish people in the room for my break outs. I made one joke about being divorced and related a sales process to dating. 316 people connected with my on social media during or shortly after the presentation. 200 were women. 39 were young attractive women. Young being under 35. 17 were suggesting we meet for drinks or at one of the after parties. They were pretty clear they were DTF. I brought a girl I am casually dating so I didn’t take them up on it but at other events I have. You can have status within your small niche, you don’t need to be Drake to get laid from your status. I’ve posted in here before that I have a friend that is a runner. He was a high level college runner but not Olympic level. He teaches and coaches at a HS but within the local running community he is very high status. He hosts a meet up group and organizes training runs. He is regularly seeing attractive 21-26 year old current and former college runners. He is 43, 5’6 and maybe 145 lbs and he makes under 6 figures as a Hs teacher… but he kills it with the women in a certain niche. At a night club he would not have had a prayer but within his niche he had young hotties coming after him.

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2022-09-04T13:05:29+00:00

if an unattractive man withouth status gets status he is still unattractive...but with status.

And that doesnt means he cant get attention or relationships or sex, he abosolutely can, but none of them will be genuine.

Salt_Mathematician24 · 2022-09-04T14:19:06+00:00

Having status just means you have something impressive and interesting to other people, but not necessarily all people. People are fasicnated by those that excel at their craft, have a lot of confidence or self discipline etc and feel if they spend time around them it will might rub off on them.

Since women's sexuality has been repressed for so long and men aren't really socialized to be visually beautiful or ooze sex appeal, they look for other attractive qualities in men and what you would label "status" just happens to be something that is universally attractive to people.

szclimber · 2022-09-04T14:01:19+00:00

I agree in some ways. Certain professions women find more attractive than others. Looks are the most important though. Women assign all sorts of positive things to good looking men that may not be true.

supershotmd · 2022-09-04T15:33:23+00:00

I don't think it's overblown. It's just that nothing is as important as good looks and charisma. If you start your first day as a neurosurgeon at a community hospital you'll probably get a lot of interest from women initially - but if you're a chubby Indian dude with a serious demeanor - it'll be gone by day 2. And your muscular surgical tech who makes 10% of your salary but flirts with all the girls will beat you for female attention (especially with younger hotter women).

Gigamon2014 · 2022-09-04T17:08:13+00:00

Why do so many of you idiots who clearly know fuck all about basic human behavior try to lecture on what tenets of whatever pill you want to dissect make sense or not?

You're lecturing on status and looks when you clearly have fuck all of either. There are certain venues and stores that I can't even venture anywhere near until the bouncer has looked me up and down and determined I'm in the just the right amount of gaudy designer bullshit to convince him that my existence is worth a damn. Too many of you are framing conversations from the loser incel, redpillers and blue haired female uggo redditors that you spend all day arguing with. There is a certain caliber of woman who wont even look at you twice unless you carry the requisite social status or markers of wealth/class. I mean, I'm from London. I would love someone to venture down to areas like Chelsea, Knightsbridge, Notting Hill or even Clapham and tell me status doesn't matter.

Also, I'm assuming a lot of you are young. I'm at the point where I'm clearing at least $10k a month in my bank account. At this point, you really stop caring how women perceive your status.

PMmeareasontolive · 2022-09-04T16:01:08+00:00

You're talking about high status helping you, but being low status can likewise hurt you. I'm an office temp and I work at a lot of different locations. Sometimes people will come into an office and think I'm the manager. When they think that they greet me with warmth and friendliness. After I introduce them to the real manager and go back to my cubicle, those same people won't acknowledge me again.

Status is always being assessed by everyone unless you've completely checked out of society.

hungrychick404 · 2022-09-04T16:59:03+00:00

I’m a little on the younger side, so I don’t know if this impacts things, but my friends my age generally seem to choose significant others based on similar interests mainly and then choose hookups based on attraction/flirting skills. I have a friend who has casual sex with a dude who I considered to be pretty unattractive just because he was very charming and continues because he’s good in bed and makes her feel attractive. Status usually has less to do with it, but if a dude’s friends don’t seem to respect him, then that can be a turn off.

ruboyuri · 2022-09-04T17:03:41+00:00

As with anything, if you’re loved for it, you’d better hold on to it

RealNiceLady · 2022-09-04T17:33:32+00:00

Nobody writes Mark Zuckerberg love letters because he's married.

Raspskallion_Pancak3 · 2022-09-04T18:07:31+00:00

It depends. In NYC there were lots of men who were low-level workers at scouting/fashion agencies or something (in LA maybe this would be music production) who could talk themselves up enough to make a fairly naive woman think they had importance. This wouldn't work on the top tier of women, but it had some rates of success with pretty, gullible ones. "Music producer" seems to be the big one, like every coffee gopher to happened to see Kanye's car in the parking lot once was suddenly a big shot.

My roommate was a lower-level model and tended to fall for this. She ended up with some guy who had produced what he called the first Hasidic rapper. I dunno, shit's weird.

bunnakay · 2022-09-04T16:12:04+00:00

Status is something high school kids care about...maybe college kids, too.

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Mav-Killed-Goose · 2022-09-04T17:38:36+00:00

Some types of status matter more than others. A simple heuristic is commanding attention. A local club comic who kills will get female attention, but so will the business leader giving a talk on how to own and run daycares.

The problem with status is that it's non-scalable. Each person you pass on a status hierarchy displaces someone else. If we just create more hobbies/interests/hierarchies, some will be prized over others.

festethefoole1 · 2022-09-05T20:18:42+00:00

Recently I’ve held a few parties in my flat in Clapham, south London. I own the place and we’ve had about 20-25 people over. Successfully banged two of the girls at one each. Having the status of being the host is a massive boon.

carritotaquito · 2022-09-04T18:04:04+00:00

I couldn't care less about status.

A man's social position isn't going to make me have an orgasm.

beidameil · 2022-09-04T15:16:39+00:00

Status is actually the most important thing BUT status does not mean having a 6 figure income, ferrari and a mansion. Status means you are the bad boy with hundreds of FB friends and instagram followers. You are the one people are high fiving and girls are gossiping about. That is status. No amount of money can buy that.

AreOut · 2022-09-04T17:48:06+00:00

"I think it's relevant because there's probably a 16-year old somewhere reading RP shit and thinking that making more money or building up their career will get them laid."

the chance of success is not 100% so it's not a guarantee that he will be laid but it will significantly improve his chances

Caring_Cactus · 2022-09-04T21:13:08+00:00

Mark Zuckerberg has kids and a wife lol, terrible example. If you can make someone feel something emotional, then that about does it.

SaltBurnsWhenHot · 2022-09-04T21:43:28+00:00

Even when you have status, if you are ugly, then you are screwed and just should give up on dating, only focusing on yourself. Dating is absolute garbage now these days, which is why I've taken the blackpill.

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2022-09-04T22:48:40+00:00

Going to disagree, OP.

Status, after one's genetic gifts, is probably the #1 factor at play.

Unpopular men aren't fighting women off.

Nihi1986 · 2022-09-05T03:01:33+00:00

Status... certainly an ambiguous concept.

The status that interests women is not necessarily the status which would be respected or appreciated by other men.

You being a damn good player of whatever video game doesn't make you hotter. Your friends playing the same game might value it, they respect your skill, you are living legend for most competitive players in that game...but you aren't making money because it's not the trendy game and because you just love playing and didn't even think on a way of making money. Same with sports if you are the best in town but a nobody at national level.

Now, you are the boss and owner of a relatively succesful business, not top 20% or anything like that, just a business which makes good money, is a good reference in the field, well known at a local level and has some people working in the company, like 300 employees, nothing crazy. Now that's a lot more attractive for her: you are known in town as a succesful man with decent money, relatively rich compared to most people there, you are the boss so you are leading 300 people,they respect you,they love you, they might even fear you...and your business is respectable, you aren't finding the cure for cancer but you aren't selling burgers. If she dates you she might even get a good job at your company, and of course the whole town will know her cause they know you well. And of course you aren't ugly as hell, you are average looking.

Useful status, not status anywhere just for the shake of having status.

Also, there's another kind of status which is popularity. Popularity is always helpful though it's more effective on younger people. If you are the guy who organize all those cool parties, the guy who everyone knows and likes, the one who leads the conversations and seems to be on top of that small and young social hierarchy, you are going to be perceived more attractive for the youngest girls.

And finally, something a lot more simple. A doctor. A status which grants you social value and very good money. You don't need to be a gold digger to want a doctor, just the status itself makes him more attractive.

domdomdom333 · 2022-09-05T10:00:09+00:00

I think you're stuck with the concept of status and what it means to have "status." All you're describing is some MTV new money rich Californian stereotype. Sure it's a status but just one kind.

Having a career is not "status" either, that's just having a career.

Let's say your dream girl is some piano musician that goes to plays classicals doing live music. Do you think she'll want to be seen around a guy who's known for not being able to pass basic education? A guy who can't participate in the social groups conversations and ideas?

Status merely means are you good enough that the other person wants to be seen around you with them. Having "good status" is a general umbrella term for acknowledgement socially, meeting a minimum standard for a specific society/group of people to not embarrass your SO who's introduced you to their world of people.

DXBrigade · 2022-09-05T11:27:54+00:00

Status is social validation. You don't have to be in top 5% to have status. Money is part of status but it's not everything. That's the reason you see educated women rejecting men with no college degrees even when they make money.

Chasing status is easier that chasing looks.

TATA456alawaife · 2022-09-05T15:45:58+00:00

The way I see it is any regular person can be a millionaire if they’re willing to sacrifice everything for it, and are a little tech savvy. So there’s not much status in that. But a multimillionaire? That’s some mysterious stuff because you gotta be a very important person to have that kind of wealth.

Title	"Status" is probably the most overblown and ambiguous RP concept for attracting women.
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