There's a thread on TwoXChromosomes asking why men use "cat lady" as an insult.

Sam__Toucan · 2025-10-23T11:27:25+00:00

"Centrist dad" is an insult? What does that even mean

VolcanoSheep26 · 2025-10-23T12:23:51+00:00

I've had that sub muted for so long I forgot it existed.

I recommend doing the same. I used to see some of the nastiest shit mentioned there and it would piss me off. Now I don't see their bullshit and I'm better for it.

antixwick999 · 2025-10-23T12:42:00+00:00

I mean women use "gay" as an insult, literally using homophobia to a man who doesn't wanna or find them attractive

Former_Range_1730 · 2025-10-23T11:26:21+00:00

These women are the demographic who were never all that into men to begin with, and men where never all that into. So, why do their opinions matter.

Gordo_Majima · 2025-10-23T13:41:07+00:00

People that post there are irrelevant to me

El_Maltos_Username · 2025-10-23T15:58:49+00:00

Sounds like something that catladies would say.

Panda-Maximus · 2025-10-23T11:54:25+00:00

I take issue that the subject of such a term is rarely a lady.

lazymud68 · 2025-10-23T12:40:17+00:00

It's funny because those same people always insult men who refuse to or are unable to date.

dougpschyte · 2025-10-23T12:06:25+00:00

I guess any extension to the Catwoman franchise is doomed, then.

stoicle · 2025-10-23T15:01:28+00:00

Who cares what a hate group has to say or think about us

ElegantAd2607 · 2025-10-23T22:27:00+00:00

Thanks for this post. I didn't exactly need another reason to avoid twox but I'd like to share this post with anyone who thinks that men are just more hateful online than women.

Krogdordaburninator · 2025-10-23T18:22:17+00:00

Cat lady hits really close to home.

AbysmalDescent · 2025-10-23T14:38:54+00:00

Cat lady is basically a lighter version of femcel. It usually signifies a great level of misandry, or negative predisposition towards men, or a failure in relationships, which is only made worse by the fact that women operate from a position of absolute privilege when it comes to relationships.

MisterBowTies · 2025-10-23T20:05:24+00:00

Is "small dick energy" in their vocabulary? If so, they have invalidated themselves.

MerliniusDeMidget · 2025-10-24T06:44:27+00:00

Idk who needs to hear this but as long as you participate in this "gender war" bullshit, you'll never be the happiest version of yourself

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-10-24T15:16:26+00:00

i dont think there is any way to shame a woman for being unsuccessful in the same way we have basement dweller, virgin, incel, no bitches for men, like, its really weird that we have so many insults for "loser" men but when we have those situations in women, everyone is quiet or sympathetic. and we are supposed to be the ones who have it better and are sooo privileged...

Subject-Storage4232 · 2025-10-23T15:59:31+00:00

Honestly speaking, I never thought of 'cat lady' as an insult. If a woman is happy being single living with her cats, props to her I suppose. The word that is more offensive would be 'spinster'.

And I don't find that a woman calling certain men 'misogynist' to be derogatory as long as there is clear proof that said man was being misogynistic.

The term that really sets me off is 'incel'. Just because some men online are being sexist, you are going to shame them for being unable to court women? Like do you have any idea how much of a false equivalence that is? The most misogynistic men I know are married men with daughters and side chicks.

But sure, demonize the single men who are struggling to get the attention of women.

IntrepidDifference84 · 2025-10-25T07:21:20+00:00

Because that is most of their futures.

Natural_Dust_732 · 2025-10-25T22:32:12+00:00

My big question is why use it? Having cats is cool.

Van_Darklholme · 2025-10-23T11:26:09+00:00

There is no need to stoop down to a level where you scrutinize verbiage over systemic dysfunction.

Nervous_Designer_894 · 2025-10-23T11:30:36+00:00

I don't support using cat-lady, and we shoudn't either, we can be better than that guys.

That said, cat lady was never meant to be a really derogatory term, and was probably used by both genders to reflect a stereotype for childless older women who ended up with lots of pets usually cats. I've also got a friend, wonderful, kind, beautiful who has 9 cats on account of her having several miscarriages and loving pets.

I don't support it, people should be able to choose to be child-free without being redicule, and it could also be a result of divorce or infertilty etc.

critical_Bat · 2025-10-23T12:18:17+00:00

The funny thing about the cat ladies is that whatever they claim to be for and against their motherly instincts need to be expressed.

But the continuation of the two sexes talking about each other in echochambers seeking affirmation instead of to each other. This has to change course sooner rather than later.

Forsaken_Hat_7010 · 2025-10-23T15:07:54+00:00

They're technically right and it's a sexist insult, them being hypocrites and doing the same to men doesn't change that. What surprises me more is that they complain about that one of all things, since that's actually mild; I wouldn't mind at all being a "cat gentleman".

Organic_Falcon228 · 2025-10-23T13:55:56+00:00

Sounds like a sub full of obese cat ladies.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-10-23T14:56:49+00:00

Why do we use it? Because saying a woman can't land a husband, only buy cats, IS an insult. Especially when you consider that it's "cat lady" not "dog lady": cats are independent, don't love you, and you serve them. Dogs love you and are affectionate, but you have to earn it/maintain it. Cats are indifferent. Owning a happy cat proves nothing; owning a happy, healthy, well-trained dog does. Which is why these women have cats.

IOW being called a cat lady is an insult of competence, similar to calling a man an incel. Since women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men the gatekeepers of relationships, being unable to land either is worthy of insult.

EDIT: not all cats/dogs, obviously. I love cats, but we're talking average cats, not my amazing ones.

Falconoflight777 · 2025-10-24T11:12:10+00:00

Even term loser is strong male-oriented, like women are perfect just by right of birth.

KENNETHCHADLINGTON · 2025-10-24T11:14:15+00:00

Anyone ever met a cat lady that's in a meaningful place in life and not lonely as hell? Nope didn't think so lmao idk why the truth is so hard to hear for women.

Also "incel" is a fallacy, nobody is involuntarily celebate. Quite literally anyone can get laid regardless of how you look. Persistence and accepting that rejection is inevitable is the key, it's a numbers game.

So choosing not to do that is what? Voluntary lol feminazis are too dumb to understand nuance.

CawlinAlcarz · 2025-10-24T12:21:40+00:00

Women (or men) who participate in such subreddits are beneath my consideration and should be beneath all of yours, too.

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-10-24T19:55:09+00:00

Its a insult cause it means the only people that stay in there life's are there involuntary.

Its honestly not that hard. To see pushing that fact in there face is like pouring salt in a open wound for them.

Often the most truthful claims hurts the most cause you can ignore the truth but you can't run away from it and your force to face that fact its true every day. Why they are so upset about it. While at the same tine gaslighting its not that way. And its everyone else fault they are in that position. Cause the whole world is "low quality" but themselves

clybourn · 2025-10-25T22:20:14+00:00

The old term was Ape Leaders back in Shakespearean times.

generisuser037 · 2025-10-27T09:35:04+00:00

Um, hello? Women use cat lady as an insult too. What am i? Chopped liver?

Bitter-Blueberry-928 · 2025-10-27T23:35:34+00:00

Dude, “cat lady’s” and “ladies with more than one dog”, all I can think of is Ramsey Bomton’s hounds from Game of Thrones.

What happens when the women are frail, trapped in an apartment with the dogs, all you EMTs, here’s a question, “do dogs and cats eat in people” if they are trapped in a house?

Self_Correcting_Code · 2025-10-28T11:06:08+00:00

You forgot they used to used scrote. Like they're sister sub FDS.

Billmacia · 2025-10-30T00:42:24+00:00

Not the sub full of misandrist femcel. Muted a long time ago.

Zhezersheher · 2025-11-08T13:50:17+00:00

Male fragility isn’t real. This specific projection stems from the women’s issues with their femininity. People can’t even bring up a woman’s role at home around them, they are intolerant to this topic but why? Feminine fragility. They try so fucking hard to be like men, pretending that it’s normal for a woman to completely abandon her role to take on a man’s responsibilities. It’s just not right. This defensiveness about these topics shows bitches fucking know this isn’t right.

Sick. It’s just sick.

AlternativeOption313 · 2025-11-09T16:37:04+00:00

It's sad because it's very clear that feminism has littered false statistics all over the place. I still care about women's health and the hell that system is in an stuff like that, but it sucks that lots of people I see in my journey seem to be bitter, hateful, and resentful women out there. Not that I haven't found a good handful of women that don't hate men out there, but I've ran into too many that do. And a lot that don't hate men seem to also have fallen for the false statistics laid by this cult.

Edit: Actually, most actual feminists I run into seem to be completely fine with the women's health system and seem to not see anything wrong with it, when the reality is that both doctors and other women seem to be keeping it in hell.

sassy_croissant · 2025-10-23T23:13:12+00:00

Most feminists often rely on strawman arguments that can derail meaningful conversations and hinder real progress. Supporting men’s rights does not take away from women’s rights—it simply acknowledges that gender issues affect everyone.

To illustrate this, imagine women currently have 10 pies and men have only 2. Egalitarians would say, “Both should have 10 pies,” aiming for equality. But feminists argue that women still need even more pies, while men's issues are either ignored or justified by referencing women's historical oppression by the patriarchy.

Simplement_thrown · 2025-10-27T01:03:08+00:00

FDS Lite is up to its usual misandrist fuck shit.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-10-23T14:50:35+00:00

Wait- "gammon"?

I have, for quite a long time now, been telling people to avoid that place, since complaining about the hateful things they say is like complaining about the hateful rhetoric of the KKK, but if things have truly reached the point that they're using bacon as an insult, then it's unambiguously time to leave them to their mental illnesses and move on.

kit-kat315 · 2025-10-23T14:20:56+00:00

I think the point is that "cat lady" isn't really an insult. Being single by choice with a couple of cats is a pretty sweet deal.

If anything happened to my husband, I would happily get another cat (have 2 now) and lean into being a "cat lady." I use the possibility as a teasing reminder for him to visit the doctor.

mwts · 2025-10-23T11:41:05+00:00

i mean cat lady is just a bad insult anyway.

most cat ladies ive met own it, my neighbor has 13 cats in her studio apartment and brags about it.

most dudes dont want to be incels or virgins so its actually an insult since 99 percent of the time it's their own fault anyway.

Title	There's a thread on TwoXChromosomes asking why men use "cat lady" as an insult.
Author	Hosai87
Upvotes	722
Comments	136
Date	October 23, 2025 11:22 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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