Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVM

aleynawae · 2021-04-23T20:52:11+00:00

In my last relationship my mental health got so bad that I had to take antidepressants. As soon as I was out of it I never needed to take one again. Im basically cured now - in my case he was the cause of my depression and anxiety

The_Pyramidion · 2021-04-23T21:02:46+00:00

The sleep one is so noticeable for me! No one keeping you up sunday nights with their sudden temper outbursts, no one watching movies in bed in the middle of the night bc they fucked up their own sleep cycle beyond repair, no one pawing at you..

There's also reduced overall stress because you don't have to wrangle an overgrown toddler all day, I used to be so exhausted I'd just collapse on the bed after work fully dressed and breathe for half an hour before I even had the energy to eat and do chores and then scroteweaael had the absolute audacity to get in my face about how I supposedly no ambition wtf. 🤡

Cleaner surroundings. No more stress and allergy problem from someone dropping mouldy socks everywhere they sit or stand.

PinkBlair99 · 2021-04-23T21:36:53+00:00

I stopped drinking heavily, lost forty pounds, got a raise, and sleep like a baby

licoricespicedtea · 2021-04-23T21:51:04+00:00

Clearer skin and better sleep for me too!

Also: - hair growing back denser since I’m no longer chronically stressed - eczema and other stress rashes pretty much disappeared - I noticed I’m breathing slower and deeper and this has helped my rosacea - better posture - no longer using alcohol to forget all the things I was not okay with to avoid confrontation about them - no longer using alcohol before sex to make him seem better at it

throwaway04357 · 2021-04-23T22:10:10+00:00

No more upset tummy because the bad butterflies flew away!

Seriously.. constantly feeling on edge/anxious because you're trying to tip toe around his feelings by holding in yours while also preparing yourself mentally for when the next ball drops (be it cheating again, discarding you, ignoring you after love bombing etc) puts SO much stress on your whole body. It causes stomach and digestion issues, high blood pressure, hair loss, shortness of breath, headaches, low quality sleep, loss of concentration and ability to focus, low libido, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, exhaustion..

LVMs and NVMs should come with warning labels, they have more side effects than birth control.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-04-23T20:56:22+00:00

Love this! I'll add a few:

- better relationships with friends and family

- peace of mind

- physically stronger as I had more time to start doing yoga everyday

myoklife · 2021-04-23T22:13:17+00:00

I have one of those fitness watches that tracks all sorts of things, one being "stress" (unclear what this feature actually measures) - you could see a visible "dip" in the stress immediately when we broke up. Like - tiny spike the day of the break up and then immediately dropped and stayed low the following days and weeks.

In the past, my skin usually cleared up too since I'm not sleeping on unwashed pillow cases.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-04-23T22:17:38+00:00

Serenity.

Peace/sanity - from not being gaslit 24/7

Sleep - no more snoring warthog sweating up the blankets and taking up the bed

Time - being dragged around to do xyz cuz he's bored and can't go anywhere by himself

Plus a huge mood improvement, all simmering resentment disappeared, and life just feels easier and simple.

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-04-23T23:49:44+00:00

I’ve gone back to the fitness and weight level I was in my early twenties — even better actually because now I am way more toned and have more muscle from exercising every day! I feel way more athletic.

My skin has healed tremendously and has a dewy glow now. I honestly look more youthful than I did when I was actually younger in the last half of the relationship with a scrote! It’s crazy.

My cheekbones and dimples are wonderfully prominent again — my face is back to “normal” rather than puffy from stress and not enough water.

Hydration has increased tenfold.

No more alcohol and I limit carbs which has helped with so many health issues.

Hair is still thick and long but even more shiny now that I treat it with nourishing products and take good care of myself.

Overall a sense of joy and peace. My mind feels less cluttered. I feel more confident and happy.

Sleep has definitely improved as well.

Shiterose · 2021-04-23T23:19:15+00:00

It's not inspiration exactly, but I'm 95% sure the long-term stress of complications attached to my last relationship is what put me in the position of being a young woman celebrating her birthday with a major stroke.

What I'm saying is, be careful out there. My system was vulnerable to stroke in minor ways, but the signs were everywhere that my body was struggling for a long time in DIRECT RESPONSE to changes in that situation. Stress is no joke. Put yourself first.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-04-23T21:54:10+00:00

Lose 11 pounds

I don't remember when I cried the last time (versus crying every other day while I was with him)

Don't have cold sores anymore

amhran_oiche · 2021-04-23T21:52:47+00:00

The depression I had weirdly disappeared after breaking up. 😂

akiikaaki · 2021-04-24T00:26:07+00:00

I’ve gone back to a normal sleep cycle, been working out 4 x a week and gained a lot of muscle, lost weight, stopped using a prescription pain medication.

My mental and physical health has improved so much that I was able to start University this year 😊

IHateJobSearching1 · 2021-04-24T02:03:11+00:00

I lost weight

I got more attractive

I was less anxious

I gained confidence

I felt whole again

Parle_a_ma_main · 2021-04-24T06:22:25+00:00

Sleeping with protective hairstyles and silk turbans = gorgeous hair, no breakage
Clearer skin from happiness
It was my first break up : learned coping strategies like meditation, exercizing to let out steam, muay thai and weight lifting to feel powerful
Became a high-protein gluten free vegan after trial and error = the best diet for me
I’ve basically never looked better
Strenghtened my relationships with family and friends
Googled some symptoms then went and got my ADHD diagnosis
Graduated law school
Got a consulting job before graduation
Discovered radical feminism

fudirtbagjon · 2021-04-24T00:58:23+00:00

Like 100% less UTI's and yeast infections. Lol

sassyheather · 2021-04-24T07:42:04+00:00

Maybe tmi but I’ll bite the bullet and say that my V got healthier. My exes had questionable hygiene, one was heavily into BDSM and his porn addiction made him unable to cum from penetration so he would jackhammer me for at least an hour every time, resulting in bruises, bleeding and pain when I tried to sit down or walk afterwards. Remember though, the internet has turned all that shit into a sign of good sex (“iF sHe CaN sTiLl WaLk AfTeR sEx, YoU dIdN’t Do A gOoD eNoUgH jOb”). My other unhygienic ex gave me yeast infections and chlamydia.

I read somewhere that sometimes people are just incompatible when it comes to their privates so I really feel like my V was trying to tell me that.

xpressurself111 · 2021-04-23T23:13:40+00:00

The veggies thing is so real!

lolmemberberries · 2021-04-24T00:15:26+00:00

More time for yourself to focus on work, your goals, exercise, your friends.

Bubbly-Manufacturer · 2021-04-24T03:54:35+00:00

My anxiety disappeared, skin got better, stopped waking up feeling cloudy, hair grew back.

ekkokekekko · 2021-04-24T18:02:13+00:00

I drank a lot and smoked a ton of weed while with my ex. I quit both the moment he and I split up. I was doing it because that's all he wanted to do all the time. My fridge is full of fresh fruit and veg and none of it goes bad because I actually eat it (and enjoy it). I look younger now than I did when we were together. A woman at work was shocked to hear how old I am and when she asked me to drop my skincare routine I said, "sunscreen", when I should have said "divorce" 😆

poody456 · 2021-04-24T15:56:32+00:00

When I dated my ex a year ago, a few months in he began to lose the nice facade and begin the emotional abuse. Around this time I got very sick and it almost felt like a perpetual flu, every few weeks I’d get a sore throat, fatigue etc. and then I’d recover briefly and repeat. This went on for about 4 or 5 months and i nor my doctor could understand why I was getting so unwell. I woke up one day and blocked him and soon after found that I stopped getting ill and I haven’t had so much as a cold since. My theory is the stress and anxiety of being in that relationship was wearing me down so much that I was just repeatedly getting unwell. Side note - it wasn’t covid, I get regularly tested for work & my city has close to no cases!

Moira_Spice · 2021-04-24T18:08:44+00:00

💕 I lost weight

💕 I got healthier hair, skin, nails, general health

💕 My eyes became livelier, I've compared pictures and the difference is crazy!

💕 He and his family caused my mental health to go to shit, and now it's so much better.

💕 I eat better, I don't force myself to eat meat anymore(meals with them was 50% meat, I normally just eat meat 1-2 times per week and not more.). I picked up intermittent fasting, mindful eating. They constantly criticized whatever I ate, and said my vegetarian diet was making me sick and forced me to eat more meat which only made me sicker (I don't digest meat that well)

💕 No insecurity about appearance, at least, not as much as back then. I do whatever I want about my appearance, and I am not criticized about my stuff. No bothered sleep, he's not waking me up constantly, or keeping me up late at evening.

I feel that after dumping him I became older by several years because of all that stress.

sleeping_pretty · 2021-04-24T13:04:42+00:00

I think it's also important to surround yourself with women, I've never been "one of the boys" but I see what it does to women that like to be the cool girl.

I experienced:

- More money

- More time to spend on myself

- Less anxiety

- Hotter body (LVM and NVM can disrupt your hormones...it's science)

FreshStarter0 · 2021-04-24T13:44:52+00:00

Oh I can relate to this post so much.

The most obvious one in my case was the nutrition. I gained weight during my last relationship with a NVM due to our different styles of eating. I am a person who is hungry a lot, so to maintain a healthy weight I need to follow a traditionally healthy diet: several high volume, high fiber meals a day, lots of vegetables, lean meat etc. He was literally the opposite. He used to be morbidly obese long before I met him but had lost quite a bit of weight when we met. He had some health issues involving chronic pain and took meds that reduced his appetite as a side effect, so his way of eating when we dated was basically one big shitty dinner and a couple of snacks during the day. He would have pizza almost every day if he could. What happened was that I would have my healthy breakfast and lunch and couple of snacks, and then have a ridiculously calorie-dense dinner with him which was double the calories I should have consumed for dinner to maintain my weight. Obviously I ended up consuming more calories than I should (even more than him) during the day and gaining weight. What's ridiculous is that when I complained about the nutritional value of our dinners, he was like "well I'm losing weight on this diet so you are the one doing things wrong". Like, sure dude, let me start pain meds for no reason other than to curb my appetite, so that you can eat like shit. Needless to say that his nutrition and lifestyle was likely to have contributed to his chronic pain issues according to his doctor.

His neediness also took a lot of my time, which led me to be stressed with work all the time, sleep like shit, and stop going to the gym. All of these along with his generally toxic behavior triggered panic attacks that I had not experienced in years. Some evenings I was too tired to even wash my face before bed, which even led to shitty skin.

marpu_el_magnifico · 2021-04-24T23:03:37+00:00

I have lost over 30lb and go to the gym at least 4 times a week now. Mostly for the mental clarity it brings me and to prevent a back injury recurring but it's actually something a really enjoy. I was never allowed to go when i was with my NVM ex as he liked me to be stuck in the house, fat and unhealthy. It's so disturbing to think i lived like that for over 8 years. I also dress in nice quality clothes and spend time and money on my hair and appearance now. People are always telling me how great, happy and young i look now compared to before which is such a good feeling. I also no longer have the constant anxiety in the pit of my stomach and terrible sleep interrupted by his drunken tirades. I honestly think i have turned back at least 10years without the NVM ex dragging me down!

nohuman · 2021-04-24T06:55:06+00:00

Yes the sleep is so calm and refreshing I feel like a teenager again. And in the morning its like something actually regenerates and falls into place mentally. And the feeling of not anticipating conflict first thing in the morning when I open my eyes but thinking about myself is so healthy.

flowerpower102938 · 2021-04-24T09:11:58+00:00

THIS IS TRUE! All my physical, emotional, psychology and spiritual issues just vanished after I broke up. It's amazing!

alexandcats · 2021-04-23T23:46:42+00:00

For the last four months with the last NVM I was having daily chest pain, which was terrifying because there's a 50% chance I inherited a genetic heart problem from my dad. It almost killed him when he was my age. Thankfully it was just the NVM extracting the last fuck I had to give and it went away as soon as I dumped him. Completely gone the same day.

Bellaskywalker1 · 2021-04-24T22:15:09+00:00

No more fear and sadness

No more broken heart

No more psychological mind games

Less anger

CONTROL OVER MY LIFE

odd-kate · 2021-04-25T06:14:27+00:00

I haven’t had a UTI since my relationship ended. I had CHRONIC infections one after another and was constantly on antibiotics for the entire year and a half we were together.

Title	Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVM
Author	lovetarie
Upvotes	423
Comments	56
Date	April 23, 2021 8:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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