Hate women after divorce

Chip512 · 2022-02-02T00:36:08+00:00

Plenty of support on YouTube for independent men.

I don’t hate women but am unlikely to make them the center of my life again - once was enough.

Eedoryeong · 2022-02-02T01:12:25+00:00

Bro, don't waste your precious time hating on women. It's like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. The best revenge is to flourish without them. If you still need physical companionship consider a FWB, or move to a place where sex workers are legal and can unionize. Be worthy of being a regular (gentleman, clean, polite, pleasant, physically fit and well-groomed). This world has too much beauty left in it for you to waste your days hating on such a large group that mostly doesn't think about you anyway. Build your happiness.

Protomize · 2022-02-02T01:31:35+00:00

This is called the red pill rage. Dedicate this hate energy to better yourself. Work out, learn new skills, invest and reap the benefits. Don’t hate women. It’s simply their nature. You can still have them in your life but do NOT make them the priority or legally tie yourself to another one again.

Good luck!

hkbk2011 · 2022-02-02T01:34:43+00:00

I don’t hate but don’t trust them no more.

jalopkoala · 2022-02-02T01:42:59+00:00

Don’t hate. My best friend is a woman. My friend group has always been and remains an even split.

Now… for partnership/marriage… fool me once, shame on you.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2022-02-02T01:22:30+00:00

Do not waste your time or energy hating anyone. Invest that time and energy in making yourself the best person you can, for YOURSELF.

Your title and the body of your post do not really match up. Do you literally hate women or are you just done with women forever / for a while? Anyways...

If you keep looking you will find good support in various places. You just have to be selective in where and from who you get your support. I've found it to be 99% positive and helpful here. There are a couple of other subs I frequent as well as some YT channels and authors I have found helpful.

During my divorce, I made a goal of taking a year before I would date again. I set out several goals for myself during that time to work on, for myself. I reached almost all of them. I even ended up going for 1.5 years before my first date, just because I was having fun doing my thing and focusing on myself and my kids. When I went back to dating it was specifically only to date, not to look for a relationship, and definitely not for marriage. I made that very clear with anyone I met.

Do I hate women? Absolutely not.

Do I get sick of some women? Of course.

Just like I get sick of some men too.

Hang in there it does get better, I believe, if you put in the needed work.

SireSweet · 2022-02-02T01:05:22+00:00

Nah. I don't hate women.

I just had a recent 'fling', if you will. I think I much rather not have anymore of those and stay to myself. I'm reminded by the financial troubles I'm already in thanks to my wife.

Eve-3 · 2022-02-02T11:53:38+00:00

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fewdo · 2022-02-02T00:40:50+00:00

I've been there. 6 months out, iunno, they're fun to look at again

Mavik52 · 2022-02-02T02:16:12+00:00

You are at the stage where you see the reality of the dynamics between men and women in relationships in our current time. Some form of anger is absolutely a normal reaction. The next step is internalizing that while the game may not seem fair, it exists regardless of how you feel. You can either sit around and let it slowly poison your soul, or you can get to work figuring out how to master the game and minimize the down sides and enjoy the up sides. All in the context of a relationship, marriage is pretty much a loss across the board.

IntelligentVariety64 · 2022-02-02T02:21:14+00:00

There are great women and there are shitty women, just like there are great men and shitty men. Most people of both genders make shitty partners, let's be honest most people in general are selfish and will hurt others for their own gain. In America the legal system favors women, if men were favored the majority would be just as selfish and shitty.

Hate bad women, not all women.

NLP_Onyx · 2022-02-02T12:08:55+00:00

Hate is a pretty strong word, but you better believe I'll not be getting married again. No reason to.

Empty-Temporary-5916 · 2022-02-02T01:44:37+00:00

I know how you feel man…..

ABBucsfan · 2022-02-02T01:48:03+00:00

Nah, there are still family members I care for and a couple I'd call casual friends. I've just ruled out anything more than friendships with a bit of playful flirting with cute ones. I'm not going down that road again. Like you said.. after being treated like crap for so long I can recognize it in a lot of other relationships and yes more often the wife being so disrespectful. My sister is a prime example I see regularly. the other sister I've seen the drama she's created with her men and keeping exes around for favours. There are plenty more where they are both respectful enough, but nothing where I feel I wish i had what they have. More like he's not worse off/not better off, and enjoys his kids.

jordanmindyou · 2022-02-02T02:58:38+00:00

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OwnerAndMaster · 2022-02-02T03:16:37+00:00

I'm not going to shame you like other so-called allies here. It's called redpill rage in our circles and it's completely normal for a time. But I must encourage you to scream into the internet as loud and angrily as you can, confront that anger, accept it, and let it all out. And once you're all out of anger and you're left empty, that's your new foundation to build a healthy, not necessarily trusting but at least civil relationship with women again. The sooner you embrace all of the pain the sooner it goes away

I wish you all the best. I'm not a psych pro or a divorced man so my experiences are different, and I'm probably a terrible influence but if you want to talk about managing anger towards women without being judged I'll do my best

HaloJonez · 2022-02-02T07:02:30+00:00

Yes, I’m feeling that right now. It feels like when a beaten dog sees the whip, I get real tense and nauseous when I have to converse with women. I know I shouldn’t have to, but Pavlov, you know. I don’t know if it’s going to pass but I just can’t see a day when I’ll ever get close to a woman again.

akihonj · 2022-02-02T07:43:13+00:00

What you feel is normal and most of us have gone through it, letting it go is key here.

Remember the following facts, women treat men like crap because men allow it, if men walked away, showed some balls, grew a backbone and walked, said fuck what society says I'm done.

The women would change, they'd have no choice other than to look at their behaviour but men won't until they have been burned so badly they begin to feel like you do now.

Find a way to let go of that hate as it will only ruin things for you. I'm not going to suggest a fwb thing or whatever that's for you to decide on.

Instead try to remember most men are conditioned to be weak slaves to women, if that were not the case then 90% of women would be alone or useful for nothing more than an hour's entertainment.

Global_warning_ · 2022-02-02T00:25:56+00:00

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pegleg_legal · 2022-02-02T02:00:36+00:00

It's natural but not healthy. See someone.

Ok-Scallion-2508 · 2022-02-02T02:21:07+00:00

You can love men! I volunteer ha ha ha

childish_badda_bingo · 2022-02-02T02:24:00+00:00

The feeling is understandable. For my part, I want companionship. Is it possible to have a relationship where the love and intimacy doesn’t slowly but inevitably die and the disrespect ramps up to intolerable levels? No idea.

Some might conclude the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.

gizzmotech · 2022-02-02T03:56:06+00:00

No, because a bad experience with one woman doesn't mean all women are awful. That's the kind of thinking that men whine about all the time when they hear it from women, and it exhibits poor critical thinking skills.

You do you, I guess.

WarChildMKIV · 2022-02-02T11:12:10+00:00

Red pill rage is a real thing. You were told a fantasy and what you could have and kept traditional while the rest of the world became modern and labeled men as "non-essential". As a result you see the world in a different light, like you've been lied to when you are dealing with and/ or are abused by your spouse at the time. The sad thing is, once you wake up and see how many stores match yours, it pisses you off.

Some of us get stuck in that pissed off stage and others never did a way out of it. The key is focus and finding your own purpose. When you build that up abs hold onto it, you can realize your goals and those become the highest thing of value in your life. Your testimony to a bad relationship should be making yourself the best version of you that you can. Always live and learn better to upset those who expect you to fail. Let every breath that flows from you be an insult to your detractors. The greatest failure you can become is a success against the expectations of those who think nothing of you.

Spodee5 · 2022-02-02T16:16:14+00:00

I don’t hate women but I sure hear a lot of women hate men.

Global_warning_ · 2023-01-23T19:49:40+00:00

Has it really been a year ago that I wrote this? Wow. So I have been doing a lot of growing and had consoling.

I truly can’t stand my X but her actions don’t really affect me anymore. Or as my consoler said don’t give the bitch your energy she doesn’t deserve it.

I did meet someone new that honestly was only to be a single weekend date to keep my mind off not having my kids. As much as I have tried to keep walls up she has been working to get them down. She is showing me nice people do exist. She tells me every day how special I am.

However as far as I have come I still am resistant to being open and I’m sure at this point she is getting frustrated with me being so closed off.

Only time will tell what the future will bring.

Stay strong and aim forward.

Remington_Grey_01 · 2022-02-02T12:07:34+00:00

When I was going through so issues with my now ex wife I tried to find articles and posts that were similar to mine. If I typed “My wife doesn’t want to have sex”, nearly all the results were something like “My husband doesn’t want to have sex anymore”.

All the articles and posts that were negative identity the man (husband / bf) as the problem or the antagonist.

No double standard there.

poorlyplanned · 2022-02-02T03:03:20+00:00

Go find a good therapist.

Fuck's sake, anyone who's gone through a divorce should probably see one a few times to unpack even from a civil split. Someone like you with your story and post really ought to look at a longer-term bit of work to be done.

oli_21_ · 2022-02-02T03:08:21+00:00

Nah, I'm fortunate to have enough good women in my life not to hate them. I'm thankful for that because if I didn't I'd probably feel differently.

I have two sisters that have been married over 25 years and are good spouses.....my mom got shit on by every guy she ever tried to make it work with. She's older though......so it was like once they won the prize they changed.

derelictherds · 2022-02-02T18:08:50+00:00

It is abnormal to hate all women. There are plenty of other subs and online communities that will welcome you into their cult(s) with open arms and provide you with assistance in the matter.

Future-Platform8225 · 2022-02-02T20:58:08+00:00

Yeah I kind of swung that way for a couple months but have pulled out. Some people suck, some women are garbage just like some men, BUT I really don't put them on a pedestal anymore.

Trusting another woman I haven't done and not sure how long that would take but no one will get the reigns in my life but me. My plow days are behind me. I've cut so much bullshit from my life it's become addictive.

Objective_Problem_90 · 2022-02-02T21:43:48+00:00

I dont hate women at all. I've come to realize there are some really nice and kind women out there. I just dont seem to have the knack for picking them out. Lol. I'm not opposed to to fun, healthy relationship, but I have to admit I have zero desire on ever getting married again. No cohabitation either.

2022-02-02T22:06:59+00:00

Try to remember, it's not ALL women, just the ones we married. Plus the family court system (at least here in the US) is basically set up and designed to rip apart families, fleece men, and reward women. They "say" it's changing but I'm not seeing it.

Also try to remember that for every man going through this, there's a woman who's husband cheated on her, left her, beat her, etc. It's bad everywhere, it's not just us suffering.

But I DO feel for you, I know it's rough. If you feel that strongly, I would advise NOT getting involved with any other women for a good long while.

BlackAnvilEgo42 · 2022-02-03T02:12:21+00:00

In this day and age putting faith in anyone for a lifetime, regardless of gender or relationship is a slippery slope. Familial bonds can't even stand the test sometimes. You're only in competition with yourself, though, and only you can truly help yourself. People suck. Full stop. We simply have these one-sided encounters more with women because we choose to show them our vulnerability. Being obscenely independent and having firm boundaries prevents a lot of those encounters in and outside of your love life as well. Predators are easily confused with house pets if they're cute enough, but if you're being honest with yourself, you shouldn't be giving any potential romantic interest less scrutiny than you'd give a shady stranger, the only difference in the two is the duration of their game...

Islandboy2000 · 2022-02-05T20:31:57+00:00

Naw, I didn’t hate women. I just hated one specific woman. I found so much joy and entertainment from meeting new women and expanding what I considered to by my “type”.

2022-02-09T03:29:09+00:00

This is a normal reaction, post divorce. But it’s also unfair to categorize all of them, just because of one bad experience. There are hands down some true angels out there.

I didn’t “hate” women after divorce. But I just couldn’t jump into a relationship with anyone. But that didn’t stop the string of sexy time adventures; yes, some women can feel you have been hurt and make it all go away for you 😏😉

I would start with casual encounters

Due-Needleworker6813 · 2023-01-23T01:33:35+00:00

Yes! I cannot stand a woman anymore, voice and all their attributes. They disgust me and I avoid them like hell.

Title	Hate women after divorce
Author	Global_warning_
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Date	February 2, 2022 12:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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