Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalence

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-08T11:52:49+00:00

Small breasts, however small, are still VISIBLE! On my chest. I get leered at or shamed for them every day.

Small dicks, they're conveniently concealed (hopefully) ... Women never know what's up (or down) until their panties drop.

It's always a crass, vulgar, blatant sign of misogyny when a man decides to comment on my breasts in any way, so he's automatically disqualified from anything.

But always watch out for the insecurity that's oozing whenever a man comments on "small" breasts. Especially if it comes with a side of some big dick talk! lol, sis, you know that's just a huge, neon sign for shitty personality and/or a micropenis...

BoxingChoirgal · 2021-04-08T12:54:41+00:00

On one of several first/last dates post-divorce (dating at mid-life and beyond is every bit as horrible as you could imagine, and then some) I was asked if I would consider a boob job. First Date . In the middle of the entrée .

My facial expression was all he needed to know how receptive (NOT) I was to the idea.

Yet instead of apologizing he doubled down on the subject! Mentioned that he had been "generous" in paying for his ex-wife's boobs and now some other guys were enjoying them.

Just. Ew.

Davina33 · 2021-04-08T08:06:48+00:00

I have small boobs and when I was at school there was this boy I didn't get on with. He used to call me a "titless bitch" amongst other things. I even wanted a boob job at one point. I'm past that now and I love my small chest. Another thing men forget is no one can tell if they have a small penis unless they are getting intimate. A woman with a small chest is visible to every single person she sees. So it's not the same at all. You won't see me crying that everything in my life is crap because of a small chest though. That's the difference.

jasmine-blossom · 2021-04-08T12:40:04+00:00

Also, no ones telling men they have to date women with small breasts if that’s not what they’re into.

We’re just telling women that they also don’t have to settles for a partner who isn’t attractive to them and doesn’t satisfy them.

99natas · 2021-04-08T14:29:47+00:00

I need to say, my boobs are big, but when they are out of a bra, they hang, so pretty sure men don’t like that either, and really want fake boobs.

I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman with big boobs where they don’t hang down due to the effect of gravity over time.

Hikari3747 · 2021-04-08T11:51:25+00:00

People can see your boob size every day. Men get the luxury of being able to hide their penis. So it's a mystery on how big it is.

Women bodies have been a "what you see is what you get". While men are mysterious Boxes.

c_a_t_lady · 2021-04-08T14:13:08+00:00

I personally don't care that much about the dick size, because for me, if I was dating a person with a dick, the penetration would never be the main event. I appear to only have little sensation down there (based on the experiments I've had with toys), so I wouldn't build the event around it. It could be a part of it, but ideally not really that significant. But I absolutely do get why some people care about it, especially if they can enjoy penetration and want it to be the main event.

And regardless, it's not a fair comparison. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have small titties, and I used to feel insecure about it. All my friends had bigger one's. And I heard from every outlet, in a way or another, about how bigger boobs are better and small boobs are bad. Not always directly, but through memes, jokes and movies.

I wanted a boob job, and I was gonna get one as soon as I turn 18, which was half a year ago. When I talked to my sister about it, she brought up a simple, yet great point: "You should ask yourself, why you want them to be bigger." And suddenly I realized that I didn't want them to be bigger. I thought I wanted them to be huge, while in actuality I had just always been influenced by the idea that I should want them to be bigger. 🤨

Mainly because hey, then men would want you more. This is something I used to think successful women would have because man approval was seen as such an incredible and necessary thing. 🙄

Though, if a man won't date me because of my tit size, then wonderful! I'll just date a woman. 🥰

Ps. Now I am 100% pleased with my b-cups. ❣

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-04-08T09:14:05+00:00

I love big dicks and I cannot lie 🎶

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-04-08T15:35:44+00:00

THANK YOUUUUUU, I HATE this comparison and I see it all the time. I hate it when people are like 'oh, small boobs are fine, SOMEONE will find you attractive' as if America isn't obsessed with big fake tits, as if it isn't shoved down our throats from childhood that femininity means having big breasts, as if plastic surgery for large breasts isn't a BILLION DOLLAR industry.

LostInContentment · 2021-04-08T13:32:49+00:00

In my experience, it’s the small dick havers that are the most insecure. Their insecurities ruin the experience. They seem to have the idea that PIV is the most important part. It’s not. If you can’t make me orgasm before PIV, chances are I’m not going to orgasm. And sex starts before the clothes come off.

My current partner is my lover. He’s confident and generous. He buys me dark chocolate, candy, and ice cream quite regularly. He takes care of me during that time of the month. He cooks my favorite meals. (I have Celiac so cooking for me is a big deal.) He cleans off my car in the winter. We have deep conversations. He treats me with love and respect. He knows he’s lucky to have me. By the time we get into bed, I’m primed to have a good time. He’s paid attention to what I like and dislike. He knows exactly what gets me off. When PIV time comes, I’m EAGER to hop on that dick.

To contrast, my NVX and small dick haver, was insecure. He had to have a big truck he couldn’t afford. We weren’t house-poor, we were truck-poor. He had to have the fastest/loudest motorcycle. He complained about my hair, makeup, and weight. (I’m 5’7” and was about 125# for reference.) He thought I took too long to orgasm so he never tried. He’d give me just enough foreplay to make me wet or just use lube. I rarely orgasmed. And then he’d complain that I was frigid because I rarely came on to him. 🤡

Ladies, don’t give a man access to your body until he’s proven that he’s going to be your lover. A man who worships the ground you walk on outside the bedroom, is far more likely to worship you inside the bedroom. Look for signs of small dick energy. Don’t make excuses for insecurities in daily life.

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-04-08T08:54:25+00:00

Even if men don't say they prefer bigger boobs, women only have to stumble across the porn they've been consuming, to find they only like big boobs. They are such hypocrites. The only men who seem to like small boobs are small boob fetishists and pedo types. I was picked on by boys for having small boobs, even at the swimming baths and big tits were everywhere in the media, I even wanted implants when I was 10! I eventually had implants in my 20s after I stopped breastfeeding, I loved them for a few years and later didn't and regretted it and later had them removed. I learned to love my small boobs and realised I'd been conditioned to believe bigger boobs are more attractive (I don't care anymore if men think they are). My boobs have got bigger last couple of years however, now a C cup and I don't want them to grow! I'm truly happy with small ones. Also all the myths about small boobs and breast feeding makes me laugh, I breastfed my daughter no problems and I was almost flat chested before I started producing milk. I've been extremely lucky, explant with no lift, but you can't tell, they are still pert and scars a barely visible.

I wrote a comment yesterday about liking a girthy penis and I have to be honest I was in two minds to delete, I don't want to upset or offend men about physical attributes and all my life I've been very careful not to, despite men doing it to me, either directly with words or indirectly with the media and porn they consume or both. Then I thought you know what men will never change, even if they are nice and say I love your breasts, they'll consume porn filled with big tits, so I thought sod it I'll leave the comment, why can men state their preference of physical attributes when it comes to women, but we can't and are made to feel we have to tiptoe around men's egos? If your nice to men and make them feel good about their appearance, they don't return the favour.

gravedestruct1on · 2021-04-08T23:46:46+00:00

Idk I get somewhat conflicted about this topic as someone who has small boobs and still struggles with my self confidence about it. I don’t think it’s about the frame of reference as my attraction level to men, as I’ve never had problems getting one, it’s more so the constant bombarding from everyone that boobs like mine are “underdeveloped”, by both genders.

From the male perspective my boobs are too small. I’m not “womanly” enough. Using words like these to make me and other small breasted women feel like we never “grew into being an adult/sexual”

On the women’s perspective it’s that guys who like me or find me attractive must be pedophiles because my body is “prepubescent”. Sometimes I hear talk about that on this sub as well, that men don’t like fully mature women, they like teenagers, and men who like women who look like Ariana grande (who fits that stereotypical petite/young/girly look) are really just low key pedophilic.

As someone with that body type it actually makes me feel worse because I’m a women...Just because my breasts are small doesn’t mean I look underdeveloped or like a child.

For that reason I think calling anyone “prepubescent” due to having a smaller body part just isn’t right. Even when women say that about men, “oh his dick is small I want a man not a boy” that message still translates to “I never developed” to a women who has small breasts.

At the end of the day I know I shouldn’t care what men find desirable (I’m on my journey with this one, which I would say I have made huge improvements bc I used to swear by getting a boob job when I was 16) but after getting bombarded by the media, men, and even women sometimes during formative years about them it gets really hard to love yourself as you are.

UnstrirringCoffee · 2021-04-08T07:46:00+00:00

Large or small, I don't orgasm from penetration ever. I need a guy who is good with his hands or his tongue for that. Dick size really doesn't matter to me, though I might be in the minority.

Actually that's not entirely accurate. A large dick is a problem for me. It just won't fit. I actual prefer smaller dicks for penetration. But really I get nothing out of it. And with the risk of pregnancy or disease, I'd rather not do penetration at all.

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-04-08T12:01:20+00:00

Years ago (pre-FDS) I fell for a guy whose brain I loved, personality I enjoyed, and body that I thought I could convince myself to fall for.

But this voice in my head and gut told me not to procreate with him. It was interesting and weird. Very real though.

We decided to stop talking and went our separate ways

—-

Edit to add: I would not have been happy with this man. Despite loving his brain and most of his personality, some primal drive inside me was repulsed by him physically. And I feel awful saying that about someone I loved, but it’s very true. As much as I loved him, I couldn’t see myself with him.

Ladies if you have felt the same, know you’re not alone. You deserve a mate who fits your standards and desires. Being with someone you’re not attracted to will eventually turn into pity and resentment, no matter the mental acrobatics you do to “get over it”

jointsbeforesex · 2021-04-08T17:21:38+00:00

There's a libfem illustrator who draw a comparison of this. About "body positivity" of boobs and she complains on when theres gonna be a "dick positivity" of men. Let me know if you wanna me to upload it.

Korok1989 · 2021-04-08T15:01:42+00:00

I have a D cup and scrotes are obsessed with them, i can't even wear a v-neck. It's gross. You get constant jidgment and stares

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-04-08T16:08:00+00:00

"There was never a time in early modern Europe when an actual breast wasn’t judged against some platonic tit ideal. Smaller breasts have been considered sexually attractive more frequently and for longer periods of time in the West."

https://www.racked.com/2017/12/21/16738658/cleavage-history

Following on from my recent response to a comment on this thread, the tit ideal can change, it's just trends, one man who men admire, makes a comment or a painting with his tit ideal and lots of other men follow suit and that tit ideal becomes a trend.

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-04-08T13:58:03+00:00

Lmao what a dumb argument. No one wants a small dick, women aren't like "oh yeah! That's what I want" and actively look for it while men/women are actually attracted to small boobs lol. Small or big they still get men excited, a small dick gets no women excited and if you have a small dick, your mouth game should be A1, don't go around trying to force women to sleep with you and THEN do a disservice with both things lol.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-04-08T20:41:33+00:00

So to take notes, in the future, we'll just answer with "Do I stick my boob up your ass to arouse your prostate? Are you unable to come without the actions that my boobs provide? No? Then shut up."

kycake · 2021-04-08T20:55:14+00:00

this comparison has ALWAYS bothered me. like you’re comparing completely different things that play completely different roles in sex.

IllTill3859 · 2021-04-08T14:28:05+00:00

I am not ashamed and will not make excuses for a small penis. I find small penises repulsive. They remind me of toddlers and prepubescent boys. I am not a pedophile. Adult body parts for adult sized men please. In my experience those men with very small penises were quite insecure, terrible in bed and did not know how to use their hands or tongue. Makes for a terrible experience. Waste of time actually. Sorry, not sorry.

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Title	Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalence
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Date	April 8, 2021 7:36 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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