Getting dating advice from Men

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-07-09T22:33:29+00:00

Listening to men will get you advice on how to cool girl yourself into being a Forever GF with his two out of wedlock kids and your name not on the deed of the "family home"

concacanca · 2019-07-09T22:03:26+00:00

Shit. It's all like 'you should throw yourself at him so the oblivious fuck won't miss it!'. Which ofc is a fine way to get plated.

passepar2t · 2019-07-09T22:06:48+00:00

Implying that women need dating advice from men to date.

QueenCousland86 · 2019-07-09T21:31:22+00:00

Dating advice from men will be focused on them, their needs and wants. Dating advice from other women will be focused on you, your needs and wants. Look for a happy medium between the two, and you're more likely to be successful.

ThisIsJustATr1bute · 2019-07-09T23:25:20+00:00

The benefit of getting dating advice from your own sex is that they understand your psychology and what issues you may have that you need to fix. The risk of getting dating advice from your own sex is that they don’t always know what the opposite sex actually wants, but only what works.

Others also advise based on what they think should be rather than what is.

The benefit of getting dating advice from the opposite sex is they can give insider knowledge of how their minds work. The risk is their advice might be clouded and biased by their own imperative.

azngirl7689 · 2019-07-09T21:23:17+00:00

Terrible. All they tell you is how to be a plate, so not helpful.

alottapeeps · 2019-07-09T21:28:24+00:00

Idk any women who think getting dating advice from men about men is a good idea. When my girl friends and I needed dating advice we always asked each other.

People in general are not honest about what they want so it's better to get your advice from third party observations about behavior.

jmitch88 · 2019-07-10T03:21:55+00:00

It’s hard to get good advice on the internet. There are so many people who are married but miserable and tons more single and bitter. You got people that hack the system to get laid but can’t sustain a relationship. People who settle for the league bellow because it is safe. How is one to know the difference.

Solid advice coming from a male or female will have a solid perspective on some basics of the opposite sexes wants and needs. That’s the advice you need. BUT too much advice on the others wants/needs with no personal boundaries or standards and you are getting advice from a doormat. Like someone else said you are looking for a happy medium.

Being in a solid marriage with a high level partner has taken a lot of work on both our parts. I am no easy guy to be with and she is a little emotional and requires some maintenance. That being said I can tell when a male or female is blowing smoke on here but it would be pretty hard to spot without experience.

EthelSupreme · 2019-07-09T22:17:49+00:00

Depends which men you ask. A brother or gay male friend will give you advice that will help you as a woman. Usually a straight man who is not family will give you bias towards his team. An older man like a counselor might give solid tips on how to avoid getting used, but it will be trad con advice on how to be a "lady" and not too fast.

wotsittoyou · 2019-07-10T03:40:19+00:00

Crap. For seduction they'll advise you in ways that actively put you at risk. For relationships they'll advise you to make your man completely happy which is bullshit, a man ain't supposed to be completely happy, a man ain't made to be completely happy, a man is poorly served by being completely happy and making him so is both counterproductive and too much to carry.

PanderjitSingh_k · 2019-07-09T23:13:35+00:00

I’ve never given any dating advice. Never known anyone of either sex who needed any.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-07-09T23:35:33+00:00

Wait,

Are you asking about men getting dating advice from other men?

Or, women getting dating advice from men?

Those are two very different questions.

je_kut_is_bourgeois · 2019-07-10T01:16:08+00:00

Often hear the saying “you can ask a fish how it catch it” or similar when the subject of “getting dating advice on women from women comes up”

A fish doesn't want to be caught and tries to escape fearing for its life... if that's how you approach this all then well yeah...

But what I haven’t seen in discussion is the opposite. How effective do you think asking men dating advice about men?

"dating advice" from random strangers on the internet that don't know you is in general a disaster I feel; hell "dating advice" is a questionable thing in and of itself.

I'm pretty sure most of this "life advice" in general is just something that has was invented by blogs and boob writers to make money: remember that the basic problem with most of this is that it's a case of "success kills clients"; if you have a blog or a book on how to obtain a mate: every success story has no more reason to continue to read your blog or buy the next book you come with... let that sink in. Same with a lot of "life advice" where there is a goal and once reached then that is that.

I prefer to differentiate between “seduction” advice and “relationship” advice. I’ve found that the same sex seem to get a bit lost when advising on the former but their insights when it comes to already established relationships are invaluable.

I find all of it terrible.

FairlyNaive · 2019-07-10T10:28:39+00:00

Dont be fat and dont be old works like a charm

blackedoutfast · 2019-07-10T20:13:10+00:00

it doesn't matter because even if men gave them good advice women will just ignore it and do whatever dumb shit they were gonna do anyway.

hell, a fuckboy player can literally tell a girl "yo i'm just a fuckboy player and i'm just using you for sex and have zero intent to ever marry you" and if she's into him she will just ignore it and then later be like "wahh why won't he marry me?"

grandmapurp · 2019-07-09T21:54:04+00:00

TRP attempts to describe the sexual strategies of women and as such it inadvertently contains a lot of advice that might be beneficial to women. It's also an unfiltered glimpse into the psychology of a lot of men, so I think any smart woman who truly studied TRP deeply could gain a lot of insight and develop some dating strategies that would work well.

Nobodykers · 2019-07-09T22:21:19+00:00

Be as pretty as you can

Don't be fat

Be easy to have a conversation with.

jmitch88 · 2019-07-10T02:10:07+00:00

lol most men give absolute shit advice on dating. Most men have no idea what they are doing. Find men who have women that you find desirable, and get their advice. Especially if it looks like they lead their relationship. Even good looking naturals can give good advice

Melohdy · 2019-07-09T22:34:46+00:00

I'd be terrible at this. What I'm looking for is a girl who is fun, genuinely laughs, is sweet, and will make me feel good to be with her. This woman, I'd want to marry and be with as much as I can. I do not know if I'm like most men with this advice. I've never wanted to be man.

[deleted] · 2019-07-09T23:22:30+00:00

Why would a woman ask a man?

As the saying goes, don't ask a fish how to catch em.

There are plenty of women out there dating successfully, surely they would be a better bet.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-07-10T01:53:42+00:00

Men have been telling women the same fucking thing for eons! We aren't hard to please. You could buy a guy a sandwich and he'd be happy for a week. The problem is, women don't like what they're told because it interferes with their fun and hypergamy.

They know guys don't want a reformed slut as a wife, but that's no fun, so they slut it up anyways.

They know we never get compliments or get shown interest often, but they claim to be too scared to make the first move or unwilling.

They know we value loyalty, blunt honesty, effort, and other small stuff but that means fuck all to them.

This shit isn't hard. Women just flat out refuse to listen. They don't give a flying fuck about what we value in a partner, to them, its their way or the highway. So why should any guy give a fuck about what they value in a partner? Lie, cheat, steal, do whatever it takes to get that nut off and once you're done, discard them like an afterthought.

All's fair in love and war.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-07-09T22:06:44+00:00

Most of them before a certain age don't care about dating, they care about fucking. If they must date to get sex, they will. But they would rather have a steady stream of regular sex with no attachments.

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[deleted] · 2019-07-10T14:17:30+00:00

Men are terrible at defining ways to relationships. Just as much as women are with defining their way into relationships.

However, men are really simple creatures. There is nothing hard about our way to thinking, nor much difference. The same cannot be said of women.

tgertcher · 2019-07-10T17:27:38+00:00

Women want advice on how to get players to settle down. Normal men wouldn't help you with that and neither would players because it isn't in their best interest.

JezebeltheQueen5656 · 2019-07-11T18:59:23+00:00

ladies should never take advice from males. it never comes from a good place. it is self-serving and stamped with a bro code. hard pass.

dixcnt · 2019-07-26T02:01:13+00:00

In my experience in asking for advice in relationships between differing sexes, I've seen 2 clear scenarios where advice from the same/different has a better outcome.

Listen to the same sex when you want dating advice. Men (I'm a guy) have a vast array of experience dating different women so they are able to distinguish between the different types of girls they've dated. If I've got relationship advice from one of my female friends, the advice usually is tailored to her own experiences and won't take into account that everyone is different, especially the girl you are/trying to date.

Listen to the opposite sex when you want breakup advice. Men can be jaded by one or more experiences and may give advice the isn't suitable for the person you're splitting with. Women are there for their friends during breakups, so they know how things will affect their friends and also how these girls react to responses/lack of responses, whether they thrive on drama, etc. They may not know the person you're splitting up with very closely, but more often than not they have a friend who is similar to them.

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[deleted] · 2019-07-26T10:20:26+00:00

MEN will discredit my input

[deleted] · 2019-07-10T00:37:26+00:00

Men give honest advice and women ignore it.

"Ask him out?" "No, I don't want to."

ScootsScoots · 2019-07-12T12:25:14+00:00

Unless he tells you to shut the fuck up and be hotter, it's bad advice.

TheJim66 · 2019-07-09T21:42:32+00:00

Honestly i think we give pretty good advice. Men are simple .Be hot ,be nice ,be loyal.Any woman that is the aforementioned is pretty much a unicorn and will never have trouble getting any man.

Womens dating problems stem from the type of guys they choose and the problems they themselves create.

MisterJose · 2019-07-10T02:46:05+00:00

I think men tend to be a bit more realistic about the shallower aspects of their desire. Not much more realistic, but a bit.

I might have had a female friend who I talked to on a regular basis. One night, maybe she wore a tight, clingy shirt and a nice bra. Now I want her. That's it. Looking back at my motivations honestly, I think it's usually that simple. With guys, in general, look really fuckable, and we'll want to fuck you.

"How do I get him to love me forever?" Honestly, for all the guys I know, marriage was a compromise of some kind. Usually it involved them having some experience out in the world, realizing they're not libel to do much better than you, so yeah, probably should marry you. Chris Rock once quipped the most romantic thing a guy can say to you is, "I'm not going anywhere." Because that means, "I thought about going somewhere, realized what that would be, and decided I'd rather stay here with you." You're the best of his options. But if he had the opportunity to could spend his whole life fucking 10s, he probably would be into that instead. Or at least, it would be great to be able to do that, while also having you at home.

As far as love goes, I fell in love with a girl in high school. To this day, I can still see a photo of her and remember. Those eyes, that look, the way she walked...it had fuck all to do with her personality, and getting to know her. In fact, when the love faded and I was less blind to her actual personality, I realized it was shit. So, when it comes to getting a guy to feel that way, my advice is to not give him extra info to screw up his vision of you. He's in love with the vision, and that's incredibly powerful and primal. You're just a person.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-07-09T23:34:09+00:00

Wait,

Are you asking about men getting dating advice from other men?

Or, women getting dating advice from men?

Those are two very different questions.

Title	Getting dating advice from Men
Author	decoy88
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Date	July 9, 2019 9:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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