I believe the best sexual achievement and metric of your sexual worth is taking a bunch of virginities.

Some people think the best metric is body count or similar, but I don’t think it is.

I’m interested in seeing another metric that might be better than this one as this view causes me personal distress. But I need a metric not some bullshit about metrics not mattering.

I think a potential rival metric is introducing people to new sexual acts over just sex itself. But I think that’s too easy to excel at among other problems I will explain later in a dedicated paragraph towards the end of the post.

I think it’s a good metric because it reflects being helpful and emotionally supportive to people.

This is reflected in the person I admire most who took 11 virginities.

The metric has a few quirks to it compared to body count as a metric

It biases towards early in your life, which is good because it properly represents how much harder it is early in life and rewards showing initiative. It is also zero sum where any increase in it your performance on the metric corresponds to a decrease for other people. The population is only so large so with it there’s a finite amount of virginities to take within your general age cohort. This means it is an effective measure of how much better you are than other people.

I say probably taking gay virginities counts too for people who have previously had only encounters with another sex.

I think with later sex partners it’s not as significant. You aren’t introducing people to stuff or helping them. It doesn’t represent being a supportive person or taking initiative or anything else good like that, it doesn’t represent meeting people irl nor does it represent other good things. Generally that just involves messaging people on dating apps and nothing more. I say you can easily have infinite sex partners without having any redeeming characteristics.

And theoretically just introducing people to new things sexually would count to this too, but I think you can cheat at this metric pretty easily because so many people are very vanilla. Like so many girls have never pegged anyone and so many boys have never done prostate play so I guess it’s kind of analogous. But I think it’s too easy to cheat at this metric and get 20 girls who have never pegged anyone before to peg you, and that’s a lot less impressive than just taking 20 or even 5 virginities. There’s also a non-finite number of sex acts so the metric is not zero-sum anymore and as a result it doesn’t intrinsically mean you are better than other people anymore.

Yes this view distresses me and I’m going to therapy for it next Thursday.