What blue pill advice do you think people choose to misinterpret?

wtknight · 2023-10-03T02:52:45+00:00

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Asatmaya · 2023-10-03T02:03:51+00:00

What blue pill advice do you think people choose to misinterpret?

"If your erection lasts more than 4 hours..."

wtknight · 2023-10-03T02:54:13+00:00

I don't think that anybody "misinterprets" it. It's just that most of the people who do need helping probably are somewhere on the neurodivergence scale, and therefore they need better advice than what is being given to them. Neurotypical people assume "this worked for me, it should work for everybody", which is of course a wrong assumption.

AceOfSpadesGymBro · 2023-10-03T02:03:24+00:00

When you stop looking, they will come.

The reality is the more you chase people, the more you give your power away to them, the more they will reject you. The second you truly stop needing women and chasing them like their pussies are made of pure diamonds, the power shifts over to you. Of course, men who have convinced themselves that they cannot live without sex and love, find this advice extremely difficult to grasp.

ChevalierAuChocolat · 2023-10-03T10:07:48+00:00

I'm reading these comments and coming to the conclusion that bluepill advice is by neurotypicals for neurotypicals. People who don't really struggle with dating to begin with.

TotalTravesty · 2023-10-03T02:32:59+00:00

It’s not “blue pill advice” but at this point anyone who thinks “personality matters too” means “only personality matters” deserves to be confused and alone for the rest of their days.

ROBYoutube · 2023-10-03T02:12:57+00:00

'Just be yourself bro'

When you are communicating with a woman you are either yourself (blue pill), pretending to be an internet loser's idea of an interesting person using guides, lines and strategies (red pill), or at home, online, and complaining (black pill).

Now, red pill shit can work on some women. But eventually, after sex, you stop being an entertainer and start being yourself. And she leaves.

'How dare I sell her Mr. Entertainment and when I reveal I'm just a sad racist she leaves! Bitches!'.

Mmhmm. When talking to women I sell them nothing but me. Flaws, and terrible humour included. Some insane women like it. And that rules.

So 'just be yourself bro' essentially means the time for changing yourself is over, you're talking to her now. Work on yourself some other time. Oh and don't be a pickup artist.

'Looks aren't everything'

Truuuuuuu. Look, you can believe it or not, but as a fat old guy I'm better at connecting with women than when I was boxing competitively in my mid 20s. This wouldn't be true for some guys, but it's true for me, because my style of attempting to date women seems to works better when women aren't initially attracted to me. You know the feeling of anxiety when interacting with like the 'hottest' girls? Well, women get that too. But because of my superpower of being fat and old, women aren't getting that. They're just chilling with me. Then occasionally some of them will find themselves flirting with me and my fat ass now becomes a dad bod in their minds and a few of them will be dragging me into their house soon. But that's just me right?

Well there are studies, like one in particular I remember where women started with a 'perfect' looking imaginary guy, and then traded 'looks' points for character traits. Hey I also remember the thing women would trade the most for: 'an easy going personality'. And man, I could type for hours about that being insanely true but I'll spare you.

I just have to support that looks aren't everything. They're not. But they're not nothing. Attractiveness is subjective. The women who have found me attractive have ranged from what you'd call a 1 to a 10. You literally can't be a person that is attractive to every '10'. Some just will not be interested even if you're Ryan Gosling. And some will be even if you're an incel. I swear. Not many, but some will. You'll have to go outside to find most of them though. And you'll probably have to be a decent person which you might not be.

'Male personalities are attractive'

Sort of a sequel to the looks thing. Look, here's what I've personally observed: the closer I become to a soy infused bluepill leftist beta the more sexually successful I've become. I don't know what to tell you. Women seem to really like men who aren't weird misogynists who hate women online.

If I was a weird misogynist, I bet a woman would figure it out within 15 minutes of talking to me. You can't hide it. It's your fundamental attitude towards women. It will leak out. It will be recognised.

Similarly, women can also figure out I see women as flawed human beings just like me without me saying 'AND I'M A MALE FEMINIST'. It will just be apparent in the way I treat all women, regardless of perceived attractiveness. And women seem to really like it.

So, question, do you even really like women? If the answer is no, please stay the fuck away from women. And maybe try changing your personality before saying women don't count it. Note I said change, not pretend, not lie.

'Women like nice guys'

It's true. I swear to god. The more pleasant I am to be around, the more sexually successful I've become. Even though it's just my perception I'd defend it as a universal truth.

Now, 'bad boys' as a trope is baffling to me. In adult communities, loud, abrasive dipshits get taken care of. The men who are actually capable of domination will show him when his antics cross a line close to them. The trope of a 'bad boy' functionally doesn't exist in adult communities. That's not saying there aren't bad people. There are very bad people. But they don't act like this. Some women find the danger of genuinely bad men alluring. I wish them well. But the vast majority of those same women also like pleasant people too!

To conclude, women do like nice men. Not spineless lackeys, pleasant people. Don't get it confused.

iassureyouimreal · 2023-10-03T09:14:25+00:00

Reading all this I realize most blue pill people don’t understand red pill thinking

Firm_Shirt_2553 · 2023-10-03T02:34:56+00:00

“Be yourself/act natural”= be the best most socially acceptable but still you version of yourself. People like people who have a bit of character but are also functional adults.

And what if the most socially acceptable version of yourself still isn't enough? The be yourself advice only works for women because their biggest problem in dating is attracting people they want. If you are a man the biggest problem will be attracting someone at all. Beggars can't be choosers.

toasterchild · 2023-10-03T03:00:26+00:00

Don't objectify her. It means don't treat her as if her only value is her body, it doesn't mean treat her like a totally non sexual object.

It's possible to respect someone as a person but still want to fuck them.

TimeConstraints · 2023-10-03T04:03:59+00:00

Red Pill is uncompromising, inflexible.

A marriage won't survive that.

(M62, m.36yrs)

Zestyclose_Truth9999 · 2023-10-03T07:12:31+00:00

What blue pill advice do you think people choose to misinterpret?

Looks aren't everything.

Some gullible men misinterpret this as "women don't care about looks, bro", which sets them up for disappointment when they realise... (shocker!) most women also need to be sexually attracted to their partner.

Common sense would probably clue someone in that attraction is a two-way street, but there's exactly 0% of it floating around when people only hear what they want to hear.

Women like vulnerability.

Some see this as an invitation to trauma dump at the word go or launch into a thinly-veiled rant about women in general. Others have a rubbish taste in women and can't believe that the fake-titted, gold-digging narcissists that they selectively choose to date aren't taking care of them when they're feeling down.

They misinterpret this reluctance to provide comfort as proof that ALL women hate men being vulnerable, which isn't true. Actual female friends (not ones they hound for sex) and real girlfriends (not fuckbuddies they're paying for in free dinners/clothes/other handouts and have zero emotional connection to) will generally step up.

I have no issues with my partner or any male friends crying in front of me and I definitely don't think less of them for being vulnerable around me. Many women are the same, but it's downright foolish to expect the same of random people that don't know you or shallow women that are only with you for your money/status.

BoomTheBear86 · 2023-10-03T09:18:42+00:00

I think the principle issues with many blue pill pieces of advice is they require some nuance, common sense, intuition and versatile application.

A lot of the people seeking dating advice literally want answers. They want the cheat code for the girlfriend or boyfriend achievement. They want to know exactly what they need to do, how often and to what degree exactly so they can aim for it like a COD achievement.

The problem is this isn’t how stuff involving people works. Everything needs to be taken as a general principle around which you work rather than a given law of nature which will not bend.

So “be yourself” requires you to not be willfully obtuse and recognise whether “yourself” is actually someone people would want to hang around with. If not, you can’t just bluntly apply it without doing some work.

“Looks aren’t everything” doesn’t mean they don’t matter at all or aren’t important. It simply means that there is more to it than just appearing a certain way.

“Women like a good guy” doesn’t mean they like a guy who is literally “just good”. There are other attributes women will like to but being good is usually one of them. It also doesn’t mean they’re necessarily drawn to someone who appears to be “being good” in an obviously performative way.

Human interactions are nuanced and blurry. That’s life. No amount of trying to slap “objective rules” and frameworks onto it will change that. If you see blue pill advice as too wish washy or whatnot, that probably means your mindset is too fixed on specifics to actually work with the information it’s trying to convey.

Many people say “TRP is TBP for autistic men”. I don’t like that phrase. I honestly don’t believe most of TRP is autistic men. I think most are just desperate and want “easy mode solutions” to their situation and either can’t or won’t accept that there is no secret formula to dating that guarantees success.

Failure to accept the unpredictable and immeasurable does not mean pretending that it is predictable and measurable is a good idea. It just makes you look a bit nuts.

OpticalEpilepsy · 2023-10-03T03:24:10+00:00

That the high percentage of women in public that are with a boyfriend/husband, are with average and below average looking men is a myth. Some people inadvertently reveal that they never touch grass.

lolmastr13 · 2023-10-03T14:43:55+00:00

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Title	What blue pill advice do you think people choose to misinterpret?
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