For most women, what kind of a human being a man is, his level of consciousness and so on are all secondary (if they even consider them). Their main interest is resources, which in many cases also takes the form of money, and on the initial dates, it takes the form of free food, like a man paying for dates.

One of the main reasons women seem obsessed with getting resources from men (if not the main reason) is because alot of the initial aspects of western civilization developed in cold, icy and harsh environments where resources were everything because they were tied to survival. This shaped not only women's but also men's psychology. Because of these conditions, women realised that their best chance of survival was being with a man who had resources. It wasn't about love or connection but about "can this man feed me and my kids through the winter?"

This kind of psychology became so ingrained that even now when women can work, be independent and even make more money than men, the vast majority of them still base attraction on resources and what a man can provide for them. The environment western civilization developed in made relationships transactional and the norm for women became "you provide, I survive", and nowadays it manifests as "His money is our money, my money is my money".

While the men who have noticed all this tend to become frustrated with women, and most women deny it and double down (I predict most will in the comments), it's important to remember that women basically can't help it. They're essentially acting out things that are the result of thousands of years of conditioning.