Most “nice guys” aren’t. A lot of men are trying to play off as a “nice guy” or “guy with a kind personality” when they actually aren’t. I see this exhibition in this subreddit where these guys are complaining about not getting relationships because all the girls go for “bad boys” or f boys.

There is this sense of entitlement. The “bad boys” usually aren’t the ones you see in movies like All American. Movies and irl experiences are completely different. The “bad boys” are deep down very self critical of everything they do. When you build discipline to do something like go to the gym and take care of your appearance, you are always thinking how you can make yourself better and these guys are always self critical. They aren’t the type to go up to go make fun of a fat person to their face. They might not want to date someone fat but they are extremely focused on themselves and their image. And also let’s say they are around the block, who is saying the women aren’t consenting to it? This is the issue I have with “nice guys”.

You are not entitled to anything. You haven’t put the work in and you believe you deserve something for “being nice”. It goes with people of any race and it starts with making it a problem on someone else. I’m not a perfect person myself but I’m always critical and questioning my own reality. I can do certain things better. Like if I’m on dates, I do get shy and it takes me some time to build up a convo or read her out and I can do better with that. You need to be questioning your own reality and you aren’t entitled to another person’s friendship or relationship. It is what it is but these same “nice guys” get mad at “bad boys” or “f bois” then they will blame anyone else but themselves. Also many of these nice guys that act a certain way to appease people don’t take accountability and even make their make their parents at a grown age do their chores.

This is just something I noticed based off how people talk in real life. You also need to have a niche. I personally can’t date a vegetarian or someone religious and that’s completely fine. Someone might not like my far left politics (a lot of ppl kinda like it) and that’s completely fine but no one should cater their whole persona to please someone. This is what “nice guys” are constantly doing while the “bad guy” or “f boi” are more clear about intentions. I just like to call this behavior out because it’s so doomer and defeatist. Men are struggling from all races right now and if you are in America, you have absolutely no excuse. Everything you do is self inflicted when it comes to making relationships. Also you need to understand your worth. You have to a male baddie to get a baddie yourself. It doesn’t work any other way.