Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lol

ucompost · 2021-05-22T00:20:52+00:00

Nah even before my fiancé met me he felt disheartened by his own sex. He works with sexual assault victims so I mean he got that messaging early and in a professional setting so I’m good. Not once has he shamed me or disagreed with FDS he’s in full support. Again: men that are against FDS are usually the ones trying to preserve their shitty behavior.

Softrito · 2021-05-21T21:18:39+00:00

Some men like when you're mean to them though. Had a guy at my former job tell me to smile and I just glared at him and told him, "You know, I'm not even going to respond to that." After that he would bend over backwards to do anything for me.

purasangria · 2021-05-21T21:37:00+00:00

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suspended_animation_ · 2021-05-21T22:21:34+00:00

Thing is... we have never been mean to men this whole time. It's pathetic that they consider the fact that we no longer take their shit... as being mean to them.

GiraffeLibrarian · 2021-05-21T20:43:55+00:00

It’s not, never has been, and never will be your responsibility to flatter or be polite to a man just because he is a man and you are a woman.

Inthefullspectrum · 2021-05-21T20:56:30+00:00

Fine, no boyfriend then

peachblossom241 · 2021-05-22T00:14:48+00:00

My current bf is the only HVM (autocorrected to gem lol) I’ve ever been with and wholeheartedly enjoys it when I’m mean to lame ass dudes who deserve it. As much as it insults me to my core, it’s really satisfying to watch some scrub’s entire demeanor shift from insulted to downright scared when he sees the chick who started talking shit when he whistled at her has a big ass man behind her. Sucks that I need the security blanket of another man to like, not get murdered by doing this, but as long as I do I’m going to teach these motherfuckers a lesson and make them think twice before being gross to another woman.

electroloop · 2021-05-21T21:05:00+00:00

Honesty is being mean? Ok I'm happy to die alone.

panicpixiememegirl · 2021-05-21T21:15:35+00:00

And honestly its so fun being mean to men too. Everyone just bends over backwards and gasses them up all the time so when someone's finally mean to them and the niceness they feel entitled to all the time isnt given to them, they are so shocked and its so funny

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-05-21T21:27:45+00:00

Nah I'm a bitch to weed out the lame guys with no self esteem. I wouldn't want my man being friendly to every girl anyway. I'm not the low hanging fruit

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-05-21T21:12:56+00:00

My boyfriend always says he is ashamed of his gender and there was a time where I told him he should not feel sorry for what others do..... I don't say this anymore and am just thankful that he is disgusted by men too.😂

cmny062000 · 2021-05-21T20:45:06+00:00

Men: rape, kill, abduct, beat, stalk, traffick, blackmail, underpay women (and other men btw).

Women: are mEaN.

Nonsluttymen · 2021-05-21T23:20:19+00:00

Yeah no. Men don’t respect niceness.

Some men will even try to blame you for their disrespect of you because you didn’t give them an ultimatum about something, even if you communicated it constantly.

Some men will go from having realistic self-assessments of their looks to thinking they’re hot shit because you complimented their beastly looks, then will go on to secretly cheat on you for years because you lifted them up from being awkward losers to arrogant pricks.

Some men will “love” you only because you feel like a mommy to them because of your generous, seemingly unconditional affections.

Don’t. Less is more with them, and especially don’t be sweet with them when they’re anything less than your expectations. Too many of them are already socialized to have a ridiculous sense of entitlement that’s disgusting and they think that just a woman being polite to them means that the woman wants to fuck them.

Candid_Check_4843 · 2021-05-21T21:30:11+00:00

I never give men the benefit of the doubt, and it's worked out pretty well for me so...

Ana_jp · 2021-05-22T01:28:50+00:00

I laughed out loud at this one. Thank you.

I’m just ramping up my mean to men phase and it feels too good. Disrespectful, deceitful little shits are getting the beat down they deserve.

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-05-21T22:11:33+00:00

Mean = being nasty for no reason

stories shared here and on FDS = women holding normal boundaries

the-lonely-spirit · 2021-05-22T01:38:31+00:00

Like...but if I found a HVM I wouldn't have a reason to be "mean" and if I was it would be to the people around us...lmao. Totally not going to waste my time with someone who puts me in a position to be snarky or defensive.

TheGoodie · 2021-05-22T04:30:03+00:00

Tell me how I got treated wayyy better when I started being mean to men. 🤔

BetterDeparture436 · 2021-05-22T04:15:09+00:00

Exactly! A true HVM will probably join you in the "scroasting"...lol. I've coined a phrase! I dunno, maybe it's been used. You all are a very creative lot here :D

ivy176 · 2021-05-22T05:39:20+00:00

I personally wouldn't be mean to people because it goes against my spiritual journey and isn't helpful for me. BUT it's not "mean" to just show no interest in a man, or to point out disrespectful behaviour.

Maude2010 · 2021-05-22T06:10:01+00:00

The only men who’ve ever loved me were men I didn’t respect or particularly like.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-05-22T13:58:16+00:00

Every guy I’ve dated who listened to my radfem rants seemed to like me more cause of it. And I don’t hold back. Men respect women who respect themselves.

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-05-21T21:29:23+00:00

I'm so rude I leave snaps opened all the time. I had 2 guys block me because of it but IDC I'll answer when I see more of an effort

Shaakie · 2021-05-22T08:38:04+00:00

Yup. My bf knows why i'm mean to some men. He actually appreciates it and says that he likes i have a lot of self respect :)

BetterDeparture436 · 2021-05-22T03:32:33+00:00

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Title	Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lol
Author	panicpixiememegirl
Upvotes	151
Comments	66
Date	May 21, 2021 8:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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