As a man, when you're interacting with a woman, what is your biggest fear?

Aafan_Barbarro · 2023-09-26T19:53:14+00:00

I don't, but if I did:
Being laughed at
Being insulted
Being aggresively rejected
Being ignored
Being reported
Being recorded and shared on social networks

TheRedPillRipper · 2023-09-26T20:05:41+00:00

worst case scenario

Is always death. Realistically everything pales in comparison. So whilst it’s understandable to fear approaching, dating and interacting with women, one must keep that fear in perspective.

Godspeed and good luck!

scumbagscuba · 2023-09-26T20:50:58+00:00

That she accepts my offer for small talk and I have to stand there like a doofus for an indiscriminate amount of time

Recent_Wear5811 · 2023-09-26T22:25:59+00:00

False allegations such as rape, sexual or physical abuse.

jpla86 · 2023-09-26T20:06:18+00:00

I rarely interact with women outside of business transactions and/or customer service. I hardly communicate with them online.

If I did, I'm sure it would be a negative experience.

sine120 · 2023-09-26T20:39:22+00:00

Accusation of whatever misconduct. Even if the courts are still innocent until proven guilty, a lot of society does not care what the courts say nor wait for a verdict. With women I do not know that well or trust, I make sure I'm not in an isolated setting without a third party present.

lololololROFL · 2023-09-26T21:34:10+00:00

My biggest fear is making them uncomfortable, and having them think I'm a creep. I'm autistic, so I'm not the best at socializing, but I also have anxiety, so I have this fear constantly whenever I think about approaching women.

AceOfSpadesGymBro · 2023-09-26T20:37:58+00:00

That I will decide to sleep with her and she will be 1. Clingy and annoying 2. Terrible in bed.

caption291 · 2023-09-26T23:34:35+00:00

How do you define something that is realistic?

If a woman's chances of getting murdered/assaulted are high enouch to reach that threshold, then men's are too...but obviously that's a very dumb and pathetic way to answer a question like that.

I'm going to go with something that I think can realistically happen more than 50% of the time, so the answer would be minor psychological damage.

silverhippo15 · 2023-09-26T20:43:46+00:00

Coming up empty here. Maybe the threat of getting into a car accident when she's on the wheel?

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-09-26T20:46:15+00:00

She'll look at me like why tf is this guy talking to me or whenever I interact, she might be trying to ask me for something and never talk to me again afterwards.

macone235 · 2023-09-26T22:04:30+00:00

There's nothing for me to fear. I don't blindly trust women and put them on pedestals, so there's really nothing they can do short of stabbing me to cause me any sort of pain.

CradleCity · 2023-09-26T22:48:34+00:00

Interacting when it's in the romantic/dating/asking out realm:

Being shared on social media (regardless of how the interaction goes). Or even just getting photographed or filmed without my consent during said interaction. This is the worst case scenario, since there are better digital protections in the EU (that I'm part of), compared to the US, where there are many with a compulsion to film or photograph others and spread it around.

Spreading gossip with her friends (that tends to spread like wildfire, especially if the place I'm at is either small or very frequented by the same kinds of people I relate to on some level. In other words, fear of some kind of social ostracism/shunning that would essentially kick me out of a place I like being at.

Any other interactions:

No fear there. I had no trouble making women friends, and I have no trouble talking in a professional setting, I'm more at ease these days.

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-09-26T22:53:33+00:00

That she strings me along for 10-20 years and gets "bored" and divorces me.

fvckit88 · 2023-09-26T23:14:30+00:00

That she’s crazy.

TomKikkert · 2023-09-27T01:16:57+00:00

A woman’s world is ruled by fear, jealousy and self loathing. A man’s world is ruled by pride.

Fear is not an emotion that drives men, pride does. So anything a woman does maliciously to hurt a man’s pride causes real harm. As a woman, if you want to get hurt, you deliberately attack a man’s pride.

Every_Talk_6366 · 2023-09-27T04:33:07+00:00

Being drugged and killed. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/american-murder-tinder-date-colombia-b2227497.html

Given how easily female on male crimes slip under the radar, she probably wouldn't face any consequences.

I've experienced the drugged part back in college. Luckily managed to escape before things could get worse. Of course, nothing happened to this woman despite my complaints. So much for being tough on sexual assault.

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of crazy women out there who get by because no one suspects them of anything.

TroidMemer · 2023-09-26T20:05:51+00:00

Having her try to bully me I guess, but that never really happens

Warm_Gur8832 · 2023-09-26T20:49:06+00:00

Making her afraid and not realizing it.

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2023-09-26T20:54:11+00:00

Nothing? What is there to be afraid of?

TourAcrobatic3005 · 2023-09-26T21:19:28+00:00

That she’ll think I’m a creep/frightening her

WorthlessTrash772 · 2023-09-27T09:03:03+00:00

If a sub 5 like me even so much as glances at a female I’m going to get reported and have my life ruined.

ReplacementPasta · 2023-09-26T19:58:26+00:00

Nothing.

like what's the worst case scenario you realistically believe is going to happen to you?

Why would anything happen to me?

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ratboi34 · 2023-09-26T20:44:38+00:00

The biggest fear I have ever had with women, is rejecting women after a dating phase of around 2-4 months. It can end so brutally. Oh yeah, and also the fear of not being good enough.

harmonica2 · 2023-09-26T21:26:37+00:00

I have a gf but when I was single and even with her, I didn't really see anything because I reached the point where I didn't care and just said what I wanted to say.

canwegetanfinchat · 2023-09-26T22:02:28+00:00

My biggest fear would be wasting my time I guess.

AmphibianStunning763 · 2023-09-26T22:07:03+00:00

Not getting milky milky

Workaholiconew · 2023-09-26T22:44:08+00:00

Worst case scenario?

I am with a murderer and she is gonna kill me.

wtknight · 2023-09-26T23:09:23+00:00

The worst that has happened to me is basically being ignored by the woman. I've never had one of those cases where some woman accused me of being creepy like other men complain about. Still, it kind of hurts to be rejected like that when one can tell that all the woman is thinking is "I hope this guy goes away soon".

RX-HER0 · 2023-09-27T00:07:32+00:00

Nothing.

Why should I be afraid? Is she going to shoot me? No? Then there's little a man or woman could do to me, realistically.

Embarrassed-Tune9038 · 2023-09-27T00:19:22+00:00

The worst fear is a woman who chameleons or mirrors what she thinks I want in a woman, gets the relationship she wants, gets complacent and starts dropping the act. The things she did to earn me, stops.

At this point, if I end the relationship, she will badmouth me to all her friends, go to all the women I know and engage in social warfare to get revenge. And more.

If I stay in, I resent her and myself.

PrinceArchie · 2023-09-27T00:31:24+00:00

Realistically character assassination or false allegations. Both are terribly difficult to refute even if people know you. Lots of things seem plausible to people and if the woman is likable enough any little thing can lead others to false perceptions. I’ve had a few of these myself/witnessed a few first hand.

Some-Parsnip-1551 · 2023-09-27T00:41:13+00:00

Look at Russell Brand for more info.

ComfortableOk5003 · 2023-09-27T01:16:41+00:00

False accusations or public image being destroyed through bullshit.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-09-27T01:35:14+00:00

There's a couple that are always in the back of my head at least when initially meeting a girl:

The first is a false accusation of physical/sexual assault. I'm actually considering getting cameras put in my house.
The second is being set up, drugged, robbed and/or killed
Less so is character assassinations. I've noticed there are many women who will do this for absolutely no reason other than to make their lives more interesting.

abaxeron · 2023-09-27T02:08:33+00:00

My comment from the thread "Should men be expected to intervene when random women are in trouble?"

Learning the lesson took me only three cases of a woman "in distress" being in reality either a scammer, or a gang aimer.

So, the worst case scenario is she comes to me with a smile, within a minute or two starts shouting some pre-learned scenario (like I'm threatening her with abduction or something), and her partners in crime come out of shadows to beat the shit out of me and take away anything of value that I may have. Bystanders by that moment are fully convinced that I am in the wrong.

Forgottenshadowed · 2023-09-27T04:27:18+00:00

Being misread...

obviousredflag · 2023-09-27T07:45:18+00:00

That she sees through my facade straight to my weaknesses and does bring them up, not in a teasing and benevolent way that stimulates growht and openness/vulnerability, but in a hostile, destructive way with the aim to hurt me where i am most vulnerable.

testamentfan67 · 2023-09-27T07:45:31+00:00

That she will draw attention to us and make a big scene. Over something stupid.

Zevemty · 2023-09-27T08:14:30+00:00

I've had some interactions where women have seemed really bothered and annoyed by having to interact with me. And honestly I just don't like making people feel bad, so I tend to not interact with women.

And I'm also scared of false accusations. In today's post-metoo society allegations and social media campaigns can ruin a man's life, nobody cares about innocent until proven guilty anymore. So I tend to really make sure I don't bother or annoy any women, as long as I'm not on the bad side of any women then there's nobody to try to destroy my life.

Luckily I do decently on dating apps, the fact that women right-swipe me means they're interested and gives me their consent to hit on them. If I didn't do well on dating apps I would probably just not bother with women at all and become a monk.

asdf333aza · 2023-09-27T11:03:56+00:00

Being alone with them without cameras cause then they can lie and make up anything.

gopher_glitz · 2023-09-27T12:39:04+00:00

Misreading her and making a move only to be torn to pieces.

Ok_Smile_60 · 2023-09-27T13:00:32+00:00

Divorce

NonTakenNameThatIUse · 2023-09-27T16:09:04+00:00

Worst case scenario?

If she's normal, uncomfortable body language or verbalization of that discomfort

If she's a b*tch, social shame, or at least an attempt at it

If she's insane, hospital or death

Title	As a man, when you're interacting with a woman, what is your biggest fear?
Author	insaneclownpussay
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Comments	81
Date	September 26, 2023 3:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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