I am 20 years old and female. I'm in school, just got out of a 6 month relationship with an extremely LVM who didn't realize what he had until I sucked it up and left him. FDS was a lot of what changed me from my pickme mindset and really enlightened me that I don't have to settle, good men SHOULD and WILL give the same amount of effort that you do, and high value men are scarce, but they are out there.

I don't want to waste my time, I know that it's critical for me to find someone in this point in my life in order to lead the life that I want to, so I'm dating again. I met a man who I'm interested in, but really unsure about. He's 8 years older than I am which initially I was skeptical about, but guys 3, 4, and 5 years older than I am still aren't where I want them to be emotionally, so I feel like he's in a safe range. He's been single for a year, recently moved to my state, holding a steady job where he does ok for himself. Has a home that he rents, a car, a dog, and has driven the hour to come see me a few times now. He always pays for meals, isn't on his phone when I'm around and we can get along well. I find him attractive and there's no weirdness about our age difference.

Now for the qualities I'm unsure about. I don't smoke or drink but he smokes weed, he has a decent job from what he tells me but always seems to have no money. His house was far from clean when I visited him, the vehicle he drives belongs to a family member, he doesn't have access to his car due to outstanding circumstances. He complains about having to use condoms during sex.

He is incredibly interesting, I think that he's intelligent, funny, and for the most part a good guy. He wants a serious relationship, he doesn't enjoy the fact that he's not the only person i'm talking to, but he's still willing to wait for me to decide what I want to do. He says he has not dated anyone else since we went on our first date. He made me dinner, is always commenting on how attractive he thinks I am..

I think he's a typical bachelor, other than the protection thing I've seen no other major red flags thus far.

What do you ladies think?

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