EDIT: this is a cut and paste from a post at the m arr Iage sub that was posted today.

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I (29F) gave birth to our daughter 4 months ago. I’m still dealing with the saggy skin on my belly and not having much strength for the positions we used to do, i.e. I have no why but pregnancy turned my knees to shit and you might guess how that’s been a problem.

We were making out and I was touching him through his pants. He asked me to stop and I just sat up next to him and was very confused. He felt like he was forcing himself to do this, to touch me and he didn’t feel attracted to me.

I didn’t even know what to say because I’ve never experienced that with him. We’ve been married for 4 years. I told my older sister about it and she said that “even if that is true, what a shitty and unsupportive way to say it.” I feel weird trying to crucify him for his feelings or lack of them toward me, though.

I started working out again as soon as my doctor said it was okay. There were times when I wouldn’t even make it to the shower by myself after a workout and now...nothing (even if she is with my mom). Or I’d just walk by him after coming back from the basement (where our workout equipment is) and he’d slap my ass. Again, nothing.

About a month ago, I was on Victoria Secret’s website looking at lingerie, sent him a screenshot of some stuff and asked him to pick two. He asked me if I was sure that I was ready to wear lingerie again because of not having my pre-pregnancy body. I was sitting at my desk at work and had to talk myself out of crying because I had a meeting.

I don’t know how to fix this. I feel so frustrated. Beyond his lack of attraction to me, I feel inadequate.