Did Your Former Partner Suddenly Lose Weight And Focus On Their Appearance Before The Breakup?

Rollercoaster72 · 2023-08-17T12:19:20+00:00

She started to do a lot of sport and jogging, lost weight and said: I want to look good for my man.

Didn't know that man wasn't me. (Man = also husband in my language)

Big-Daddy-818 · 2023-08-17T12:51:09+00:00

Exactly this!

Lost weight and changed her fashion style to what I had been suggesting for years and bought new clothes.

Began to obsess with getting her hair back to the curly it was in her younger years. (The good old days)

Spent thousands on Invisalign and dental implants.

But, we both knew it was coming.

After all of the outward changes...she is just as repulsive as ever because she never worked on her personality.

I'm not bitter though.

Due-Ad4708 · 2023-08-17T12:21:35+00:00

After 23 years together, I saw that my ex-wife started the gym (never did before), I realized that I was f*cked.

rootron80 · 2023-08-17T13:30:07+00:00

Mine started buying more sexy clothes saying she wanted to boost her confidence in herself and that she never does anything for herself. Then used those clothes to show her boobs off everywhere and now she with a new man and I’m with my kids.

Duchesst · 2023-08-17T13:57:37+00:00

She tried to for a while, but that didn't last long. Too much effort i guess. These days she sees about as much daylight as a vampire and only leaves the bat-cave when she has to

ThePancakeStalker · 2023-08-17T14:00:48+00:00

No, but I did post break-up. I've lost 20lbs and have been hitting the gym pretty consistently.

DatabaseSpace · 2023-08-17T15:19:29+00:00

Yes. My ex wife absolutely did this. A few months before filing she started going to the gym a lot more. She always paid attention to her appearance, but she started caring a lot more. She also so infatuated with one of my friends that was 26. She was 38. She would bring him up in like every conversation. Then she started trying to go out to places where he would be on nights where she knew I wouldn't go out late or drink because I had to work the next day. At that point I put a stop to it.

I asked her if anything had happened with this guy and she said no. I said is something going to happen? She said "probably" and then "everyone has affairs".

Then she smear campaigned me to our friend group and even 3 years later a lot of them are like..oooh you. Some of them walk by me and completely ignore me if I see them in public. I'm like wtf did i ever do to you? I don't even give a fuck anymore though. The ex ran off with my previous best friend and now I am in good shape and I'm sure he is still a fat drunk.

Bluetoes1 · 2023-08-17T14:28:52+00:00

Yes she did, then after we separated and she moved in with the guy, she quit and gained it all back

Acrobatic_Access_905 · 2023-08-17T16:45:38+00:00

She stopped eating and kept bragging how much weight she'd lost. Thanks for the horrible reminder.

RideATX · 2023-08-17T18:11:38+00:00

She started going to yoga 5x a week during the day while the kids were in school, 4 hours total between getting ready, drive time, the class and showering and getting ready after. Then would complain she shouldn't have to work more than part time because she was so busy... Now that she HAS to work full time she doesn't have time for yoga and she's gained weight. They really do be like that.

azwildcat74 · 2023-08-17T13:13:04+00:00

Mine did not, she did, however, get invisalign for her already almost perfect teeth and I got to pay for that.

JohnnyMnemo · 2023-08-17T16:00:26+00:00

I myself lost weight and then found myself divorced a year later.

Was I subconsciously getting ready? Was my own weight loss a threat?

Hard to say, but there was a correlation.

A_StableGenius · 2023-08-17T17:39:56+00:00

Lost weight for a year and than gained it back.Still single.🤣

dkblue1 · 2023-08-17T18:31:55+00:00

Mine did because I signed us both up with a physical trainer 5 months before separating. I thought it would get her motivated to join me on my workouts 🙄

She did look good when we divorced and for several months after as she snuck around then became official with her new older man and moved in with him.

A year later, she was back to her dumpy self. That was 3 yrs ago, and when I saw her recently, I thought "no thanks."

She doesn't look as happy now as she did the first 6 months after divorce when she talked about being so happy that whole time. I briefly wonder if all is well in the new household, then quickly realize I don't really care 😂

Theedon · 2023-08-17T17:19:30+00:00

But she is now back to her normal self, and I like that version of her ALOT! It's danger zone territory for me. Hahaha

northdakotact · 2023-08-17T17:57:36+00:00

Mine did it, and now that she found another victim, put all of the weight back on and then some. They all do it.

Artistic-Trifle-555 · 2023-08-17T18:18:14+00:00

The problem with your poll question is it reads "potential new partner.". She already has a new partner and it ain't the husband. Wake up already

catter3423 · 2023-08-17T18:19:15+00:00

Not only that, but it was a guy at her gym that hit on her and got thoughts in her head I think. They aren’t really together but she talks to him because he gives her the “warm and fuzzies”.

Wasn’t the only thing that was straw that broke camels back on a 21 year partnership with 2 young kids.

7empest-247 · 2023-08-17T21:31:01+00:00

Nope...

She actually gained more weight...and continues to do so..

Last time I saw her..August 2nd..she appeared to of gained about 10 lbs in a month.. She didn't look...healthy..or well..

I know her boyfriend is fat..and they like to go out to eat quite frequently..plus a sedentary job and lifesyle..

I've been hitting the gym like a god damn savage though..

HereinPA1 · 2023-08-17T21:57:41+00:00

Just posted about this the other day, she took exercising to a whole new level coupled with her self discovery. There was no infidelity and she is still not dating. A lot going on in her head.

But, her body is just gross to me now. What was once perfectly proportioned is now shrunk due to the weight loss with muscles and loose skin in the wrong places. She looks good with clothes on, if you like thick veins running down her arms and bulging muscles, but boy when they come off sagging skin where it wasn’t before.

Not my deal anymore and I think of the next guy’s surprise when he first touches her once great boobs are now, as I call them, deflated skin sacks.

Crazy.

17throwaway-scorpio · 2023-08-17T16:07:51+00:00

Nah, she gain weight.

She likes yoga, but her work always got the best of her.

She did start seeing someone immediately after we filed for divorce. I could give less of a fuck, because we have gotten over each other for a while now.

No affection or intimacy for almost 2 years. We both were just extremely lonely people with the wrong person.

No matter what she does, I'm no longer attracted to her.

CaliDude75 · 2023-08-17T18:03:05+00:00

Not my ex, but I did. 🙂 Still have a ways to go, but more than 30 lbs down off my all-time peak weight.

Ok_Transition_4914 · 2023-08-17T18:15:01+00:00

Not so much losing weight, but a lot of physical and "spiritual" self-improvement.

It's possible it's for someone else, but given that she's not actually seeing the guy I think it was more of something that she did for herself as she started seeing less of a "we" and more of a "me."

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-08-17T23:02:00+00:00

No but I did lol lost 30 lbs

Doubledolla · 2023-08-18T01:32:41+00:00

Mine had more of a Veruca Salt approach. Working out would require...... well work. So 2 rounds of lipo and some high end fat drugs. I of course told her she was beautiful and we didn't have to do it this way. I was told it's not for you it's for me. Instant gratification for that one. But I want it now daddy. In hindsight, I should have seen the writing on the wall.

Ever-learning271 · 2023-08-18T04:28:03+00:00

My Ex Narc began working out w/weights (never did before) AFTER working at a gym, left that job & hired a trainer via I-net and continued to workout @ another gym all while we were still married then 3yrs later told me she needed space and got her own apt. 5mo later I find she is DMing some dude, I demand we divorce because I won’t tolerate cheating, and she proceeds to go on dating apps but 2days later… We were divorced 1yr later after 21 years of marriage, a 12 y/o son and 27years as “best friends” so I thought… Thanks for listening & sharing brothers!

kitterkatty · 2023-08-18T07:17:53+00:00

I think this is why my hubby preemptively left me tbh. (He came back after a few months but I think he’s still going to go that’s why I read here, to try to understand his perspective) I got in shape bc I had zero appetite and bc I wanted to get back to biking and gymnastics again but he thought it was for other reasons. 😞

rsmiley77 · 2023-08-18T11:48:03+00:00

I mean I guess in a way it happened. I voted no though. Weight loss is a hard no. Appearance would be a yes though. The ex was useless for a while with most household chores and if I didn't fold the clothes they weren't going to get folded. I started noticing a lot of see-through and other 'sexy' underwear being worn.

I think it is more likely that the one who is left will lose weight and focus on themselves. This is when you come out of a relationship on the 'left' side you probably had a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. You aren't good enough. You'll never find anyone else. You're fat. Whatever they say about you it's now a chance to correct that issue before finding your next partner.

Title	Did Your Former Partner Suddenly Lose Weight And Focus On Their Appearance Before The Breakup?
Author	MNCPA
Upvotes	11
Comments	42
Date	August 17, 2023 12:15 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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