Q4Men: what do you think of a woman who DIDN’T ride the carousel in her early 20’s and is an inexperienced virgin at age 25? 30? 35?

Everyones__Grudge · 2017-10-15T15:50:42+00:00

She sounds nice and very religious.

PBRScagsquad · 2017-10-15T15:50:49+00:00

Um does this actually exist in any meaningful capacity for all men to realistically hold out for in any way now?

crackrocksteady7 · 2017-10-15T15:59:17+00:00

insecure fatty

She also isn’t super insecure.

I'm not buying what you're selling

Tyler_Gatsby · 2017-10-16T14:18:33+00:00

Agreeing with notworthmuch that she sounds uber religious. I'll be the odd man out to say I wouldn't knowingly touch this woman.

exit_sandman · 2017-10-15T16:44:42+00:00

A woman who is still a virgin at a certain age most likely isn't normal for one reason or another, considering the fact that women basically get sex for free. The thing is: if a woman is still a virgin around 30, my default assumption is that she either has sky-high standards, is weirdly religious, is asexual, is terribly antisocial, something else or a mix of any of the above. This is a woman I probably wouldn't want to date in the first place, marrying her no questions asked? Sorry, but dude...

kafanchor_neta · 2017-10-15T16:04:12+00:00

id be gladly willing to devote my life to her

kick6 · 2017-10-15T16:48:25+00:00

If she's "saving herself for marriage" and has made it to 35 without being married, I'm worried there's other issues. At 30 it's still a concern, at 25 it's no big deal.

Sex isn't hard to get good at so the lack of experience isn't a concern it's the lack of being able to create a lasting relationship.

SirNemesis · 2017-10-15T16:50:28+00:00

Sounds great at 25. Though I'd suspect she is overly picky or low sex drive.

At 30 or 35 though is crazy. Why waste her prime years?

Dweller_of_the_Abyss · 2017-10-15T17:24:58+00:00

I wouldn't judge her but I wouldn't date her either.

I might, were it not for the 'saving sex for marriage' bit. But I've dated a few 20-something virgins over the past year and it's an exercise in frustration, every time.

They're conservative about sex, they have these ridiculous expectations of what a boyfriend should be, built up over the years. They've most likely devoted their lives to school or work without room for many friends or boyfriends, so they're unwilling to make much time for you.

VermiciousKnidzz · 2017-10-15T20:29:42+00:00

im very weary of abstinent people. they often have fucked up conservative views about sexuality.

Hairbrainer · 2017-10-15T16:06:44+00:00

I know a few girls like this, one of whom comes to mind since we talked about it this weekend. She's been with only one other man and she's near 30. She just really values an emotional connection a lot more than casual hookups.

I wouldn't call it a turn off, but it's intimidating getting with a woman like that. There's just an added degree of pressure, you know?

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T17:11:33+00:00

she is conservative and is saving sex for marriage

Next.

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T17:46:49+00:00

Sounds ideal. The chances of divorce increase dramatically the more sexual partners a person has. The amount of emotional baggage does too. It's very attractive to have one person in your life whom takes a physical and emotional relationship seriously because when commitment does happen you know it's not a thing they engage in lightly and you are that much more likely to stay together indefinitely.

prodigy2throw · 2017-10-15T20:28:56+00:00

Virgin, hot, sane. Pick two

darla10 · 2017-10-15T19:07:08+00:00

What I find very funny are all the women of a certain age, married 10+ years, who virtue signal about their lack of sexual experience ("oh you know, because I never had the opportunity to experiment much before I married John." cue nervous laughter) Their boredom and regret are palpable.

hey_tc · 2017-10-15T16:05:53+00:00

Sounds lovely, I'm not religious at all but i have been put off plenty of otherwise nice girls who frankly just slept with too many people.

Edit: My last girlfriend had come out of a LTR in which she'd never had sex. I found it so refreshing, and reliving that the sex was clearly something that she valued as much as the relationship itself.

mgtownigga · 2017-10-15T16:11:03+00:00

She doesn't exist

Temperfuelmma · 2017-10-15T16:52:32+00:00

only kissed a few times that she can count on one hand

I'll need to know how this happened before I can answer

Drippyskippy · 2017-10-15T17:55:57+00:00

Probably a nun, or has mental issues, or is extremely introverted/shy.

seeking_virgin_bride · 2017-10-15T18:48:37+00:00

In general, this person is exactly whom I'd be looking for in a partner since I've done more or less the same thing. Only catch is that I'm not religious, I'm not willing to convert on her behalf and I would want our children to make an educated choice about faith, so a super religious woman might not want someone like me.

darksoldierk · 2017-10-15T19:48:38+00:00

Okay, so lets assume a normal woman who chose to not have sex. Lets also assume she isn't religious at all.

I'd look up to her, to be honest with you. She'd be showing me that she is a strong woman who has discipline. Assuming she and I are compatible in many other way, I think she would be a wonderful person to spend a part of my life with, even if that's not the case, I'd like to keep some sort of relationship with her because I would think she's the kind of person that's worth keeping around.

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T20:22:18+00:00

Yes I’m a woman

metric_units · 2017-10-16T01:20:29+00:00

She could be religious, shy, or maybe asexual.

Funny how on /r/ForeverAlone, there was this one guy who talked about this one girl at work. He described her as being literally model-esque facially and height wise. She said she has never done anything with a guy because "it just never happened."

Maybe socially awkward too?

/u/ggbeauty

[deleted] · 2017-10-16T13:22:50+00:00

She sounds interesting probably religious or deeply spiritual

A breath of fresh air I'd say

Everyones__Grudge · 2017-10-16T13:55:20+00:00

Sounds great. I'd respect her more than the woman that use their own body like a toilet.

SDW137 · 2017-10-15T16:11:11+00:00

"Oh lol that's a unicorn and everyone knows that unicorns aren't real."

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SirNemesis · 2017-10-15T15:53:55+00:00

I think she's a nerd.

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T16:36:03+00:00

I mean, it's nice that she's as inexperienced as I am but the reasons behind it are things I can't relate to at all. I don't think I'm all that compatible with conservative or religious women. So, she wouldn't be my type.

Gawernator · 2017-10-15T16:49:12+00:00

Sounds like a total unicorn religious woman my parents probably would have wanted me to marry.

procrastinator789 · 2017-10-15T16:58:27+00:00

The woman who doesn't ride the CC is the ideal, the holy grail, the unicorn at 25 or 35.

purpleppp · 2017-10-15T17:06:16+00:00

You should probably meet your future husband in a church. Otherwise, there may be a compatibility issue.

TheBookOfSeil · 2017-10-15T17:07:06+00:00

I'd ask you to point me in her direction, because I'm looking for someone who knows what she wants (assuming that she does).

Edit: Also, upon reading some of the comments here, I just thought I would point out that if the person in question has no idea what relationships are like, not having experienced any of them herself, and didn't bother learning what makes a successful relationship, people might be avoidant of her because there's a potential for the relationship to "go south" fairly easily. She might be super clingy. She might be obsessive. She might be borderline narcissistic. Just because she isn't "mean" or "super insecure" doesn't mean that she's stable or "right" in the head.

GoldPilot · 2017-10-15T17:17:37+00:00

You really had me at "nice and down to earth". Unless I'm romantically involved with her, her sex life doesn't interest me outside casual conversation.

I would like to hang out and chat about religion. Nobody in my life besides my parents and older brother are anything more than agnostic. I haven't had a religious conversation since I got out of Catholic school.

nazis-are-socialists · 2017-10-15T18:52:58+00:00

I think she's a liar

the_calibre_cat · 2017-10-15T19:23:19+00:00

She sounds nice and likely easier to keep happy.

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T19:39:16+00:00

Cazy(being very religious qualifies) or a trap.

adultman5 · 2017-10-15T20:20:01+00:00

It implies all sorts of things, from most to least likely:

Very conservative
Close minded
Religious
Inexperienced
Boring
Judgemental
Controlling

One of my friends is in a 7 year LTR with a girl like it. She very well knows what kind of leverage her sacred pussy gives her and knows it makes the boys crazy. They did have sex fortunately, I think she made him wait about 6 months.

She is also all of the above. Avoid such girls if possible. Just like cock carouselTM is bad, not having any sex at 25 is also. Extremes are bad.

blackedoutfast · 2017-10-15T22:40:19+00:00

i would assume that she's probably super conservative or has weird issues with intimacy. or most likely full of shit about being a virgin lol.

if she's 30 or 35 that's getting pretty old and past her prime, but that has nothing to do with virginity.

if she truly does have a good attitude, not insane or weird, attractive, and 25 it sounds like she might be a candidate for a LTR eventually. but no fucking way i'm going to marry her without ever having sex though. not even going to start being exclusive with her without having sex first.

if she really is completely normal in every way except for being a virgin, i might cut her a little slack on the 3 date rule. but she needs to at least be giving oral or something by then.

phasetwenty · 2017-10-15T23:13:34+00:00

My initial reaction is to simply not believe her. Supposing I somehow became convinced it were true, placing her near the 90th percentile of women, then there will be some underlying cause. I would simply need to know what that was and pass judgment on it.

wtknight · 2017-10-16T00:36:01+00:00

Every woman I've been with was very inexperienced so I don't have a problem with this.

[deleted] · 2017-10-16T01:23:53+00:00

Is this you? (I'm curious)

[deleted] · 2017-10-16T03:58:03+00:00

I think better of them than sluts but they're still bad in my opinion. Nobody says you have to be one extreme or the other. There is a middle ground which is pretty wide. 1-5 partners? For me at least. Others have lower standards.

Being religious is too a huge red flag. For me. So while you may seem perfect for somebody, I would not date you unless you attractive and have redeeming qualities.

DashneDK2 · 2017-10-16T05:59:01+00:00

A little bit better than the alternative, but all things considered it doesn't mean that much. Better a pretty slut than an ugly virgin.

Entropy-7 · 2017-10-16T12:04:33+00:00

I live in China. Outside of particular cities, there is no CC. But even here, a 25 year old virgin is odd.

All of these are red flags for the most part. This is to the extent that if I was getting serious with a girl who claimed to be three-holes-no-action, I would feel obliged to cross examine her on the particulars and get a better psyche profile.

Dmva100 · 2017-10-16T12:30:32+00:00

Probably is bad in the bedroom

abaxeron · 2017-10-16T15:00:11+00:00

Probably thinks evolution is a hoax. Hopefully doesn't think about space travel the same way. But why should we care? "Your body your choice" and such. Is this woman interested in me? - Most likely, no. Therefore, she is, most likely, irrelevant.

PaperStreetVilla · 2017-10-16T17:16:58+00:00

My spouses co worker is this.

In a word... stunted.

We can lament the CC (granted, no man does, it's great, so long as you're valuable) but something has to fuck with a woman's wiring when she doesn't for that long.

Guarantee if she gets married, she don't turn off that 'sex is bad' switch with just a ring to guide her. Woe be the guy who marries that eunuch.

czerdec · 2017-10-17T12:20:52+00:00

I think she's a horrendous gamble.

Think it through: if she's willing to marry you, that means that the guy must also share her religious faith. So divorce means eternal hellfire.

You don't get to discover if she makes you miserable in bed until after it's too late to do anything about it.

aanarchist · 2017-10-17T13:28:47+00:00

that's what i would be looking for in a mother of my future children, high in discipline, self respect, self control, and wanting to save herself for one man. she's a prime candidate for marriage if she stays that way, i'd be curious why she didn't find someone sooner but it's whatever i won't look a gift horse in the mouth. i'd actually treat her like a life partner instead of a potential problem to deal with knowing how women with a history are. it would also make me feel a hell of a lot better knowing i don't have to deal with whores anymore not knowing what they're after out of me.

Spurius85 · 2017-10-18T01:48:27+00:00

Can you explain why you asked this question?

Your comments demonstrate that you are not ignorant to the reality of the world around you so you understand full well the responses you were going to get. The answers that people are providing are not going to enlighten you in a profound way at all. Nor are the folks answering going to be enlightened themselves just because you're pointing out a very obvious dichotomy in TRP.

Are you simply seeking validation for your life choices?

Title	Q4Men: what do you think of a woman who DIDN’T ride the carousel in her early 20’s and is an inexperienced virgin at age 25? 30? 35?
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Date	October 15, 2017 3:49 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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