Age gap relationships rob the younger woman or her youth and 20s, a decade that you should be able to prioritize self-growth and doing whatever you want to do. Age gap relationships rob the younger woman of the carlelessness, fun, and the adventure that the older man had in his 20s and 30s. Age gap relationships rob the younger woman of the ability to focus on herself and put herself first during some of the most critical years. Age gap relationships rob the younger woman of the respect she deserves in a relationship, because in the age gap dynamic, the older man usually belittles, condescends, and manipulates her.

When a naive 25 year old woman meets an immature, or even a mature 35-40 year old, she may think everything is fine. She may think it’s cool he has a car and house unlike the 25 year old losers she sees. But if she commits/marries a large age gap, she is committing to being a 40 year old down the line who is with a 55 year old. She's committing to being a youthful 60 year old who has to take care of a 75 year old. She's committing to a partner who’s going to be retired when she might be reaching the height of her career. She is committing to spending these important decades with someone who is in a completely different stage of life and is probably going to pressure her to change her true desires and goals in life to settle to be with him. He thinks because he has career stability, that's enough to finesse his way into a relationship. It's not enough.

Being 40+ and going after younger women is a sign something is deeply wrong with a man. If he truly prioritizes being a family man, he would have married a woman his age earlier in life and built a family. The age gap relationship is the quintessential "you can have your cake and eat it too" to them. Not only did they get to spend their 20s and 30s finding themselves, dating around, exploring the world, working on their careers, but they get to settle down with a beautiful youthful woman who is giving up her 20s and 30s to be faithful to their asses. It is rare that the younger woman doesn't get railroaded into abandoning her career and life goals to fit into the life the guy already created for himself. These guys are not really looking for individuals, they are looking for a woman, any young woman, who is just going to slide into their lives as a trophy wife/consistent sex partner/future nurse. If you think about it, it is very dehumanizing to be involved in an age gap relationship-because you are reduced to just being a younger woman and that in itself is why he picked you.

Remember, young ladies, your brain doesn't even finish developing until 25. Some scientists are now saying closer to 30. Do not commit to these older men who have lived lives of debauchery and want to settle down with a beautiful young woman. I promise, when you get to his age you will see how depraved they were to even want to date you.

These older men have no qualms about spoiling the careers and youth of women, and I doubt any of them in good conscience chase after age gap relationships (to say the least). They know full well what it means to have a decade of experience over someone. They enjoyed their youths being as selfish as possible before doing the age gap relationship thing. And the younger woman always gets the short end of the stick.

TLDR: Do not get involved in age gap relationships.