I mostly meet women around dating apps and the dates are okay. Most go well but some are duds and I can feel it. But like even a date goes good, like I do all the kino naturally and flirt with her and she reciprocates pretty well then when I text her how she went home, they suddenly drop with the "I didn't feel the vibe" thing. What am I doing wrong? I'm so confused.

Edit: So the dates I mostly plan to go to cafes thar I know are very unique and I try to sit along side with thw girl. We mostly talk a lot about ourselves and then if I feel like we vibe well, I suggest to go to a bar and they mostly say yes. I try more kindo directly while drinking. Most I try to hold hands and if their reaction is not good, I back off but if they seem to be chill, I try to hold more longer. But like today, I hold hands for longer and she seemed happy then all of a sudden she hits me with a "no".