Question for Women: What can men do to be more attractive? Question for Men: What can women do to be more attractive?

Werewolf35b · 2018-04-04T01:09:08+00:00

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belletaco · 2018-04-04T00:28:27+00:00

Men can dress better. I had no idea how bad Americans dress until I started hanging out with immigrants.

howlinggale · 2018-04-04T01:08:45+00:00

For men: Don't be fat, exercise regularly, dress like an adult, be able to carry on a conversation, listen occasionally, don't ramble about yourself so much, have some ability to reflect, do something other than plant on the couch on the weekend.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-04-04T00:33:36+00:00

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scottsouth · 2018-04-04T00:34:04+00:00

For men:

Smell good
Take showers properly
Athletic

idhavetocharge · 2018-04-04T02:23:11+00:00

For both. And specifically for dating/dating profiles

Don't be fat or obese. Skinny, fit, athletic, built, chubby ( some extra padding but not rolls) is all pretty acceptable. Not busting the shocks out your car fat. If you are fat, accept that only other fat people will want to date you.

Be clean, washed, don't smell bad. If you use perfumes or cologne don't bathe in it, less is more. When in doubt ask a friend, if they can smell you from ten feet away you used too damn much.

I don't care much about fashion, but please have clean clothes without rips and stains. Newer clothes are better, stop wearing that 20 yr old concert tee in public or pictures. If your underwear isnt new and clean toss that shit in the garbage and buy some new ones. Dress in clothes made in the last two years. Yes we all have those ten yr old jeans. And they look ten years old. You dont look fashionable, you look poor. You can find better at goodwill even if you are poor.

Don't take any selfie laying in bed pics, no shirtless in the mirror pics, no dirty house, no dirty bathroom, no dirty mirror. No selfies at all unless they are with friends at an interesting place. The only okay topless pics are taken by a friend at the beach.

No dead animals. I live in the bible belt and there are more pics of dead deer, turkey, and fish than pics of people. Sure take a pic of you dressed in camo with a caption stating you are a hunter. One with a fishing pole is kinda nice. A dead bleeding eyes rolled back tongue sticking out deer is NOT. I even love deer meat and would happily go hunting ( they are overpopulated here) but I don't wanna see that on a dating site.

I think this is most important. Have some fucking hobbies that include other people and leaving the house. If you have no friends and never go anywhere I will instantly pass. Figure something out that isn't a snore filled evening of sitting on your couch glued to phone, tv, or gaming system. I love my xbox and I say this. Get. Out. And. Be. Social. Something, anything.

To me, looks are less an issue than if I can have a conversation. There is chemistry, that i have found has little to do with looks, fitness, or anything else and more to do with simply being able to talk about nothing with no pressure. This isnt something you can change, but if you look for it you will be happier in the relationships you do have.

2018-04-04T05:26:45+00:00

Hit the gym. Get used to talking to women so that you're not awkward and you can be playful and funny instead of neurotic and anxious. Clothes and hair and personal grooming and shit probably wouldn't hurt, but it kinda depends what "niche" of women you want to attract.

Wandos7 · 2018-04-04T02:03:23+00:00

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exit_sandman · 2018-04-04T23:30:52+00:00

Unfortunately I am a bit late to the party, but there actually is something women can do to be more attractive to the opposite sex besides merely trying to be more good-looking: cultivating personal pleasantness and kindness.

A few months ago I switched jobs and got a bunch of new colleagues, and one of them struck out, simply because she was just likeable. To this I have to add that albeit she's pretty, she isn't beautiful (for starters, there are prettier girls in the same office, though I have to add that her smiling a lot makes up for that), she's married and already has two children - so it's not as if she was the hottest thing ever (and her personal status was certainly enough to suffocate any actual interest I might have had otherwise).

BUT she combined kindness, a fun personality and extroversion - she is a person I have a hard time imagining bitching or complaining about problems real or imagined, and not because she's a Stepford smiler who bottles everything up or a pushover, but simply because she radiates a positive attitude (bonus points for having a motherly personality). I think a woman like her could nail down a man better-looking women wouldn't get, or at least wouldn't get long-term - she is sufficiently good-looking to beat the visual requirements, and more than makes up for it with personal charisma when compared with even prettier ones.

The problem however is that you can't get a pleasant personality and sunny disposition out of thin air - telling a girl to emulate her basically is like telling a guy to "be confident": even though we aren't talking about hard attributes like looks and height etc., personality is still not that malleable.

Million-Suns · 2018-04-04T01:00:35+00:00

Q4M:What can women do to be more attractive?

From a physical standpoint

Do squats - for me the bigger the behind the better (muscles, not cellulite)
Tone down the make up, or kill it if needed. No make up = best make up.
Wear non skimpy clothes.
Take care of your hair

From a personality standpoint

Don't play dumber than you are
Don't make false giggles or other corny stuff
Be blunt
Don't lie - not even small ones - yes they are harmful too.
Don't shit test.
Take responsibility and don't shift blame onto somebody else or society if you screwed up

E- I thought downvoting was against the rules: (8) We Ask that You Do Not Downvote.

Apparently not...

officerkondo · 2018-04-04T03:44:48+00:00

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scottsouth · 2018-04-04T03:51:22+00:00

For both, don't be unnecessarily combative. If you're on a first date with someone, and you immediately try to instigate or escalate the conversation into something heated, that sends a red flag that you are not a team player. A romantic relationship is a team effort. If you're constantly trying to dominate the other person, you're no longer a teammate, and now a rival.

Being a cunt/jerk is not attractive.

Miss-Deed · 2018-04-04T03:13:22+00:00

Be a good conversationalist, do interesting things, be charismatic, be confident (not an asshole).

blackedoutfast · 2018-04-04T03:03:00+00:00

What can women do to be more attractive?

stop being fat.

Mr_Smoogs · 2018-04-04T00:58:03+00:00

Go to the gym and don’t be such a cunt. Your chances of being a massive nagging bitch happily married to a financially stable, self-respecting masculine man is extremely low.

MisterJose · 2018-04-04T02:27:17+00:00

Depends on what kind of attractive you are going for. If you want to pull off air-headed sex kitten, perhaps you can, and hey you'd make me pretty happy if you were hot and wanted to do that for me. But that's a different thing than a relationship among peers. For that you need to be reasonably smart and on a similar wavelength as me, and not deal-breakingly physically unattractive.

Willow-girl · 2018-04-04T04:34:52+00:00

Question for Women: What can men do to be more attractive?

The dishes.

OfSpock · 2018-04-04T02:16:40+00:00

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rpwthrowaway2016 · 2018-04-04T03:32:33+00:00

People have already covered physical appearance, so I won't.

For men: have a meaningful (to you) goal that you're working towards, or meaningful hobbies. I see many of my friends doing nothing but going to work/school and engaging in passive media consumption, and it makes them boring. Chances are that high-quality women will 1) be outside doing interesting things and/or 2) will want to date a guy who does interesting things. Doing those things will give you stories to tell people, which will make you seem more interesting. And it will also help to ward off existential dread, which obviously is not attractive (unless you're going for the tortured artist vibe or something).

2018-04-04T04:54:38+00:00

For women? As most have told already, being slim, skinny (translation: not fat, no "extra pounds") is a very good thing. Not getting ugly tattoos is very nice thing too. Such women are pretty rare nowadays. What else..Just don't be fat.

rainisthelife · 2018-04-04T06:40:52+00:00

For men: Exercise and don’t be fat. If you aren’t tall, work on your posture (you’ll be amazed at what that can sometimes do to the perception of height). Be confident with a good sense of humor. Stop trying to dominate and act like you have something to prove. Don’t nag about sex. Drop the entitled attitude.

2018-04-04T14:10:40+00:00

For women:

--lose weight

--don't be a bitch

--keep your hair long

--stop talking so much about things that don't matter

--don't lie about things that do matter

FalseBuddha · 2018-04-04T00:57:18+00:00

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2018-04-04T07:06:09+00:00

men: be willing to work hard, eat healthy, take care of your health and body, keep an open and a curious mind, educate yourself, read books, go out into the forest or something, sometimes, have a hobby of some sort that isn't about "collecting things", get a good sense of style, find clothes and styles that fit you, have fresh clothes for any day and occasion, get your teeth fixed, go mindfully about your insta-gratification addictions (gaming, smoking, alcohol, gamble, whatever else is there - don't let it take over your life), learn basic manners and social skills.

that's about it. be willing.

ganso_bum · 2018-04-04T18:27:04+00:00

Hrmmm, you know the more attractive a woman is, the less I want anything to do with her. Hot = you're doing more work for less in return because they know they're hot and therefore feel entitled to it.

2018-04-04T20:22:55+00:00

Be hygienic and take good care of yourself. Make sure your outfit, hair and makeup are on point. Making sure you're at a healthy weight might make you more conventionally attractive but it won't make someone more attractive to me personally.

2018-04-04T22:31:13+00:00

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Naya3333 · 2018-04-10T02:19:58+00:00

Exercise, dress well, maintain eye contact, smile, speak clearly.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-04-04T00:29:51+00:00

Healthy bmi, don't project im a massive egotistical cunt 24/7

Ultramegasaurus · 2018-04-04T12:06:37+00:00

What can women do to be more attractive

Blouses, dresses and skirts instead of tops, t-shirts and jeans.

yasee · 2018-04-04T13:29:36+00:00

Grow a beard

concacanca · 2018-04-04T06:56:05+00:00

Women:

-dont be fat

-most have nice hair, make sure you are one of them

-soft make up is better than stark makeup if you aren't that good with it

-have some identity. Most women seem to dress like hairdressers, be a bit light on non social media hobbies and even eat/drink roughly the same things

-dont be a bitch. Men have to be fun and funny, you just have to be bright and bubbly from time to time. If you are a nagger, just stop. You don't need to nag about what you are nagging about so just go over to askwomen and join the circle jerk there

-have the ability to talk about something more than Netflix

-break the touch barrier and not just on the arms. I remember one girl lightly rested her hand on my chest once and it upped my interest level a lot (was never going to work but we did kiss just to check lol)

Pretty sure that covers it.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-04-04T06:27:56+00:00

For women: Don't be annoying. Try to be less of a headache. Workout and stay in shape. Nothing more you can do after that.

abaxeron · 2018-04-04T07:59:57+00:00

Question for Men: What can women do to be more attractive?

Pentagon General, sweating: Doctor! What can we do to prevent a disaster?!

Mad scientist, dramatically taking off his glasses: Nothing, General. We can do nothing.

At this point, any effort women make to become more attractive to men in general or to me in particular, automatically translates into "she wants something; probably money". But if I had da magicks to fix one thing in women's behavior relative to their attractiveness, I'd make all perfume oriented on adult women 20% less potent. This cloud of aromatic ethers that you can feel as soon as you walk behind a woman or sit next to her in a public transport gives me aneurysm.

Title	Question for Women: What can men do to be more attractive? Question for Men: What can women do to be more attractive?
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Date	April 4, 2018 12:24 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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