I see lots of commentary on how unfair dating is and how thing would be so much more fair if X person would give Y person a chance or if there was simply a way to pair with the optimal person then things would be so much better for X or Y person.

My question is this, what’s the plan once you finally get your optimal person. I didn’t say ideal because it seems that a lot of people are willing to concede some points. So what is the plan for the after? When you get in a relationship and it checks most of your boxes. Do you maintain the same cynicism or do you try your hardest to be optimistic that this thing has longevity?

Do you work hard to be caring, committed and engaging or do you work from a space of cautious distance to not get your heart broken.

I readily admit, at this point in my life, everyone is treated like the sting ray that killed Steve Irwin.

So what’s your plan?