Men are jealous of women's success

obeyy_killxx · 2021-08-09T11:18:59+00:00

A lot of men are weird but it all boils down to them having the desire to dominate in order to create dependency. I’ve noticed that a lot of them say they like feeling needed and being adequate. A woman’s success and independence is perceived as dangerous because it “emasculates” them or makes them feel inferior. The more independent the less they’re needed.

On another note: lots of men hate “gold diggers” yet detest a career women. Makes no sense to me.

ShegoGreen · 2021-08-09T12:50:04+00:00

I saw a beautiful woman on LinkedIN announcing her recent promotion or something to that effect. Well, an old nasty scrote in the comments was complaining about how women only get likes because of their appearance and if he posted something interesting no one would care. I just thought, "again with the pretty privilege complaints? Do you want women to be ugly? Do you want to be a woman yourself? Lol."

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-08-09T11:27:07+00:00

I’m proud of every woman proudly broadcasting her success! I have mentored younger women and the talent is incredible, the lack of confidence however is heartbreaking.

Those ten negative comments for each positive comment you mentioned are a success! They show that this woman has successfully challenged the establishment and by doing that, she has won!

crazykitten27 · 2021-08-09T12:30:41+00:00

I feel like we are also seeing this a lot more now than we used to in the past! Especially as women are now as a whole more educated higher advanced in thier careers and just in general surpassing and out preforming men. Men aren't ready for that most men are Still stuck in the 1950's mentality that they are entitled to a woman to cook clean and support thier egos but now they also expect you to split the bills too. Men hate when women brag about their accomplishments because it makes them feel small and useless and they haven't evolved enough emotionally to be able to handle that. So instead they throw tantrums and to bring women down because meeting her on her level is too much effort for them!

kuromi_6 · 2021-08-09T10:09:19+00:00

They don't want women to be successful. They want women to NEED them. This is why in underdeveloped countries, they don't allow women to go to school at the early age so they won't be educated and wouldn't be employed in the future.

My ex wanted me to quit my job and become his full time dog sitter. I have MA and just recently got a decent job in my field and he doesnt really has a good job. He kept saying "you don't need the money, I'll take care of you". They all want women to do "things" and beg for money, doesn't matter the relationship status is, they all see us as a wh*re.

notmochachino · 2021-08-09T10:29:45+00:00

I feel I cannot even tell men where I work anymore. My particular line of work is very well remunerated in the country I work in and I have very good benefits and job security.

So far I haven't been on a single date where this has not been used against me. The usual comments I get are all like "I heard your type of job is very boring", "Oh, you must have a big salary, you should pay for this date", "We should definitely go 50-50 as you earn so much". GTFO.

They get even worse when they see how busy and invested I am in my job. Usually they disappear as soon as they figure out I will never depend on them in any way.

passenger683 · 2021-08-09T11:14:18+00:00

Men were always jealous of women's success. That's why they've created whole systems to oppress us. I think deep down they're afraid of what women are able to accomplish without them.

Eltrajeazulito · 2021-08-09T15:52:41+00:00

I’m probably late to the game but when I decided I wanted to go to medical school I read a lot about how my chances of dating and getting married would be reduced because men don’t like dating female doctors. I read a few forum posts on a website called student doctor network and apparently being a doctor helps men a TON in the dating world but affects women negatively.

But men will keep denying they hate successful women…mhmmm.

IBicedT · 2021-08-09T16:26:26+00:00

I dated a man a couple years ago who I adored. He was successful in his field, attractive, pursued me hard, talked about a future together, and did all the right things. But we didn't date for long, maybe 4 months.

The reason he gave for wanting to not see me anymore (but wanting to remain friends, a big red flag, among many others, which I came to recognize later) was that he was jealous of me. At that time in my life, I was working 3 jobs and pursuing a degree for one of my jobs. It astounded me that he could be jealous. I didn't get it, and it broke my heart. I was a recent divorcee, broke, exhausted, and climbing toward who I am now. I didn't get it.

As I have moved on from the situation and after finding the wisdom of FDS, I started to see what it was he could have envied. It was exactly all the things that I thought were evidence of my deficiency as a woman that he envied. My drive to grow, improve, and succeed. My capacity to care for myself and my dependents while still having room and space for him, and for generally being in love with life. Despite his privilege (born into wealth, Ivy League athlete, FAANG success), he was still miserable. And I wasn't.

I internalized the relationship ending as my fault. That maybe if I hadn't been so "cocky", if I hadn't been so happy with life, if I hadn't dressed as well as I did because I was proud to be with him, and I wanted him to be able to feel the same, that he would have wanted to stay with me. (He made comments about my wardrobe, it was weird. Lol) Nope. And again, way WAY before I found FDS.

I accepted it for what it was eventually. He was jealous of me. He said so, and he meant it. I wouldn't dull myself for him. Which was so iroic, because the things he came to resent about me were what he said attracted him to me.

I remember reading something here like "Men like dating a strong woman for like 3 months", and laughing at it, because, in my experience, and as I have seen so many other women write about here, it's so true! It's so sad. For men. But, like we say, die mad about it, scrote. 🤷‍♀️

fireforestfairy · 2021-08-09T13:51:21+00:00

A lot of men in male dominated fields are extremely patriarchal and sexist. It may have something to do with how these fields were traditionally even more sexist and this shaped their culture today. These men hate people more successful than them as it makes them look bad in comparison. This is especially the case if that person is female as it hurts their fragile male ego.

chasingshoesales · 2021-08-09T15:39:38+00:00

It’s literally insulting to them even if it isn’t a woman close to them. My LVX failed to work in the entertainment industry and EVERY single time I even mentioned a female entertainer, he would talk negative about her. It really confused me, but my tipping point was when he said Oprah was a failure cause she wasn’t married!!! WHAT?!?!

He would low key say comments to bring me down too. I work in engineering and he would always call me the diversity hire. I brushed it off as him not understanding that I was an outstanding student in high school and college. Maybe when he got to know me more, he’d understand better. Nah, he was a racist sexist prick. He continued calling me a diversity hire through the relationship saying I was “ticking two boxes and they need you there.” Not “you actually bring value with your unique mind so they need you there.”

He was a full grown adult loser with no job that lived with his parents. He was just jealous he was not needed anywhere.

2021-08-09T09:20:27+00:00

Men hate it when women are better than them. They don’t have anything if they don’t have control over us, which we are taking back, thankfully.

greatmoonlight21 · 2021-08-09T14:43:28+00:00

It actually makes me so happy to see them twist and turn and get all riled up by a woman’s success. Times are changing, and thank god for that

FirePreferred_theOG · 2021-08-09T17:36:24+00:00

The only negative comments I've EVER received about my career, success, body, etc have been from men. End of story. I value what the women in my life say about me and not the men.

Honestly_th0 · 2021-08-09T10:32:59+00:00

That’s it. LVMs and NVMs can’t stand the competition. It’s like when they blame immigrants for stealing their jobs when, in all likelihood, their jobs were stolen by robots because the work they do is so basic it’s easily automated.

Fifty years ago, the average white man with a high school diploma could rise through the ranks and become wealthy and prestigious, easily beating out minorities and women because discrimination. Today, there’s still discrimination, but the average white guy with a liberal arts degree is more likely to be working at Quiznos or driving for Uber if he can’t get his act together and rise above the bare minimum.

The bare minimum just isn’t cutting it anymore and they miss coasting and living life on easy mode. Smart, hard-working minorities and women are now rUiNiNg that particular version of their American dream. Reeeeeeeee!

nikkirosex3 · 2021-08-09T21:24:23+00:00

I get this ALL the time. I work a hard job with long hours and men jump through hoops to convince themselves that my job is easy and cushy. I had to block a guy two weeks ago for calling me in the middle of my work day, and after I said "Sorry I can't talk right now, I'm working" he said in a condescending tone "oh come on now you know you can talk." Like whaaat?! Men will really take your time for granted ladies, if you occasionally go out of your way to talk to them they wont be grateful for it, instead theyll take it as you being a loser with an easy job and tons of free time because youre a dumb bimbo

divination__ · 2021-08-09T15:48:24+00:00

Yes, this is also true of men in relationships and their feelings towards their partner. A lot of women are blind to this and assume that if someone says they love them, then they can't have any negative feelings for them and will be happy for their successes, but often that can be untrue. This is why for a woman it's very important to date men who are secure in themselves (not grandiose), and who either earn just as much or more than you.

This is why I no longer date men in a similar field to me (the arts and media) as they're always, always threatened by my success, despite being impressed and attracted to t at the start.Even if a man fantasises about a wealthier woman and him being a house husband, many actually in that situation grow resentful towards that dynamic. If, throughout your relationship, you start to out-earn him, you need to be wary of any growing resentment on his part. He may sabotage you, even if only unconsciously.

I remember in my last relationship being really excited for my boyfriend to attend a talk I was giving. I'd listened to so much Esther Perel and her talking about your partner being most attracted to you when you're shining bright and on stage, doing what you're good at, and was utterly deflated when at the end of the night when I asked him what he though, all he said was that I sounded like "I was about to cry" all throughout (sometimes my voice can quiver when I am nervous. I took it in my stride and we didn't even speak about the night again after that, but in hindsight I realise that was an obvious neg. During the talk, he also asked a stupid and embarrassing question, instead of asking something thoughtful that would allow me to answer in a way that makes me look good (something a genuinely supportive partner would do). It literally too me a year to remember this occurrence and how indicative it was of his quiet resentment towards me.

ginnnnie · 2021-08-09T15:00:08+00:00

I have realized this with men who I use to “talk”/have a fling with. One guy was clearly uncomfortable I bought a house by myself and made it a touchy subject even though he just bought his own as well. I feel like he was so jealous/mad that he was colder to me overall as well. Like oh if you think you’re better than me then you’re so happy once you realize you aren’t you are rude to me? Like wow was he really trying to use me.

Second guy also acted weird about me buying a house he is 28, still living with friends and would just say yeah I plan to do that too and was overall cold throughout that conversation. What I don’t get with these two is they were pursuing me- wouldn’t you be attracted to a successful person? Idk I guess that’s just me lol!

Lastly this one is pretty funny, a guy I was seeing for a bit a year ago asked me how much I make hourly after hanging out a few times. I thought it was obviously rude/invasive but I answered because I was working at a credit union / I sell on ebay and wasn’t concerned giving rough estimates. He was working at a hospital as an assistant, sure enough I was making more than him hourly by a few dollars and I have my side gig. So I made more than him part time and he worked full time. His reaction was shock! So he was going into that conversation thinking he was going to be the hero but actually let me see a different side to him.

I don’t even care he made less than me as far as a relationship goes as long as he pulled his weight it’s whatever but it was the fact he thought this was going to flatter him…. Idk just thought that was interesting! Haha

efemel115 · 2021-08-10T06:09:52+00:00

Gold from my ex - Quick your corporate job so I can support you with my minimum wage driver job. I will spoil you. LOOOOOL in what world????

paperwasp3 · 2021-08-09T21:58:02+00:00

Oh boy do I have a story for you! Back in the 1970’s my mom waited until we were all in school and she went out looking for a job. My dad said “I don’t want any wife of mine paying for the mortgage or anything else!”. Well they decided that what he earned was theirs and what she earned was hers. At first all her pay went to hiring a housekeeper to do “her jobs” at home. My mom was a stockbroker who learned how to make money in a bear market. Fast forward 20 years and my mom was easily making Four Times what my dad made. We teased him mercilessly about that deal! He knew he had made a bad deal because he was operating on old timey values. Fortunately for us all my mom was a fantastic business woman who had a singular talent for making money. She was a true boss Queen who went out and made her own money and wrote her own story. My dad smartened up and was a true partner with her. They were married for 64 years.

wigsnatcher42 · 2021-08-10T23:02:07+00:00

I saw that post. I also saw Rihanna getting similar comments when it was announced she's a billionaire lmao. With both women illiciting comments primarily from black dudes, the anger was even more intense lol.

Title	Men are jealous of women's success
Author	bland_scissors
Upvotes	912
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Date	August 9, 2021 9:00 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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