Q4M: Do you find it possible for an attractive girl sexually harass you and make you feel uncomfortable?

JustAnotherDude1990 · 2019-06-23T18:30:05+00:00

Possible? Yes.

Likely to ever happen? Probably never.

Maybelowsmv · 2019-06-23T18:54:09+00:00

Is it possible for an attractive girl to make you feel uncomfortable, as a result of her acting in a certain sexual way?

When I was younger there were a few situations where I felt uncomfortable in the sense of "this is a lot of intensity all at once, what am I supposed to do with this?" especially if the girl was especially attractive.

I felt a lot of pressure to respond in "the right way", like am I supposed to reciprocate in equal intensity? Play it totally cool and aloof? Somewhere in the middle?

So strictly speaking it made me "uncomfortable", but not in the sense of being harassed but more like

What the fuck am I supposed to do?

TheJim66 · 2019-06-23T18:37:56+00:00

Nope, completely and utterly impossible.She could R-KO me in the face with her vagina and I would be perfectly fine with it.

indaknffr · 2019-06-23T19:25:38+00:00

If she was doing it because she's attracted to me, then probably not. But some girls, especially if she has a boyfriend, will get bored and miss the life of teasing guys. So if she has the attitude of "I'm attractive and you're a guy, so I can do anything I want and you'd like it", then that kind of behavior is unwanted.

mravek · 2019-06-23T19:42:02+00:00

Yup. Hot girl without me asking pulled partly down my t-shirt to check out my tattoos. Honestly, I didn't react anyhow cause I didn't even see it coming. It felt uncomfortable, but hey I'm a man and society thinks I should get over it and "grow some".

I wonder what would have happened if I pulled her bra in return, without asking her permission.

smashing_hashing · 2019-06-23T18:30:07+00:00

It would be almost impossible. I would probably draw the line somewhere around grabbing my junk in front of my boss.

concacanca · 2019-06-23T18:35:12+00:00

Yeah it's happened to me. She was a bit of an athlete groupie with a reputation of being easy. I was also hugely enamoured with her room mate and she was kinda talking me through it.

Barely-moral · 2019-06-23T18:49:48+00:00

Assuming I am single.

Possible, but extremely hard to do.

She would have to do something overt/not subtle at all and do it in front of my boss or potential bussiness partner, someone like that.

If I am alone/I don't care about how the image I am giving to the people around me then it is quite close to impossible... I can't imagine a sane person doing anything that would get me uncomfortable under those circumstances

CosmicBioHazard · 2019-06-23T19:32:24+00:00

I do think most men, myself included, give women more leeway than we ought to on the sexual harassment front.

I have felt uncomfortable (i.e. harassed) by that kind of behaviour before, but that usually comes when the going gets forceful. Realistically there’s a point where I’d go “this is by no means OK, but I’ll allow it because I may never feel this ‘wanted’ again” and another point at which I’d go “OK, NOW this has to stop.”

I think men spend so much time competing for attention that when you get it you don’t want to put an end to it for the sake of disciplining someone for acting inappropriately. In my case anyway, that’s a conflict between my principles and personal enjoyment, I think a lot of people would just outright treat them as one and the same (saying “It’s not harassment if he enjoys it”, or similar).

cxj · 2019-06-23T20:53:19+00:00

Yes absolutely, happened to me once driving Lyft. Worst ride ever, one bish puked in my car even though I gave her an emesis bag and tried to get it out the window and ruined my paint, then the other kept grabbing my crotch, calling me some other guys name and asking me to come inside. 8/10 easily, horrible behavior, I wanted a female friend to fight her for me .

It’s just so shitty because it’s virtually impossible to fight girls in any meaningful way

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-06-23T18:29:53+00:00

Yep. It is possible. Not fun although I hace never felt truly threatened

jonascf · 2019-06-23T19:01:49+00:00

Feeling harassed seems very unlikely, but it has happened once that a girl (an attractive one) made me slightly uncomfortable with her attention. But it might also be worth noting that we were both young and I have a hard time believing that a more experienced girl could be that not-very-smooth.

[deleted] · 2019-06-23T19:21:35+00:00

It might be possible. I gotta be honest though, I’d just love the attention; I’d be too distracted enjoying the go boost I wouldn’t get to feel uncomfortable

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-06-23T19:54:31+00:00

Assuming I was single, if it was unsolicited, I would be uncomfortable. I like to move slowly and let the sexual tension build. When something moves too fast, I get bored.

The_Lone_Apple · 2019-06-24T11:36:04+00:00

This only happened once in my life. I worked with a woman who was verging on model-level attractive who constantly said the most inappropriate things to me. Cringe inducing sexual things. Her behavior was so incessant that I went to a friend of hers in the office and asked her to intervene. She did and the nonsense stopped - with me. She continued her behavior until one of the supervisors simply fired her one day because she was nothing but a disruption.

Mr_Smoogs · 2019-06-23T18:58:38+00:00

Yes. Not physically uncomfortable but socially and financially. She can easily twist herself into the victim and get me in serious trouble at work, and through the law.

Sir_Koopaman · 2019-06-23T19:46:28+00:00

Yes. If I'm hanging out somewhere with my friends and some chick decides to grab my dick, I'm going to be pretty pissed off.

imJustmasum · 2019-06-23T18:53:51+00:00

Yes. It’s happened. Just because she’s hot doesn’t mean I want to fuck her.

friggandfrayed · 2019-06-23T19:38:22+00:00

Yes. Why is this even a question?

If a sexually attractive guy can sexually harass then why can’t a girl?

wtknight · 2019-06-23T19:50:32+00:00

I don't like women acting masculine, so if she grabbed my junk when we were alone I'd definitely feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't report a woman for sexual harassment, though, unless it was persistent to the point that it was like stalking, or she did something that actually caused me physical pain.

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[deleted] · 2019-06-23T18:27:46+00:00

If I'm alone, itd be very hard. Shed have to make me feel like a pervert or creep. If I were with family itd be easier

Arobin08 · 2019-06-23T18:51:30+00:00

I would acknowledge it as sexual harassment but I would be too flattered to be uncomfortable and her being forward or overly sexual wouldnt be a turnoff

Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-06-23T19:55:00+00:00

She would probably have to do something hard core out of my comfort zone like try and slip a finger in my butt or such. Popping me on the ass or sliding ass across my crotch would only get a laugh.

WhatIsTheMeaningHere · 2019-06-23T20:03:56+00:00

Not possible.

FutureSquall · 2019-06-23T20:06:03+00:00

Happened all the time overseas.

I-IV-I64-V-I · 2019-06-23T20:06:50+00:00

If you Change the prompt to would you feel uncomfortable if a gay male flirted in an aggressive manor.

As most guys here are probably attracted to most women

ZoroasterFlame · 2019-06-23T20:40:23+00:00

To me it happens at school. A girl grabs me, it makes me uncomfortable every now and again. I don't feel like a bull every day.

Bntt89 · 2019-06-23T20:46:50+00:00

If it happened all the time maybe ya but every once and a while prolly not. For example this hot manager at my work place slapped my ass, didn't bother me much. However if she was doing it over and over it might get annoying. I do understand that I dont feel threatened, by it but I dont think girls like the idea of midget guys slapping their asses either.

blackedoutfast · 2019-06-23T21:04:12+00:00

i've had a group of girls start talking about how much they want kids and how i would be such a good dad and all this and then "jokingly" start planning how they could slip something in my drink or get me super drunk and then spermjack me so they could get pregnant. like they literally said "teehee we're gonna rape you!"

i've also been in situations where drunk girls were giving signals that they wanted to hook up (kissing me, telling me how much they wanted me, putting my hands on their pussy area, etc) but there was some other factor that made me very worried that once the girl sobered up she would regret it and might try to blame it on men. like one time i knew the chick was engaged and about to get married. and a different time it was with a girl who had accused (socially but not legally) several other guys of getting her drunk and raping her.

SkookumTree · 2019-06-23T21:41:33+00:00

This has happened to me, in junior high. It made me feel uncomfortable.

wingbark · 2019-06-23T22:10:23+00:00

Mattcwu · 2019-06-23T22:49:19+00:00

Under those assumptions, no. I would only be bothered if she were unattractive or her manning of flirting was unattractive.

MisterJose · 2019-06-24T00:59:53+00:00

Sure, if it's in a mocking or sarcastic way. Like, "Ohh, yeah baby you know I want some of that," grabs my butt, has a laugh about it with her friends.

Actually...this is giving me unfortunate junior high flashbacks. Thanks.

diffdedbed · 2019-06-24T01:55:16+00:00

Yes but I wouldn't feel violated. I've had women straight up grab my crotch and even not interested it didn't phase me much.

[deleted] · 2019-06-24T05:00:37+00:00

Yes it is completely possible however I'm not a baby and won't post on twitter about it

irishpunk87 · 2019-06-24T05:31:46+00:00

Yes (straight male here). For me it's the act that matters, not the person. I'm the kind of person who just generally doesn't like being flirted with, especially by random people I don't know, even if they're attractive women. I've had just about every type of person you can imagine flirt with me in some capacity, 98% of the time very subtle; but of the 2% of times it was overt, it made me uncomfortable or at least very skeptical whether it was a guy or girl, attractive or not.

Eastuss · 2019-06-24T08:38:56+00:00

With all the assumptions, simply impossible.

goldmedalflower · 2019-06-24T11:28:39+00:00

Interesting question.... if she's really attractive, it would take a lot for it to bother me. The Tom Brady SNL skit applies in reverse too

CainPrice · 2019-06-24T12:24:36+00:00

Nah. I'm stronger than 99.99999 percent of women I come across. So a woman being creepy doesn't make me feel threatened. Just embarrassed for her.

What's some aggressive creepy girl going to do? Rape me? Yell at me like a spurned nice guy when I go home with a hot chick instead?

I'm a man. "oh noes shes not respectful of my boundaries the horror" doesn't happen for real men. Because there's no fear of women. They can't hurt you.

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-06-24T13:29:12+00:00

Yes, but only if I'm not single.

[deleted] · 2019-06-24T13:53:00+00:00

Cant rape the willing

hot_soup19 · 2019-06-24T23:32:57+00:00

The only women that are aggressive are the uggos/plain janes and women that for whatever reason think they saw a green light at some point when they're already highly attracted to a guy.

The one time I had a girl desperate for me, she still needed me to initiate. only after a sexual relationship is established are the normal ones sup front

VVaveFlakz · 2019-06-25T20:06:53+00:00

Yes, because im gay

dontdoitpleaseno · 2019-06-25T21:59:05+00:00

Happened once to me with a girl that kept sitting on my lap and stroking my hair when her bf (who is my friend) was sitting in the same room. Admittedly we were all pretty high so her intent was likely not sexual but I'd still kind of count it as it did make me uncomfortable

thetwitchy1 · 2019-07-18T16:44:13+00:00

It's happened to me before, so... yeah, totally.

TheBookOfSeil · 2019-06-23T18:59:55+00:00

Now whether you believe these complaints are genuine is irrelevant; the question here is about you men. Is it possible for an attractive girl to make you feel uncomfortable, as a result of her acting in a certain sexual way? Or, alternatively, her doing anything that you would deem as sexually harassing you?

It is possible to happen, yes, but the chances of it happening are low because female sexuality seems to be almost entirely situational or conditional. If I was a stripper at Chippendale's, it would happen daily, maybe even hourly. If I was a UPS driver or a postal worker, it would happen weekly, and probably with older women. If I was at a college campus or walking around a busy town on a night out, it would happen rarely, or probably never.

exit_sandman · 2019-06-23T22:25:54+00:00

of course.

I had an boss who used to want to talk with me, get close to me and even have me touched when I was working. she was old but by no means ugly... lets say 5/10.

This is a pain in the arse. I have zero interest in dealing with her and a lot in finishing my work. I have better things to do than deal with a post wall woman on my freaking job.

in the end I surpassed her hierarchy and fired her. she needs to separate things.

angels-fan · 2019-06-23T23:27:05+00:00

The Stacies at the office that bat their eyelashes to get all the beta simps to do all her work for her gross me the fuck out.

It would make me uncomfortable because I would know she wasn't flirting with me because of any interest in me, but rather trying to get something from me.

I'm also grossed out by strippers and sex workers, so a hot stripper coming on to me would make me vomit.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-06-24T04:06:51+00:00

Well, I’ve had this happen to me, and the answer is yes.

First time it happened to me, I was too young to understand it. I was in the 6th grade. This girl asked me if I liked how her legs looked. She took my hand and put it in her thigh. Now, I get it. We were just kids. It wasn’t really on private parts like the penis or vagina or boobs or ass. But, I felt uncomfortable. I was very innocent when I was younger. I felt like I was in a double bind. I didn’t want to do it, because I felt like that’s the sex stuff and I’m not ready for that and don’t feel comfortable with that, but at the same time, I didn’t want to be “rude” and make her feel rejected or unwanted. Obviously, it was the 6th grade, I was single. She was definitely attractive. Lindsey Lohan situation, her parents would later spend so much money getting her into rehab for heroin and opioids. In the 8th grade, she told her dad to go fuck herself loudly during a school dance. So, she was a bit crazy and ahead of her time. But I wasn’t.

My father was present in the next case, but me being uncomfortable has nothing to do with my father being there:

The second time it happened to me was when I turned 18. My father took me down to Tampa, Florida to supposedly meet the son of this large real estate developer to “build a relationship.” That was the story he told me and my mother. We did meet him ... in the Dollhouse (a strip club). Now, I was no alter boy up to this point. Lost my virginity at 16, was sexually active, but I was a gentleman about it. My father was a fucking sex crazed animal. For me, because of my father (daddy issues) and uncles, I had very strong negative reinforcement, and didn’t want to treat sex the same way they treated sex. I wasn’t about to romanticize it, but I wasn’t going to commoditize it either. So, my father paid for three girls to give me lap dances. This again put me in a difficult position (double-bind). I didn’t want to reject or decline my father’s generosity or make him feel like a bad person or awkward. But at the same time, I didn’t want these women dancing on me. I never was a strip club guy. I felt like permitting that was tainting my character and self-identity. I didn’t want to be that kind of man. So I literally stood there, paralyzed. The three girls began to dance on me, and I might as well have been getting tortured. I was shaking in my chair and the girls were telling me to relax. Inside, I felt like I wanted to cry. I felt very violated at that moment. My being uncomfortable had absolutely nothing to do with my father being there and watching. My being uncomfortable had to do with my identity being tainted in my own eyes, wanting to say “no” but being socially pressured to just go along with it.

During that same trip, we went to Mons Venus. At least the Dollhouse was classy and tasteful. Moms Venus made me see women as cows and men as pigs. I turned around and saw like 30 chairs with women hoping up and down quickly as they were full contact grinding on random men’s cocks through their pants. On stage, this girl was dancing fully nude, put two fingers insider her vagina, and then smothered her juices on the face of a guy watching. The whole night, women kept asking me if I wanted a dance. After the experience I had at the Dollhouse (and again, not “because of” the staff at the Dollhouse), I definitely did not want any dances.

All very good looking and objectively attractive females. I was single. Neither time had anything to do with feeling uncomfortable “because” my family member was watching. And yet, because of everyone’s own personal reasons (as is always the case with these things), I felt uncomfortable.

FalconOnPC · 2019-06-23T18:29:43+00:00

Yes, since I dont want to cheat on my girlfriend. But it would be more of someone who wont take no for an answer; a casual flirt at first wouldnt be a problem.

I suppose the only way I would actually feel harassed from the jump is if she aggressively grabbed my dick. But again, if I were single, it wouldnt be as big of a deal.

Christian_Kong · 2019-06-23T19:13:35+00:00

I suppose it could get to the uncomfortable and have never experienced that, but things sure can get annoying with women depending on situation.

NockerJoe · 2019-06-23T19:25:28+00:00

Yeah. A lot of women try to go heavy in a context you aren't meant to at all. People talk crazynmad shit about not hitting on people in food service jobs but what the fuck am I supposed to do when the chick at the cash register blindsides me with dirty talk mid order. I want my junk food. I ain't mentally prepared for that.

[deleted] · 2019-06-23T22:41:27+00:00

Yes, this has happened.

Title	Q4M: Do you find it possible for an attractive girl sexually harass you and make you feel uncomfortable?
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