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ClintEastwoods_Chair · 2020-09-03T14:54:53+00:00

Being a functional adult is not sexy, it's just what's expected of every adult????? He went through a whole childhood, marriage, and divorce before realizing, oh, hey, I need to wash my own dishes? Lmao at the "apply all my intelligence and devise a management method". I bet his dishes are crusty and growing mold in the sink while he pontificates on the internet.

chateauduchat · 2020-09-03T15:24:20+00:00

This is why managers get paid more than workers. There is a hidden, invisible mental load when we have to manage others to tell others what to do instead of them knowing by themselves and taking initiative.

Tell-Me-Whyy · 2020-09-03T15:01:10+00:00

This reminds me of my NVM narc ex. He would always say 'I live for duty' 'just tell me what to do and I'll do it'. Yet he would also call me controlling, and demanding and overly critical if I did complain about something that wanted to be changed.

So not only with LV/ NVm do they not do the obvious relationship stuff and ask you to do it all, or instruct them, they don't even do it when you ask!

The 'tell me what to do' is just another way men put the blame on the woman if the relationship goes wrong or the woman is unhappy, another way to be lazy and do fuck all and take no responsibility. I'm sure they already know how to be a good partner, they just can't be bothered.

Oh and now guys are Gods if they actually do bare minimum in a relationship they chose, without women asking! Yet women just do it without any credit whatsoever.

The double standards and how low the bar is set for men are just ridiculous

Hhjjuuy · 2020-09-03T14:18:08+00:00

Awww he's such a good man. Acknowledging that his wife isn't his mommy while diminishing the sexuality of all women! Yay!

Unless "this" is my orgasm "I got this" isn't a particularly sexy phrase at all. Attractive? Reassuring? Bare minimum since we're talking about housework? Sure. Sexy? The sexiest? Fucking lol

2020-09-03T15:56:15+00:00

This. This was one of the many reasons I divorced. Yes, the abuse and all aside, I constantly had to mother him and do bloody meal planning for him. Dishes just weren't something he did and, if he did them on occasion, he'd only do a third or maybe half. Then he'd complain about how I did dishes 🙄

localgirlcult · 2020-09-03T15:45:20+00:00

I remember this. Here's his full article.

00Hypernova00 · 2020-09-03T17:06:13+00:00

Geez, I didn't know it was this hard for men.. Like, they really have to use aalll their intelligence and brain function to see dishes, then wash them, without anyone telling them to.. Lol.. That's just, kinda sad

2020-09-03T15:07:14+00:00

Relatable. If I have to tell you to do it I'm out.

Kimpractical · 2020-09-03T16:17:11+00:00

A man who has to be told when/how to take care of his house and family is not a man

seraphinelysion · 2020-09-03T16:06:51+00:00

men really do expect the most praise for doing the least

azngirl7689 · 2020-09-03T18:54:26+00:00

No the sexiest thing is good foreplay and nice equipment downstairs not chores. That’s a bare minimum standard to meet, what pick me told him that chores were sexy?

appendixgallop · 2020-09-03T19:10:03+00:00

What's exhausting is to have the added duty of pointing out what needs to be done. Hearing that from a spouse and father of three kids who was only home weekends year after year was (eventually) my life-changing prod. Can you imagine a co-pilot on a jumbo jet saying, "if you just tell me what you want me to do, I'll gladly do it."?

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-09-03T16:09:33+00:00

“You guys, he brushed his own teeth, wiped his own ass, and did all the buttons by his big boy self today!” <claps and squeals!> If anyone gets sexually turned on by this sort of basic self management, there’s something WRONG. Mopping the floor is no different.

CarmelPeach · 2020-09-03T15:49:13+00:00

I remember my bf had told me something like I don’t do enough around the house when I literally cook, clean and wash the dishes and clean the bathroom and clean the room he leaves dishes in . He works full time and I don’t work atm so I try to help, but ever since then I haven’t had the same motivation to help him out . He only said he was sorry and didn’t mean it after I started crying. I’m like what the he’ll do you do after work? And all he could say is I washed dishes a few times last week .. I WASH THEM EVERYDAY TWICE A DAY. the male species is ridiculous

saydeesalt · 2020-09-03T17:48:48+00:00

This whole article is about respect. If she’s asked him to NOT do something before and he does it regardless after, that is disrespectful.

osefdupseudal · 2020-09-03T23:52:44+00:00

I'm sure he truly believes that it's only cause of the dishes

LogPsiho · 2020-09-07T10:32:03+00:00

This is why I broke up with a man who was so loving to me, but I could not take babying him anymore. I advise women to break it off at the first signs of this because your time and effort can be better spent elsewhere.

grapefruitjuiceparty · 2020-09-04T14:41:30+00:00

It’s so sad and disgusting that this kind of post is a step above the norm for men. The simple act of empathizing, of taking adult responsibility, and managing daily and life tasks, is supposed to be a higher evolution than the average man is expected to achieve.

That is absurd.

Title	Well...
Author	greatnesdbyamu
Upvotes	591
Comments	61
Date	September 3, 2020 12:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ils9i2/well/
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