And I hate to say it, but it does seem to stem from women a bit more. It’s like no matter what study you point out that shows that men or women behave differently when it comes to X, Y, or Z, a very common response is “well actually, men do this too. We both do this.” I would argue this comes from an expectation that men and women behave similarly.

This is by all accounts a fallacy. First of all, if someone points out that women do X more than men, you can’t just say “but men do this too”. Since that’s not what is being argued. No one is usually arguing that all women do X and NO men do X. This is rarely the case.

Secondly, when there are clear physical differences between men and women, why would you EXPECT us to act similarly in every which way in the first place? I call this the expectation of equality bias. And it needs to be checked in all honesty. Perhaps people are hardwired to be biased in this sort of respect. But whether it’s hardwired or environmentally learned, it is not a valid form of argument. You can’t point to your intuition and expectation of wanting things to be equal and use that as evidence to say that both genders behave similarly.